6 Struggles Only Genuine Empaths Will Understand
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Death
I agree but did not help any. I dont get love as an empath with multiple untreated TBI's, untreated and un-diagnosed ADHD. never had the money to go get checked out and when i did for ADHD i was told i didnt have it, could not focus in school so i never graduated. my body is falling apart from and auto-imumne disease where i dont have cartilage in-between my joints and bones. My parents were 19 and 20 when they had me and were not emotionally nor monetarily ready for a child. they wanted to date not be husband and wife (more of my mother wanted a bf than husband cause my father worked 12 hours shifts for us 3. 7am-7pm or 7am-9pm. Im constantly drained having to take care of 3 diffrent buildings ( My Grandmothers house while helping take care of her and living there myself, parents house and my 5 jobs in 1 bulding line cook, frontperson, food runner, stocker, and partly a manager ) i work 5 hours shits 6 days a week up at 5: 30 am sleep at 11pm. Im considered lazy by my family for not doing much with my life when i dont like to be near nor around people because people always have a hidden agenda even if they dont say so. but ive loved to help people ever since i was a child but was never validated by a narcissistic father who was never vaidated himself nor by a mentally unstable mother who used to Verbally and every now and then physically abuse. So when my brother came along i made sure he was even shown proper love and validation (parents made a 180 around my brother 7th birthday but could care less for other than themselves still)
Talking doesn't help me it just makes me relive more on my traumatic past and present that wont let me forget it by making me watch others in relationships and being happy while it constantly replays over and over in my head 24/7. i dont want pills so i dont become addicted nor reliant on them but its getting harder and harder to care for myself bathing is now an every 3 or 4 days i forget to brush my teeth most morning and i have a girl im not dating that i really care for and she cares for me i think but its hard to know when she's in college and i hate to be seen by people or id go see her expect i hate to drive as well cause i nearly killed an older sister and her younger siblings in a head on collision while they were heading to school ( no serious injuries from either party) and i see my self as sub-human or more of a secondary speices to humans but i dont want to leave my brother even tho hes significantly smarter and more stable than i am so he wouldnt need me anyway.
Im sorry if i never respond or look for this post again as i will have forgotten about it in 30 mins or by tomorrow as is normal for me but i could careless for people's opinions or concerns for or toward myself im not worth it no matter how happy i am in the morning which is getting harder to be, 5mins later im back to my normal slef loathing, self berating, non functional sub species that i am.
Im sorry for how i am and who ive turned out to be y'all. Im a failure as a child and as an adult. (This is about a quarter if not less than that of my life)
Have a wonderful rest of your week and life. NEVER EVER EVER STOP SMILING YOU WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, AMAZING, KIND LOVING PERSON YOU
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I agree but did not help any. I dont get love as an empath with multiple untreated TBI's, untreated and un-diagnosed ADHD. never had the money to go get checked out and when i did for ADHD i was told i didnt have it, could not focus in school so i never graduated. my body is falling apart from and auto-imumne disease where i dont have cartilage in-between my joints and bones. My parents were 19 and 20 when they had me and were not emotionally nor monetarily ready for a child. they wanted to date not be husband and wife (more of my mother wanted a bf than husband cause my father worked 12 hours shifts for us 3. 7am-7pm or 7am-9pm. Im constantly drained having to take care of 3 diffrent buildings ( My Grandmothers house while helping take care of her and living there myself, parents house and my 5 jobs in 1 bulding line cook, frontperson, food runner, stocker, and partly a manager ) i work 5 hours shits 6 days a week up at 5: 30 am sleep at 11pm. Im considered lazy by my family for not doing much with my life when i dont like to be near nor around people because people always have a hidden agenda even if they dont say so. but ive loved to help people ever since i was a child but was never validated by a narcissistic father who was never vaidated himself nor by a mentally unstable mother who used to Verbally and every now and then physically abuse. So when my brother came along i made sure he was even shown proper love and validation (parents made a 180 around my brother 7th birthday but could care less for other than themselves still)
Talking doesn't help me it just makes me relive more on my traumatic past and present that wont let me forget it by making me watch others in relationships and being happy while it constantly replays over and over in my head 24/7. i dont want pills so i dont become addicted nor reliant on them but its getting harder and harder to care for myself bathing is now an every 3 or 4 days i forget to brush my teeth most morning and i have a girl im not dating that i really care for and she cares for me i think but its hard to know when she's in college and i hate to be seen by people or id go see her expect i hate to drive as well cause i nearly killed an older sister and her younger siblings in a head on collision while they were heading to school ( no serious injuries from either party) and i see my self as sub-human or more of a secondary speices to humans but i dont want to leave my brother even tho hes significantly smarter and more stable than i am so he wouldnt need me anyway.
