10 Signs It's Social Anxiety, Not Rudeness
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Date: 2023-08-20
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nashith
Let's see if I have Social Anxiety:
1. Struggling to make eye contact: Yup, I never make eye contact with people. It make's me uncomfortable.
2. Not eating food because they are afraid it might get stuck in their teeth: Uhmm. No. I mean I don't choose what the other person chose to eat.
3. Cancelling plan with friends at the last minute: Never! I love hanging out with friends!
4. Shutting down in a group setting: Sometimes, yeah. I actually am really talkative but, when I say something and they [people] just look at me without saying anything, I think that they didn't like what I said. I keep my mouth shut after that.
5. Having an outburst over something other: I think so? But, don't send me the same emoji's everytime when you text me. I might throw hands at you if I meet you in person. [Don't overuse it, that's what I am saying]
6. Being glued to phone or social media: Idk about this one, lol.
7. Struggling to open up or have a deeper conversation: 200 percent TRUE. I cry actually.
8. Leaving a party early: I don't know? Let me go to parties first, lmao.
9. Appearing tense in a group setting: Yeah, I think. I always think What if they don't like me? What if I am embarrassing? What if they are judging me?
10. Creating a false time constraint: I only do this to people who I don't really like, or to avoid awkward situations.
So, do I have Social Anxiety? I don't think so, cuz I am pretty outgoing.
If you do have these, please look for professional help.
Here's a tip: Listen to some refreshing calming music [or your favourite music] to clear your mind, or to figure out what is making you anxious.
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Let's see if I have Social Anxiety:
1. Struggling to make eye contact: Yup, I never make eye contact with people. It make's me uncomfortable.
2. Not eating food because they are afraid it might get stuck in their teeth: Uhmm. No. I mean I don't choose what the other person chose to eat.
3. Cancelling plan with friends at the last minute: Never! I love hanging out with friends!
4. Shutting down in a group setting: Sometimes, yeah. I actually am really talkative but, when I say something and they [people] just look at me without saying anything, I think that they didn't like what I said. I keep my mouth shut after that.
5. Having an outburst over something other: I think so? But, don't send me the same emoji's everytime when you text me. I might throw hands at you if I meet you in person. [Don't overuse it, that's what I am saying]
6. Being glued to phone or social media: Idk about this one, lol.
7. Struggling to open up or have a deeper conversation: 200 percent TRUE. I cry actually.
8. Leaving a party early: I don't know? Let me go to parties first, lmao.
9. Appearing tense in a group setting: Yeah, I think. I always think What if they don't like me? What if I am embarrassing? What if they are judging me?
10. Creating a false time constraint: I only do this to people who I don't really like, or to avoid awkward situations.
So, do I have Social Anxiety? I don't think so, cuz I am pretty outgoing.
If you do have these, please look for professional help.
Here's a tip: Listen to some refreshing calming music [or your favourite music] to clear your mind, or to figure out what is making you anxious.
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CreamPuff
As a person who has social anxiety and that social anxiety runs in my family I can relate to struggling to opening up because I feel like I would be judged for what Im feeling or going through and that I worry people wouldnt understand or they would say that its not a big deal and another one is shutting down in a group setting is what I also relate to so much like one time I was playing the wolf game in a big circle and there was a lot of adults I didnt know and felt scared cause I felt like even if I said something people will be judging the heck out of me and stuff like how I care about what people think about me and that I just like it when people check up on how I feel and having social anxiety I can barely sleep so everyday Im always so exhausted and drained and now I try getting enough sleep and try to open up more about deep stuff with a person who I feel comfortable with but the thing that I struggle with the most and that gets in the way with my life is having maladaptive daydreaming which is a behavior where a person spends a excessive amount of time daydreaming and when I looked up why do I daydream constantly I found out that maladaptive daydreaming is a coping mechanism in people who have mental health conditions like anxiety and even tho its a coping mechanism it does get in the way with my life and schoolwork and grades which I cant tell if maladaptive daydreaming is healthy or not
