7 Signs You Have Abandonment Issues
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Nuper
My parents went to work in another country, it's been 20 years and sometimes we were able to see eachother for short periods over years, i guess that's where it started. My love life is the thing that torments me the most, i never cared for people because i expected them to disappear but when i was in love it was bad and the thing is that we attract people that leaves us, i just meet with with someone that i truly loved to close the thing, she is in a bad place, her life is a mess, i guess she has regrets for what she did but i cannot do anything now or ever for her. It seems that only people like this come in my life, I'm starting to think that staying alone is an option, loneliness is better than regret and abandonment. No matter how much i try to prove myself and be better I end up in the same pathetic situation and every time i lose a piece of my prinde and sanity.
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My parents went to work in another country, it's been 20 years and sometimes we were able to see eachother for short periods over years, i guess that's where it started. My love life is the thing that torments me the most, i never cared for people because i expected them to disappear but when i was in love it was bad and the thing is that we attract people that leaves us, i just meet with with someone that i truly loved to close the thing, she is in a bad place, her life is a mess, i guess she has regrets for what she did but i cannot do anything now or ever for her. It seems that only people like this come in my life, I'm starting to think that staying alone is an option, loneliness is better than regret and abandonment. No matter how much i try to prove myself and be better I end up in the same pathetic situation and every time i lose a piece of my prinde and sanity.
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Eros
I relate to a lot of theses, in the past I have this friend group that over time became mean and cruel, I was scared to loss them. So I tried my best to keep them as my friend, but they ended up leaving me, I was abandoned and alone and I had no friends and I told my mother all about it, and she didnt really seem too care or be bothered, made me feel more alone than ever and gave me a constant fear of not pleasing people, not keeping them with me, this happened all during sixth grade, before middle school, my last year of elementary. (It was kindergarten until 6. And then now Im scared to displease people and then I tend to be annoying and overly clingy, and I start to cry when my friends leave me for even a little bit as it scares me and makes me either cry or just be sad and scared.
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I relate to a lot of theses, in the past I have this friend group that over time became mean and cruel, I was scared to loss them. So I tried my best to keep them as my friend, but they ended up leaving me, I was abandoned and alone and I had no friends and I told my mother all about it, and she didnt really seem too care or be bothered, made me feel more alone than ever and gave me a constant fear of not pleasing people, not keeping them with me, this happened all during sixth grade, before middle school, my last year of elementary. (It was kindergarten until 6. And then now Im scared to displease people and then I tend to be annoying and overly clingy, and I start to cry when my friends leave me for even a little bit as it scares me and makes me either cry or just be sad and scared.
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Zeta
All of these points are true in my case.
In my childhood my father always worked, and know he keeps the distance from me, and my mother so she threw me out on the street when i was 15 yrs old.
So yes, i have some issues in my relationships, i cannot trust, and that cannot help that im so. Sensitive, and why is it problem, because im a man.
Its hard to get over with these issues. For me, taking care my goals thats what healed me, a bit.
My only fear when i fell in love that person will chose someone else, or just leave me when revealing my problems. I dont think anyone can be healed from these issues.
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All of these points are true in my case.
In my childhood my father always worked, and know he keeps the distance from me, and my mother so she threw me out on the street when i was 15 yrs old.
So yes, i have some issues in my relationships, i cannot trust, and that cannot help that im so. Sensitive, and why is it problem, because im a man.
Its hard to get over with these issues. For me, taking care my goals thats what healed me, a bit.
My only fear when i fell in love that person will chose someone else, or just leave me when revealing my problems. I dont think anyone can be healed from these issues.
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Melissa
Honestly, sometimes I think about just cutting everyone off, because nobody can leave you and you can't loose, if you have nobody to loose in the first place. I won't do this, because I love them and I wouldn't wanna live without them, but it makes me so anxious. I feel like everyone could leave me anytime and it stresses me out so much. I feel so lonely and can't help but whenever I form a relationship, I am like, this isn't gonna last long either ways and then when it does not last long, it still hurts me so much I find it hard to recover.
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Honestly, sometimes I think about just cutting everyone off, because nobody can leave you and you can't loose, if you have nobody to loose in the first place. I won't do this, because I love them and I wouldn't wanna live without them, but it makes me so anxious. I feel like everyone could leave me anytime and it stresses me out so much. I feel so lonely and can't help but whenever I form a relationship, I am like, this isn't gonna last long either ways and then when it does not last long, it still hurts me so much I find it hard to recover.
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caden
I have an amazing girlfriend and I know she means good, and its not her fault but I constantly think and worry about her cheating or leaving. The smallest things will make me believe that something bad has happened. Wether its her being silent for a while, or her being dry through text, I always find myself worrying. I never express it and I try to hide the fact that I care/worry so much, but I dont know what to do because at the same time I feel like im acting weird or unattractive.