Im sorry if i never respond or look for this post again as i will have forgotten about it in 30 mins or by tomorrow as is normal for me but i could careless for people's opinions or concerns for or toward myself im not worth it no matter how happy i am in the morning which is getting harder to be, 5mins later im back to my normal slef loathing, self berating, non functional sub species that i am.
Im sorry for how i am and who ive turned out to be y'all. Im a failure as a child and as an adult. (This is about a quarter if not less than that of my life)
Have a wonderful rest of your week and life. NEVER EVER EVER STOP SMILING YOU WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, AMAZING, KIND LOVING PERSON YOU
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Sunny
Pro Tip: i am fortunate enough to have Super empathic powers. I feel peoples pain in my knees, lower back. Its tough. I physically flinch when im watching a movie with graphic violence and feel a sharp pain in both my knees In real time. My advice to ALL EMPATHS WHO VIEW THIS GIFT AS A CURSE. Is to do some spirtual work. Find your astrological sign. Find people youre compatible with. Get The science on this. It will help you. Learn what birthstones are healing. Learn what elements help in healing. As an Arquarius; turqoise is a healer. GUess what color my pick up truck is? Turqouise. Example: i am my bosses healer, when hes stressed, i have intense back pain at workl. however. when the buzzer goes, from the time i leave work, to when i get home, My back pain is gone. Being empathic is a gift. If you think it is a curse, your emotional intelligence and confdience needs work. Do the work before you complain. Its a gift from the universe to help others heal. Not a burden. If you view it as a burden; youve been compromised by a narcissist and need to do a whole different type of healing.
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Pro Tip: i am fortunate enough to have Super empathic powers. I feel peoples pain in my knees, lower back. Its tough. I physically flinch when im watching a movie with graphic violence and feel a sharp pain in both my knees In real time. My advice to ALL EMPATHS WHO VIEW THIS GIFT AS A CURSE. Is to do some spirtual work. Find your astrological sign. Find people youre compatible with. Get The science on this. It will help you. Learn what birthstones are healing. Learn what elements help in healing. As an Arquarius; turqoise is a healer. GUess what color my pick up truck is? Turqouise. Example: i am my bosses healer, when hes stressed, i have intense back pain at workl. however. when the buzzer goes, from the time i leave work, to when i get home, My back pain is gone. Being empathic is a gift. If you think it is a curse, your emotional intelligence and confdience needs work. Do the work before you complain. Its a gift from the universe to help others heal. Not a burden. If you view it as a burden; youve been compromised by a narcissist and need to do a whole different type of healing.
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NobleWolf
Here's another struggle. Being in a room full of people or a crowd I can sense everyone all at once, like a endless tidal wave of emotions and sometimes I'm afraid I'll drown. The more people the worse it gets. I've had moments where I just ran out of a crowd as far away as possible.
I have learned to focus in on 1 or 2 people closest to me to avoid being uncomfortable or overwhelmed. Another way is to tune out everything by doing the opposite of focusing on anything letting everything turn to TV static, but it makes me far less aware of my own emotions as well. There is another thing that helps too, when everyone within a crowd is feeling generally the same emotion, it alot easier to deal with. Like people at a concert, comedy show est.
