How Your Childhood Affects Your Mental Health
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Date: 2023-08-20
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mehmet
Well I was a little bit shy because of my parents raising style, they'd always tell me that spending too much time on street is dangerous because someone might try to kidnap me.
I was kinda avoidant but I was pretty fine considering the situation. When I first transferred schools back in 2005 I couldn't get along with my new classmates at first, one day I had enough and cried at the class, I was feeling so insecure.
But after that day my classmates changed their behaviors and I became even more socially active than before. It was hard at first but after starting to getting along with my classmates I had my best years back in 2005-6. :) we were always playing together yes there was a couple of punks in class and school but it wasn't a big problem.
And than I had to transfer to a dumpste. cough school, I had to move to another school.
And I was basically on my own in there.
I was bullied a lot of times, I always tried to not to break any of the school problems but this behavior literally tied my hands. They kept doing worse things than before as I was too afraid to talk about it. One day one of them hit my eye, they were obviously planned that, they told me that they were wanting to talk and make up for their behaviors. And that was a lie. When I run into the management in order to get rid of them they yelled at me for asking for help.
Vice manager hold me on my ears and told me that he didn't want to hear any problems occurring. Well at least that's what I think he was saying, I couldn't hear it properly because he was pulling my ears so much, I remember reading his lips with fear and loosing all faith in them. That day was one of the worst days in my life. I was feeling so hopeless so afraid and uneasy.
I always prayed to God every day I go to school for some of the kids that I had problems with to not come. I was always worried and afraid. When I finally graduated from that school at 2009 I thought that I was finally free from the emotional turmoil that I was having.
But since I didn't make any friends I was always reluctant about talking to someone. I was always saying hi but I wasn't the person who keeps conversation going. I was socially inactive.
One of my high-school friends was always trying to talk with me. She was so cheerful and bubbly. I was finally feeling normal around her. But then classic high-school stuff happened. :D our classmates are started to mock us by saying 'are you two in love or something? ' even teachers were doing this: ,D
I didn't payed attention much but after reconsidering my feelings I realized that I really had some feelings for her. But because she was one of very people who I was comfortable to talk with I was too afraid of approaching to her. I didn't knew her thoughts about me and I was worried about our friendship would be at risk. But I think she had feelings for me as well. I still remember that warm hug she gave me back in 2012. It was the only time I had a hug from another person. I was on the verge of tears because of happiness. I didn't knew how much it meant for me to be in a such intimate relationship (crush or Friendship doesn't matter)
I think she had a huge part in my emotional growth, until meeting her I was kinda scared of keeping conversations because I was always worried that they'd might be in a disagreement with me and this would cause them to abuse me.
But in 2014 she put emotional distance to me, I guess I had made a mistake by putting her in to friend zone and she just wanted to end our friendship which affected me more than I thought back than. I couldn't focus on interacting with the other people. Sometimes I wonder if she knows what she had such affect in my life.
After 2015 i was finally feeling normal but I was too distant to the people.
Now I still have problems with talking to people. My friends, professors at the college saying that I should be more engaging because I'm just a really good person to have a conversation, they always told me that having conversations with me was like reading a book or watching a documentary. They were getting inspired by me. :) but I can't talk with people who just doesn't share the same interests with me.
Well that's it: D my life.
Good at start, terrible at the middle and uncertain after the 2015.
I wish I could talk about these with people in real life. I just can't find the proper company.
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Well I was a little bit shy because of my parents raising style, they'd always tell me that spending too much time on street is dangerous because someone might try to kidnap me.
I was kinda avoidant but I was pretty fine considering the situation. When I first transferred schools back in 2005 I couldn't get along with my new classmates at first, one day I had enough and cried at the class, I was feeling so insecure.
But after that day my classmates changed their behaviors and I became even more socially active than before. It was hard at first but after starting to getting along with my classmates I had my best years back in 2005-6. :) we were always playing together yes there was a couple of punks in class and school but it wasn't a big problem.
And than I had to transfer to a dumpste. cough school, I had to move to another school.
And I was basically on my own in there.
I was bullied a lot of times, I always tried to not to break any of the school problems but this behavior literally tied my hands. They kept doing worse things than before as I was too afraid to talk about it. One day one of them hit my eye, they were obviously planned that, they told me that they were wanting to talk and make up for their behaviors. And that was a lie. When I run into the management in order to get rid of them they yelled at me for asking for help.
