6 Signs Your Parents Are TOO Strict (OG Animation Style)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Izzy
So much of this is relatable. As a child I was known by all my friends for being a painfully sheltered kid who lived under so many restrictions is a miracle I had any fun or peer social skills at all in day to day life. It definitely gave me anxiety issues, perfectionism issues, problems with actually truly managing my life instead of just coping, and the lying. I was a master liar by the time I hit double digits. And even when I wasn't lying, everything was carefully calculated to a twisted science that my friends never understood. I would spend anywhere from ten minutes to days figuring out how and when to ask a question because it had to be worded exactly right so as not to raise the wrong questions or assumptions, and asked at exactly the right time to maximize chances of a favorable response, because once there was a negative response there was zero chance of that changing, even if that initial decision had been made with emotions unrelated to the question. I could easily get denied a sleepover just because my sibling did something to make our parent mad, but did that mean later I'd get a I'm sorry, I was mad at X and took it out on you, yes you can go to your friend's house on Saturday? never. So I got very good at reading situations, and if a question sat for a few days before being asked? So be it.
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So much of this is relatable. As a child I was known by all my friends for being a painfully sheltered kid who lived under so many restrictions is a miracle I had any fun or peer social skills at all in day to day life. It definitely gave me anxiety issues, perfectionism issues, problems with actually truly managing my life instead of just coping, and the lying. I was a master liar by the time I hit double digits. And even when I wasn't lying, everything was carefully calculated to a twisted science that my friends never understood. I would spend anywhere from ten minutes to days figuring out how and when to ask a question because it had to be worded exactly right so as not to raise the wrong questions or assumptions, and asked at exactly the right time to maximize chances of a favorable response, because once there was a negative response there was zero chance of that changing, even if that initial decision had been made with emotions unrelated to the question. I could easily get denied a sleepover just because my sibling did something to make our parent mad, but did that mean later I'd get a I'm sorry, I was mad at X and took it out on you, yes you can go to your friend's house on Saturday? never. So I got very good at reading situations, and if a question sat for a few days before being asked? So be it.
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Chaleika
I'm 22 but going on 23 like almost in the next five months right until now which is actually going to be on the 9th of August. And I always do feel very ridiculous teased & even criticized by my mom just literally because. She does not allow me to go outside & by having sleepovers at a friend's house. And plus I oftenly do feel like I am physically, verbally & mentally abuse just literally because she expects me to live on her unrealistic very high expectations to as well. And so that's explains why about the whole fact that I want to find a job & move out just as soon as possible with my brother just literally because I have already do know how to survive without someone dragging me down with everything I what I do or even say something wrong. And so this also explains why that strict parenting is the lack of communication & as by building trustworthy does effect towards teens, & even grown-up children's who is either on the autism spectrum disorder or not. This strict parenting is the lack sanity & I do tend to go insane sometimes. And plus I also found this video very helpful indeed.
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I'm 22 but going on 23 like almost in the next five months right until now which is actually going to be on the 9th of August. And I always do feel very ridiculous teased & even criticized by my mom just literally because. She does not allow me to go outside & by having sleepovers at a friend's house. And plus I oftenly do feel like I am physically, verbally & mentally abuse just literally because she expects me to live on her unrealistic very high expectations to as well. And so that's explains why about the whole fact that I want to find a job & move out just as soon as possible with my brother just literally because I have already do know how to survive without someone dragging me down with everything I what I do or even say something wrong. And so this also explains why that strict parenting is the lack of communication & as by building trustworthy does effect towards teens, & even grown-up children's who is either on the autism spectrum disorder or not. This strict parenting is the lack sanity & I do tend to go insane sometimes. And plus I also found this video very helpful indeed.
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Any213
When i'm 2 i had a younger sister that was spoiled and i was so strict at her that this happen
Sis: Sister can i have phone?
Me: Your to young to have one.
Sis: You always play it and not me!
Sis: Waaahhhhaahh
Me: Sorry please don't make me grounded
Sis: breaks phone
Me: Oh no.
Then i got grounded and that's how i beacame a strict sister that was 3 months ago
( by the way i'm 12)
5 months later
Sis: Sissy!
Me: What?
Sis: Play with me!
Me: Nope!
Sis: Why?
Me: I hate you! And i'm leaving
Sis: I will tell mom!
Me: carries to her bedroom and locks door
Sis: Sissy! I was joking! Let me outa here!
Me: Sorry sis, you've got me grounded.
Then she retgret on what she have done to me after 3 months.
Sis: I felt bad for making sister grounded.
