7 Signs Your Friendship Has Become Toxic
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Date: 2023-08-20
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im strugging with a friend turned toxic. we starsting working on a model rocket last year. and we wert going to lanch it untill summer this year. i was busy most of the winter, spring, and fall because my sister had basketball, softball, and soccer every weekend and weekday, and i do taekwondo. so im busy. but i would help run the score board at basketball so i can do something other than play on my phone, but when he texted me an idea about the rocket i would respond because if i look away i could miss somthing to turn the score board up or down a point or pause it. but when i did not respond he would say never mind, i allready know you will say its bad and not to do it and now i realize that alot of these things he said were to manipulate me to get what he wants, and i did not know this untill after ourt fight. but that realy made me mad. and he knew i was busy so it was an intentional attempt to manipulate me. and when i did respond i would say it looks good but it can be improved, w eare not launching untill august. but he would respond saying you just dont like it never mind we dont need it just forget i even said this. which i liked the idea, but i can be improved on because we have time. he decided to build the intire thing on his own terms and made it terrible. the capsule was made of who plasitc cups taped together. the fins where misaligned, the parachute was a walmart plastic bag, and the engine hole was cut terribly. i expressed conserns about the capsule saying we should make it better! i like it but how but we continue to innovate it, afterall we have time! but he would say its fine we dont need to make it better and i woild tell him that they make cars better and they are fine and he would say yeah but i dosent have to be perfect. i told him that plastic bags wont do good, ive done egg drops in the past beofore and plastic bag parachutes fail miserably and just add weight. and he said he would get some. but the final product did not haev good parachutes, it wa sa oplatic bag spun around the rocket attached to a rope. and i did not even commet on the nose cone being bent or the misaligned fins because he would try to manipulate me and being jsut a total bummhoe. but then out of the blue he launched it on a rainy muddy and windy day! he did not even ask me. he just went ahead and launched it. we argued on text, and he said that it only got muddy. i finaly talked to him again after a week, and when i aked why did he not ask me he said i tryed texting you 100 times and i called you 50 times! and none of them went through. and this made me mad beacuse i knew he was lieing because he tryed to call and texted me multiple times after the launch. so no way they somehow mysteriously did not go through. so i decided to make my own rocket and woek on my own classifed rocket so he does not have to make everything in it and i can use my own ideas and i waited for a few weeks to tell him. but after i told him the next day he calls me and says he making a rocket and a model plane then im going to make a rocket plane. so he took what i did, and then tryed to make it better. i have not talked to him for a while, untill yesterday when he texted me. i was busy, and coild not respond, so he just sent it again and again until i answered. and he said he made a vow no to play a video game untill he made shure we where friends, zo what i took from that was he is lying to me and just decided to say yeah, i just wanna make you respond because i made you feel bad. he sent me a photo of the rocket that he finished painting and i doid not respond becaus ei was busy and just was going to respond later. but he sent it again so i answered and i said cool. then he asked how my rocket is doing and i said good, but he only responded with Ok! no any new things done with it, or is it built, or can i see? just ok. this realy made me upset. but im not gonna send him anything that hes not gonna ask for. im happy he did not ask for photos though, because in the past i have shown him stuff ive made and hes copyed and remade them and claimed them as his own, so i fear he would have stolen the design. but science he texted me we have not talked. but he never is avalable anymore. last time we tryed to hang out he was busy seloing stuff for his Boy Scouts which is understandable, but when he was done he asked if i could come over and i said no sorry my grandma is here she was visiting for a few days because my mom had the night shift. so i asked if i could come later but he said no sorry my girl friend is coming over. and recently it seems like hes been schudling things with his girlfriend every day, and if i wanted to come over he would have something planned. hes said that when i come over we will launch the rocket. he did't try to ask when i could come over he just said when i do. so he dosent seem to care if i come over. but being with him drains me and i dread coming over to his house, and i genuinely dont ever want to see him again. my best friend tells me i should dump him and i should just move on, but ive been friend with him for so long and i am scared to hurt him. what should i do?