Vice manager hold me on my ears and told me that he didn't want to hear any problems occurring. Well at least that's what I think he was saying, I couldn't hear it properly because he was pulling my ears so much, I remember reading his lips with fear and loosing all faith in them. That day was one of the worst days in my life. I was feeling so hopeless so afraid and uneasy.
I always prayed to God every day I go to school for some of the kids that I had problems with to not come. I was always worried and afraid. When I finally graduated from that school at 2009 I thought that I was finally free from the emotional turmoil that I was having.
But since I didn't make any friends I was always reluctant about talking to someone. I was always saying hi but I wasn't the person who keeps conversation going. I was socially inactive.
One of my high-school friends was always trying to talk with me. She was so cheerful and bubbly. I was finally feeling normal around her. But then classic high-school stuff happened. :D our classmates are started to mock us by saying 'are you two in love or something? ' even teachers were doing this: ,D
I didn't payed attention much but after reconsidering my feelings I realized that I really had some feelings for her. But because she was one of very people who I was comfortable to talk with I was too afraid of approaching to her. I didn't knew her thoughts about me and I was worried about our friendship would be at risk. But I think she had feelings for me as well. I still remember that warm hug she gave me back in 2012. It was the only time I had a hug from another person. I was on the verge of tears because of happiness. I didn't knew how much it meant for me to be in a such intimate relationship (crush or Friendship doesn't matter)
I think she had a huge part in my emotional growth, until meeting her I was kinda scared of keeping conversations because I was always worried that they'd might be in a disagreement with me and this would cause them to abuse me.
But in 2014 she put emotional distance to me, I guess I had made a mistake by putting her in to friend zone and she just wanted to end our friendship which affected me more than I thought back than. I couldn't focus on interacting with the other people. Sometimes I wonder if she knows what she had such affect in my life.
After 2015 i was finally feeling normal but I was too distant to the people.
Now I still have problems with talking to people. My friends, professors at the college saying that I should be more engaging because I'm just a really good person to have a conversation, they always told me that having conversations with me was like reading a book or watching a documentary. They were getting inspired by me. :) but I can't talk with people who just doesn't share the same interests with me.
Well that's it: D my life.
Good at start, terrible at the middle and uncertain after the 2015.
I wish I could talk about these with people in real life. I just can't find the proper company.
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someone
Hey uhm
Idk how to properly start this but i don't really know any other way to reach out to someone anonymously.
So i have a friend who has been feeling really down for months now and i know that a big part of this is cause of school and especially her parents and family in general which is why I'm commenting on this video.
Since the start of quarantine we've barely stayed in touch for a few reasons (her parents taking her phone away and me not feeling well myself for example.
I checked in on her a few times and i saw her in school after summer vacation.
Beginning of july she told me she had started self harming again and i really wanted to help her (i did the months before too and she tried some things i recommended but nothing ended up working) tho i couldn't give her alot of advice since i don't know how to help myself either so how could i help someone else yk.
I texted her two weeks ago and only got a reply this afternoon which was her telling me she was hospitalized cause of an suicide attempt abt 10 days ago.
I really need help bc i care abt her and i have no idea what to do.
If someone knows literally anything (for example what to say or how to help) please reply to this comment or something
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Hey uhm
Idk how to properly start this but i don't really know any other way to reach out to someone anonymously.
So i have a friend who has been feeling really down for months now and i know that a big part of this is cause of school and especially her parents and family in general which is why I'm commenting on this video.
Since the start of quarantine we've barely stayed in touch for a few reasons (her parents taking her phone away and me not feeling well myself for example.
I checked in on her a few times and i saw her in school after summer vacation.
Beginning of july she told me she had started self harming again and i really wanted to help her (i did the months before too and she tried some things i recommended but nothing ended up working) tho i couldn't give her alot of advice since i don't know how to help myself either so how could i help someone else yk.
I texted her two weeks ago and only got a reply this afternoon which was her telling me she was hospitalized cause of an suicide attempt abt 10 days ago.
I really need help bc i care abt her and i have no idea what to do.