Me: Yeah better be
Sis: .
But i never ever care about her anymore. I said:
Me: sorry, sis. You shoud be a perfect sister!
Sis: I'm sorry too! hugs
-The end-
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When i'm 2 i had a younger sister that was spoiled and i was so strict at her that this happen
Sis: Sister can i have phone?
Me: Your to young to have one.
Sis: You always play it and not me!
Sis: Waaahhhhaahh
Me: Sorry please don't make me grounded
Sis: breaks phone
Me: Oh no.
Then i got grounded and that's how i beacame a strict sister that was 3 months ago
( by the way i'm 12)
5 months later
Sis: Sissy!
Me: What?
Sis: Play with me!
Me: Nope!
Sis: Why?
Me: I hate you! And i'm leaving
Sis: I will tell mom!
Me: carries to her bedroom and locks door
Sis: Sissy! I was joking! Let me outa here!
Me: Sorry sis, you've got me grounded.
Then she retgret on what she have done to me after 3 months.
Sis: I felt bad for making sister grounded.
Me: Yeah better be
Sis: .
But i never ever care about her anymore. I said:
Me: sorry, sis. You shoud be a perfect sister!
Sis: I'm sorry too! hugs
-The end-
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Bliscuit
My parents are almost exactly like this, except theyre emotionally manipulative. They use the love excuse, invalidate my feelings, use guilt tripping etc. They both grew up broke as hell, so whenever I feel sad or depressed, they just say, I had it worse, or something like that. They had abusive parents themselves, so I understand they may not know how to parent all that well, but they refuse to believe they are ever wrong. Instead of being physically abusive, theyre emotionally abusive. My older sister ended up running away because of them, and refused to believe it was their fault. Emotional abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse, because then you end up to abuse yourself. Hope everyone out there is okay. NO SELF HURT YOU HEAR ME?
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My parents are almost exactly like this, except theyre emotionally manipulative. They use the love excuse, invalidate my feelings, use guilt tripping etc. They both grew up broke as hell, so whenever I feel sad or depressed, they just say, I had it worse, or something like that. They had abusive parents themselves, so I understand they may not know how to parent all that well, but they refuse to believe they are ever wrong. Instead of being physically abusive, theyre emotionally abusive. My older sister ended up running away because of them, and refused to believe it was their fault. Emotional abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse, because then you end up to abuse yourself. Hope everyone out there is okay. NO SELF HURT YOU HEAR ME?
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CrystalGirl1313
I love your Videos and your goals for them! One thing I was wondering is if you could make another video on helicopter parenting? I feel personally that not many people talk about it and as someone who has to deal with that sadly it'd mean a lot to me if you could since the other video you made on it was made awhile ago thank you if so.
PS So so sorry if I sounded rude or demanding because that's not what what I'm trying to do. also your other video on it teached me the term for that style of parenting and I'm really thankful that you made that video awhile back: ) I just watched that video yesterday: P
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I love your Videos and your goals for them! One thing I was wondering is if you could make another video on helicopter parenting? I feel personally that not many people talk about it and as someone who has to deal with that sadly it'd mean a lot to me if you could since the other video you made on it was made awhile ago thank you if so.
PS So so sorry if I sounded rude or demanding because that's not what what I'm trying to do. also your other video on it teached me the term for that style of parenting and I'm really thankful that you made that video awhile back: ) I just watched that video yesterday: P
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Sj7718
For a lot of my life, I felt distant from my parents and siblings. Even at the times, I would get extremely angry at them for the simplest things like smacking, messing/pranking me, or just not listening to me. This has all combined into me feeling depressed all the time, it has even caused me to fall behind on my school work, and it has made me feel like I'm in a dark void unable to escape. And my parents would just like it to be something dealing with mental like ADD or some else. I now know that is not sick but I just dealing with habits that I have.
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For a lot of my life, I felt distant from my parents and siblings. Even at the times, I would get extremely angry at them for the simplest things like smacking, messing/pranking me, or just not listening to me. This has all combined into me feeling depressed all the time, it has even caused me to fall behind on my school work, and it has made me feel like I'm in a dark void unable to escape. And my parents would just like it to be something dealing with mental like ADD or some else. I now know that is not sick but I just dealing with habits that I have.