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I have an amazing girlfriend and I know she means good, and its not her fault but I constantly think and worry about her cheating or leaving. The smallest things will make me believe that something bad has happened. Wether its her being silent for a while, or her being dry through text, I always find myself worrying. I never express it and I try to hide the fact that I care/worry so much, but I dont know what to do because at the same time I feel like im acting weird or unattractive.
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Chisei
I honestly dont know where mine rooted from
I was basically the golden child and the young one. I was treated nice, the princess but for some reason. I have issues. and I cant tell this to anyone bcs I have no reasons to say. but the struggle is real
I just learned to accept that whatever happens it is my fault and not them (even I blame them internally out of resentment)
I know what I'm doing is wrong but I cant help but do it anyways, I'm drained.
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I honestly dont know where mine rooted from
I was basically the golden child and the young one. I was treated nice, the princess but for some reason. I have issues. and I cant tell this to anyone bcs I have no reasons to say. but the struggle is real
I just learned to accept that whatever happens it is my fault and not them (even I blame them internally out of resentment)
I know what I'm doing is wrong but I cant help but do it anyways, I'm drained.
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Kodasauruz
My parents haven't broken up and never will. (Believe me, I know that, but I had hard time with friendships as a kid (7-13 years old, which has lead here. But, is it possible that bad friendships where I believe myself that I was the obvious reason they all left me, lead to these issues?
Also, if yes. I have noticed it has somehow effected my way to look at my friends and am always accepting it that you will leave soon.
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My parents haven't broken up and never will. (Believe me, I know that, but I had hard time with friendships as a kid (7-13 years old, which has lead here. But, is it possible that bad friendships where I believe myself that I was the obvious reason they all left me, lead to these issues?
Also, if yes. I have noticed it has somehow effected my way to look at my friends and am always accepting it that you will leave soon.
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My defense mechanism is leaving people first because i Don't want them to leave me first and get my heart broken, i always thought that everyone that i have relationship Will leave me and abandon me.
So i left without saying a word, I always think they gonna leave me first and broke my heart because i thought everyone just gonna leave me at the end.
But deep down i know its wrong but its just so hard to trust everyone.
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My defense mechanism is leaving people first because i Don't want them to leave me first and get my heart broken, i always thought that everyone that i have relationship Will leave me and abandon me.
So i left without saying a word, I always think they gonna leave me first and broke my heart because i thought everyone just gonna leave me at the end.
But deep down i know its wrong but its just so hard to trust everyone.
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smile
I can't relate to leaving people coz I think my biggest flaw is my inability to take stand and having the courage to leave when i can clearly see I'm being disrespected and not valued. i cling harder and harder. and do anything and everything until I'm totally discarded. The pain afterwards is unbearable
Though I'm tryna learning to overcome these patterns. I hope i succeeded one day
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I can't relate to leaving people coz I think my biggest flaw is my inability to take stand and having the courage to leave when i can clearly see I'm being disrespected and not valued. i cling harder and harder. and do anything and everything until I'm totally discarded. The pain afterwards is unbearable
Though I'm tryna learning to overcome these patterns. I hope i succeeded one day
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Maria
I was fine and then I gave a chance to the nice guy. And he cheated on and emotionally abused. Also my family is very toxic besides my grandma, but I took years to heal. I now date a man that is ok, but last relationship made me go crazy and I suffer a lot now. I was also ghosted couple months ago. So now everyday I wonder when will be the last day I talk to this guy.
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I was fine and then I gave a chance to the nice guy. And he cheated on and emotionally abused. Also my family is very toxic besides my grandma, but I took years to heal. I now date a man that is ok, but last relationship made me go crazy and I suffer a lot now. I was also ghosted couple months ago. So now everyday I wonder when will be the last day I talk to this guy.
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memeninmop
Im not typically a possessive person over my friends. And i havent had anyone walk out on me in my life ever. But there are two specific people in my life that I am so unreasonably possessive over and I just cant understand why. I consider these people family, and I hate the idea of them considering anyone other than me as family. It just feels so unreasonable.
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Im not typically a possessive person over my friends. And i havent had anyone walk out on me in my life ever. But there are two specific people in my life that I am so unreasonably possessive over and I just cant understand why. I consider these people family, and I hate the idea of them considering anyone other than me as family. It just feels so unreasonable.
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Islayeveryday
Im like really really really really scared to end up alone cause I watched three generations of women end up alone and never had a dad growing up. I started pushing everyone away when I got older and never had any friends I was always so lonely and hated myself. Im still struggling with all this to this day I hope it ends soon. Im trying to work on it.