If someone knows literally anything (for example what to say or how to help) please reply to this comment or something
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LICONIM
DEAR PARENTS, and TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS:
Please stop comparing your daughters and sons or how many children you have. THIS IS NOT A COMPETITION to know who's smarter, more responsible, or who's more beautiful/handsome. I get it that you love them equally, but comparing them to each other since child is not good. It can effect to their future. And that kind of parenting does not help them to be more mature or to be more independent. I get it that you want them to teach themselves but PARENTS GUIDANCE is also important, if you do that your relationship with your child will be harder. She or He will not let you know what she's/he's feeling nor opened up to you. And please if you angry and accidentally say hurtful things to your child, please apologize and explain them to them so it can't lead to self-hatred or low-esteem(I mean it's fine to apologize sometimes) And let your child to talk about what they feeling so that it will not lead to hatred. COMMUNICATION is important, I'm not saying that you need to be perfect parent, we're all humans. I'm just sharing my experience since this kind of childhood still affecting my current life and I'm still struggling to increase my self-esteem.
Thank you, hope you have a good day _
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DEAR PARENTS, and TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS:
Please stop comparing your daughters and sons or how many children you have. THIS IS NOT A COMPETITION to know who's smarter, more responsible, or who's more beautiful/handsome. I get it that you love them equally, but comparing them to each other since child is not good. It can effect to their future. And that kind of parenting does not help them to be more mature or to be more independent. I get it that you want them to teach themselves but PARENTS GUIDANCE is also important, if you do that your relationship with your child will be harder. She or He will not let you know what she's/he's feeling nor opened up to you. And please if you angry and accidentally say hurtful things to your child, please apologize and explain them to them so it can't lead to self-hatred or low-esteem(I mean it's fine to apologize sometimes) And let your child to talk about what they feeling so that it will not lead to hatred. COMMUNICATION is important, I'm not saying that you need to be perfect parent, we're all humans. I'm just sharing my experience since this kind of childhood still affecting my current life and I'm still struggling to increase my self-esteem.
Thank you, hope you have a good day _
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Lille
I'm in the process of accepting I was bullied and manipulated by a toxic family. (Brainwash is indeed effective)
Mother keeps telling me I need to take in that none of them ever intend to hurt or harm me.
She also says my mental health issues are a huge strain on her conscioun. So it's important to her that I get over the past.
I feel awful for thinking this. But I am left with a sensation of my depressions and anxiety isn't about me. It is about her.
And yes, I get that they didn't intend to hurt me. Still, I would like believe I was hurt. Again, am I bad for not accepting that I got the situations wrong and shake off the hurt?
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I'm in the process of accepting I was bullied and manipulated by a toxic family. (Brainwash is indeed effective)
Mother keeps telling me I need to take in that none of them ever intend to hurt or harm me.
She also says my mental health issues are a huge strain on her conscioun. So it's important to her that I get over the past.
I feel awful for thinking this. But I am left with a sensation of my depressions and anxiety isn't about me. It is about her.
And yes, I get that they didn't intend to hurt me. Still, I would like believe I was hurt. Again, am I bad for not accepting that I got the situations wrong and shake off the hurt?
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Halo
My childhood?
-mentally abused by my family
-got into tons of drama making me want to die
-faked my death
-called myself toxic and junk
-told that when im older ill have real problems to deal with
-therapy didnt help
-went to the hospital due to stress
-doctors made me take sleeping pills even though sleep isnt my problem
-doctors didnt help
-called a brat multiple times
-called selfish
-fake friends
-only real friends called me selfish
-believing im an attention seeking toxic brat (still believe it)
Eh its not that bad
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My childhood?
-mentally abused by my family
-got into tons of drama making me want to die
-faked my death
-called myself toxic and junk
-told that when im older ill have real problems to deal with
-therapy didnt help
-went to the hospital due to stress
-doctors made me take sleeping pills even though sleep isnt my problem
-doctors didnt help
-called a brat multiple times
-called selfish
-fake friends
-only real friends called me selfish
-believing im an attention seeking toxic brat (still believe it)
Eh its not that bad
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Jimmy
When I was 3 years old, my mother told her friends I was a problem child, because she tried and tried to correct me, and I wouldn't listen to a word she said. My dad thought he was dealing with a 40 year old man who knew better, and he hated me because I acted like a kid. He hollered and he hollered because he knew nothing about children, teenagers or young adults in how they don't know better than the things they do, or how he was supposed to be an understanding friend, and teach me to know better. He just expected it. So did my mother.
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When I was 3 years old, my mother told her friends I was a problem child, because she tried and tried to correct me, and I wouldn't listen to a word she said. My dad thought he was dealing with a 40 year old man who knew better, and he hated me because I acted like a kid. He hollered and he hollered because he knew nothing about children, teenagers or young adults in how they don't know better than the things they do, or how he was supposed to be an understanding friend, and teach me to know better. He just expected it. So did my mother.