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im strugging with a friend turned toxic. we starsting working on a model rocket last year. and we wert going to lanch it untill summer this year. i was busy most of the winter, spring, and fall because my sister had basketball, softball, and soccer every weekend and weekday, and i do taekwondo. so im busy. but i would help run the score board at basketball so i can do something other than play on my phone, but when he texted me an idea about the rocket i would respond because if i look away i could miss somthing to turn the score board up or down a point or pause it. but when i did not respond he would say never mind, i allready know you will say its bad and not to do it and now i realize that alot of these things he said were to manipulate me to get what he wants, and i did not know this untill after ourt fight. but that realy made me mad. and he knew i was busy so it was an intentional attempt to manipulate me. and when i did respond i would say it looks good but it can be improved, w eare not launching untill august. but he would respond saying you just dont like it never mind we dont need it just forget i even said this. which i liked the idea, but i can be improved on because we have time. he decided to build the intire thing on his own terms and made it terrible. the capsule was made of who plasitc cups taped together. the fins where misaligned, the parachute was a walmart plastic bag, and the engine hole was cut terribly. i expressed conserns about the capsule saying we should make it better! i like it but how but we continue to innovate it, afterall we have time! but he would say its fine we dont need to make it better and i woild tell him that they make cars better and they are fine and he would say yeah but i dosent have to be perfect. i told him that plastic bags wont do good, ive done egg drops in the past beofore and plastic bag parachutes fail miserably and just add weight. and he said he would get some. but the final product did not haev good parachutes, it wa sa oplatic bag spun around the rocket attached to a rope. and i did not even commet on the nose cone being bent or the misaligned fins because he would try to manipulate me and being jsut a total bummhoe. but then out of the blue he launched it on a rainy muddy and windy day! he did not even ask me. he just went ahead and launched it. we argued on text, and he said that it only got muddy. i finaly talked to him again after a week, and when i aked why did he not ask me he said i tryed texting you 100 times and i called you 50 times! and none of them went through. and this made me mad beacuse i knew he was lieing because he tryed to call and texted me multiple times after the launch. so no way they somehow mysteriously did not go through. so i decided to make my own rocket and woek on my own classifed rocket so he does not have to make everything in it and i can use my own ideas and i waited for a few weeks to tell him. but after i told him the next day he calls me and says he making a rocket and a model plane then im going to make a rocket plane. so he took what i did, and then tryed to make it better. i have not talked to him for a while, untill yesterday when he texted me. i was busy, and coild not respond, so he just sent it again and again until i answered. and he said he made a vow no to play a video game untill he made shure we where friends, zo what i took from that was he is lying to me and just decided to say yeah, i just wanna make you respond because i made you feel bad. he sent me a photo of the rocket that he finished painting and i doid not respond becaus ei was busy and just was going to respond later. but he sent it again so i answered and i said cool. then he asked how my rocket is doing and i said good, but he only responded with Ok! no any new things done with it, or is it built, or can i see? just ok. this realy made me upset. but im not gonna send him anything that hes not gonna ask for. im happy he did not ask for photos though, because in the past i have shown him stuff ive made and hes copyed and remade them and claimed them as his own, so i fear he would have stolen the design. but science he texted me we have not talked. but he never is avalable anymore. last time we tryed to hang out he was busy seloing stuff for his Boy Scouts which is understandable, but when he was done he asked if i could come over and i said no sorry my grandma is here she was visiting for a few days because my mom had the night shift. so i asked if i could come later but he said no sorry my girl friend is coming over. and recently it seems like hes been schudling things with his girlfriend every day, and if i wanted to come over he would have something planned. hes said that when i come over we will launch the rocket. he did't try to ask when i could come over he just said when i do. so he dosent seem to care if i come over. but being with him drains me and i dread coming over to his house, and i genuinely dont ever want to see him again. my best friend tells me i should dump him and i should just move on, but ive been friend with him for so long and i am scared to hurt him. what should i do?
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psych2go
Okay, I'm not sure how many people will actually see this and help me answer it, but I want to know if one of my friendships is in fact toxic.
To start, I met this person online, on roblox. We became close friends with some other people, and grew close. They were the first one out of the group that became my best friend. They were kind, and sweet. Jolly, fun to be around.
The more months that passed, I realized more that their kindness and compassion towards me was beginning to come less and less. I thought nothing of it for awhile, till I realized that they were beginning to turn toxic towards me. But in a friendly way?
See, the thing is. They often message me or tell me good morning on certain days. Sometimes it takes days for me to get a message out of them, but sometimes we'll talk in a week straight. But, I've come to realize that whenever I make a mistake, a small one, about them or someone they know, they'll get pissed at me and blame me even if I didn't know. Like, there was this time I had accidentally called their mother a certain word. I don't remember what it was, but them and another one of our friends we're talking about it on their own time. It was a Japanese word, me who doesn't watch anime, or even remotely knows any sort of Japanese words, I think I said Something something [word] something your mother. I again don't remember exactly what it was, but it pissed them off. To a point where they roleplayed kicking me, punching me, or hitting me in some sort of way. ( they do this a lot)
I've also realized that they get upset whenever I don't want to do something they want. They'll roleplay slap me, hurt me, leave me, or any sort of thing to make me feel bad. I remember one time, I don't know what their problem was, but they started going crazy with insults, spamming our messages with the word garbage, and trash, directing it towards me.
This isn't the first time they threw many insults at me. I've tried to explain my emotions towards their attitude, and how they treat me, but they seem to acknowledge it for a day then return back to before.
This person is one of the few friends I have, I don't want to lose them. But at the same time, their words, their mood swings, they're starting to weigh down on me, and I just don't know what to do.
Can someone please help me? I can't handle this much longer.
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Okay, I'm not sure how many people will actually see this and help me answer it, but I want to know if one of my friendships is in fact toxic.
To start, I met this person online, on roblox. We became close friends with some other people, and grew close. They were the first one out of the group that became my best friend. They were kind, and sweet. Jolly, fun to be around.
The more months that passed, I realized more that their kindness and compassion towards me was beginning to come less and less. I thought nothing of it for awhile, till I realized that they were beginning to turn toxic towards me. But in a friendly way?
