9 Uncomfortable Truths You Need To Know Part 2
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Jasmin
Your Videos get really on my nerves.
You make it ALWAYS sound as if the person who has those problems alone is responsible and worser AT FAULT for their shitty situation.
WHICH ISN'T RIGHT!
The people around this person, specifically those who label they care about them or should care, are at fault too, because it's also THEIR responsibllity too!
As a person who helps others CONSTANTLY with their problems, I can expect they do the same for me.
And If their are people who CONSTANTLY block you or give you false advice (people who are important to you an who you trust whitout you suspecting and realizing it, you can't get out of this hole alone.
Outsider have a better few on a situation you might be in without knowing it. They spot problems easier than yourself and therefore have the responsiblity not only to talk about it with the person who has/makes them, but also to help them get out of it. And this includes: looking for THE ROOT of the problem.
But people don't do this.
They only adress that something isn't right or what you SHOULD make better, which is only critisising in my opinion.
But the root of the problem IS important.
And if people REALLY want to help someone, they have to get in their thick heads, that that takes time, patience, understanding and commitment from their part.
If not, this isn't and never was genuinely caring for this person and only superficial at best.
It's like a fire department would only extinguish a burning house from the outside.
And no one wants and NEEDS such a fire department.
Try making more videos about how the people around them can HELP THEM for once.
This way it's always one sided.
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Your Videos get really on my nerves.
You make it ALWAYS sound as if the person who has those problems alone is responsible and worser AT FAULT for their shitty situation.
WHICH ISN'T RIGHT!
The people around this person, specifically those who label they care about them or should care, are at fault too, because it's also THEIR responsibllity too!
As a person who helps others CONSTANTLY with their problems, I can expect they do the same for me.
And If their are people who CONSTANTLY block you or give you false advice (people who are important to you an who you trust whitout you suspecting and realizing it, you can't get out of this hole alone.
Outsider have a better few on a situation you might be in without knowing it. They spot problems easier than yourself and therefore have the responsiblity not only to talk about it with the person who has/makes them, but also to help them get out of it. And this includes: looking for THE ROOT of the problem.
But people don't do this.
They only adress that something isn't right or what you SHOULD make better, which is only critisising in my opinion.
But the root of the problem IS important.
And if people REALLY want to help someone, they have to get in their thick heads, that that takes time, patience, understanding and commitment from their part.
If not, this isn't and never was genuinely caring for this person and only superficial at best.
It's like a fire department would only extinguish a burning house from the outside.
And no one wants and NEEDS such a fire department.
Try making more videos about how the people around them can HELP THEM for once.
This way it's always one sided.
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education
Thank you for reminding me that i don't deserve her, or I'll be start falling and drowned in infatuation, being hsp definitely taking toll on me because, i feel everything deeply, it definitely kills me, it makes sleep hard, and im not eating well, and I'm trying so hard to kind a make this feeling dissappear.
Especially when i realize i had so many traumatic events, I'm problematic and I don't want to hurt people anymore, i'm so used to hide feeeling and my emotion so that I don't hurt people around me.
Hope she find the guy who deserve her, because i really want everyone to be happy, while i working myself out towards healing, my childhood and my teen times were not so good, i definitely raised with no love, support and compassion, so it leaves a really big scar in my mind.
If you read this, i love you, it just that because i like you, and suffer from this love, i want you to find a guy that deserve you, i do try to move on, so that I realize I'm not the guy, and realize I already rejected.
Sometimes i meditate so that i can cope with a lot of intense supressed feeling that i never accept, there's a lot of anger, worry, sad, and loves that i never thought before i can be jn love again, it sounds weird, yet everytime i think of you, i do fall in love.
Sorry for being a burden and nuinsance to you, often I can't describe how deep and intense those feeling, it do destroy me when i have habit to suppres everything, it takes toll on my mental and my physical health.
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Thank you for reminding me that i don't deserve her, or I'll be start falling and drowned in infatuation, being hsp definitely taking toll on me because, i feel everything deeply, it definitely kills me, it makes sleep hard, and im not eating well, and I'm trying so hard to kind a make this feeling dissappear.
Especially when i realize i had so many traumatic events, I'm problematic and I don't want to hurt people anymore, i'm so used to hide feeeling and my emotion so that I don't hurt people around me.
