5 Gaslighting Things Manipulators Do To Control You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Amanda
My sister -inlaw's best friend gets an anonymous text message and automatically assumes it was me. And I don't even have her best friend's phone number nor would I want it. As she has gotten increasingly paranoid about everything since December. And she doesn't like me and I don't give a damn but I will say she does have a lot of mental health issues she calls everybody and narcissist that don't agree with her even if they're not. Unfortunately she's never had proper psychology. Learning only what she sees on the internet. But never in high school and never went to college. I had psychology and high school. And she has a lot of mental health issues from emotional trauma and physical trauma. The funniest thing is she wants to go into the field of psychology. But she can't help others until she helps herself deal with her own demons first. And she is not doing that she refuses to get professional help. Because she doesn't think there's anything wrong she just thinks everyone else is f up. And not her, she blames everyone else for her problems and either doesn't realize or take the responsibility that her own actions led to the state that she's in. And she doesn't think psychologists know nothing so she won't go see any of them. But I do pray that somewhere along the line before she dies she actually gets the professional help she needs. She's also anorexic as body image issues and a doctor suspects Crohn's but the sight and smell of food makes her sick also classic signs of anorexia and when she eats barely nothing or doesn't even eat the dinner she cooked for herself and others that were visiting. And she really needs to find a therapist or counselor or something to give her a proper an official diagnosis of her various mental health conditions related to emotional and physical trauma. And she needs to accept that these things are what's plaguing her and not blame everyone else not call everyone else and narcissist and accept that she has these things going on with her another words stop blaming everyone else and take a deep close look at her self. And how her behaviors affect her and those they care about her. I just pray that she gets the help she needs sooner instead of when it's too late.
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My sister -inlaw's best friend gets an anonymous text message and automatically assumes it was me. And I don't even have her best friend's phone number nor would I want it. As she has gotten increasingly paranoid about everything since December. And she doesn't like me and I don't give a damn but I will say she does have a lot of mental health issues she calls everybody and narcissist that don't agree with her even if they're not. Unfortunately she's never had proper psychology. Learning only what she sees on the internet. But never in high school and never went to college. I had psychology and high school. And she has a lot of mental health issues from emotional trauma and physical trauma. The funniest thing is she wants to go into the field of psychology. But she can't help others until she helps herself deal with her own demons first. And she is not doing that she refuses to get professional help. Because she doesn't think there's anything wrong she just thinks everyone else is f up. And not her, she blames everyone else for her problems and either doesn't realize or take the responsibility that her own actions led to the state that she's in. And she doesn't think psychologists know nothing so she won't go see any of them. But I do pray that somewhere along the line before she dies she actually gets the professional help she needs. She's also anorexic as body image issues and a doctor suspects Crohn's but the sight and smell of food makes her sick also classic signs of anorexia and when she eats barely nothing or doesn't even eat the dinner she cooked for herself and others that were visiting. And she really needs to find a therapist or counselor or something to give her a proper an official diagnosis of her various mental health conditions related to emotional and physical trauma. And she needs to accept that these things are what's plaguing her and not blame everyone else not call everyone else and narcissist and accept that she has these things going on with her another words stop blaming everyone else and take a deep close look at her self. And how her behaviors affect her and those they care about her. I just pray that she gets the help she needs sooner instead of when it's too late.
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Stefan
These videos are informative, however I think they're making people seek out a victim mentality.
There was a study done which shows that most people will try to identify as a victim even when there is absolutely no evidence for it. Forgive me, I tried to write a summary of the study but I realized it was a bit too complicated to explain in a short paragraph. Here's the basics:
-A number of women go to a job interview.
-All of them believe they have been given prosthetic makeup to look deformed and bruised in the face.
-Half of the women do not have a visibly altered appearance during the interviews.
-The results, almost all of the women (with and without makeup) reported being descriminated against during the interviews, despite half of them appearing as normal.
I've been reading through the comments and there are a lot of very young people who are claiming to be victims of gaslighting, claiming their parents/teachers/fellow pupils are feeding them a false reality. When in reality, they are unlikely to know the difference between gaslighting and constructive parental guidance.
I believe these videos are made with the best intent and probably are genuinely quite helpful for some. However, for the vast majority of your viewers, they will use your content to self diagnose and seek out problems in their lives which do not exist. It is a very common trait in my generation to adopt a victim mentality. Cancel Culture as a whole derives from victim mentality.
I think your next video should focus on how dangerous and destructive victim mentality can be, not only to an individual, but also to those closest to them.
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These videos are informative, however I think they're making people seek out a victim mentality.
