How To Deal With Toxic People
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Jace
Toxic people love to bring everyone down to their level, because they are experts in being toxic. As such, when you try to confront them, or leave, they will only try to be more toxic/gaslight you because that's the only thing they know how to do well. That's why we should cultivate the ability to dissipate toxic energy. Fight toxicity with love, joy, and solutions. Spread them to the people that treat you with respect and loyalty. Let the toxic person be toxic. They will naturally drive everyone away, and then they will have nothing left but their toxicity - which is a very good case of karma for them. And, in the end, you will have cultivated an extremely strong ability to remain grounded and emit love from your soul - a huge factor in creating a beautiful life filled with gratitude and people who truly love you.
Fighting against the toxic person with anger/fear/sadness is a symptom of their toxicity poisoning you. It is easy to continue being toxic - because that's what they want you to do. Instead, practice love. Turn their insults into a joke. Once, my father (the most toxic person I have ever met) came up to me and told me Wow, I see you're really bringing out your feminine side with that floral shirt you're wearing. I just put my hand on my chest, and in the most feminine way expelled Why thank you for noticing! with a smile. He was so taken aback that he didn't know how to respond. I then continued my conversation with the rest of my family while he spent the rest of the time in the background.
Don't fight fire with fire. Don't fight toxicity. Disarm, redirect, and dismiss their arguments by using humor or ignoring them. Then, just focus on the people that make you feel good. The toxic person will hate it, and try to get your attention by being more toxic. When they do, just repeat - disarm, redirect, and dismiss. They will be left with nothing.
You are the source of your own love and happiness. You are also the source of your own toxicity. Practice feeling the urge to be toxic, let it rise within you, and then meet it with love and kindness. Remind yourself that you determine what you focus on. Then, let the toxicity dissapatte, by choosing to focus on the things you love.
Good luck out there everyone! I love you all
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Toxic people love to bring everyone down to their level, because they are experts in being toxic. As such, when you try to confront them, or leave, they will only try to be more toxic/gaslight you because that's the only thing they know how to do well. That's why we should cultivate the ability to dissipate toxic energy. Fight toxicity with love, joy, and solutions. Spread them to the people that treat you with respect and loyalty. Let the toxic person be toxic. They will naturally drive everyone away, and then they will have nothing left but their toxicity - which is a very good case of karma for them. And, in the end, you will have cultivated an extremely strong ability to remain grounded and emit love from your soul - a huge factor in creating a beautiful life filled with gratitude and people who truly love you.
Fighting against the toxic person with anger/fear/sadness is a symptom of their toxicity poisoning you. It is easy to continue being toxic - because that's what they want you to do. Instead, practice love. Turn their insults into a joke. Once, my father (the most toxic person I have ever met) came up to me and told me Wow, I see you're really bringing out your feminine side with that floral shirt you're wearing. I just put my hand on my chest, and in the most feminine way expelled Why thank you for noticing! with a smile. He was so taken aback that he didn't know how to respond. I then continued my conversation with the rest of my family while he spent the rest of the time in the background.
Don't fight fire with fire. Don't fight toxicity. Disarm, redirect, and dismiss their arguments by using humor or ignoring them. Then, just focus on the people that make you feel good. The toxic person will hate it, and try to get your attention by being more toxic. When they do, just repeat - disarm, redirect, and dismiss. They will be left with nothing.
You are the source of your own love and happiness. You are also the source of your own toxicity. Practice feeling the urge to be toxic, let it rise within you, and then meet it with love and kindness. Remind yourself that you determine what you focus on. Then, let the toxicity dissapatte, by choosing to focus on the things you love.
Good luck out there everyone! I love you all
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AJX
I have a friend who would constantly insult me and say I wasn't a pretty or smart person. He would compare me to another girl in our group who was both of our friends. Another girl joined our group later and he was giving her the same treatment. Me & the two other girls noticed this and we decided to confront him about it. We tried to drift away from him or we would block him and not talk to him anymore, but somehow he would find a way to get back into contact with us.
When me & him would argue and I would leave mad, I would always receive a text from a random friend saying that he was ranting on to them about on how he was depressed & wanted to die.