Hope she find the guy who deserve her, because i really want everyone to be happy, while i working myself out towards healing, my childhood and my teen times were not so good, i definitely raised with no love, support and compassion, so it leaves a really big scar in my mind.
If you read this, i love you, it just that because i like you, and suffer from this love, i want you to find a guy that deserve you, i do try to move on, so that I realize I'm not the guy, and realize I already rejected.
Sometimes i meditate so that i can cope with a lot of intense supressed feeling that i never accept, there's a lot of anger, worry, sad, and loves that i never thought before i can be jn love again, it sounds weird, yet everytime i think of you, i do fall in love.
Sorry for being a burden and nuinsance to you, often I can't describe how deep and intense those feeling, it do destroy me when i have habit to suppres everything, it takes toll on my mental and my physical health.
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S8N-M
Here's a hard truth that so many people these days need to hear;
You are not important to most people and need to focus on being important to yourself first and foremost
So many younger people are worried about what the wide world thinks of them. Even influencers on here will drive themselves mad over this. Fact is. you just don't matter to most people.
Taking time to look at who you are and what you truly want is more valuable than trying to appease an audience. Taking stock of who and what you consider important and why, can help clear social clutter and open chances to expand on existing relationships and opportunities.
If we are all honest. most things we convince ourselves we care about, we actually hold little value in or have any real connection with.
Emotional hoarding isn't healthy. Be willing to let opinions of others who you don't have personal and tangible connection with go, and focus on yourself more.
You'll worry less, be happier, and be more open to grow into the person you deserve, not the person others or social media wants you to be.
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Here's a hard truth that so many people these days need to hear;
You are not important to most people and need to focus on being important to yourself first and foremost
So many younger people are worried about what the wide world thinks of them. Even influencers on here will drive themselves mad over this. Fact is. you just don't matter to most people.
Taking time to look at who you are and what you truly want is more valuable than trying to appease an audience. Taking stock of who and what you consider important and why, can help clear social clutter and open chances to expand on existing relationships and opportunities.
If we are all honest. most things we convince ourselves we care about, we actually hold little value in or have any real connection with.
Emotional hoarding isn't healthy. Be willing to let opinions of others who you don't have personal and tangible connection with go, and focus on yourself more.
You'll worry less, be happier, and be more open to grow into the person you deserve, not the person others or social media wants you to be.
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DeadgelordTopher
I would say a good summary for this video would be a deeper, more fundamental and just as uncomfortable truth: You have an obligation to be assertive and put yourself first in almost every circumstance, because the other people in your life who genuinely care about your health and your needs are going to be very few and very far between. Nine tenths of the time, the only things you do that most people will care about are things that satisfy their needs and wants, and a lot of the time, they're not going to notice or appreciate what you have to sacrifice to help them because they're more concerned with sorting out their own problems and personal issues. That doesn't mean it's okay to run around pulling the rug out from under them; doing that is just going to burn bridges with them. But it does mean that you need to stop being the rug everyone else is walking over if that's what you've realized you allowed yourself to become.
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I would say a good summary for this video would be a deeper, more fundamental and just as uncomfortable truth: You have an obligation to be assertive and put yourself first in almost every circumstance, because the other people in your life who genuinely care about your health and your needs are going to be very few and very far between. Nine tenths of the time, the only things you do that most people will care about are things that satisfy their needs and wants, and a lot of the time, they're not going to notice or appreciate what you have to sacrifice to help them because they're more concerned with sorting out their own problems and personal issues. That doesn't mean it's okay to run around pulling the rug out from under them; doing that is just going to burn bridges with them. But it does mean that you need to stop being the rug everyone else is walking over if that's what you've realized you allowed yourself to become.
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Michael
you can't save everyone. This was a tough lesson. The first time it really hit me was when I was in medic training. They intentionally killed one of the manikins regardless of the interventions we used. When we asked what we did wrong the instructor said, Nothing. Sometimes they just literally can't be saved. And that will stick with me forever.
I do however always say, you can always make more money to almost everyone. Bc imo, saving is not a valid reason to not live your life (like you said, balance. Obviously don't go for broke, but we need to enjoy what little life we have. If an employer refuses your time off, call in, it's not worth missing your life.
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you can't save everyone. This was a tough lesson. The first time it really hit me was when I was in medic training. They intentionally killed one of the manikins regardless of the interventions we used. When we asked what we did wrong the instructor said, Nothing. Sometimes they just literally can't be saved. And that will stick with me forever.