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Ben
I always told my friends that my parents have always been what I call weirdly strict as they never were as bad as some of my friends but still made my upbringing a nightmare. My friends never understood what I meant by this but this video finally gives me closure. For context: my parents were the type that pretty much encouraged me in high school to party and drink but would crucify me if I so much as disagreed with what they wanted for me and still are to this day as a soon to be 23 year old who is out of the house
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I always told my friends that my parents have always been what I call weirdly strict as they never were as bad as some of my friends but still made my upbringing a nightmare. My friends never understood what I meant by this but this video finally gives me closure. For context: my parents were the type that pretty much encouraged me in high school to party and drink but would crucify me if I so much as disagreed with what they wanted for me and still are to this day as a soon to be 23 year old who is out of the house
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Jean
Having grown up with controlling parents, I find that I value independence above anything else. When I'm around others, so often I tend to feel like they want my energy, my focus, my listening and caring - but don't give back in kind. I often wonder if this is because, growing up with controlling parents, my needs and feelings weren't really a priority or part of the family decision-making process. You need to do what we expect of you -- and we expect you to subvert your needs to please us.
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Having grown up with controlling parents, I find that I value independence above anything else. When I'm around others, so often I tend to feel like they want my energy, my focus, my listening and caring - but don't give back in kind. I often wonder if this is because, growing up with controlling parents, my needs and feelings weren't really a priority or part of the family decision-making process. You need to do what we expect of you -- and we expect you to subvert your needs to please us.
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Balih
I grew up with a very emotionally abusive stepfather and a mom who basically denied he was abusive and just said it isnt just you, its everyone blah blah. Im 31 now and just saw my therapist and he told me Im having a mental breakdown and he attributes it to a lot of things Ive carried with me from that experience. It follows you. And it can be scary at times, Ive developed habits Im actively ashamed of. Heres to hoping I dont carry them for much longer
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I grew up with a very emotionally abusive stepfather and a mom who basically denied he was abusive and just said it isnt just you, its everyone blah blah. Im 31 now and just saw my therapist and he told me Im having a mental breakdown and he attributes it to a lot of things Ive carried with me from that experience. It follows you. And it can be scary at times, Ive developed habits Im actively ashamed of. Heres to hoping I dont carry them for much longer
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Random-Fan-Girl
The weird thing about my upbringing a was that my mom actually discouraged me from things like studying. She was strict with other things, if I didnt feel exactly the same way as she did about everything, id get yelled at, if I expressed any desire to move away, id get yelled at. Basically, she expects me to be a mini her and live with her forever. But anyway, I experience all of the things in the video.
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The weird thing about my upbringing a was that my mom actually discouraged me from things like studying. She was strict with other things, if I didnt feel exactly the same way as she did about everything, id get yelled at, if I expressed any desire to move away, id get yelled at. Basically, she expects me to be a mini her and live with her forever. But anyway, I experience all of the things in the video.
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PulseStar5k
St. At EVERY SINGLE point, my eyes just kept opening wider and wider. I mean: this IS me!
I feel quite disturbed with this fact in mind now
But i'm glad i can now deal with my thought, even if it's often by using point 3 and by doing reckless thing in accord with the point 5
Hope this video will make people just a bit more aware of those side effects: )
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St. At EVERY SINGLE point, my eyes just kept opening wider and wider. I mean: this IS me!
I feel quite disturbed with this fact in mind now
But i'm glad i can now deal with my thought, even if it's often by using point 3 and by doing reckless thing in accord with the point 5
Hope this video will make people just a bit more aware of those side effects: )
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John
I am older now. I still suffer from all 6 of these characteristics. The worst part is when I go out in the world and other people dont live by the rules I was taught and then I was told that other people are always supposed to do as we do. Not even close to reality. I have gotten better with this through the years though it still gives me trouble.
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I am older now. I still suffer from all 6 of these characteristics. The worst part is when I go out in the world and other people dont live by the rules I was taught and then I was told that other people are always supposed to do as we do. Not even close to reality. I have gotten better with this through the years though it still gives me trouble.
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Multiverse
I have a friend who he has told me his step is to strict ive seen hes too strict but my friends Walmart face him and I happen because its not my place but I am very much considering because they restrict him from being with playing video games and restrictions and doing a lot of things that he enjoys are harmless in entirety
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I have a friend who he has told me his step is to strict ive seen hes too strict but my friends Walmart face him and I happen because its not my place but I am very much considering because they restrict him from being with playing video games and restrictions and doing a lot of things that he enjoys are harmless in entirety
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praquenomerealkk
My level of strict parents:
(To clarify, i'm not a native english speaker. Well, i got advanced level on an official test made by Cambridge (my School applied it for a project) and she didn't even congratulate me, she just turned me down (i still bought a hamburguer to comemorate that i'm fluent lol)
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My level of strict parents:
(To clarify, i'm not a native english speaker. Well, i got advanced level on an official test made by Cambridge (my School applied it for a project) and she didn't even congratulate me, she just turned me down (i still bought a hamburguer to comemorate that i'm fluent lol)
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Carolper
The number 4 hits so hard. I've got such a hard time to socialize or do anything without some kind of routine or rules. It think that, because of the autonomy they give me at work, it got better, but it's still hard, I get lost sometimes. And I just can't have confidence in myself without feeling cocky.