There was a study done which shows that most people will try to identify as a victim even when there is absolutely no evidence for it. Forgive me, I tried to write a summary of the study but I realized it was a bit too complicated to explain in a short paragraph. Here's the basics:
-A number of women go to a job interview.
-All of them believe they have been given prosthetic makeup to look deformed and bruised in the face.
-Half of the women do not have a visibly altered appearance during the interviews.
-The results, almost all of the women (with and without makeup) reported being descriminated against during the interviews, despite half of them appearing as normal.
I've been reading through the comments and there are a lot of very young people who are claiming to be victims of gaslighting, claiming their parents/teachers/fellow pupils are feeding them a false reality. When in reality, they are unlikely to know the difference between gaslighting and constructive parental guidance.
I believe these videos are made with the best intent and probably are genuinely quite helpful for some. However, for the vast majority of your viewers, they will use your content to self diagnose and seek out problems in their lives which do not exist. It is a very common trait in my generation to adopt a victim mentality. Cancel Culture as a whole derives from victim mentality.
I think your next video should focus on how dangerous and destructive victim mentality can be, not only to an individual, but also to those closest to them.
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Diamind
Hard to identify? Haha, no not even slightly. They are everywhere and you are supposed to gaslight the gaslighters. You can't win unless you lie too, and once you win? Watch them squirm when you use their same tactics, get your popcorn, kick back, and enjoy the show. If there's one thing they don't like, it is losing control over a situation or people. Then, they will stop bothering you and will leave you alone because they know you won't listen to their super cool awesome advice that will change your life that they next time will tell you they didn't tell you and that you're a liar for saying that they said it or whatever.
Slck and insecure and don't have your best interests at heart, but will call you selfish. A nuisance to say the least just like a mosquito is, but not something you can't take down or knock down with some vape from Japan.
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Hard to identify? Haha, no not even slightly. They are everywhere and you are supposed to gaslight the gaslighters. You can't win unless you lie too, and once you win? Watch them squirm when you use their same tactics, get your popcorn, kick back, and enjoy the show. If there's one thing they don't like, it is losing control over a situation or people. Then, they will stop bothering you and will leave you alone because they know you won't listen to their super cool awesome advice that will change your life that they next time will tell you they didn't tell you and that you're a liar for saying that they said it or whatever.
Slck and insecure and don't have your best interests at heart, but will call you selfish. A nuisance to say the least just like a mosquito is, but not something you can't take down or knock down with some vape from Japan.
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Hanzai-Teki!
Honestly, at this point I think I am gaslighting by mistaking what my friends tell me, Confusing others by mixing up multible things in my head
and let it all go in one sentence, such as my understandings and the real story.
I often let go of my hard comments more than comfortng lies to others
such as You're so sensitive! towards the people who expirienced what i go through everyday, such as getting hit, insulted, ignored, laughed at, betrayal and etc. And You're so picky to the people that disagree to my likings, You're so weird! (i often say that when i was younger) to the people who do it diffrently, or to the people that likes my disliked food
I often spread rumours and lies aboit the people i hate, such as my bullies and negative friends.
tell me if you agree or disagree that i am a gastlighter
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Honestly, at this point I think I am gaslighting by mistaking what my friends tell me, Confusing others by mixing up multible things in my head
and let it all go in one sentence, such as my understandings and the real story.
I often let go of my hard comments more than comfortng lies to others
such as You're so sensitive! towards the people who expirienced what i go through everyday, such as getting hit, insulted, ignored, laughed at, betrayal and etc. And You're so picky to the people that disagree to my likings, You're so weird! (i often say that when i was younger) to the people who do it diffrently, or to the people that likes my disliked food
I often spread rumours and lies aboit the people i hate, such as my bullies and negative friends.
tell me if you agree or disagree that i am a gastlighter
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Gene
Thank You all at Psych2Go. This video is chilling to me in as much that it remlnds me of far to many encounters with these people. That is the point. They are people. A very real plus for them is We as people allow because We are people also. Neil de Grasse Tyson allowed a perspective, He stated that the 10 to 15 per cent of our cognitive ability is not the entire picture. It came from a study that had the ability to be manipulated to that point of reference. The scale of abilities we as human has is way more and the diversity so complex as to allow the many way's that people use to manipulate others. The many avenue's that have become the playground for these people are not beyond our own capabilities, except that We the injured have opted to remain in the realm of decency.