So I thought it would be best if I checked in on him and the 2 other girls did too, we still cared about him and wanted what was best for him. We would end up getting dragged back into a friendship with him time after time because the same reason, one of use would hear from another person that he was saying some stuff about himself, and every time this would happen he would just hurt us again and say the same things!
Eventually I had enough and stopped talking to him for good, but recently today I had to hear from someone that he was badmouthing about me and saying hurtful things. I took all the strength in me not just go off and text him. I knew I was gonna get dragged back into the friendship, so I didn't say anything. He was saying on how when he saw me next school year he was gonna start some drama and was going to purposly start a conflict with me.
My best advice for people is to pick and choose your friends, look out. Are they laughing with you or are they laughing at you? I send my prayers to everyone who is struggling with the same issue.
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I have a friend who would constantly insult me and say I wasn't a pretty or smart person. He would compare me to another girl in our group who was both of our friends. Another girl joined our group later and he was giving her the same treatment. Me & the two other girls noticed this and we decided to confront him about it. We tried to drift away from him or we would block him and not talk to him anymore, but somehow he would find a way to get back into contact with us.
When me & him would argue and I would leave mad, I would always receive a text from a random friend saying that he was ranting on to them about on how he was depressed & wanted to die.
So I thought it would be best if I checked in on him and the 2 other girls did too, we still cared about him and wanted what was best for him. We would end up getting dragged back into a friendship with him time after time because the same reason, one of use would hear from another person that he was saying some stuff about himself, and every time this would happen he would just hurt us again and say the same things!
Eventually I had enough and stopped talking to him for good, but recently today I had to hear from someone that he was badmouthing about me and saying hurtful things. I took all the strength in me not just go off and text him. I knew I was gonna get dragged back into the friendship, so I didn't say anything. He was saying on how when he saw me next school year he was gonna start some drama and was going to purposly start a conflict with me.
My best advice for people is to pick and choose your friends, look out. Are they laughing with you or are they laughing at you? I send my prayers to everyone who is struggling with the same issue.
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Maddistrations
My friend came over yesterday night to watch a movie and for the first 20 minutes she had been texting my crush, knowing that Ive liked him for years. I heard her laughing so I look over at her phone. I wasnt trying to be snoopy at all, but she yelled at me anyway even though it wasnt my fault. She was trying to show me a picture he had sent her of his dog, so she scrolled up a whole bunch. It wasnt the fact that they text each other all of the time that bothered me, it was the fact that she had been sending him embarrassing photos and videos of me without me knowing. She had a history of ditching me when we had plans, lying, excluding, etc. but every time Id given her a second chance. This time it went too far. My crush and I had been really good friends for a while. We met at Starbucks a few months ago to get cake pops, but ever since he hasnt talked to me and I have a feeling it had something to do with her. Im so sick of her at this point and this video was super helpful. I feel like avoiding her and finding better friends will be much better for my mental health as well. Thank you
Edit: they are dating now and she pretends like nothing happened between us.
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My friend came over yesterday night to watch a movie and for the first 20 minutes she had been texting my crush, knowing that Ive liked him for years. I heard her laughing so I look over at her phone. I wasnt trying to be snoopy at all, but she yelled at me anyway even though it wasnt my fault. She was trying to show me a picture he had sent her of his dog, so she scrolled up a whole bunch. It wasnt the fact that they text each other all of the time that bothered me, it was the fact that she had been sending him embarrassing photos and videos of me without me knowing. She had a history of ditching me when we had plans, lying, excluding, etc. but every time Id given her a second chance. This time it went too far. My crush and I had been really good friends for a while. We met at Starbucks a few months ago to get cake pops, but ever since he hasnt talked to me and I have a feeling it had something to do with her. Im so sick of her at this point and this video was super helpful. I feel like avoiding her and finding better friends will be much better for my mental health as well. Thank you
Edit: they are dating now and she pretends like nothing happened between us.