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As a person who has social anxiety and that social anxiety runs in my family I can relate to struggling to opening up because I feel like I would be judged for what Im feeling or going through and that I worry people wouldnt understand or they would say that its not a big deal and another one is shutting down in a group setting is what I also relate to so much like one time I was playing the wolf game in a big circle and there was a lot of adults I didnt know and felt scared cause I felt like even if I said something people will be judging the heck out of me and stuff like how I care about what people think about me and that I just like it when people check up on how I feel and having social anxiety I can barely sleep so everyday Im always so exhausted and drained and now I try getting enough sleep and try to open up more about deep stuff with a person who I feel comfortable with but the thing that I struggle with the most and that gets in the way with my life is having maladaptive daydreaming which is a behavior where a person spends a excessive amount of time daydreaming and when I looked up why do I daydream constantly I found out that maladaptive daydreaming is a coping mechanism in people who have mental health conditions like anxiety and even tho its a coping mechanism it does get in the way with my life and schoolwork and grades which I cant tell if maladaptive daydreaming is healthy or not
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Samantha
I get trapped social situations and then I dont know how to leave. I am afraid that if I try to leave quietly people will ask why and I wont be able to hold myself together, and Im afraid to tell people Im leaving for the same reason. Ive had social anxiety since I was a kid, so I am weird and awkward. I stammer, am incoherent, and I am boring. I am ok with a couple of people and to avoid sitting quiet when people talk about stuff I will usually talk about my own experience and which then makes the conversation about me. I dont mean to make it about me but I just dont how to talk to people. With groups of people I just check out and withdraw into my own space and I appear incredibly rude. For these reasons I dont want to be around people just for the sake of being around people. I run every interaction around my head for days and I am own worst critic. I just end up extremely lonely and my emotions all over the place. Id rather be on my own because I am far more at peace with myself.
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I get trapped social situations and then I dont know how to leave. I am afraid that if I try to leave quietly people will ask why and I wont be able to hold myself together, and Im afraid to tell people Im leaving for the same reason. Ive had social anxiety since I was a kid, so I am weird and awkward. I stammer, am incoherent, and I am boring. I am ok with a couple of people and to avoid sitting quiet when people talk about stuff I will usually talk about my own experience and which then makes the conversation about me. I dont mean to make it about me but I just dont how to talk to people. With groups of people I just check out and withdraw into my own space and I appear incredibly rude. For these reasons I dont want to be around people just for the sake of being around people. I run every interaction around my head for days and I am own worst critic. I just end up extremely lonely and my emotions all over the place. Id rather be on my own because I am far more at peace with myself.
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lalaland2112
Even though my family is slowly understanding that im suffering with extreme social anxiety( im not diagnosed but it's extreme still, i still feel alone, because i feel like im trapped in this never ending loop of my past, like i broke it once by trying to sing, but as soon as i stopped i went back into the loop, im still in the loop and im still struggling and i wish i didn't have to suffer extremely, or smth else, but i wish i had confidence again because when i was younger i was a little shy but extroverted, and i had lots of confidence, but when i got bullied in 4th grade for a whole school year i lost all of it and 5th grade was really difficult going through since i never talked at school, im not in school, it's summer, i still have that same anxiety, still at the same level, possibly extreme, because i still barely talk, i hate social anxiety and this video seems what i sort of experience
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Even though my family is slowly understanding that im suffering with extreme social anxiety( im not diagnosed but it's extreme still, i still feel alone, because i feel like im trapped in this never ending loop of my past, like i broke it once by trying to sing, but as soon as i stopped i went back into the loop, im still in the loop and im still struggling and i wish i didn't have to suffer extremely, or smth else, but i wish i had confidence again because when i was younger i was a little shy but extroverted, and i had lots of confidence, but when i got bullied in 4th grade for a whole school year i lost all of it and 5th grade was really difficult going through since i never talked at school, im not in school, it's summer, i still have that same anxiety, still at the same level, possibly extreme, because i still barely talk, i hate social anxiety and this video seems what i sort of experience
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starlight