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Thank You all at Psych2Go. This video is chilling to me in as much that it remlnds me of far to many encounters with these people. That is the point. They are people. A very real plus for them is We as people allow because We are people also. Neil de Grasse Tyson allowed a perspective, He stated that the 10 to 15 per cent of our cognitive ability is not the entire picture. It came from a study that had the ability to be manipulated to that point of reference. The scale of abilities we as human has is way more and the diversity so complex as to allow the many way's that people use to manipulate others. The many avenue's that have become the playground for these people are not beyond our own capabilities, except that We the injured have opted to remain in the realm of decency.
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psych2go
My ex - boyfriend emotionally manipulated and gaslit me. He also financially abused me, but that's a whole other thing. That man made me question my sanity constantly throughout the entire time that I was living with him and his family. He twisted the truth and just full on denied anything wrong that he did. He acted like he knew anything and everything about me, my family and just anything in general. But yeah, thanks to him I feel as if I can never trust anyone ever again. I haven't dated anyone since because I'm trying to work on myself, but I just fear that even when I am ready to put myself out there, I'm afraid that I won't find anyone that will love me.
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My ex - boyfriend emotionally manipulated and gaslit me. He also financially abused me, but that's a whole other thing. That man made me question my sanity constantly throughout the entire time that I was living with him and his family. He twisted the truth and just full on denied anything wrong that he did. He acted like he knew anything and everything about me, my family and just anything in general. But yeah, thanks to him I feel as if I can never trust anyone ever again. I haven't dated anyone since because I'm trying to work on myself, but I just fear that even when I am ready to put myself out there, I'm afraid that I won't find anyone that will love me.
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Settler
Idk if it makes sense to call ppl gaslighters as it takes everything else away from that person. Most ppl galsight in their lifes, even if it's not as bad as what the ppl here talked about do. Bc still, we could call almost everyone a gaslighter then and imo it reduces the whole person to thos actions.
Also, I appreciate that you mention some pwNPD gaslight, some don't and some who gaslight dont have NPD. But tbh? Mentioning cluster B spezifically at here at all, even after relativating it in the next sentence, adds to the stigma in the end, wich is, according to your channle info contraproductive to what you aim for
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Idk if it makes sense to call ppl gaslighters as it takes everything else away from that person. Most ppl galsight in their lifes, even if it's not as bad as what the ppl here talked about do. Bc still, we could call almost everyone a gaslighter then and imo it reduces the whole person to thos actions.
Also, I appreciate that you mention some pwNPD gaslight, some don't and some who gaslight dont have NPD. But tbh? Mentioning cluster B spezifically at here at all, even after relativating it in the next sentence, adds to the stigma in the end, wich is, according to your channle info contraproductive to what you aim for
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I'm
Short version. Gaslighting is manipulation of the reality and framing of in peoples' minds, making them feel crazy or out of touch.
However. Those in relationships who bear a grudge (often pretending not to) overuse this as an accusation. Stop and think before using a term like this. And narcissism, which has almost nothing to do with self obsession and grandeur.
I'm reading Sapolsky neurobiology which is a direct source of a academic information gathered through ethology for 100 years, so sometimes these sources are infuriating in their simplicity.
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Short version. Gaslighting is manipulation of the reality and framing of in peoples' minds, making them feel crazy or out of touch.
However. Those in relationships who bear a grudge (often pretending not to) overuse this as an accusation. Stop and think before using a term like this. And narcissism, which has almost nothing to do with self obsession and grandeur.
I'm reading Sapolsky neurobiology which is a direct source of a academic information gathered through ethology for 100 years, so sometimes these sources are infuriating in their simplicity.
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psych2go
My ex swore up and down I was waving at some women at a club once. She wouldn't let it go and would literally say you really don't remember waving at them? every time we got in an argument about something else she would bring that and a lot of other off the wall things up. I broke up with her last week. She really thought I was going to stay with her after she told me she flirted with her ex because she didn't feel secured in our relationship. No, I don't feel secured in this relationship and I hadn't been for a long time.
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My ex swore up and down I was waving at some women at a club once. She wouldn't let it go and would literally say you really don't remember waving at them? every time we got in an argument about something else she would bring that and a lot of other off the wall things up. I broke up with her last week. She really thought I was going to stay with her after she told me she flirted with her ex because she didn't feel secured in our relationship. No, I don't feel secured in this relationship and I hadn't been for a long time.
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Al3
I jst got out of a toxic friendship with someone I was friends with for 5+ years, she was narcissistic and would only ever talk about herself and never ask me what I was going through. But when I confronted her about it, she gaslighted me into thinking I only talk about myself. She made me feel bad for her and I took the bait. But then she hurt me so badly I couldn't see past it anymore. So don't avoid a red flag because you feel bad for someone, because at that point, you made yourself the victim while all they did was watch.