Emotions to me are like both particles and a wave in a sense and the more emotions there are, the more it looks like a mess but if everyone is feeling the same emotion, it smooths out into a nice steady pattern
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Here's another struggle. Being in a room full of people or a crowd I can sense everyone all at once, like a endless tidal wave of emotions and sometimes I'm afraid I'll drown. The more people the worse it gets. I've had moments where I just ran out of a crowd as far away as possible.
I have learned to focus in on 1 or 2 people closest to me to avoid being uncomfortable or overwhelmed. Another way is to tune out everything by doing the opposite of focusing on anything letting everything turn to TV static, but it makes me far less aware of my own emotions as well. There is another thing that helps too, when everyone within a crowd is feeling generally the same emotion, it alot easier to deal with. Like people at a concert, comedy show est.
Emotions to me are like both particles and a wave in a sense and the more emotions there are, the more it looks like a mess but if everyone is feeling the same emotion, it smooths out into a nice steady pattern
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Eludariel
Being an empath is really nice and I know that Im feeling highy sensitive on other emotions. I love ppl, love to make them smile and happy, but I relate of many of these drawbacks.
There is a wish I have in lot of those moments, that ppl shouldnt take the abilitys of an empath for too granted.
We are neither gift then curse.
Each smile is a gift, everyone who takes us for granted a curse.
We are humans and having our own feelings and thoughts too.
It takes a lot of effort and energy to be constantly in connection with other emotions. But if you having the right people looking out for you, maybe other empaths, its easier to enjoy being one.
Cuz there are others looking out for you too. People who arent taking you for granted and vice versa.
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Being an empath is really nice and I know that Im feeling highy sensitive on other emotions. I love ppl, love to make them smile and happy, but I relate of many of these drawbacks.
There is a wish I have in lot of those moments, that ppl shouldnt take the abilitys of an empath for too granted.
We are neither gift then curse.
Each smile is a gift, everyone who takes us for granted a curse.
We are humans and having our own feelings and thoughts too.
It takes a lot of effort and energy to be constantly in connection with other emotions. But if you having the right people looking out for you, maybe other empaths, its easier to enjoy being one.
Cuz there are others looking out for you too. People who arent taking you for granted and vice versa.
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Natalie
as an empath i really struggle with being effected by negative things, such as horror movies and scary things on the news, etc. and my friends, who arent empaths, dont understand why those things are so upsetting for me. how do i set healthy boundaries with them and help them understand why i cannot handle watching horror movies? im really bad at putting myself first and cannot seem to say no to people. when i jokingly kinda say like nahhh im good lets watch something else! they just started to fight me abt it and it adds to the negative/ heavy feelings and then i just shut down. help!
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as an empath i really struggle with being effected by negative things, such as horror movies and scary things on the news, etc. and my friends, who arent empaths, dont understand why those things are so upsetting for me. how do i set healthy boundaries with them and help them understand why i cannot handle watching horror movies? im really bad at putting myself first and cannot seem to say no to people. when i jokingly kinda say like nahhh im good lets watch something else! they just started to fight me abt it and it adds to the negative/ heavy feelings and then i just shut down. help!
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Joshua
In a society structured in such a way that the psychopath advantage is a thing, it is certainly a massive added difficulty to be born as the opposite of a psychopath. All the benefits to being an empath are experienced by the people in the empath's life whereas all the feeling everyone's pain, ostracization, being misunderstood etc. are experienced by the empath, so Blessing or curse depends on whether you're the empath or a person in the life of an empath.
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In a society structured in such a way that the psychopath advantage is a thing, it is certainly a massive added difficulty to be born as the opposite of a psychopath. All the benefits to being an empath are experienced by the people in the empath's life whereas all the feeling everyone's pain, ostracization, being misunderstood etc. are experienced by the empath, so Blessing or curse depends on whether you're the empath or a person in the life of an empath.
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NipItinTheBud
Absolutely confirm. Self care is the hardest part of being an empath. Had recently an encounter with a sociopath. Which was and still is a challenge - though it taught me a lot about myself and my own boundaries.