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Im like really really really really scared to end up alone cause I watched three generations of women end up alone and never had a dad growing up. I started pushing everyone away when I got older and never had any friends I was always so lonely and hated myself. Im still struggling with all this to this day I hope it ends soon. Im trying to work on it.
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Gan.
Oh man. There's been a problem with me that I noticed very recently and I couldn't quite put my finger on it before even getting any potential, professional help. But I could relate to every single one of these. Thank you for that video, even if it's already been 2 years.
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Oh man. There's been a problem with me that I noticed very recently and I couldn't quite put my finger on it before even getting any potential, professional help. But I could relate to every single one of these. Thank you for that video, even if it's already been 2 years.
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Mx.
Well, I mean, saying as my mom went through everything to give me a feeling of security and show me love- just to go and use it as a manipulation tactic + go abandon and abuse me. (I also have BPD) I would say that's grounds for issues right there.
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Well, I mean, saying as my mom went through everything to give me a feeling of security and show me love- just to go and use it as a manipulation tactic + go abandon and abuse me. (I also have BPD) I would say that's grounds for issues right there.
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Leola
I feel emotionally and physically abandon my ex-husband was my really best friend we just had a little problem we just divorce because of it but we were really good friends and then he just up and abandoned me mentally and physically.
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I feel emotionally and physically abandon my ex-husband was my really best friend we just had a little problem we just divorce because of it but we were really good friends and then he just up and abandoned me mentally and physically.
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Spiritual
My biological father left me when I was a baby, and others that I looked up to abandoned me and dishonor my trust. I hate that the ppl who actually cares about me have to deal with me after the ppl who hurt me.
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My biological father left me when I was a baby, and others that I looked up to abandoned me and dishonor my trust. I hate that the ppl who actually cares about me have to deal with me after the ppl who hurt me.
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ezscott
4-5 of these are me 100%. I sadly hurt/traumatized an AMAZING woman severely. Someone I should have married.
Im a huge people pleasure and did everything to please everyone else in my life BUT her. WHY?
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4-5 of these are me 100%. I sadly hurt/traumatized an AMAZING woman severely. Someone I should have married.
Im a huge people pleasure and did everything to please everyone else in my life BUT her. WHY?
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Tom
I wanna listen, but the way shes talking so close to the mic and I can hear the spittle clicking in her mouth, drives me up a wall. Im sure it was informative lol. Ima have to abandon this video though.
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I wanna listen, but the way shes talking so close to the mic and I can hear the spittle clicking in her mouth, drives me up a wall. Im sure it was informative lol. Ima have to abandon this video though.
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Disha
Wth is wrong with me. idk. I can't do anything without depending on others. even if I wanna do. idk how to do it. and the ppl I love. leaves me alone all the time. .I hate my life. to the max.
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Wth is wrong with me. idk. I can't do anything without depending on others. even if I wanna do. idk how to do it. and the ppl I love. leaves me alone all the time. .I hate my life. to the max.
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End_Musix
abandonment issues while also getting rejected constantly is something i get and now its getting to the point i'm terrified of everyone loads of self pity all of the above idk
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abandonment issues while also getting rejected constantly is something i get and now its getting to the point i'm terrified of everyone loads of self pity all of the above idk
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Nguyn
Ive just being triggered a few minutes ago I feel so nervous and im scared of letting someone see my vulnerable aspects. I hurted so deep when i saw them neglect my emotions.
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Ive just being triggered a few minutes ago I feel so nervous and im scared of letting someone see my vulnerable aspects. I hurted so deep when i saw them neglect my emotions.
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Yareen
The worst is when youre in need of a talk with someone and they take hours to reply and the issues kick in and they add to your walls and you regret ever investing in them
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The worst is when youre in need of a talk with someone and they take hours to reply and the issues kick in and they add to your walls and you regret ever investing in them
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mac
I genuinely hate this shit so much it ruins my workflow everyday and it turns the one friendship i have into a rollercoaster of tears and joy it ruins my damn life
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I genuinely hate this shit so much it ruins my workflow everyday and it turns the one friendship i have into a rollercoaster of tears and joy it ruins my damn life
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UNSAID
Fears of abandonment can lead you to (want to live alone) than having someone you love or friends because you are thinking that they might leave you someday.
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Fears of abandonment can lead you to (want to live alone) than having someone you love or friends because you are thinking that they might leave you someday.
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kristian
I've been abandoned by my friends and all girls I have liked. I have a crush on someone and she makes time for me but I'm very scared of her abandoning me.
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I've been abandoned by my friends and all girls I have liked. I have a crush on someone and she makes time for me but I'm very scared of her abandoning me.
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