See, the thing is. They often message me or tell me good morning on certain days. Sometimes it takes days for me to get a message out of them, but sometimes we'll talk in a week straight. But, I've come to realize that whenever I make a mistake, a small one, about them or someone they know, they'll get pissed at me and blame me even if I didn't know. Like, there was this time I had accidentally called their mother a certain word. I don't remember what it was, but them and another one of our friends we're talking about it on their own time. It was a Japanese word, me who doesn't watch anime, or even remotely knows any sort of Japanese words, I think I said Something something [word] something your mother. I again don't remember exactly what it was, but it pissed them off. To a point where they roleplayed kicking me, punching me, or hitting me in some sort of way. ( they do this a lot)
I've also realized that they get upset whenever I don't want to do something they want. They'll roleplay slap me, hurt me, leave me, or any sort of thing to make me feel bad. I remember one time, I don't know what their problem was, but they started going crazy with insults, spamming our messages with the word garbage, and trash, directing it towards me.
This isn't the first time they threw many insults at me. I've tried to explain my emotions towards their attitude, and how they treat me, but they seem to acknowledge it for a day then return back to before.
This person is one of the few friends I have, I don't want to lose them. But at the same time, their words, their mood swings, they're starting to weigh down on me, and I just don't know what to do.
Can someone please help me? I can't handle this much longer.
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mei!
I need help - idk what to do- I have made a friend in a game but they were being kinda toxic and mad and just saying die to the people who won and the Friend's reason was because they were only supporting their friends and not caring about them. The only reason they liked me more was because I was supporting both teams- I'm not very sure if I'm just over reacting or just being a bad friend because I'm thinking that they just have a bad day because in their description something personal happened (For privacy reasons I'll not tell) and I think that's what's causing them stress and taking their anger out on people but I also feel like that shouldn't be an excuse to what their doing to others and how it's not gonna make it better so I told them about it and all they said was But they don't care about me
I think they hate me because of my avatar
Can you tell them that their cheaters?
Me: But I don't wanna be rude it's not wrong to support your friends
But they started it
Please?
Me: alright.
Me: Hey guys. I think you should support other people instead of just your friends.
Me: it's not wrong to do that. I just think you should treat everyone fairly.
Friend and another person start fighting
Person: if you hate me then just leave!
Friend: No.
Friend: I hope you die.
Friend: And I'm not leaving until my username leaves.
So yeah- and then when we left to play another game they acted completely different they started becoming positive and all that stuff. And I'm not sure how to tell them about it.
(This is a repost I made in another video Idk what to do: )
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I need help - idk what to do- I have made a friend in a game but they were being kinda toxic and mad and just saying die to the people who won and the Friend's reason was because they were only supporting their friends and not caring about them. The only reason they liked me more was because I was supporting both teams- I'm not very sure if I'm just over reacting or just being a bad friend because I'm thinking that they just have a bad day because in their description something personal happened (For privacy reasons I'll not tell) and I think that's what's causing them stress and taking their anger out on people but I also feel like that shouldn't be an excuse to what their doing to others and how it's not gonna make it better so I told them about it and all they said was But they don't care about me
I think they hate me because of my avatar
Can you tell them that their cheaters?
Me: But I don't wanna be rude it's not wrong to support your friends
But they started it
Please?
Me: alright.
Me: Hey guys. I think you should support other people instead of just your friends.
Me: it's not wrong to do that. I just think you should treat everyone fairly.
Friend and another person start fighting
Person: if you hate me then just leave!
Friend: No.
Friend: I hope you die.
Friend: And I'm not leaving until my username leaves.
So yeah- and then when we left to play another game they acted completely different they started becoming positive and all that stuff. And I'm not sure how to tell them about it.
(This is a repost I made in another video Idk what to do: )
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Madison
PLEASE HELP!
I used to have two best friends lets call them jane and ellie we were a trio but now its just me and jane but its not the same for jane to her ellie is still her friend its obvious that ellie began prioritizing her toxic bf and other friends over us so thats why I dropped her and idk how to deal with jane who is clearly attached to ellie still
what do I say or do? I dont wanna come off as jealous or just hateful cuz im not I have my reasons for not seeing ellie as the same person as she used to be I just dont know who how share that perspective with jane cuz I feel like its almost impossible to do that shes a people pleaser and even admitted that to me but there is something still holding her hostage in that friendship to give you more insight ellie ghosted jane for weeks and on halloween we went out and was completely ignored by ellie cuz she was occupied with another friend who was supposively someone she had a falling out with (some past drama between them) but now ellie is bringing her toxic friends back into her circle causing me and jane to feel left out now fast forward to janes birthday,
ellie finally hit up jane after ignoring her so long and asks to get lunch jane texts me and says at least shes talking to me again it broke my heart because I KNOW for a fact that is not a normal remark after a friend gives you attention its just not and this is even causing me stress so how I do free her from this toxic friendship? should I let jane go as well? jane doesnt deserve this but at the same time I also have to look out for myself and surround myself with positive people
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PLEASE HELP!