I do however always say, you can always make more money to almost everyone. Bc imo, saving is not a valid reason to not live your life (like you said, balance. Obviously don't go for broke, but we need to enjoy what little life we have. If an employer refuses your time off, call in, it's not worth missing your life.
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Ryan
0: 14: Someone is always ahead of you.
1: 14: If you second-guess a relationship you shouldn't be in it.
2: 08: You Can't Save Everyone.
2: 58: Put Money First.
3: 45: Betrayal Will Happen.
4: 28: Duration Doesn't Dictate A Relationship's State.
What They Said
What I Heard
0: 14: You'll never be enough.
1: 14: You're Better Off Alone.
2: 08: Don't Be A Hero.
2: 58: Money Over Everything.
3: 45: Trust No One.
4: 28: In case it wasn't clear the first time Trust No One.
Me:
I thought this was going to give me a better perspective of the world, but you're actually only reinforcing my current beliefs. Gang Gang
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0: 14: Someone is always ahead of you.
1: 14: If you second-guess a relationship you shouldn't be in it.
2: 08: You Can't Save Everyone.
2: 58: Put Money First.
3: 45: Betrayal Will Happen.
4: 28: Duration Doesn't Dictate A Relationship's State.
What They Said
What I Heard
0: 14: You'll never be enough.
1: 14: You're Better Off Alone.
2: 08: Don't Be A Hero.
2: 58: Money Over Everything.
3: 45: Trust No One.
4: 28: In case it wasn't clear the first time Trust No One.
Me:
I thought this was going to give me a better perspective of the world, but you're actually only reinforcing my current beliefs. Gang Gang
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JillofTrades
This last part is more of a reassuring thing to me. I always try to save everyone, I try to be best or better, and even I wish I was rich just so I could help everyone and not be powerless. I'm so used to put others before myself and always come back to that circle, as putting myself first feels so alienating to me and still to this day, doesn't feel right. But I'm doing what I can.
I always look back at that segment of Boondocks with Huey and Grandad to remind myself.
Huey: Grandad, what do you do when you can't do nothing, but there's nothing you can do?
Grandad: You do what you can.
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This last part is more of a reassuring thing to me. I always try to save everyone, I try to be best or better, and even I wish I was rich just so I could help everyone and not be powerless. I'm so used to put others before myself and always come back to that circle, as putting myself first feels so alienating to me and still to this day, doesn't feel right. But I'm doing what I can.
I always look back at that segment of Boondocks with Huey and Grandad to remind myself.
Huey: Grandad, what do you do when you can't do nothing, but there's nothing you can do?
Grandad: You do what you can.
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KenKahashiKyoku
The you can't save everyone made me cry.
I was in a situation last year. I had to cut off a friend from my list of people I care VERY much cus, among other factors, I was feeling overwhelmed by the need to help them. The fact was: they didn't want it, even after I offered it. (Edit: I'm still willing to help, but I won't insist anymore)
They are very nice, I want to stay connected, but the high value and looking after that I had personally set on them wasn't doing good for me.
Maybe they'll change their mind. But for now, I'll stay a bit farther away
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The you can't save everyone made me cry.
I was in a situation last year. I had to cut off a friend from my list of people I care VERY much cus, among other factors, I was feeling overwhelmed by the need to help them. The fact was: they didn't want it, even after I offered it. (Edit: I'm still willing to help, but I won't insist anymore)
They are very nice, I want to stay connected, but the high value and looking after that I had personally set on them wasn't doing good for me.
Maybe they'll change their mind. But for now, I'll stay a bit farther away
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Hope
One uncomfortable truth is that we need God, not religion. This is uncomfortable for a lotta people because he demands moral responsibility and a personal relationship--especially since you can't physically see him-- so we end up thinking we're crazy for believing in him, but in the end it takes people from the depths of their sorrows, insecurities, emptiness, unfulfillment etc and does a 180 on all of those with simply obedience and understanding the love God has for us.
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One uncomfortable truth is that we need God, not religion. This is uncomfortable for a lotta people because he demands moral responsibility and a personal relationship--especially since you can't physically see him-- so we end up thinking we're crazy for believing in him, but in the end it takes people from the depths of their sorrows, insecurities, emptiness, unfulfillment etc and does a 180 on all of those with simply obedience and understanding the love God has for us.
