6 Romantic Gestures That Are Actually Major Red Flags
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Date: 2024-08-03
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RafsanulHaq-r2k
Symptoms of toxic love and genuine love:
1. Infatuation: Infatuation is a strong but shallow attraction, focusing mainly on how the other person makes you feel. Genuine love, on the other hand, is deeper and more selfless. It involves caring sincerely for your partner's happiness and well-being, even if it means making personal sacrifices.
2. Jealousy: Jealousy can lead to toxic love when it results in control, mistrust, and insecurity, damaging the relationship. However, if managed well, jealousy can be beneficial. Jealousy can prompt personal growth and a deeper commitment in the relationship. Jealousy can show that you care and are invested in the relationship, encouraging communication and addressing insecurities. Thus, jealousy can contribute to both toxic and genuine love, highlighting the complexity of emotions in love. Balancing jealousy is crucial to ensuring it strengthens rather than harms the relationship.
Remember, love is a complex emotion and often includes other conflicting emotions as well.
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Symptoms of toxic love and genuine love:
1. Infatuation: Infatuation is a strong but shallow attraction, focusing mainly on how the other person makes you feel. Genuine love, on the other hand, is deeper and more selfless. It involves caring sincerely for your partner's happiness and well-being, even if it means making personal sacrifices.
2. Jealousy: Jealousy can lead to toxic love when it results in control, mistrust, and insecurity, damaging the relationship. However, if managed well, jealousy can be beneficial. Jealousy can prompt personal growth and a deeper commitment in the relationship. Jealousy can show that you care and are invested in the relationship, encouraging communication and addressing insecurities. Thus, jealousy can contribute to both toxic and genuine love, highlighting the complexity of emotions in love. Balancing jealousy is crucial to ensuring it strengthens rather than harms the relationship.
Remember, love is a complex emotion and often includes other conflicting emotions as well.
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ingrid5944
Wow, thank you so much for this video. I was crying just now thinking about my ex and reflecting that I miss him but there was also the bad parts of it. That relationship was filled with manipulation and control, and I know I was also codependent. It was A MESS. I was crying wondering if there was really actual love between us, cause sometimes it really felt like there was. I miss the good moments with him and I was crying about that, but him trying to isolate me, control me and being jealous all the time did me SO SO BAD. Life is hard. Decisions are hard. But I think I did the right thing breaking up. It was a three year long relationship. I think separating was the hardest thing I did in my life. I loved him so much. I don't know if he loved me or not, but I loved him and I hope he's doing fine in his life. It was hard but it made me realize very deep things inside of me that I needed to heal.
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Wow, thank you so much for this video. I was crying just now thinking about my ex and reflecting that I miss him but there was also the bad parts of it. That relationship was filled with manipulation and control, and I know I was also codependent. It was A MESS. I was crying wondering if there was really actual love between us, cause sometimes it really felt like there was. I miss the good moments with him and I was crying about that, but him trying to isolate me, control me and being jealous all the time did me SO SO BAD. Life is hard. Decisions are hard. But I think I did the right thing breaking up. It was a three year long relationship. I think separating was the hardest thing I did in my life. I loved him so much. I don't know if he loved me or not, but I loved him and I hope he's doing fine in his life. It was hard but it made me realize very deep things inside of me that I needed to heal.
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psych2go
Thank you! I've been saying this for so long now! I'm somewhere in the Aromantic Spectrum, so i don’t have any experiences when it comes to love and relationships but the amounts of times i got red flags with each category shown in this video and trying to warn my friends only to get ignored or brushed aside is overwhelming. I tend to look at relationships in a more logical way than all my friends who are not Aromantic. That being said i hate how some romantic stuff are considered normal and/or romanticised; for example My bf won't let me wear that or My gf doesn’t want me talking to other woman Are you ok! Blink twice if you need help.
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Thank you! I've been saying this for so long now! I'm somewhere in the Aromantic Spectrum, so i don’t have any experiences when it comes to love and relationships but the amounts of times i got red flags with each category shown in this video and trying to warn my friends only to get ignored or brushed aside is overwhelming. I tend to look at relationships in a more logical way than all my friends who are not Aromantic. That being said i hate how some romantic stuff are considered normal and/or romanticised; for example My bf won't let me wear that or My gf doesn’t want me talking to other woman Are you ok! Blink twice if you need help.
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Pizzathing
Is it red flag when a guy you know online now for 4 months tells you 2 mknths after you know each other via Text that he loves you back abd you text each other since then
Btw only via texting and the oerson tells you thst this oerson you love will visit you someday but lives far away and is soldier and also student
And how can I tell my friend who is in this current Situation that something is wrong
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Is it red flag when a guy you know online now for 4 months tells you 2 mknths after you know each other via Text that he loves you back abd you text each other since then
Btw only via texting and the oerson tells you thst this oerson you love will visit you someday but lives far away and is soldier and also student
And how can I tell my friend who is in this current Situation that something is wrong
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AC-ni4gt
I had a relationship with some of those traits and. it ended with me breaking it because the other party wanted the wedding bells ringing before the graduation gowns can happen. I was a university student and trying to get a degree. I won't say much about the relationship other than it had some of the characteristics mention in the video.
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I had a relationship with some of those traits and. it ended with me breaking it because the other party wanted the wedding bells ringing before the graduation gowns can happen. I was a university student and trying to get a degree. I won't say much about the relationship other than it had some of the characteristics mention in the video.