And I stopped trusting people when they take advantage of me. And yes it happens so often I now explode, because all are like please help me. And the day I ask for their help, all vanish in thin air.
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Absolutely confirm. Self care is the hardest part of being an empath. Had recently an encounter with a sociopath. Which was and still is a challenge - though it taught me a lot about myself and my own boundaries.
And I stopped trusting people when they take advantage of me. And yes it happens so often I now explode, because all are like please help me. And the day I ask for their help, all vanish in thin air.
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sadcoffeeman
Rule 1. Valid
Rule 2. Invalid (there are 4 billion introverts that understands this)
Rule 3. Invalid (being taken advantage of is a common human experience)
Rule 4. Invalid (might be a heigthened trait, but nothing special)
Rule 5. Invalid (sensitivity and empathy is not cojoined at all)
Rule 6. Invalid (might be heightened, but can occur to anyone)
Empaths arent real: )
Have a nice day
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Rule 1. Valid
Rule 2. Invalid (there are 4 billion introverts that understands this)
Rule 3. Invalid (being taken advantage of is a common human experience)
Rule 4. Invalid (might be a heigthened trait, but nothing special)
Rule 5. Invalid (sensitivity and empathy is not cojoined at all)
Rule 6. Invalid (might be heightened, but can occur to anyone)
Empaths arent real: )
Have a nice day
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Elemental
when i comes to violence ive always found myself pretty neutral. most of the time i end up looking at both sides and understanding why theyd act the way they did that lead to that point.
the one form that tends to throw me into a rage though is needless violence. oftentimes when one person goes beyond any measure of reasonable force or when they have a obvious lack of the value of life.
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when i comes to violence ive always found myself pretty neutral. most of the time i end up looking at both sides and understanding why theyd act the way they did that lead to that point.
the one form that tends to throw me into a rage though is needless violence. oftentimes when one person goes beyond any measure of reasonable force or when they have a obvious lack of the value of life.
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psych2go
I use to cry so easily as a child to the point I learned how to the point I tried not to show facial expressions or didn't react because I was afraid of being looked at negatively. I still cry easier than most but I'm no longer ashamed of it. I'm learning more and accepting myself as an empath, hsp, and being in a word of different personalities while having boundaries.
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I use to cry so easily as a child to the point I learned how to the point I tried not to show facial expressions or didn't react because I was afraid of being looked at negatively. I still cry easier than most but I'm no longer ashamed of it. I'm learning more and accepting myself as an empath, hsp, and being in a word of different personalities while having boundaries.
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Ivana
I think that being an empath is a real gift to others but you are a actually very valuable and really suffering inside and being a narcissist is the same but very destructive to others, both is trauma response in completely opposite directions, empath is just to have learn how to protect themselves and that isnt easy journey.
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I think that being an empath is a real gift to others but you are a actually very valuable and really suffering inside and being a narcissist is the same but very destructive to others, both is trauma response in completely opposite directions, empath is just to have learn how to protect themselves and that isnt easy journey.
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Max
Thank YOu so much! I actually feel understood. This is hopefully gonna explain for people that are close to me what I've been trying to put in words or terms they could understand or try to anyway. I just want, or really need them to feel why I'm avting a certain way, so they can help me help them
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Thank YOu so much! I actually feel understood. This is hopefully gonna explain for people that are close to me what I've been trying to put in words or terms they could understand or try to anyway. I just want, or really need them to feel why I'm avting a certain way, so they can help me help them
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Jennifer
Hit all the subjects that I've experienced so great work on researching and thank you for your videos. I wish I could make others understand better but perhaps one day there will be a day when we will all be educated better on one another so we can thrive not just survive
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Hit all the subjects that I've experienced so great work on researching and thank you for your videos. I wish I could make others understand better but perhaps one day there will be a day when we will all be educated better on one another so we can thrive not just survive
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Yelan
I feel like an empath but I am terrible at comforting people as I never really know if they will get mad at me or it wont work or it will be awkward. I try to avoid helping people but I always feel so bad and I can tell that they find this annoying and awkward.