I used to have two best friends lets call them jane and ellie we were a trio but now its just me and jane but its not the same for jane to her ellie is still her friend its obvious that ellie began prioritizing her toxic bf and other friends over us so thats why I dropped her and idk how to deal with jane who is clearly attached to ellie still
what do I say or do? I dont wanna come off as jealous or just hateful cuz im not I have my reasons for not seeing ellie as the same person as she used to be I just dont know who how share that perspective with jane cuz I feel like its almost impossible to do that shes a people pleaser and even admitted that to me but there is something still holding her hostage in that friendship to give you more insight ellie ghosted jane for weeks and on halloween we went out and was completely ignored by ellie cuz she was occupied with another friend who was supposively someone she had a falling out with (some past drama between them) but now ellie is bringing her toxic friends back into her circle causing me and jane to feel left out now fast forward to janes birthday,
ellie finally hit up jane after ignoring her so long and asks to get lunch jane texts me and says at least shes talking to me again it broke my heart because I KNOW for a fact that is not a normal remark after a friend gives you attention its just not and this is even causing me stress so how I do free her from this toxic friendship? should I let jane go as well? jane doesnt deserve this but at the same time I also have to look out for myself and surround myself with positive people
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Starrnanigans
Im currently debating if a friendship of mine is toxic. Before the pandemic and this year, I was driving to their house almost every other weekend, because they were more central to the rest of the friend group and I was the outlier. During the pandemic, they would video chat me because I didnt feel safe to travel to others homes with my health concerns. But this past year, Ive been given more duties at work and Ive been increasingly burnt out. Their advice is always unhelpful (Just quit and live off the state, its what I did during the pandemic and it worked for me, they rarely if ever reach out first to initiate conversation, and I can count on one hand the number of times theyve made the effort to come see me, instead of the other way aroundand it was never just to say hi or spend time with me, there was always some reason (like me giving them toys for their kid. Recently I was invited to an event at their house and I was initially excited, but then due to overtime I just didnt have the energy to go and not be a downer. I declined as politely as I could, but one half of the couple went off on me. Now both of them have been radio silent, and Im not sure if its because theyre busy or Im being shut out. I have other friends in the group I dont want to lose, but I dont know how to handle the situation. Its difficult to know where they stand when I havent heard from them.
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Im currently debating if a friendship of mine is toxic. Before the pandemic and this year, I was driving to their house almost every other weekend, because they were more central to the rest of the friend group and I was the outlier. During the pandemic, they would video chat me because I didnt feel safe to travel to others homes with my health concerns. But this past year, Ive been given more duties at work and Ive been increasingly burnt out. Their advice is always unhelpful (Just quit and live off the state, its what I did during the pandemic and it worked for me, they rarely if ever reach out first to initiate conversation, and I can count on one hand the number of times theyve made the effort to come see me, instead of the other way aroundand it was never just to say hi or spend time with me, there was always some reason (like me giving them toys for their kid. Recently I was invited to an event at their house and I was initially excited, but then due to overtime I just didnt have the energy to go and not be a downer. I declined as politely as I could, but one half of the couple went off on me. Now both of them have been radio silent, and Im not sure if its because theyre busy or Im being shut out. I have other friends in the group I dont want to lose, but I dont know how to handle the situation. Its difficult to know where they stand when I havent heard from them.
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hpthinker
Two toxic signs, that I think should have been listed, for me was the guilt trip and gaslighting.
They would always have a list of favors they did for me and highlighted how much they would do in the friendship. I didn't make a list of the favors I did because I didn't expect anything in return. Later down the road I found out they would throw it back in my face. According to them, since a lot of the favors were shared with my other friends, then it wasn't really directed towards them. that should've been enough for me to walk away but I didn't.
They also lied and made me feel uncomfortable for feeling cautious and on guard with them. They never thought the impact their actions had on me and made me feel crazy for being emotional.
8 years down the road I finally had enough after a super toxic conversation where they gaslighted me after 3 hours of arguing. Their final words after a 3 hour argument was, What's wrong with you? What's really going on?
I almost burst into tears because I knew I was being gaslighted. They knew what was upsetting me. They were just trying to convince me it was someone or something else in my life.
I'm so much happier now. Still healing, it was almost ten years of my life after all. But I know I'll get there.
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Two toxic signs, that I think should have been listed, for me was the guilt trip and gaslighting.
They would always have a list of favors they did for me and highlighted how much they would do in the friendship. I didn't make a list of the favors I did because I didn't expect anything in return. Later down the road I found out they would throw it back in my face. According to them, since a lot of the favors were shared with my other friends, then it wasn't really directed towards them. that should've been enough for me to walk away but I didn't.
They also lied and made me feel uncomfortable for feeling cautious and on guard with them. They never thought the impact their actions had on me and made me feel crazy for being emotional.
8 years down the road I finally had enough after a super toxic conversation where they gaslighted me after 3 hours of arguing. Their final words after a 3 hour argument was, What's wrong with you? What's really going on?
I almost burst into tears because I knew I was being gaslighted. They knew what was upsetting me. They were just trying to convince me it was someone or something else in my life.
I'm so much happier now. Still healing, it was almost ten years of my life after all. But I know I'll get there.