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Jonnejuusto
This video didnt help me at all. I am a 13 year old boy and i live in finland. I just started 7th grade (wich is the 1st grade in high school here in finland idk about other countries) about a month ago. Ofc because i just started high school, my school is different and also my classmates. The problem is my classmates. I got 2 friends in the same class as me and the other people are just random people around my city. Lets go to the main thing now. I got these 2 particular classmates that i wanna talk about. One of them is a boy and the other one is a girl. So basically they are really toxic and annoying to me. Whatever i do or say, they mock or laugh at me for no reason. It is very annoying and if i say anything to them, they just laugh. I cant get rid of those people bc they are in the same class as me so nothing in this video helps. I just need help to get rid of these people. I want to live a normal and enjoyable life. Pls i need help
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This video didnt help me at all. I am a 13 year old boy and i live in finland. I just started 7th grade (wich is the 1st grade in high school here in finland idk about other countries) about a month ago. Ofc because i just started high school, my school is different and also my classmates. The problem is my classmates. I got 2 friends in the same class as me and the other people are just random people around my city. Lets go to the main thing now. I got these 2 particular classmates that i wanna talk about. One of them is a boy and the other one is a girl. So basically they are really toxic and annoying to me. Whatever i do or say, they mock or laugh at me for no reason. It is very annoying and if i say anything to them, they just laugh. I cant get rid of those people bc they are in the same class as me so nothing in this video helps. I just need help to get rid of these people. I want to live a normal and enjoyable life. Pls i need help
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oni
I really hate those type of people like I dont know why they do this to people well Kind of Believe me theres actually one at my school and in my video games there always finding new ways two screw other peoples life they think like they can do whatever they want and thinking theyll never get punished for it and after studying toxic people I think toxic is not really just a feeling I think its a disease A virus trying to spread it to other people thats why they do this to spread it trust me One of my friends he wasnt always toxic and some people that were toxic were talking Bad things about him then I dont know where in one year he became toxic like them disrespecting everyone cannot believe that actually happened to him I just wish I could stop it
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I really hate those type of people like I dont know why they do this to people well Kind of Believe me theres actually one at my school and in my video games there always finding new ways two screw other peoples life they think like they can do whatever they want and thinking theyll never get punished for it and after studying toxic people I think toxic is not really just a feeling I think its a disease A virus trying to spread it to other people thats why they do this to spread it trust me One of my friends he wasnt always toxic and some people that were toxic were talking Bad things about him then I dont know where in one year he became toxic like them disrespecting everyone cannot believe that actually happened to him I just wish I could stop it
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Jilliberation
3: 32 #6 For 15 years, Dad was a Union rep for Seattle's Concrete Mason's Local Chapter. It was his job to travel around to large building projects, and ensure that the contractors either hired Union labor, or paid union scale wages. If not, they would be picketed. You can imagine his popularity with the 'shadier' outfits. Not many lasted long at his job, because they needed to be THICK skinned and quick to laugh, to defuse and disarm during tense situations. When speaking about how hostile confrontation was a daily occurrence with his job, Dad would sometimes boast, No one will ever gain satisfaction by insulting me, or belittling me to hurt my feelings. Because, I won't know it.
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3: 32 #6 For 15 years, Dad was a Union rep for Seattle's Concrete Mason's Local Chapter. It was his job to travel around to large building projects, and ensure that the contractors either hired Union labor, or paid union scale wages. If not, they would be picketed. You can imagine his popularity with the 'shadier' outfits. Not many lasted long at his job, because they needed to be THICK skinned and quick to laugh, to defuse and disarm during tense situations. When speaking about how hostile confrontation was a daily occurrence with his job, Dad would sometimes boast, No one will ever gain satisfaction by insulting me, or belittling me to hurt my feelings. Because, I won't know it.
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Chuppz
IM SO DONE WITH MY LIFE GUYS. Toxic people all around me, my friends, family and everyone. I just don't have an inspiration to do anything anymore. It's just so hard that I feel like Im such an umimportant person that no one truly likes or cared about. My friends and soo toxic and fake and I dont have 1 person that doesn't replace me or considers me their best friend. My sister is manipulative af and she acts like she loves me but she hurts me a lot and never accepts my opinions. My parents are judgemental af and never actually listen to me or my problems. I truly have no one understanding in my life and so sometimes I think, what is the point of living like this?