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aschton
Can you make uncomfortable truth videos about making friends? People need to understood that making friends no matter how much advice others give you isnt guaranteed. Or that no matter how bad you want a friendship if the other person doesnt want to be your friend then theres nothing you can do about it. Theres a lot of reality when it comes to making friends that I feel like no one wants to talk about.
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Can you make uncomfortable truth videos about making friends? People need to understood that making friends no matter how much advice others give you isnt guaranteed. Or that no matter how bad you want a friendship if the other person doesnt want to be your friend then theres nothing you can do about it. Theres a lot of reality when it comes to making friends that I feel like no one wants to talk about.
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Memor22
Well i had friends who betrayed me and were suddenly very mean but no matter what they did i always accted like thier friend, and wouldnt ya know it! They are now one of my best friends! I mean they arent the most pure of people but they respect me and my other pals so thats what matters! I try to make them a better person, one of them i did! But most of the time it just remains how they are
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Well i had friends who betrayed me and were suddenly very mean but no matter what they did i always accted like thier friend, and wouldnt ya know it! They are now one of my best friends! I mean they arent the most pure of people but they respect me and my other pals so thats what matters! I try to make them a better person, one of them i did! But most of the time it just remains how they are
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IlPinguino
7 really hit home for me. I needed to hear that after the last few weeks.
As to 8, the one about money: Keep in mind that money is a resource. Like all other resources(health, food, shelter, medication, it won't give you happiness in its own(but a lack of it can make you unhappy, and it should be managed wisely and used towards reaching your individual goals in life.
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7 really hit home for me. I needed to hear that after the last few weeks.
As to 8, the one about money: Keep in mind that money is a resource. Like all other resources(health, food, shelter, medication, it won't give you happiness in its own(but a lack of it can make you unhappy, and it should be managed wisely and used towards reaching your individual goals in life.
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Mars_1
Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me.
Just remember, when you do make a mistake, the best few things you can do is;
1. Look at the bright side of things.
2. Learn from your mistake.
3. Move on and do better next time.
(I don't know if this is true for everybody, but I just ended a toxic relationship a few days ago and this helped a lot)
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Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me.
Just remember, when you do make a mistake, the best few things you can do is;
1. Look at the bright side of things.
2. Learn from your mistake.
3. Move on and do better next time.
(I don't know if this is true for everybody, but I just ended a toxic relationship a few days ago and this helped a lot)
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Phoebe
Ok Psych2Go-ers, I need help. I'm in a friendship that I don't want to be in anymore. The person isn't specifically mean, but I feel like we've grown apart. But, I've known this person for years at this point, and our parents are friends, so they're kind of just grandfathered in. How do I get out of the friendship without hurting them, or our parents' friendship? Thank you
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Ok Psych2Go-ers, I need help. I'm in a friendship that I don't want to be in anymore. The person isn't specifically mean, but I feel like we've grown apart. But, I've known this person for years at this point, and our parents are friends, so they're kind of just grandfathered in. How do I get out of the friendship without hurting them, or our parents' friendship? Thank you
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Bart
I was devastated when my ex showed her true colors, she ignored me when I tried to explain why I wanted to stop being friends(we had been in a relationship then broke up more than once, about 4 times then just stayed as friends)I managed to live without her for about 7 months and Ive been less emotionally drained since then and Im in a much healthier relationship now
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I was devastated when my ex showed her true colors, she ignored me when I tried to explain why I wanted to stop being friends(we had been in a relationship then broke up more than once, about 4 times then just stayed as friends)I managed to live without her for about 7 months and Ive been less emotionally drained since then and Im in a much healthier relationship now
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psych2go
Hi psi, I love your videos, Im 13 and Im french, I dont speak English very well but even if I dont understand everything I prefer watching the English video then the french ones.
I would like to ask you if you could make a video talking about how to no be depending of other and spend time alone. It would help me a lot. Have a nice year and be happy.
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Hi psi, I love your videos, Im 13 and Im french, I dont speak English very well but even if I dont understand everything I prefer watching the English video then the french ones.
I would like to ask you if you could make a video talking about how to no be depending of other and spend time alone. It would help me a lot. Have a nice year and be happy.
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Sienna
I really need to work on not fixing people when theyre struggling. I tend to say, oh, it couldve been worse. Im not trying to downplay how youre feeling. Im just trying to fix it so that the stress can leave your body and youll never ever feel stressed again, especially about this particular situation. I think I also feel this way about myself at times.