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ol1. p0p
Thank you so much for this video, because of this I realized that one of my really long friendships has been really toxic. We almost never talk anymore, and she always talks about her looks and all that, Im totally fine with people talking about how they look, but not when they begin to bring me into it. Shes almost never around me and mostly ignores me and she has said a lot of mean things to me. One time I told her about a boy that made me really uncomfortable bc he said that he wanted a threesome with me and she said you would probably do it if he was taller and hotter and laughed at it, I also once told her about a (pretty traumatic) thing that happened where I got lost in the rain with no battery in a place I didnt knew and when I told her I began to cry she called me a crybaby and that I was embarrassing and sounded like a 6 year old boy, ever since I was little I have always been very sensitive and gets sad abt almost everything and she know that so that really hurts my feelings. I just dont know how I can get out of the toxic relationship because I have nobody else at school that I can be with so I always come back to her.
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Thank you so much for this video, because of this I realized that one of my really long friendships has been really toxic. We almost never talk anymore, and she always talks about her looks and all that, Im totally fine with people talking about how they look, but not when they begin to bring me into it. Shes almost never around me and mostly ignores me and she has said a lot of mean things to me. One time I told her about a boy that made me really uncomfortable bc he said that he wanted a threesome with me and she said you would probably do it if he was taller and hotter and laughed at it, I also once told her about a (pretty traumatic) thing that happened where I got lost in the rain with no battery in a place I didnt knew and when I told her I began to cry she called me a crybaby and that I was embarrassing and sounded like a 6 year old boy, ever since I was little I have always been very sensitive and gets sad abt almost everything and she know that so that really hurts my feelings. I just dont know how I can get out of the toxic relationship because I have nobody else at school that I can be with so I always come back to her.
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Yeetmeister
I looked for this video because I just found out my best friend is still friends with an ex that, she admitted, was mentally and emotionally abusive to me. She told me thats who he was, she wrote a goodbye letter, and to my knowledge I thought we were on the same page of not talking to him, but now they have some sort of friend visit thing happening in a month, and I only know about it because she posted it on her story. She took it down, and now Im not sure if she knows that I know or not, but I dont know what to do. I need to confront her about this, but I feel like Ill either have the subject changed on me, or something bad I did will be brought up to counter my concerns, or shell just think shes in the right. I feel like our friendship has been icy for a while, and that the only reason were friends is so she can have someone to always make her look prettier and better all around. It was an actual, good friendship at the beginning, and it was awesome, but now it feels different, like maybe its not good for either of us, or at least not for me. I dont know, any help would be appreciated, thanks.
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I looked for this video because I just found out my best friend is still friends with an ex that, she admitted, was mentally and emotionally abusive to me. She told me thats who he was, she wrote a goodbye letter, and to my knowledge I thought we were on the same page of not talking to him, but now they have some sort of friend visit thing happening in a month, and I only know about it because she posted it on her story. She took it down, and now Im not sure if she knows that I know or not, but I dont know what to do. I need to confront her about this, but I feel like Ill either have the subject changed on me, or something bad I did will be brought up to counter my concerns, or shell just think shes in the right. I feel like our friendship has been icy for a while, and that the only reason were friends is so she can have someone to always make her look prettier and better all around. It was an actual, good friendship at the beginning, and it was awesome, but now it feels different, like maybe its not good for either of us, or at least not for me. I dont know, any help would be appreciated, thanks.
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Galaxyheart555
Ive been starting to wondering if my friendship with my only friend has turned toxic.
Weve been friends since 3rd grade (Were in 11th grade rn) and lately it feels weve started turning into different people, like we dont talk or hangout like we used to.
She also has a new friend group with people in activities she does, that Im not in. So its not like I dont like them, its just I dont enjoy hanging out with them but any time I try to hang out with different people, she gets really jealous and always finds some reason to be angry at them or start fights with them, Every. Single. Time.
But also, whenever Im wrong about something she makes me feel really dumb like the thing I didnt know or understand was completely obvious (maybe it was and Im just autistic) but it feels like shes putting me down a lot and Im just wondering what I should do.
On one hand, weve been friends forever, but on the other, we dont have similar interests, and constantly puts me down and some times it feels were friends just because weve been friends for a long time.
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Ive been starting to wondering if my friendship with my only friend has turned toxic.
Weve been friends since 3rd grade (Were in 11th grade rn) and lately it feels weve started turning into different people, like we dont talk or hangout like we used to.
She also has a new friend group with people in activities she does, that Im not in. So its not like I dont like them, its just I dont enjoy hanging out with them but any time I try to hang out with different people, she gets really jealous and always finds some reason to be angry at them or start fights with them, Every. Single. Time.
But also, whenever Im wrong about something she makes me feel really dumb like the thing I didnt know or understand was completely obvious (maybe it was and Im just autistic) but it feels like shes putting me down a lot and Im just wondering what I should do.
On one hand, weve been friends forever, but on the other, we dont have similar interests, and constantly puts me down and some times it feels were friends just because weve been friends for a long time.