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IM SO DONE WITH MY LIFE GUYS. Toxic people all around me, my friends, family and everyone. I just don't have an inspiration to do anything anymore. It's just so hard that I feel like Im such an umimportant person that no one truly likes or cared about. My friends and soo toxic and fake and I dont have 1 person that doesn't replace me or considers me their best friend. My sister is manipulative af and she acts like she loves me but she hurts me a lot and never accepts my opinions. My parents are judgemental af and never actually listen to me or my problems. I truly have no one understanding in my life and so sometimes I think, what is the point of living like this?
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otto
Hey psych What if i always tried to be there for friends but in the end they dump you like a brick? Yes they have familys now but does that mean they had to dump me? I in the beginning tried to keep in touch with them but now we are a bit older (and along our friend ship) It was always me that had to reach out to them to keep in touch. once i stopped they never talked to me again. They never talked bad of me but is like they did\dont like me and i don have any friends any more. Im scared to ake new friends. what should i do? Im 46 years old also single because of this.
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Hey psych What if i always tried to be there for friends but in the end they dump you like a brick? Yes they have familys now but does that mean they had to dump me? I in the beginning tried to keep in touch with them but now we are a bit older (and along our friend ship) It was always me that had to reach out to them to keep in touch. once i stopped they never talked to me again. They never talked bad of me but is like they did\dont like me and i don have any friends any more. Im scared to ake new friends. what should i do? Im 46 years old also single because of this.
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ArtisticLei!
Thanks so much because Im apart of a community that is seen as toxic and its so hateful that makes me wanna die. And I am being serious. Look, many people might be bad in the Genshin community but not all of the people are bad. The people that hate the Genshin community make me cry and make me wanna leave but my friends love Genshin and I dont even know any more.
Also, if anyone decides to not even read my message and immediately looks at the word Genshin and comments something about Genshin being cringe, I hope you realize what the video is about.
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Thanks so much because Im apart of a community that is seen as toxic and its so hateful that makes me wanna die. And I am being serious. Look, many people might be bad in the Genshin community but not all of the people are bad. The people that hate the Genshin community make me cry and make me wanna leave but my friends love Genshin and I dont even know any more.
Also, if anyone decides to not even read my message and immediately looks at the word Genshin and comments something about Genshin being cringe, I hope you realize what the video is about.
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Marissa
This is helpful. I recently ended a friendship with someone who always said mean things, pretended it was a joke, and if you confronted them about it or told anyone else, they would try to gaslight you and say it was a rumor. As much as I dislike this person and in some ways hope they feel miserable, I appreciate them for teaching me that not everyone is gonna be nice to me or treat me how I deserve to be treated. And this situation has showed me who my real friends are, because my real friends also dropped this person after realizing how terrible they are.
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This is helpful. I recently ended a friendship with someone who always said mean things, pretended it was a joke, and if you confronted them about it or told anyone else, they would try to gaslight you and say it was a rumor. As much as I dislike this person and in some ways hope they feel miserable, I appreciate them for teaching me that not everyone is gonna be nice to me or treat me how I deserve to be treated. And this situation has showed me who my real friends are, because my real friends also dropped this person after realizing how terrible they are.
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Sophiee
I'm glad I found this video. I realized my cousin is toxic. we got into a fight because I told her she keeps being controlling and trying to intimate me. Then suddenly when her mom is around SHE pretends to be the victim. Luckily when I explained to what happened and she believed me! After that I say outside and crying because during the fight she yelled at be and gaslighted me. I officially hate her now. She did this for so long I can't take it anymore. She still is toxic. (Note this fight happens a few days ago) Crazy thing is she's only 8.
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I'm glad I found this video. I realized my cousin is toxic. we got into a fight because I told her she keeps being controlling and trying to intimate me. Then suddenly when her mom is around SHE pretends to be the victim. Luckily when I explained to what happened and she believed me! After that I say outside and crying because during the fight she yelled at be and gaslighted me. I officially hate her now. She did this for so long I can't take it anymore. She still is toxic. (Note this fight happens a few days ago) Crazy thing is she's only 8.
