7 Signs Of Self Sabotage
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Date: 2023-08-20
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End_Musix
Well since i can vent here ive recently had sort of a epiphany, because i would sit outside when feeling sad and think over things but for some reason i would look up to see if my dad is looking and i would write down and question myself why am i looking for my dad, ive came to a conclusion that im trying to make him feel bad for me and somehow it put me deeper in my comfort zone. Im the type that doesnt like pity, but just that moment right there made me realize im exactly the type of person i try to not be i would self sabotage myself alot (still do) calling myself a failure and dont even try to make myself better i would sit on my computer and kill the world around me in my own little bubble, but ive felt this way but couldnt understand what i was feeling, i got very depressed i had nobody to root me on and pity was the fuel i was looking for but really i should only believe in myself because nobody else will do it. I just recently thought of this and didnt think i would ever be this type of person because of the mental blockage i gave myself im 20 years almost 21 and i still have nothing to call my own and here i am trying to get pity now it feels like, im not really sure why im saying all this i forgot to add that i blamed my failures on my mom abandoning me and my grandfather dying these were go tos to give me a reason to be sad all the time, ive been feeling this way for 9 years so i really need time to figure out my priorites but if anyone has these same feelings just know im selfish like you and feel this same way and still trying to recover.
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Well since i can vent here ive recently had sort of a epiphany, because i would sit outside when feeling sad and think over things but for some reason i would look up to see if my dad is looking and i would write down and question myself why am i looking for my dad, ive came to a conclusion that im trying to make him feel bad for me and somehow it put me deeper in my comfort zone. Im the type that doesnt like pity, but just that moment right there made me realize im exactly the type of person i try to not be i would self sabotage myself alot (still do) calling myself a failure and dont even try to make myself better i would sit on my computer and kill the world around me in my own little bubble, but ive felt this way but couldnt understand what i was feeling, i got very depressed i had nobody to root me on and pity was the fuel i was looking for but really i should only believe in myself because nobody else will do it. I just recently thought of this and didnt think i would ever be this type of person because of the mental blockage i gave myself im 20 years almost 21 and i still have nothing to call my own and here i am trying to get pity now it feels like, im not really sure why im saying all this i forgot to add that i blamed my failures on my mom abandoning me and my grandfather dying these were go tos to give me a reason to be sad all the time, ive been feeling this way for 9 years so i really need time to figure out my priorites but if anyone has these same feelings just know im selfish like you and feel this same way and still trying to recover.
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LoopMcFast
I've been having severe migraine attacks reoccurring every 2 weeks or so, sometimes with symptoms of nausea, motion sickness and intense numbness that can persist for days, probably related to how angry and stressed out I've been in regards to my performance.
Every time someone tells me that I'm a perfectionist, it feels like they are looking down on me, so I isolate myself.
Stop sabotaging yourself sounds like deal with it. It's as if everyone is out to get me, maybe not taking me seriously or they just don't know what they're talking about. Either I don't listen to them or I forcibly follow every little word they spit out at me because they seem to know better than I do, which causes me to flip-flop between listening and ignoring.
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I've been having severe migraine attacks reoccurring every 2 weeks or so, sometimes with symptoms of nausea, motion sickness and intense numbness that can persist for days, probably related to how angry and stressed out I've been in regards to my performance.
Every time someone tells me that I'm a perfectionist, it feels like they are looking down on me, so I isolate myself.
Stop sabotaging yourself sounds like deal with it. It's as if everyone is out to get me, maybe not taking me seriously or they just don't know what they're talking about. Either I don't listen to them or I forcibly follow every little word they spit out at me because they seem to know better than I do, which causes me to flip-flop between listening and ignoring.
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Sadgirlclique
it turns out, constantly doing and being extra can take a toll on your mental health. Overcommitments lead to self-sabotage in a variety of ways. For example, taking too much leads to not being able to finish everything you start. The feelings of guilt and obligation associated with overcommitment make it difficult to speak up for yourself or set healthy boundaries. Overcommitment sets you up to constantly put yourself last, which just makes stress worse. Overcommitment leaves you open to constantly being asked to do just one more thing, give just a little more
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it turns out, constantly doing and being extra can take a toll on your mental health. Overcommitments lead to self-sabotage in a variety of ways. For example, taking too much leads to not being able to finish everything you start. The feelings of guilt and obligation associated with overcommitment make it difficult to speak up for yourself or set healthy boundaries. Overcommitment sets you up to constantly put yourself last, which just makes stress worse. Overcommitment leaves you open to constantly being asked to do just one more thing, give just a little more
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kokichi
Can't stand the voice. Got 10 seconds in and I almost threw up. I can tolerate some of Psych20 videos because their content and advice can be pretty useful at times but not this one. The voice is very threatening to me. I understand that the voice works for some people, but to me it is associated with Infantilization, harmlessness and Broken promises of 'help' any-day now. I just want to smash the head in of whoever talks like this. Anyone else relates?