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I feel like an empath but I am terrible at comforting people as I never really know if they will get mad at me or it wont work or it will be awkward. I try to avoid helping people but I always feel so bad and I can tell that they find this annoying and awkward.
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Duck
Is there a such thing as too much empathy?
When i am with someone who is having a depressing day, I get really tired, exhausted, and burnt out. I get really pessimistic and irritable. So to put it simply, Is too much empathy a thing or am I just cursed?
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Is there a such thing as too much empathy?
When i am with someone who is having a depressing day, I get really tired, exhausted, and burnt out. I get really pessimistic and irritable. So to put it simply, Is too much empathy a thing or am I just cursed?
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Dale
Not sure I'm an empath. but I relate to all six. I'm the guy everyone shares their innermost secrets with, then avoid me afterwards. Seems like I'm always there for others but no one is there for me. I finally learned to recharge with alone time.
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Not sure I'm an empath. but I relate to all six. I'm the guy everyone shares their innermost secrets with, then avoid me afterwards. Seems like I'm always there for others but no one is there for me. I finally learned to recharge with alone time.
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Krio
Being an empath myself, this is what I feel and I people usually don't understand, they just think I'm overreacting or just angry when I'm burnt out and want to be alone, well, at least now I can show them this and maybe they will know: D
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Being an empath myself, this is what I feel and I people usually don't understand, they just think I'm overreacting or just angry when I'm burnt out and want to be alone, well, at least now I can show them this and maybe they will know: D
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education
I highly think 99 percent of the self proclaim empaths in the comments are GENUINE empaths. I hate that term because it's so missued. I oerfer the more professional term hyper empathy disorder which only 1-2 percent actually have.
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I highly think 99 percent of the self proclaim empaths in the comments are GENUINE empaths. I hate that term because it's so missued. I oerfer the more professional term hyper empathy disorder which only 1-2 percent actually have.
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Little
Ive been drained these past couple days with the heat wave. I keep thinking about all the people and animals suffering in the heat and Im severely depressed. This happens every summer and winter and Im over it
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Ive been drained these past couple days with the heat wave. I keep thinking about all the people and animals suffering in the heat and Im severely depressed. This happens every summer and winter and Im over it
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education
Relate to it all I was diagnosed with mood disorder but medication never worked n I coukd never understand why I would be fine and then bam I was sad or mad n it just completely took me over
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Relate to it all I was diagnosed with mood disorder but medication never worked n I coukd never understand why I would be fine and then bam I was sad or mad n it just completely took me over
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TinyMusikCoDotTv
I read people it is like reading their minds. it makes them scared of me. how can I stop that and also How does an empath get away from a dark narcissist?
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I read people it is like reading their minds. it makes them scared of me. how can I stop that and also How does an empath get away from a dark narcissist?
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education
I used to be all those negative traits, however my boundaries are solid now and I dont have those issues anymore - it took me a long time to learn that lesson
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I used to be all those negative traits, however my boundaries are solid now and I dont have those issues anymore - it took me a long time to learn that lesson
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Deniis
I am an Empath. Is so hard. U have to deal with u pain and theirs. And yes; I've been taken advantage of. It hurts but I did my job. Helping humanity
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I am an Empath. Is so hard. U have to deal with u pain and theirs. And yes; I've been taken advantage of. It hurts but I did my job. Helping humanity
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Julian
Being a empath is not easy by any means it can be very tiring and mentally challenging, I sense feelings from people very day and it is exhausting
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Being a empath is not easy by any means it can be very tiring and mentally challenging, I sense feelings from people very day and it is exhausting
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Cynthia
There comes a time when you have to jump off of that Empath train and turn all that love and empathy on yourself. Choose You!
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There comes a time when you have to jump off of that Empath train and turn all that love and empathy on yourself. Choose You!
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