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BugoyTheDoge
I don't even have loyal friends. I don't want to loose my toxic friends because I have no one else to have fun or talk to. I can't even make friends because i used to be a quiet person which makes everyone in my grade that knows me be weirded out or be afraid because they probably think i have some bad thing in my backpack. If I loose my toxic friends, then I won't have anyone to talk to and when I see them having fun, I just feel lonely and left out. I'd be okay with this if I did have any loyal and good friends other than them.
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I don't even have loyal friends. I don't want to loose my toxic friends because I have no one else to have fun or talk to. I can't even make friends because i used to be a quiet person which makes everyone in my grade that knows me be weirded out or be afraid because they probably think i have some bad thing in my backpack. If I loose my toxic friends, then I won't have anyone to talk to and when I see them having fun, I just feel lonely and left out. I'd be okay with this if I did have any loyal and good friends other than them.
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K-addictt
She is really getting me into depression and because of her I'm not like me anymore, i really miss how i was always with much energy but now i always zone out out thinking about those toxic shits and also keep up at night, it hurts my head, also can't focus on my studies cs i always end up thinking a lot, like I'm a introvert and its not easy to have energy but i always try but now she is making it hard for me more, now I'm insecure bcs of her, i wish i was never frnds with her from the first place
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She is really getting me into depression and because of her I'm not like me anymore, i really miss how i was always with much energy but now i always zone out out thinking about those toxic shits and also keep up at night, it hurts my head, also can't focus on my studies cs i always end up thinking a lot, like I'm a introvert and its not easy to have energy but i always try but now she is making it hard for me more, now I'm insecure bcs of her, i wish i was never frnds with her from the first place
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education
sorry if this is a little too personal but i became friends with a really toxic person around the end of last year and this morning i woke up crying because i had a dream nobody believed me and thought i was a bad person and she was laughing at me the whole time. she's made comments about my body and she has never respected anyone's personal boundaries and i've only just realised how dire the situation really is so thank you!
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sorry if this is a little too personal but i became friends with a really toxic person around the end of last year and this morning i woke up crying because i had a dream nobody believed me and thought i was a bad person and she was laughing at me the whole time. she's made comments about my body and she has never respected anyone's personal boundaries and i've only just realised how dire the situation really is so thank you!
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Irienenaseera
There is an unpopular video that just wants people to join a fandom and there's a hate comment says ur just mad fr and that had nothing to do with the vid so I defended the creator and he/she is trying to get to know my age. And he/she keeps on guessing it and says things like yeah I don't wanna make a 7 yr old cry or kid u hatin on my vid even tho I didn't. I'm uncomfortable with that but this helps a little
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There is an unpopular video that just wants people to join a fandom and there's a hate comment says ur just mad fr and that had nothing to do with the vid so I defended the creator and he/she is trying to get to know my age. And he/she keeps on guessing it and says things like yeah I don't wanna make a 7 yr old cry or kid u hatin on my vid even tho I didn't. I'm uncomfortable with that but this helps a little
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Eng
Toxic is lower than negative-zero-positive
Self-destructive, self-implode, self-delusional, self-righteous, self-entitled, self-important, self-.
Left to their own, without anyone to depend on, they will self-destruct by themselves. Kamma. They will self-incriminate and prove to all that they are worse than worthless and hopeless. Count on that and facilitate their democratic choice - self-destruct
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Toxic is lower than negative-zero-positive
Self-destructive, self-implode, self-delusional, self-righteous, self-entitled, self-important, self-.