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Can't stand the voice. Got 10 seconds in and I almost threw up. I can tolerate some of Psych20 videos because their content and advice can be pretty useful at times but not this one. The voice is very threatening to me. I understand that the voice works for some people, but to me it is associated with Infantilization, harmlessness and Broken promises of 'help' any-day now. I just want to smash the head in of whoever talks like this. Anyone else relates?
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Lawrence
My sleeping problems got bad that I stayed awake all day, and when it was time to head to work, I did go, I've done this multiple times, and was told that one more write up, and I will be terminated, and now. I didn't show up again because I wanted to sleep. So, I don't know what is next job wise for me, I'm going to try again in 2023, until then. I'm working out on my physical health by cardio at my home tredmill, and hoping for the best.
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My sleeping problems got bad that I stayed awake all day, and when it was time to head to work, I did go, I've done this multiple times, and was told that one more write up, and I will be terminated, and now. I didn't show up again because I wanted to sleep. So, I don't know what is next job wise for me, I'm going to try again in 2023, until then. I'm working out on my physical health by cardio at my home tredmill, and hoping for the best.
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Scrap-wrk
I dont mean this In a bad way but I am upset on how accurate this is. I noticed that all of my failures resulted in my own self sabotage but this video did help me realize that this is normal and if I just keep on starting where I came from is a good way to cope. However sometimes it does get hard when people say they are proud of you and that you should be proud of yourself because Im not sometimes
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I dont mean this In a bad way but I am upset on how accurate this is. I noticed that all of my failures resulted in my own self sabotage but this video did help me realize that this is normal and if I just keep on starting where I came from is a good way to cope. However sometimes it does get hard when people say they are proud of you and that you should be proud of yourself because Im not sometimes
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Jerry
I don't get headaches often, but when I work too much (lile 56 hrs a week, I can barely hold my eyes open at work. Even if I sleep 8 hrs every day in the work week. There was one point I missed 3 days of work because I was just sleeping like 13-14 hrs in a day. That was after doing 56 hrs a week for almost 4 weeks straight, never having a day off to myself
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I don't get headaches often, but when I work too much (lile 56 hrs a week, I can barely hold my eyes open at work. Even if I sleep 8 hrs every day in the work week. There was one point I missed 3 days of work because I was just sleeping like 13-14 hrs in a day. That was after doing 56 hrs a week for almost 4 weeks straight, never having a day off to myself
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Afonso
My God, I am all seven. Gotta save me from myself. later. It's not like I'd do a very good job of it anyway. But You'll see, somehow I'll get up on my feet and tho thrice the stuff I did! After reorganizing some personal affairs-- it's a mess. I couldn't do it well either, not as some other people. Nothing about this is good at all-- Geez I feel tired.
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My God, I am all seven. Gotta save me from myself. later. It's not like I'd do a very good job of it anyway. But You'll see, somehow I'll get up on my feet and tho thrice the stuff I did! After reorganizing some personal affairs-- it's a mess. I couldn't do it well either, not as some other people. Nothing about this is good at all-- Geez I feel tired.
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John
Its easy to poiny out the obvious but what if you have real darkness in your past of the magnitude that most people would hate you if they knew about? How can someone not feel like a sham and a perpetual outsider? Im sorry but i believe i deserve the self sabotage and i do not feel that i am worth the effort.
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Its easy to poiny out the obvious but what if you have real darkness in your past of the magnitude that most people would hate you if they knew about? How can someone not feel like a sham and a perpetual outsider? Im sorry but i believe i deserve the self sabotage and i do not feel that i am worth the effort.