i know you said youre not a professional and that I should ask them but I am shy to talk about this to anyone and I don't want my parents to worry. so I wanted to ask you if it is social anxiety if I do all of these things and other social anxiety symptoms with people that I don't know but with my friends most of the time I don't. I don't care about eating in front of them and I'm not shy with them (most of the time, for example I often think that I may be annoying and boring, or I often shut down if they tell me things like you already said that, but I don't want to go further into this and make this a poem haha) I also often get angry and I'm really a lot glued to my phone. yeah, as I already said I basically always do the thing in the video. so is it just shyness? thank you if you answer and anyways thank you for your videos they are really good: )
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i know you said youre not a professional and that I should ask them but I am shy to talk about this to anyone and I don't want my parents to worry. so I wanted to ask you if it is social anxiety if I do all of these things and other social anxiety symptoms with people that I don't know but with my friends most of the time I don't. I don't care about eating in front of them and I'm not shy with them (most of the time, for example I often think that I may be annoying and boring, or I often shut down if they tell me things like you already said that, but I don't want to go further into this and make this a poem haha) I also often get angry and I'm really a lot glued to my phone. yeah, as I already said I basically always do the thing in the video. so is it just shyness? thank you if you answer and anyways thank you for your videos they are really good: )
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Sheena
I don't know what wrong with me, last night I tried joining a Discord group voice call for the first time, i dunno, everytime I tried to turn on my mic to speak I loose my voice, I ended up turning my mic on/off couple of times. Sheez I really Don't have the Courage, even though it's only 6 of us in the VC, but I still end up speaking after a very long time, cuz they're all forcing me, my voice keep on stumbling, after saying some words, I can't even join the conversation, I can't even say some words properly, I'm so nervous, feel like am having panic attacks so just turned off my mic and leave, I Feel really bad, my very first voice call, didn't end up well. I keep on crying, I can't be like this, I don't wanna be like this
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I don't know what wrong with me, last night I tried joining a Discord group voice call for the first time, i dunno, everytime I tried to turn on my mic to speak I loose my voice, I ended up turning my mic on/off couple of times. Sheez I really Don't have the Courage, even though it's only 6 of us in the VC, but I still end up speaking after a very long time, cuz they're all forcing me, my voice keep on stumbling, after saying some words, I can't even join the conversation, I can't even say some words properly, I'm so nervous, feel like am having panic attacks so just turned off my mic and leave, I Feel really bad, my very first voice call, didn't end up well. I keep on crying, I can't be like this, I don't wanna be like this
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Christopher
Take the video's advice into account. But I can tell you from experience: Please, protect yourself.
It's two years later and I still haven't full recovered mentally from putting myself out there for someone with social anxiety disorder and depression. I had to quietly end the friendship.
They're by far the worst person I've met Planet Earth. And I don't regret being nice and decent to them! But I shouldn't've cared as much about someone who (in the end) didn't care back at all and probably never did.
People are messy and sometimes terrible, even when you think they were a nice person.
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Take the video's advice into account. But I can tell you from experience: Please, protect yourself.
It's two years later and I still haven't full recovered mentally from putting myself out there for someone with social anxiety disorder and depression. I had to quietly end the friendship.
They're by far the worst person I've met Planet Earth. And I don't regret being nice and decent to them! But I shouldn't've cared as much about someone who (in the end) didn't care back at all and probably never did.
People are messy and sometimes terrible, even when you think they were a nice person.
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Chantal
I don't only shut down in group settings, my mind just goes blank. I don't know what to say, what to do. If I actually do try and say something I'll stutter or the words come out in the wrong order. I keep trying to socialize but Every. Damn. Time. I get a reminder why I shouldn't.
I have two good friends who kind of understand how I am and that has to be good enough.
Seeking help has never worked for me either, because doctors always focus on my depression or think it's a lack of self esteem. I've tried for 20 years to find help.
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I don't only shut down in group settings, my mind just goes blank. I don't know what to say, what to do. If I actually do try and say something I'll stutter or the words come out in the wrong order. I keep trying to socialize but Every. Damn. Time. I get a reminder why I shouldn't.
I have two good friends who kind of understand how I am and that has to be good enough.
Seeking help has never worked for me either, because doctors always focus on my depression or think it's a lack of self esteem. I've tried for 20 years to find help.