Left to their own, without anyone to depend on, they will self-destruct by themselves. Kamma. They will self-incriminate and prove to all that they are worse than worthless and hopeless. Count on that and facilitate their democratic choice - self-destruct
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Kacchan
Thanks for this video. I have these friends and they are all just AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA. Im a happy person, but everyday at lunch all they talk about is how sad they are blah blah blah. Thanks, this is making me very happy. One of them says that Im still friends with them because I have no choice. I DO HAVE A CHOICE, THANK YOU VERY MUCH. I COULD UNFRIEND YOU AT ANY TIME. AM I A ROACH-
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Thanks for this video. I have these friends and they are all just AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA. Im a happy person, but everyday at lunch all they talk about is how sad they are blah blah blah. Thanks, this is making me very happy. One of them says that Im still friends with them because I have no choice. I DO HAVE A CHOICE, THANK YOU VERY MUCH. I COULD UNFRIEND YOU AT ANY TIME. AM I A ROACH-
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Ngi
1. Change your routine
2. Don't share secrets with gossippers
3. Go to positive people, not toxic people
4. Don't be angry as they want you to be angry, have a joke and stay happy
5. Try not to spend time in the gossippers' community (less emotion and less physical time)
6. Focus on the solutions, not the problems
7. Don't accept the reality that they think is true
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1. Change your routine
2. Don't share secrets with gossippers
3. Go to positive people, not toxic people
4. Don't be angry as they want you to be angry, have a joke and stay happy
5. Try not to spend time in the gossippers' community (less emotion and less physical time)
6. Focus on the solutions, not the problems
7. Don't accept the reality that they think is true
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Alex
So make a joke about them or just a random joke? You ignore an insult, presumably in front of everyone and you ignore it? That suggests you're a doormat and they'll keep doing it. Also if it's a random joke I dont know any jokes and throwing out a random joke after being insulted just seems socially. weird? Will probably trigger more insults your way.
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So make a joke about them or just a random joke? You ignore an insult, presumably in front of everyone and you ignore it? That suggests you're a doormat and they'll keep doing it. Also if it's a random joke I dont know any jokes and throwing out a random joke after being insulted just seems socially. weird? Will probably trigger more insults your way.
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Boy
while i was watching this(just lost a bff that was the person i always played with) they unfriended me in a game my heart sank half of my mental health is gone, Now i dont show my emotions, I dont show pain, They took my friends and always just said ''Hey _____(my name) Can u friend this person so we can play together? it always lowered me
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while i was watching this(just lost a bff that was the person i always played with) they unfriended me in a game my heart sank half of my mental health is gone, Now i dont show my emotions, I dont show pain, They took my friends and always just said ''Hey _____(my name) Can u friend this person so we can play together? it always lowered me
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camille
sec: Hey there Im sec all mighty tallest prime ruler of planet titanico and here on earth Im the founder of sec & co are you a piece of shit that dose toxic cruel things and hurt people? or are you an pure hearted innocent sole who gets f#$%ed up by somebody else who is
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sec: Hey there Im sec all mighty tallest prime ruler of planet titanico and here on earth Im the founder of sec & co are you a piece of shit that dose toxic cruel things and hurt people? or are you an pure hearted innocent sole who gets f#$%ed up by somebody else who is
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heelloww
at first me and my friends were just joking around, but they seem to not know when to end a joke once it gets harsh, they also were my longest best friends. So it hurts when they were mean to me. I dont even have loyal friends! they are all leaving my school
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at first me and my friends were just joking around, but they seem to not know when to end a joke once it gets harsh, they also were my longest best friends. So it hurts when they were mean to me. I dont even have loyal friends! they are all leaving my school
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Hadas
I came here specifically for this, thank you so much for your content, I recently found my self in the middle of a toxic group of people, rude, complaining, gossiping and trying to get a reaction from me, and today I felt so tired of it, thank you so so much!
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I came here specifically for this, thank you so much for your content, I recently found my self in the middle of a toxic group of people, rude, complaining, gossiping and trying to get a reaction from me, and today I felt so tired of it, thank you so so much!
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zuTon_
My issue is that my other, close friends are also good friends with this toxic person. Im not sure how to distance myself from him while also being there for my friends, especially because he is a bad influence on some of them. Any suggestions?
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My issue is that my other, close friends are also good friends with this toxic person. Im not sure how to distance myself from him while also being there for my friends, especially because he is a bad influence on some of them. Any suggestions?
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Livvy
Do you ever notice how alot of psych2go videos seem to focus alot on problems instead of solutions? This video and a few are the exceptions, but you would think there would be more how to videos to help those struggling as well.
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Do you ever notice how alot of psych2go videos seem to focus alot on problems instead of solutions? This video and a few are the exceptions, but you would think there would be more how to videos to help those struggling as well.
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