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Clown
Just did this with a woman I was very interested in. Now she doesnt trust me or thinks Im creepy and I cant say anything that wont make things worse. Whats even worse is that I could tell she is the same way. Probably wouldnt have worked out then
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Just did this with a woman I was very interested in. Now she doesnt trust me or thinks Im creepy and I cant say anything that wont make things worse. Whats even worse is that I could tell she is the same way. Probably wouldnt have worked out then
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Winry
It is cool if u inculd solutions in the vidoes where u talk about problems so instead of ending up desapointed of ourselves of being one of the problems you showed at least we feel some hope and work through it with some advices!
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It is cool if u inculd solutions in the vidoes where u talk about problems so instead of ending up desapointed of ourselves of being one of the problems you showed at least we feel some hope and work through it with some advices!
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Tim
Going through this currently, it has affected all aspects of my life and has resulted in MDD with psychotic features. Dont be too hard on yourself, self care and self love is important and currently figuring it out
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Going through this currently, it has affected all aspects of my life and has resulted in MDD with psychotic features. Dont be too hard on yourself, self care and self love is important and currently figuring it out
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Avatarglader
Dang 7/7 and I've barely realized that I self sabotaged so much, that I even ruined my relationship and I want to stop so that I don't hurt myself or anyone else I know ever again.
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Dang 7/7 and I've barely realized that I self sabotaged so much, that I even ruined my relationship and I want to stop so that I don't hurt myself or anyone else I know ever again.
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education
Sorry but i love sabotaginf myself i rather be an incel than a cuck i rather die alone than having a 1 percent of probabiliry of that i wanna be your boyfriend is a joke
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Sorry but i love sabotaginf myself i rather be an incel than a cuck i rather die alone than having a 1 percent of probabiliry of that i wanna be your boyfriend is a joke
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BelleLikes
I have mostly 6 and 7 and idk what to do about it. I keep reading psychology books but every book shows a different hard way and its so hard to understand OR follow
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I have mostly 6 and 7 and idk what to do about it. I keep reading psychology books but every book shows a different hard way and its so hard to understand OR follow
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Leilallie12345
I am struggling to differentiate if I'm doing this on purpose or not. I feel like I've been doing this for so long it's my normal life now and I'm exhausted.
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I am struggling to differentiate if I'm doing this on purpose or not. I feel like I've been doing this for so long it's my normal life now and I'm exhausted.
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NicDoesDumbThings
I've allowed this shit to cost me two jobs and pretty much ruin my life. I do not know what to do. I'll end up just being homeless at this point.
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I've allowed this shit to cost me two jobs and pretty much ruin my life. I do not know what to do. I'll end up just being homeless at this point.
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Biggie
All of them except imposter syndrome for me. I dont think its imposter syndrome if I really am a lot worse at things than people think I am.
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All of them except imposter syndrome for me. I dont think its imposter syndrome if I really am a lot worse at things than people think I am.
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Gumbeaux
This is me. I finally understand. Thank you. I'm so grateful to have stumbled into this video. My main question, how do I change this?
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This is me. I finally understand. Thank you. I'm so grateful to have stumbled into this video. My main question, how do I change this?
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eye
I could imagine a sociopath saying that people hate the victims they have created ooooooh I'm sorry if your disturbed by your own handywork
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I could imagine a sociopath saying that people hate the victims they have created ooooooh I'm sorry if your disturbed by your own handywork
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starwarsfan123
Well turns out, that I sabotage myself so much, i even convinced myself of it being normal and a good amount of self-critizising
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Well turns out, that I sabotage myself so much, i even convinced myself of it being normal and a good amount of self-critizising
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Clay's
How about all of them apply to me I don't take on so many tasks and over obligate myself anymore so I guess that's the small victory
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How about all of them apply to me I don't take on so many tasks and over obligate myself anymore so I guess that's the small victory
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Asherkat
I want to take a moment to thank you for putting information out here for people who are too scared or unable to speak up,
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I want to take a moment to thank you for putting information out here for people who are too scared or unable to speak up,
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Dez'Raii
I've learned that these symptoms come with OCD and ADHD! All of this, except for the pessimistic one, resonated with me.
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I've learned that these symptoms come with OCD and ADHD! All of this, except for the pessimistic one, resonated with me.
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Sab
I self sabotage now Im getting evicted and dont know what to do I wish I had help I just wanna give up whats the point?
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I self sabotage now Im getting evicted and dont know what to do I wish I had help I just wanna give up whats the point?
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