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Terrorware
Well the only thing I can say when I hit middle school is that I did have bullys however in time I learned how to make them frown like the one time I was having breakfast after I ate my breakfast I had a Chocolate Muffin thrown at my head in wraps I look back they smiled and actually because of the muffin I said Thank You and I unwrapped the Muffin and ate it and I got a reward for doing this and they also got in trouble that's a Halo Reach: Un-Friggin-Believable Metal there
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Well the only thing I can say when I hit middle school is that I did have bullys however in time I learned how to make them frown like the one time I was having breakfast after I ate my breakfast I had a Chocolate Muffin thrown at my head in wraps I look back they smiled and actually because of the muffin I said Thank You and I unwrapped the Muffin and ate it and I got a reward for doing this and they also got in trouble that's a Halo Reach: Un-Friggin-Believable Metal there
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Cierra
This is kinda random but, at my highschool I'm a freshman and they have this thing called Link crew groups which are meant to help freshmen adjust, I know because I did something like this at my old middle school for the incomib7th graders. Anyway, I realized that a person who used to bully me is in my group, I happened alonvtime ago back in 1st grade in fact, but they have always been one of those type of people who gossip and spread rumors.
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This is kinda random but, at my highschool I'm a freshman and they have this thing called Link crew groups which are meant to help freshmen adjust, I know because I did something like this at my old middle school for the incomib7th graders. Anyway, I realized that a person who used to bully me is in my group, I happened alonvtime ago back in 1st grade in fact, but they have always been one of those type of people who gossip and spread rumors.
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Cierra
This is kinda random but, at my highschool I'm a freshman and they have this thing called Link crew groups which are meant to help freshmen adjust, I know because I did something like this at my old middle school for the incomib7th graders. Anyway, I realized that a person who used to bully me is in my group, I happened alonvtime ago back in 1st grade in fact, but they have always been one of those type of people who gossip and spread rumors.
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This is kinda random but, at my highschool I'm a freshman and they have this thing called Link crew groups which are meant to help freshmen adjust, I know because I did something like this at my old middle school for the incomib7th graders. Anyway, I realized that a person who used to bully me is in my group, I happened alonvtime ago back in 1st grade in fact, but they have always been one of those type of people who gossip and spread rumors.
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nameless
I have a simple and normal childhood. Living with my family, with my friends and family caring for me the whole time, i think i should be happy for this, and have a really good mental health, but at this point, i don't even understand my personality and hates myself sometimes. I try understanding myself but i still can't. The fact that my personality changes so quickly is what makes me uncomfortable i think. I wanna cry: '(
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I have a simple and normal childhood. Living with my family, with my friends and family caring for me the whole time, i think i should be happy for this, and have a really good mental health, but at this point, i don't even understand my personality and hates myself sometimes. I try understanding myself but i still can't. The fact that my personality changes so quickly is what makes me uncomfortable i think. I wanna cry: '(
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Drina
I had a terrible time at school. I treated my classmates nicely. However, they only came to me to get something from me. Since I had poor boundaries, I said yes to them to the point where I began to build resentment. I developed addictions, started to self-harm and developed unhealthy coping skills. I withdrew and became apathetic. I established boundaries after I left college.
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I had a terrible time at school. I treated my classmates nicely. However, they only came to me to get something from me. Since I had poor boundaries, I said yes to them to the point where I began to build resentment. I developed addictions, started to self-harm and developed unhealthy coping skills. I withdrew and became apathetic. I established boundaries after I left college.
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Sarah
Please tell me how this is helpful. I already know that I'm more prone to anxiety and depression due to having a dismissive parent during childhood, you telling (reaffirming) this only serves to worsen my anxiety, but can't you provide suggestions or next steps for the people who are struggling and trying to get better?
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Please tell me how this is helpful. I already know that I'm more prone to anxiety and depression due to having a dismissive parent during childhood, you telling (reaffirming) this only serves to worsen my anxiety, but can't you provide suggestions or next steps for the people who are struggling and trying to get better?