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Char4444
Idk If my Best friend is Toxic. but I have been Feeling like she is latley. and ofc its hard to let go when you have so many good memories together. first of all she only talks about herself and whats happening in HER life and when I talk about Myself she just changes the Topic to her right away after saying like a dry 3 word sentance. She also Lowers my self confident and honostly acts like she is WAY better than me. she also never Keeps her word like she always cancels at last minute for example we planed to go to a hotel! And we Were so exited at the last minute she told me she didnt want to go so I said it was Okay and She could come over but She canceled again to hang out with her other Friends. I also feel Left Out ALOT, And we dont Even have that much In common anymore. And I am Nervous to Tell her things that I like. because She always puts them down Or just is like UGH! When I Tell her I feel upset she no joke Goes (Oh God here we go) and I am like scared to Tell her Things because she Truly dose not care.
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Idk If my Best friend is Toxic. but I have been Feeling like she is latley. and ofc its hard to let go when you have so many good memories together. first of all she only talks about herself and whats happening in HER life and when I talk about Myself she just changes the Topic to her right away after saying like a dry 3 word sentance. She also Lowers my self confident and honostly acts like she is WAY better than me. she also never Keeps her word like she always cancels at last minute for example we planed to go to a hotel! And we Were so exited at the last minute she told me she didnt want to go so I said it was Okay and She could come over but She canceled again to hang out with her other Friends. I also feel Left Out ALOT, And we dont Even have that much In common anymore. And I am Nervous to Tell her things that I like. because She always puts them down Or just is like UGH! When I Tell her I feel upset she no joke Goes (Oh God here we go) and I am like scared to Tell her Things because she Truly dose not care.
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RITSUKA
I reunited with a friend 2 years ago at the start of highschool, we clicked fast and got close very quickly. throughout our first highschool year, we were very good friends. but I was never really myself with her. I changed my personality a lot and tried to be more like her because I thought she'd like me more then. I always ended up agreeing with her opinions on my other friends and that caused a lot of problems between me and my friend group. I always felt kinda insecure around her and felt that she'd get bored of being friends with me. At one point I even had this crazy idea that I might like her as more than a friend just because I was always nervous around her. That's how much she confused me. Over time though, we slowly stopped texting or hanging out tigether and I began to get even more confused and turn around whenever I saw her. I still tried to text her but she began saying I was annoying her. Recently she said she doesnt wanna be my friend anymore and that she moved on. I dont really know how to feel
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I reunited with a friend 2 years ago at the start of highschool, we clicked fast and got close very quickly. throughout our first highschool year, we were very good friends. but I was never really myself with her. I changed my personality a lot and tried to be more like her because I thought she'd like me more then. I always ended up agreeing with her opinions on my other friends and that caused a lot of problems between me and my friend group. I always felt kinda insecure around her and felt that she'd get bored of being friends with me. At one point I even had this crazy idea that I might like her as more than a friend just because I was always nervous around her. That's how much she confused me. Over time though, we slowly stopped texting or hanging out tigether and I began to get even more confused and turn around whenever I saw her. I still tried to text her but she began saying I was annoying her. Recently she said she doesnt wanna be my friend anymore and that she moved on. I dont really know how to feel
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MTZ
Thanks for making this video, My best friend recently hasn't been really a friend to me latley, He only comes round to my house to go on my computer then leaves. The moment i Tell him he hogs the computer and that's all he does, He just whines when i tell him to do something that isn't just downloading FNF Mods on my computer. And He always talks about himself and whenever we're in a conversation and/or argument, he always Inturrupts me mid-sentence. It just feels like he comes round to my house to take something from me like a candy bar, or use my computer, or some other thing. He only ever just goes on his phone and whenever he doesn't get what he wants he acts all whiny and starts to even cry sometimes. And whenever there's a party going around he only ever comes out of his room to just hog snacks all day, and the moment he doesn't get what he wants, He starts So much Unnecessary Drama For no reason. Thanks for making this video so i could learn.
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Thanks for making this video, My best friend recently hasn't been really a friend to me latley, He only comes round to my house to go on my computer then leaves. The moment i Tell him he hogs the computer and that's all he does, He just whines when i tell him to do something that isn't just downloading FNF Mods on my computer. And He always talks about himself and whenever we're in a conversation and/or argument, he always Inturrupts me mid-sentence. It just feels like he comes round to my house to take something from me like a candy bar, or use my computer, or some other thing. He only ever just goes on his phone and whenever he doesn't get what he wants he acts all whiny and starts to even cry sometimes. And whenever there's a party going around he only ever comes out of his room to just hog snacks all day, and the moment he doesn't get what he wants, He starts So much Unnecessary Drama For no reason. Thanks for making this video so i could learn.
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Traye
I had roommates for two years I always felt like they but mainly was the girl roommate, they blamed me for alot of my actions but it was told anyone what they did cause a reaction because they were always low-key two faced, stealing my stuff, telling lies about me. don't even get me started on his boy Roommate he was always trying to one uper RUB something in my face or I got paid frist and he got mad, and or because he would tell my bf things that wasn't accurate or right to cause an argument. so I had to get rid of them both I felt like they drained me of a lot mental and emotionally I waking up everyday wishing they would just leave. once I released I didn't need them and they were toxic ones I made sure that they would never come back into my life, sadly I miss one of them but I'll be damned if someone going to let other hurt me and people be okay with that so I had to get rid of him too.