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education
I'm only 12 And had only come to know about social anxiety a few days ago thanks to these videos, I think I've had social anxiety since I was 6, my parents would always ask me talk And socialize so that people won't think I'm rude, but they don't know I have social anxiety, it's not like I don't want to talk. it's because every time I try to I end up being overwhelm And can't speak even a simple 'hello' feels difficult to say, I've been trying hard to talk More And socialize More but it just seems hard And impossible
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I'm only 12 And had only come to know about social anxiety a few days ago thanks to these videos, I think I've had social anxiety since I was 6, my parents would always ask me talk And socialize so that people won't think I'm rude, but they don't know I have social anxiety, it's not like I don't want to talk. it's because every time I try to I end up being overwhelm And can't speak even a simple 'hello' feels difficult to say, I've been trying hard to talk More And socialize More but it just seems hard And impossible
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PVJ
I am suffering from same it is really disturbing for me, it make me depressed, all people surrounding has made as perception about me that he is very Rude guy, but actually i am not I feel I wanted to talk with this people but I am not able to make even a eye contact and the people think he is ignoring us, now they starts ignoring me which is very heartbreaking. And always their is feeling that all are judging me, gossiping about me. Which really Impact in my daily schedule, it is becoming dangerous for me.
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I am suffering from same it is really disturbing for me, it make me depressed, all people surrounding has made as perception about me that he is very Rude guy, but actually i am not I feel I wanted to talk with this people but I am not able to make even a eye contact and the people think he is ignoring us, now they starts ignoring me which is very heartbreaking. And always their is feeling that all are judging me, gossiping about me. Which really Impact in my daily schedule, it is becoming dangerous for me.
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whatamidoinghere
Once we had to do an activity which heavily depended on eye contact (nevermind, it was ONLY eye contact) so basically i kept looking away. even looking at the persons forehead didnt help.
i hate to eat in front of others. during break times i just order food from the canteen then rush up to class and eat there (luckily, i sit at a corner. and during lunch id take quick bites and immediately put my mask back on after each bite.
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Once we had to do an activity which heavily depended on eye contact (nevermind, it was ONLY eye contact) so basically i kept looking away. even looking at the persons forehead didnt help.
i hate to eat in front of others. during break times i just order food from the canteen then rush up to class and eat there (luckily, i sit at a corner. and during lunch id take quick bites and immediately put my mask back on after each bite.
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this
One time at school I was holding a door open cause it was hot outside, a random teacher asked me to close it, so I did. He asked me for my name, I said why. because I was anxious.
My friend replied for me, as he knows I might have SA. And I just kept asking why he wanted to know my name.
Then he lectured me about being disrespectful and I shouldve just told him instead of asking why.
Some people just dont understand.
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One time at school I was holding a door open cause it was hot outside, a random teacher asked me to close it, so I did. He asked me for my name, I said why. because I was anxious.
My friend replied for me, as he knows I might have SA. And I just kept asking why he wanted to know my name.
Then he lectured me about being disrespectful and I shouldve just told him instead of asking why.
Some people just dont understand.
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Seaweed
oh god. i JUST came back from a party. it was so horrible. i was on my phone the entire time coz i was just THAT anxious and people started making fun of me saying that i dIdn't like them or I was so busy talking to my bf. ugh it was so embarassing. i was just looking at funny memes coz doing that was keeping the panic at bay. omg I'm never going out again.
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oh god. i JUST came back from a party. it was so horrible. i was on my phone the entire time coz i was just THAT anxious and people started making fun of me saying that i dIdn't like them or I was so busy talking to my bf. ugh it was so embarassing. i was just looking at funny memes coz doing that was keeping the panic at bay. omg I'm never going out again.
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Theres
Oh my I can relate to not eating food in school. This year my anxiety have gotten worse and I stopped eating breakfast because I though I would lose weight and lunch because I cant stand the pressure in the dining room. I feel so bad for my best friend, shes so hungry but wont eat without me, I feel like Im a bad friend and I feel so guilty for it.
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Oh my I can relate to not eating food in school. This year my anxiety have gotten worse and I stopped eating breakfast because I though I would lose weight and lunch because I cant stand the pressure in the dining room. I feel so bad for my best friend, shes so hungry but wont eat without me, I feel like Im a bad friend and I feel so guilty for it.
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Hooft
A problem I used to have before finally overcoming it, was the fear that if my anxiety went away, a part of myself would also go. That's what held me back from recovering for so long.
But now I am here to say that it doesn't, I'm still the same person I was back then, just happier. Please get help if you can and feel ready, you deserve better.
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A problem I used to have before finally overcoming it, was the fear that if my anxiety went away, a part of myself would also go. That's what held me back from recovering for so long.