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Isabela
As a child I was bullied for years, already showing signs of depression at 10. (Tw) at 13 I was suicidal and tried to kill myself. I still have anxiety but I've been ok for 3 years (I'm 17) and only been getting better (minor setbacks when some stuff happened but I always bounced back)
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As a child I was bullied for years, already showing signs of depression at 10. (Tw) at 13 I was suicidal and tried to kill myself. I still have anxiety but I've been ok for 3 years (I'm 17) and only been getting better (minor setbacks when some stuff happened but I always bounced back)
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-inactive-
Even tho im still a child, this is what i do:
Games
Being Awkward When Talking
Being Loud In Class
Forgots things most of the time
Barely succeed in exams (usually i get 58 - 95)
And with the pandemic going on, maybe i have the most OK childhood: 3
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Even tho im still a child, this is what i do:
Games
Being Awkward When Talking
Being Loud In Class
Forgots things most of the time
Barely succeed in exams (usually i get 58 - 95)
And with the pandemic going on, maybe i have the most OK childhood: 3
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Savannah
I wouldnt exactly say I was bullied, but I was picked on in Elementary. That alone explains why Im socially awkward and tend to seek out one person I can ask questions and become friends with in new environments until I feel more comfortable asking other people
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I wouldnt exactly say I was bullied, but I was picked on in Elementary. That alone explains why Im socially awkward and tend to seek out one person I can ask questions and become friends with in new environments until I feel more comfortable asking other people
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hailey
apparently if your parents are from cuba and they fight you are in BIG I say BIG trouble especially if your sister is the favorite I wish I was more suicidal so I could actually DO IT or at least be allowed a therapist for my depression. I wish I was never born
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apparently if your parents are from cuba and they fight you are in BIG I say BIG trouble especially if your sister is the favorite I wish I was more suicidal so I could actually DO IT or at least be allowed a therapist for my depression. I wish I was never born
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SnakeBaked
When I was 7, reality hit me hard. My cousin did something, well tried to, when we was in his room. Im not allowed to be alone with him, plus my parents would argue. I still act naive and childish and I need some help. Anything will help
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When I was 7, reality hit me hard. My cousin did something, well tried to, when we was in his room. Im not allowed to be alone with him, plus my parents would argue. I still act naive and childish and I need some help. Anything will help
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doubledead
I dont remember nothing about my childhood, only know I was shy and didnt have any friends. Didnt make me sad or anything, I guessed I like being alone. Saved me from Elementary school drama, even though there was none
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I dont remember nothing about my childhood, only know I was shy and didnt have any friends. Didnt make me sad or anything, I guessed I like being alone. Saved me from Elementary school drama, even though there was none
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Allyson
My asian parents: treats me well, dose'nt spoil me, let's me explore
Me now: independent, accepts what i have, loves my parents a lot
Stop talking like having asian parents are bad they only care about you more
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My asian parents: treats me well, dose'nt spoil me, let's me explore
Me now: independent, accepts what i have, loves my parents a lot
Stop talking like having asian parents are bad they only care about you more
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Mike
I completely resent my childhood in every-way shape and form. I told my mother many times i wished she never had me and that I was a miscarriage. My life has been Hell and i'll never have kids.
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I completely resent my childhood in every-way shape and form. I told my mother many times i wished she never had me and that I was a miscarriage. My life has been Hell and i'll never have kids.
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Celina
My childhood was not that good cuz I was getting bullied and people where racist to me for more then 6years: ( but ur videos makes me always comfy and relaxed so I wont get a mental breakdown
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My childhood was not that good cuz I was getting bullied and people where racist to me for more then 6years: ( but ur videos makes me always comfy and relaxed so I wont get a mental breakdown
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education
My childhood wasnt the worst but wasnt the best either. I still think my constant low level of confidence and self-esteem comes from the minor trauma I had during my childhood times.
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My childhood wasnt the worst but wasnt the best either. I still think my constant low level of confidence and self-esteem comes from the minor trauma I had during my childhood times.
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May
I have a question about self harm
If you know or are someone who does self harm and you want help is there any places where you can text a life line. Instead of calling?
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I have a question about self harm
If you know or are someone who does self harm and you want help is there any places where you can text a life line. Instead of calling?
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Nomaan
Since childhood until now im dealing with domestic violence. but Thanks to God religion has stabilized me through out these years. and one tip from my side-- don't care
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Since childhood until now im dealing with domestic violence. but Thanks to God religion has stabilized me through out these years. and one tip from my side-- don't care
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Messiahh-
Watching softcore on TV and seeing shrek ads and shops from the bus window at 6.
Now i'm a psychopath with mental issues no one can emphasize with or accept.
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Watching softcore on TV and seeing shrek ads and shops from the bus window at 6.
Now i'm a psychopath with mental issues no one can emphasize with or accept.
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