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I had roommates for two years I always felt like they but mainly was the girl roommate, they blamed me for alot of my actions but it was told anyone what they did cause a reaction because they were always low-key two faced, stealing my stuff, telling lies about me. don't even get me started on his boy Roommate he was always trying to one uper RUB something in my face or I got paid frist and he got mad, and or because he would tell my bf things that wasn't accurate or right to cause an argument. so I had to get rid of them both I felt like they drained me of a lot mental and emotionally I waking up everyday wishing they would just leave. once I released I didn't need them and they were toxic ones I made sure that they would never come back into my life, sadly I miss one of them but I'll be damned if someone going to let other hurt me and people be okay with that so I had to get rid of him too.
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greylizard
I don't know about friends, but my sister says some really crappy things to me sometimes that have caused me to step back and limit our interactions. She loves to get her little digs in that really hurt, and even when I zoom out and look at the bigger picture, it's hard to reassure myself that she didn't really mean those things in a hurtful way. She's not easy to talk to. She goes quiet when you give her feedback, no matter how gentle it is. Then she can be extra cold and sulk with resentment. I love her but I don't think I can have a relationship with her anymore. She never talks to me unless she needs something anyways. I think it might be something like low grade narcissism or borderline, I have no idea but I've always felt her disgust and resentment toward me, since we were kids.
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I don't know about friends, but my sister says some really crappy things to me sometimes that have caused me to step back and limit our interactions. She loves to get her little digs in that really hurt, and even when I zoom out and look at the bigger picture, it's hard to reassure myself that she didn't really mean those things in a hurtful way. She's not easy to talk to. She goes quiet when you give her feedback, no matter how gentle it is. Then she can be extra cold and sulk with resentment. I love her but I don't think I can have a relationship with her anymore. She never talks to me unless she needs something anyways. I think it might be something like low grade narcissism or borderline, I have no idea but I've always felt her disgust and resentment toward me, since we were kids.
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Silver
This really feels like my frienda friend of mine is acting really different then when we met, I give them advice and comfort, and compliments all the time, but they dont really seem to ever do something for me, and the last time they did, they gave me an I-tunes gift card, and when I told them it wouldnt let me use it, they went on about how they could have just used it themself, or given it to someone else, and when I apologized and tried calming them down, they said that I am very sensitive and it is annoying. I also recently came out to them as pan-gender, and all they said was well thats good for you, and I just feel like they dont really care about me, and that our relationship is more like elementary school classmates then best friends forever.
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This really feels like my frienda friend of mine is acting really different then when we met, I give them advice and comfort, and compliments all the time, but they dont really seem to ever do something for me, and the last time they did, they gave me an I-tunes gift card, and when I told them it wouldnt let me use it, they went on about how they could have just used it themself, or given it to someone else, and when I apologized and tried calming them down, they said that I am very sensitive and it is annoying. I also recently came out to them as pan-gender, and all they said was well thats good for you, and I just feel like they dont really care about me, and that our relationship is more like elementary school classmates then best friends forever.
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Nine
The pandemic is an opportunity to step back & reconsider which are the
friendships to continue or at least control, meaning limit it to a 2 hour lunch or an afternoon together. I am not up for overnight company or tourists wanting to stay a week. They should respect your feelings about anything, no matter what the reason. When I get pressure from friends at the wrong times, I tend to withdrawal & don't have the energy to mesh with them. I have my pets for company & suffer from health conditions that make chit-chatting and visiting unbearable. Mostly due to migraines & post cancer therapy, fatigue & autoimmune system issues. I can't pick a day that I can plan on feeling great, and that offends some friends & family members.
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The pandemic is an opportunity to step back & reconsider which are the
friendships to continue or at least control, meaning limit it to a 2 hour lunch or an afternoon together. I am not up for overnight company or tourists wanting to stay a week. They should respect your feelings about anything, no matter what the reason. When I get pressure from friends at the wrong times, I tend to withdrawal & don't have the energy to mesh with them. I have my pets for company & suffer from health conditions that make chit-chatting and visiting unbearable. Mostly due to migraines & post cancer therapy, fatigue & autoimmune system issues. I can't pick a day that I can plan on feeling great, and that offends some friends & family members.
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Venssi
so i have been best friends with my bestie for about 7-8 months. we have always made some not so nice jokes but recently she has been saying bad things about what i wear like do you have a new hoodie? i dont like it etc. she also have tripped me so i have gotten hurt. she always talks about herself and dont always listen to me. she recently started to talk about others as her best friends and still calls me as a best friend. i dont kinda have heart to tell her i dont like all the things she do bc i dont have many other friends. i think i should end that friendship but i dont want to lose her i think. what do u think i should do
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so i have been best friends with my bestie for about 7-8 months. we have always made some not so nice jokes but recently she has been saying bad things about what i wear like do you have a new hoodie? i dont like it etc. she also have tripped me so i have gotten hurt. she always talks about herself and dont always listen to me. she recently started to talk about others as her best friends and still calls me as a best friend. i dont kinda have heart to tell her i dont like all the things she do bc i dont have many other friends. i think i should end that friendship but i dont want to lose her i think. what do u think i should do
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FateTurns
I don't know if lower self esteem can be contributed as a symptom of bad relationship/friendship, only because if they are putting you down it could be because they are trying to drill sergeant their way with you and hope you recover. Some people need a push when they are down and sometimes those push may even lower your self esteem a lil, but I do believe a lot of people are like me that rather not sugar coat something for a friend but instead be there and push them forward as much as we can.