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I jst got out of a toxic friendship with someone I was friends with for 5+ years, she was narcissistic and would only ever talk about herself and never ask me what I was going through. But when I confronted her about it, she gaslighted me into thinking I only talk about myself. She made me feel bad for her and I took the bait. But then she hurt me so badly I couldn't see past it anymore. So don't avoid a red flag because you feel bad for someone, because at that point, you made yourself the victim while all they did was watch.
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Obliv
you didnt watch the movie gaslight recently, did you? he wasnt trying to steal his girlfriends jewels or screw with her lighting intentionally.
the old lady (her aunt) in an apartment above died (murdered) and had jewels hidden there. he would go searching for them at night and when he used the apartment lights it caused the gas flow downstairs to fluctuate causing the lights to flicker.
he was screwing with his girls mind to get her out the way so he could search for them without her being in the way.
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you didnt watch the movie gaslight recently, did you? he wasnt trying to steal his girlfriends jewels or screw with her lighting intentionally.
the old lady (her aunt) in an apartment above died (murdered) and had jewels hidden there. he would go searching for them at night and when he used the apartment lights it caused the gas flow downstairs to fluctuate causing the lights to flicker.
he was screwing with his girls mind to get her out the way so he could search for them without her being in the way.
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education
Common misconception; he absolutely did not use the gaslights to try to manipulate her. He was secretly working in the attic, and needed lught. This caused the gas pressure to drop in other areas of the home, much like when you're taking a shower and someone flushes the toilet. This eventually leads to him geting caught. The term gaslighting refers to the title of the movie, not the gaslights. Pretty god flick. RIP Angela Lansbury.
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Common misconception; he absolutely did not use the gaslights to try to manipulate her. He was secretly working in the attic, and needed lught. This caused the gas pressure to drop in other areas of the home, much like when you're taking a shower and someone flushes the toilet. This eventually leads to him geting caught. The term gaslighting refers to the title of the movie, not the gaslights. Pretty god flick. RIP Angela Lansbury.
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MothTree
Recently had a friend who was verbally abusive, when I told them I didnt want to be friends anymore they said things like its not a big deal everyone hates you you just lost your only friend ( I have plenty more friends lol) you always start shit its ok to let my anger out on you because my anger isnt actually to you your so immature etc and for context all of this happened like a day ago because I didnt want to be friends
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Recently had a friend who was verbally abusive, when I told them I didnt want to be friends anymore they said things like its not a big deal everyone hates you you just lost your only friend ( I have plenty more friends lol) you always start shit its ok to let my anger out on you because my anger isnt actually to you your so immature etc and for context all of this happened like a day ago because I didnt want to be friends
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Mikey
this one guy led me on to believe that he liked me, calling me sweet names saying he missed me and always complimenting me. But then he started sending me pictures of other guys that looked nothing like me to make me insecure. and once I had enough I crushed his ego by talking about my options, and suddenly hes insulting me, telling me he never liked me and Im weird for thinking he liked me.
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this one guy led me on to believe that he liked me, calling me sweet names saying he missed me and always complimenting me. But then he started sending me pictures of other guys that looked nothing like me to make me insecure. and once I had enough I crushed his ego by talking about my options, and suddenly hes insulting me, telling me he never liked me and Im weird for thinking he liked me.
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Silent
4) is basically my little sister (shes Young shell hopefully grow out of it) she almost always fails as me and my brother catch her lies (she shall lies to my parents but where like yeah dont trust her shes lying I may be gaming but I keep up with the latest happenings I have eyes and ears you know I usally make sure her lies dont mess anything up Im like a breathing lie detector
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4) is basically my little sister (shes Young shell hopefully grow out of it) she almost always fails as me and my brother catch her lies (she shall lies to my parents but where like yeah dont trust her shes lying I may be gaming but I keep up with the latest happenings I have eyes and ears you know I usally make sure her lies dont mess anything up Im like a breathing lie detector
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Bryan
The way to prevent gaslighting in totality is to create your own foundation of knowledge, philosophy, science, and spirituality. This creates a foundation from where you draw your identity and knowledge. The more you build this foundation, the stronger the resistance to gaslighting and mental contagion effects. It cancels out mob mentality a bit also.
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The way to prevent gaslighting in totality is to create your own foundation of knowledge, philosophy, science, and spirituality. This creates a foundation from where you draw your identity and knowledge. The more you build this foundation, the stronger the resistance to gaslighting and mental contagion effects. It cancels out mob mentality a bit also.