But now I am here to say that it doesn't, I'm still the same person I was back then, just happier. Please get help if you can and feel ready, you deserve better.
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Amy
I don't know anybody who has serious anxiety nor do I have it personally, but sometimes, even just dealing with someone who worries a lot or projects their overthinking onto you causes me to snap and lose patience. I can't imagine working with people who struggle with anxiety disorders.
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I don't know anybody who has serious anxiety nor do I have it personally, but sometimes, even just dealing with someone who worries a lot or projects their overthinking onto you causes me to snap and lose patience. I can't imagine working with people who struggle with anxiety disorders.
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jaypheyg
This actually made me tear up a bit because I struggle with all of this all the time. And the not eating hot home for me, I was 90 pounds all throughout high school because I fear eating in front of people. I still hate it, it's so hard to overcome though.
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This actually made me tear up a bit because I struggle with all of this all the time. And the not eating hot home for me, I was 90 pounds all throughout high school because I fear eating in front of people. I still hate it, it's so hard to overcome though.
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Six
I AM SO SENDING THIS TO MY MUM AND MY BROTHER because they think anxiety isn't real they think I'm just being ridiculous, a waste of time, dramatic, overacting and just being rude even though I'm really suffering from anxiety they just don't know. what do I do?
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I AM SO SENDING THIS TO MY MUM AND MY BROTHER because they think anxiety isn't real they think I'm just being ridiculous, a waste of time, dramatic, overacting and just being rude even though I'm really suffering from anxiety they just don't know. what do I do?
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JustNateMAN
DANG IT! All of these characteristics fit me. I wish people understood how I and other people suffering from social anxiety felt. I just wish that they knew somehow. People always judge to quick and don't consider how we feel, only what they think.
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DANG IT! All of these characteristics fit me. I wish people understood how I and other people suffering from social anxiety felt. I just wish that they knew somehow. People always judge to quick and don't consider how we feel, only what they think.
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lee
I rlly struggle with making an eye contact with people, even my family, my hands start to shake when there are a lot people, and I rarely talk with group of new friends, I only talk freely to the ones who I know for long, I wish I could be more social(
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I rlly struggle with making an eye contact with people, even my family, my hands start to shake when there are a lot people, and I rarely talk with group of new friends, I only talk freely to the ones who I know for long, I wish I could be more social(
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psych2go
I've found this to be a recent struggle for me. I do struggle with a bit of social anxiety, but it's increased at my current job. Sometimes, I come off a bit rude. I try not to be and say hello to everyone, but something shuts it down for me.
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I've found this to be a recent struggle for me. I do struggle with a bit of social anxiety, but it's increased at my current job. Sometimes, I come off a bit rude. I try not to be and say hello to everyone, but something shuts it down for me.
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fairyii
I have always wondered why I was always the girl that's feels left out
until I watched this video.
ITS BECAUSE I AM REALLY BAD AT MAKING FRIENDS AND TO NERVOUS TO TALK AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO TALK ABOUT AND KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING.
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I have always wondered why I was always the girl that's feels left out
until I watched this video.
ITS BECAUSE I AM REALLY BAD AT MAKING FRIENDS AND TO NERVOUS TO TALK AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO TALK ABOUT AND KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING.
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Maria
1: 43 I really hate eating in front of others, if they are sitting across from me I feel like they are looking at me eating and then I start twitching and try to cool down, I dont want them to judge me for eating or eating weirdly
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1: 43 I really hate eating in front of others, if they are sitting across from me I feel like they are looking at me eating and then I start twitching and try to cool down, I dont want them to judge me for eating or eating weirdly
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Rishika
once, i changed my path because i saw someone and thought i will make it awkward, but they noticed and i might have come off as rude for avoiding them! but i honestly wasn't avoiding them its just my anxiety sorry
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once, i changed my path because i saw someone and thought i will make it awkward, but they noticed and i might have come off as rude for avoiding them! but i honestly wasn't avoiding them its just my anxiety sorry
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mADdi
I wish if I they noticed or know that I have social anxiety I tried to tell them but its kinda so hard, cause I know if I told them they wouldnt know what understand me or know what its like to have social anxiety
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I wish if I they noticed or know that I have social anxiety I tried to tell them but its kinda so hard, cause I know if I told them they wouldnt know what understand me or know what its like to have social anxiety
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