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I don't know if lower self esteem can be contributed as a symptom of bad relationship/friendship, only because if they are putting you down it could be because they are trying to drill sergeant their way with you and hope you recover. Some people need a push when they are down and sometimes those push may even lower your self esteem a lil, but I do believe a lot of people are like me that rather not sugar coat something for a friend but instead be there and push them forward as much as we can.
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LucyDragon
Had to temporarily cut ties with my school bestie because her bad behavior stressed me out and most of the time it made me angry, I ended up disliking her and today I had to ultimately leave her because she and my other friend (who's actually a chill person I would like to stay with) made a harsh joke about me that I didn't like. She thought I was joking because I took it to heart, but I'm honestly not forgiving her until she learns her lesson.
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Had to temporarily cut ties with my school bestie because her bad behavior stressed me out and most of the time it made me angry, I ended up disliking her and today I had to ultimately leave her because she and my other friend (who's actually a chill person I would like to stay with) made a harsh joke about me that I didn't like. She thought I was joking because I took it to heart, but I'm honestly not forgiving her until she learns her lesson.
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I'm in a toxic friendship right now. I know I'm unhappy. but I cant seem to let go. everyone in the friendship has become toxic. I'm lonely without them. I'm not a social person. so making friends is a struggle for me. there is no support in our relationship its all putting down others without realizing how hurtful those words are. I need to end this friendship but I'd have nowhere to go. I have no idea what to do.
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I'm in a toxic friendship right now. I know I'm unhappy. but I cant seem to let go. everyone in the friendship has become toxic. I'm lonely without them. I'm not a social person. so making friends is a struggle for me. there is no support in our relationship its all putting down others without realizing how hurtful those words are. I need to end this friendship but I'd have nowhere to go. I have no idea what to do.
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Sparrow
Sad thing is I don't think I have any friends that I like loved I have friends and a bestie but with my friends is kinda awkward and me and my bestie are kind drifting apart yk all I want is a a group of three that's all I need a boy and a girl I've had a friend group but I left bc it was so toxic everyone talking behind anothers back name calling arguments. But yeah it's like my only best friend is like my mom
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Sad thing is I don't think I have any friends that I like loved I have friends and a bestie but with my friends is kinda awkward and me and my bestie are kind drifting apart yk all I want is a a group of three that's all I need a boy and a girl I've had a friend group but I left bc it was so toxic everyone talking behind anothers back name calling arguments. But yeah it's like my only best friend is like my mom
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Strawhatmari
ive been going through ths recently with my friend and realized I was being toxic to a really great person but I realized to late I haven't talked to her in a while because I'm scared of hurting her more than I have and that's where I feel like I should just remove myself from the equation, things between me and her became weird and now all I can think of is that Im the worst person to even have friends.
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ive been going through ths recently with my friend and realized I was being toxic to a really great person but I realized to late I haven't talked to her in a while because I'm scared of hurting her more than I have and that's where I feel like I should just remove myself from the equation, things between me and her became weird and now all I can think of is that Im the worst person to even have friends.
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Maria
I don't share good news with them because they're never excited and it makes me feel like I'm bragging. After every long discussion, it always feels draining and bizzare! I once had a friend who was passive aggressive for no apparent reason and then would laugh things off, gaslighting. It's always hard to leave friends because nothing is absolute and every person has flaws. It's a very complicated thing.
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I don't share good news with them because they're never excited and it makes me feel like I'm bragging. After every long discussion, it always feels draining and bizzare! I once had a friend who was passive aggressive for no apparent reason and then would laugh things off, gaslighting. It's always hard to leave friends because nothing is absolute and every person has flaws. It's a very complicated thing.
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Debasmita
1 thing I am going through right now that I feel like my long time friendship has come to a point where I can't say hey what you r doing is wrong anymore.
I cannot chill and not do everything perfectly all the time anymore.
If I don't agree on a thing with her or regarding a person I am automatically wrong.
Unfortunately I am feeling like it's choking me and draining my sanity
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1 thing I am going through right now that I feel like my long time friendship has come to a point where I can't say hey what you r doing is wrong anymore.
I cannot chill and not do everything perfectly all the time anymore.
If I don't agree on a thing with her or regarding a person I am automatically wrong.
Unfortunately I am feeling like it's choking me and draining my sanity
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yashanin
I have a bff and we are bff for almost 7 years already. i am struggling with my depression lately and it literally change my habits and personalities. i always asked for help like take a ride or else. at the same time i am helping her doing her thinks. but since i was depressed our friendship change a lot. so my question is. am i the toxic one? What's ur opinion about this?
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I have a bff and we are bff for almost 7 years already. i am struggling with my depression lately and it literally change my habits and personalities. i always asked for help like take a ride or else. at the same time i am helping her doing her thinks. but since i was depressed our friendship change a lot. so my question is. am i the toxic one? What's ur opinion about this?
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