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I really need to work on not fixing people when theyre struggling. I tend to say, oh, it couldve been worse. Im not trying to downplay how youre feeling. Im just trying to fix it so that the stress can leave your body and youll never ever feel stressed again, especially about this particular situation. I think I also feel this way about myself at times.
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Ray
Nr 7 is the best warning ever. I Went through this more than noce. When I hadn't known yet about all what was said in point 7 when I was younger, bad experiences made me huge wound in my mind and heart.
Also points 8 and 9 are super important.
So yea, psych2go proofs again, that they know well what they are saying. x)
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Nr 7 is the best warning ever. I Went through this more than noce. When I hadn't known yet about all what was said in point 7 when I was younger, bad experiences made me huge wound in my mind and heart.
Also points 8 and 9 are super important.
So yea, psych2go proofs again, that they know well what they are saying. x)
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DJ
Back in really early middle school (6th grade, there was a group of kids that always picked on me whenever I used my iPad 5 in public in recess. Turns out they were actually jealous that I had an iPad and they didn't lol. I sometimes forget just how priviliged I am and I have to be greatful to my parents (sry for the brag.
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Back in really early middle school (6th grade, there was a group of kids that always picked on me whenever I used my iPad 5 in public in recess. Turns out they were actually jealous that I had an iPad and they didn't lol. I sometimes forget just how priviliged I am and I have to be greatful to my parents (sry for the brag.
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StarFier_Starr
I wont lie Im a very intelligent person so I understood all of this but the main one that kind of stung a little bit was that I cant trust everyone including the ones that are really close to me and I would say I cant help people who dont want my help or who wont accept that I need help those to hurt the most
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I wont lie Im a very intelligent person so I understood all of this but the main one that kind of stung a little bit was that I cant trust everyone including the ones that are really close to me and I would say I cant help people who dont want my help or who wont accept that I need help those to hurt the most
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metilda
Greetings Team Psych2Go,
Thoughts:
- Positive Self Criticism.
- Feedback Listening.
- Empathetic in Healthy Limits.
- Relationship Fallout is Challenging but brings new start and refreshing perspective in all aspects of Life.
Thanks. Take Care.
With regards,
RanjithJoseph (R. J)
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Greetings Team Psych2Go,
Thoughts:
- Positive Self Criticism.
- Feedback Listening.
- Empathetic in Healthy Limits.
- Relationship Fallout is Challenging but brings new start and refreshing perspective in all aspects of Life.
Thanks. Take Care.
With regards,
RanjithJoseph (R. J)
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Todd
Jealousy is want to keep something for yourself. The Manhattan Project jealously guarded its secrets. The insecure husband reading his wife's messages is jealous.
Wanting what someone else has is envy. The song Jesse's Girl is about envy.
We have different words because they have different meanings.
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Jealousy is want to keep something for yourself. The Manhattan Project jealously guarded its secrets. The insecure husband reading his wife's messages is jealous.
Wanting what someone else has is envy. The song Jesse's Girl is about envy.
We have different words because they have different meanings.
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Yash
If youre struggling with loneliness and want to find the right person desperately, my advice would be - its much better to be single and want a relationship rather than to be in one and want to be single. So while youre single, be patient and dont settle in fear of not finding anyone else! Youve got this
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If youre struggling with loneliness and want to find the right person desperately, my advice would be - its much better to be single and want a relationship rather than to be in one and want to be single. So while youre single, be patient and dont settle in fear of not finding anyone else! Youve got this
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Nicola
Like iverson said, whoever you are and whatever you do, there Will Always be a thousand people that hate you and a thousand that loves you so instead of focusing on the ones that hates you focus on those that loves you. But when you have never Met the thousand Who would love you. Than you are screw
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Like iverson said, whoever you are and whatever you do, there Will Always be a thousand people that hate you and a thousand that loves you so instead of focusing on the ones that hates you focus on those that loves you. But when you have never Met the thousand Who would love you. Than you are screw
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Oceon.
Hi I know this is not related but I girl in my class was jealous of me cuz I was literally the best person isn the class at drawing so she decided to use me cuz of that so she can try to get better then me but I never hang out with her so now she wont achieve what she wants this time
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Hi I know this is not related but I girl in my class was jealous of me cuz I was literally the best person isn the class at drawing so she decided to use me cuz of that so she can try to get better then me but I never hang out with her so now she wont achieve what she wants this time
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