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aminaprice
What happens when he lies and has to earn his trust back And now your constantly on edge about everything he does. Because you don't know what's truth or a lie anymore Does me wanting to see his phone all the time now make me narcissistic Does my now insecurities make me a narcissist Just wondering
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What happens when he lies and has to earn his trust back And now your constantly on edge about everything he does. Because you don't know what's truth or a lie anymore Does me wanting to see his phone all the time now make me narcissistic Does my now insecurities make me a narcissist Just wondering
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kobi2024
As someone with BPD every time I click on one of those videos I wonder how many of the things mentioned I did, all of them in this one haha.
However it was way more out of control when I was not aware of my issues, thankfully now I am bit better with it
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As someone with BPD every time I click on one of those videos I wonder how many of the things mentioned I did, all of them in this one haha.
However it was way more out of control when I was not aware of my issues, thankfully now I am bit better with it
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eugenekrabs3837
All these negatives can be overlooked if the positives out weigh them it depends very much on the extent on which these things are being implemented how far do they go and what positive aspects of the person shine there's lot's to consider
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All these negatives can be overlooked if the positives out weigh them it depends very much on the extent on which these things are being implemented how far do they go and what positive aspects of the person shine there's lot's to consider
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number1mikotofan
Here are the diff sections:
1. Overwhelming affection 0: 30
2. Too much quality time 1: 05
3. Saying I love you too soon 1: 32
4. Constant texting 2: 11
5. Constant monitoring 2: 48
6. Jealousy and Possessiveness 3: 18
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Here are the diff sections:
1. Overwhelming affection 0: 30
2. Too much quality time 1: 05
3. Saying I love you too soon 1: 32
4. Constant texting 2: 11
5. Constant monitoring 2: 48
6. Jealousy and Possessiveness 3: 18
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steinarorstenvik
1. 0: 30 Overwhelming Affection (Love bombing)
2. 1: 05 Too Much Quality Time
3. 1: 32 Saying I Love You too soon
4. 2: 11 Constant Texting
5. 2: 47 Constant Monitoring
6. 3: 17 Jeaulosy & Possessiveness
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1. 0: 30 Overwhelming Affection (Love bombing)
2. 1: 05 Too Much Quality Time
3. 1: 32 Saying I Love You too soon
4. 2: 11 Constant Texting
5. 2: 47 Constant Monitoring
6. 3: 17 Jeaulosy & Possessiveness
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zw5961
Mmm i actually saw myself in a few of these signs, i didnt know that one or two were toxic behavior i wish i knew or rather realised that before, i hope i can still fix myself i really dont wanna hurt him or ruin our relationship
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Mmm i actually saw myself in a few of these signs, i didnt know that one or two were toxic behavior i wish i knew or rather realised that before, i hope i can still fix myself i really dont wanna hurt him or ruin our relationship
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psych2go
I love these videos and I feel the need to say that this was sent to me by a person who exhibits all of these signs to some varying degrees and hates my other partner and partner choices. (We're in a polycule)
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I love these videos and I feel the need to say that this was sent to me by a person who exhibits all of these signs to some varying degrees and hates my other partner and partner choices. (We're in a polycule)
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kokopelli_002
Most of this resonated with me. I've seen a lot of these behaviors in my partner for a while, but I know her, and I know it isn't coming from a selfish place, so we've been actively trying to work on it.
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Most of this resonated with me. I've seen a lot of these behaviors in my partner for a while, but I know her, and I know it isn't coming from a selfish place, so we've been actively trying to work on it.
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ameliaray0711
0: 31 overwhelming affection
1: 07 too much quality time
1: 33 saying i love you too soon
2: 13 constant texting
2: 49 constant monitoring
3: 19 jealousy and possessiveness
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0: 31 overwhelming affection
1: 07 too much quality time
1: 33 saying i love you too soon
2: 13 constant texting
2: 49 constant monitoring
3: 19 jealousy and possessiveness
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andreifrolenkov513
Somewhat reminds me of my late girlfriend. Who wasn't manipulative - she, apparently, was just desperate to love and be attached to someone and felt her life being empty without it.
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Somewhat reminds me of my late girlfriend. Who wasn't manipulative - she, apparently, was just desperate to love and be attached to someone and felt her life being empty without it.
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Aarael
0: 30 Overwhelming affection
1: 05 Too much quality time
1: 33 Saying I love you too soon
2: 11 Constant texting
2: 47 Constant Monitoring
3: 18 Jealousy and possessiveness
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0: 30 Overwhelming affection
1: 05 Too much quality time
1: 33 Saying I love you too soon
2: 11 Constant texting
2: 47 Constant Monitoring
3: 18 Jealousy and possessiveness
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Champman543
My ex did all of that.
She broke up with me after 7 years. Was more like a discard. She immediately had her new supply.
Well, I ignored all the red flags, so I take the L
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My ex did all of that.
She broke up with me after 7 years. Was more like a discard. She immediately had her new supply.
Well, I ignored all the red flags, so I take the L
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luvqraft6024
Gotta say, an excessive need for validation is a biggie for me I’m just not built that way. Though I wonder if I am in some ways. This could also apply to friendships
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Gotta say, an excessive need for validation is a biggie for me I’m just not built that way. Though I wonder if I am in some ways. This could also apply to friendships
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psych2go
Lovebombing is pretty come on for people who've been through trauma; look out if it seems manipulative, otherwise talk to them, might be a chance to get a bit closer
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Lovebombing is pretty come on for people who've been through trauma; look out if it seems manipulative, otherwise talk to them, might be a chance to get a bit closer
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mariaa. 7624
There must be something cultural about this. Saying I love you and showing too much affection is normal in my country. Context is everything IMHO
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There must be something cultural about this. Saying I love you and showing too much affection is normal in my country. Context is everything IMHO
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