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The number 4 hits so hard. I've got such a hard time to socialize or do anything without some kind of routine or rules. It think that, because of the autonomy they give me at work, it got better, but it's still hard, I get lost sometimes. And I just can't have confidence in myself without feeling cocky.
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Reid
Ive have the worst parents that treat me like shit and dont let me do anything and Im always sneaking out and smoking and drinking. And I have friends with hood parents that let them do whatever and they never smoke or drank so thats a perfect example of being too strict. Strict parents raise sneaky kids.
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Ive have the worst parents that treat me like shit and dont let me do anything and Im always sneaking out and smoking and drinking. And I have friends with hood parents that let them do whatever and they never smoke or drank so thats a perfect example of being too strict. Strict parents raise sneaky kids.
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Idina
Really? My parents doesn't even acknowledge the part of mental health when I told my mom that my mental health is very bad according to my test and it is one of poor health in our class she just laughed saying wow your mental health is poor? Oh that unless. leave that.
Like what I will leave?
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Really? My parents doesn't even acknowledge the part of mental health when I told my mom that my mental health is very bad according to my test and it is one of poor health in our class she just laughed saying wow your mental health is poor? Oh that unless. leave that.
Like what I will leave?
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Gene
Thank You all at Psych2Go. It's been a while and I still remember. To try and express in word's my life and growing up would almost be a discredit to the research that has been presented to all of us to try and unravel all of the persuader's lnfluences.
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Thank You all at Psych2Go. It's been a while and I still remember. To try and express in word's my life and growing up would almost be a discredit to the research that has been presented to all of us to try and unravel all of the persuader's lnfluences.
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Smokey
Would forgetfulness be a potential side effect? Cause i have quite a few gaps in my memory like when i forgot why i had tried to run away and other various things that have happened. I'm fine now just i dont remember the reasons anymore.
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Would forgetfulness be a potential side effect? Cause i have quite a few gaps in my memory like when i forgot why i had tried to run away and other various things that have happened. I'm fine now just i dont remember the reasons anymore.
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Chisuki
Huh i thought my parents are not that strict, because there's people who are more unlucky than me, i always thought than at least i have a home to live, food to eat, school to go and i have a phone, i should be greatfull right?
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Huh i thought my parents are not that strict, because there's people who are more unlucky than me, i always thought than at least i have a home to live, food to eat, school to go and i have a phone, i should be greatfull right?
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sharkwithnotoes1
I have several friends who did not mature in life and did not get to live they're childhood because of strict parents who were afraid to show them the world or let their kids show it to themselves.
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I have several friends who did not mature in life and did not get to live they're childhood because of strict parents who were afraid to show them the world or let their kids show it to themselves.
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Kelly
lol. my parents told me (well father) that I was a worthless piece of S, then I apparently surpassed expectations with a #2 in HS class overall. what's the type who doesn't believe their parents and exceeds?
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lol. my parents told me (well father) that I was a worthless piece of S, then I apparently surpassed expectations with a #2 in HS class overall. what's the type who doesn't believe their parents and exceeds?
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HaKuNNa
Oh my. through thia video i came to know that my sister is suffering through all of this symptoms. I really have to show her to his video. Atleast she should know what is going on with her. Really thankful
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Oh my. through thia video i came to know that my sister is suffering through all of this symptoms. I really have to show her to his video. Atleast she should know what is going on with her. Really thankful
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-Channel
Found this in my recommended all of a sudden and now I just feel called out. and have alot of crap to talk about with my parents it seems.
Thanks. I guess. I have no clue how to take this revelation.
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Found this in my recommended all of a sudden and now I just feel called out. and have alot of crap to talk about with my parents it seems.
Thanks. I guess. I have no clue how to take this revelation.
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Olivier
I don't think I had particularly strict parents (maybe overbearing though ) but I recognize myself in most of these results/effects. I wonder if there are other causes that may result in similar effects.
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I don't think I had particularly strict parents (maybe overbearing though ) but I recognize myself in most of these results/effects. I wonder if there are other causes that may result in similar effects.
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