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EChillyKahlil
Oooh, a new voice! Maybe I'm just late. Gaslighting is really hard for me to see typically, and I typically watch these videos with the idea that I'll be indicated and realize I'm the baddie. Perhaps I should think about that. Thanks for your hard work everyone, sorry about exploding on you before, it wasn't an acceptable reaction.
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Oooh, a new voice! Maybe I'm just late. Gaslighting is really hard for me to see typically, and I typically watch these videos with the idea that I'll be indicated and realize I'm the baddie. Perhaps I should think about that. Thanks for your hard work everyone, sorry about exploding on you before, it wasn't an acceptable reaction.
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Nrtol
My friends gaslight me all the time, but its all in good fun. Gaslighting isnt inherently bad
I should mention, I gaslight them too, and its never anything serious, for example we might gaslight eachother into thinking that a game mechanic works a specific way. It might be a loose usage of gaslighting but it still fits the definition
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My friends gaslight me all the time, but its all in good fun. Gaslighting isnt inherently bad
I should mention, I gaslight them too, and its never anything serious, for example we might gaslight eachother into thinking that a game mechanic works a specific way. It might be a loose usage of gaslighting but it still fits the definition
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Good
I had a boss that was a bit of a gaslighter. Right before I quit, he tried to make it sound like he picked up extra hours on my behalf so I could get all the days out of my vacation. Curiously, he didn't ask me first, and he only brought it up when a problem came up, and he was angry with me about a workplace problem I had.
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I had a boss that was a bit of a gaslighter. Right before I quit, he tried to make it sound like he picked up extra hours on my behalf so I could get all the days out of my vacation. Curiously, he didn't ask me first, and he only brought it up when a problem came up, and he was angry with me about a workplace problem I had.
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Natasha
2: 15 was an amazing insight to help us emphasize with people who demonstrate a regular tendency to gaslight. That said, if you've confirmed being on the other side of this behavior (I see several people who mentioned reviewing consensual recordings) then you are allowed to establish healthy boundaries. Stay safe
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2: 15 was an amazing insight to help us emphasize with people who demonstrate a regular tendency to gaslight. That said, if you've confirmed being on the other side of this behavior (I see several people who mentioned reviewing consensual recordings) then you are allowed to establish healthy boundaries. Stay safe
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Saswat
I was just searching about this topic on Wikipedia
How coincident!
Also, I know way too many gaslighters within my family itself.
I have seen with my very own eyes, them gaslighting my mother.
But know we know they are useless for us and know about the other side's bad intentions.
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I was just searching about this topic on Wikipedia
How coincident!
Also, I know way too many gaslighters within my family itself.
I have seen with my very own eyes, them gaslighting my mother.
But know we know they are useless for us and know about the other side's bad intentions.
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DarK
They use other ppl so it becomes extremely hard to trust your judgement, they can change details, lie to others for your failure to get control, they try to mask their low self esteem and insecurities by dominating and devaluing others so they can feel worthy, make you confuse with lies,
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They use other ppl so it becomes extremely hard to trust your judgement, they can change details, lie to others for your failure to get control, they try to mask their low self esteem and insecurities by dominating and devaluing others so they can feel worthy, make you confuse with lies,
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Sailuz
The last one fit me so well. I believed her when she said she wanted to avoid drama but I just recently realized she didnt clear any rumours so shed keep the power. She gaslighted me into thinking I was the gaslighter. Im still dealing with the consequences of that shit.
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The last one fit me so well. I believed her when she said she wanted to avoid drama but I just recently realized she didnt clear any rumours so shed keep the power. She gaslighted me into thinking I was the gaslighter. Im still dealing with the consequences of that shit.
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Hannah
How do you confront someone who has these tendencies? As a friend, I want them to get help and see a counselor. They are too proud to ask for help or think they dont even need it. I know I cant push a cart sideways, but any help would be appreciative.
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How do you confront someone who has these tendencies? As a friend, I want them to get help and see a counselor. They are too proud to ask for help or think they dont even need it. I know I cant push a cart sideways, but any help would be appreciative.
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Trauma-based
lol. psychologists are trained to be the biggest gaslighters of all. Especially when you go through organised stalking and neuro weapons abuses. Wonder how many are hearing ringing in the head nowadays? Thanks to the wifi mind control.
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lol. psychologists are trained to be the biggest gaslighters of all. Especially when you go through organised stalking and neuro weapons abuses. Wonder how many are hearing ringing in the head nowadays? Thanks to the wifi mind control.
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