5 Signs You're In Love With A Manipulator
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Date: 2024-02-20
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BeelzeKid
day 249. no love bombing but manipulation. yeah over effectionet beehiveyur. devailiuation yes. gaslighting in combo with gohsting / the secret technique of the whisp yes denighing twisting truth and turning all my leftover friends against me yes dougthing myself and overreacting like a susspect yes isolation damn right she did, i went into psy theraphy with a psy therapist / psychologist / she is both / she always played victim. its verry easy for a womman and noone susspected her dooing that, making evryone doughting me. includeing me. she invented alot but was lazy af. fr fr. was even more easy cuzz im a odd ball. im a miss fit and a wierdo. i spend all my love on her. i think i cant be un broken and noon will ever love me for me. especialy after all my friends left. nomatter what i sayd i was the bad guy my friends lied to me and she did aswell about evrything beaing ok. untill it was not and she left. she playd that game 3 times untill i had no friends left. i was afraid of her leaveing me at that point. i knew she had a hand in it so i was afraid not to complye with her needs. she called me a narcissist. she was a covert one i susspect now. i was the onlyone putting in effort she drained my energy. i was suprised cuzz i feelt thesame. she drained me. whenever she stepped on my boundrys she sayd i stepped on hers. when i changed and she noticed she did take distance like i was a danger to her. thats also what she told our friends. that left me alone and suicidal. then she left me out of the blue. she had a new friend group i did not know of. and talked about a new boy. called me a stalker even tho she lived 5 yares with me. and fooled me and alienated me from evryone. in the end i had nothing left. i could have been dead. but i stayed strong. its a dangerus game. 116 days till it makes a yahre. se sayd she returns after that. i shuld not hang on - but she left a bunch of things here and sayd terrible things to leave me on the hook. i have a terrible non harmfull way of closeing the chapter on her. but ill wait 115 days for that. im broken - Ill never love again - now you know why!
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day 249. no love bombing but manipulation. yeah over effectionet beehiveyur. devailiuation yes. gaslighting in combo with gohsting / the secret technique of the whisp yes denighing twisting truth and turning all my leftover friends against me yes dougthing myself and overreacting like a susspect yes isolation damn right she did, i went into psy theraphy with a psy therapist / psychologist / she is both / she always played victim. its verry easy for a womman and noone susspected her dooing that, making evryone doughting me. includeing me. she invented alot but was lazy af. fr fr. was even more easy cuzz im a odd ball. im a miss fit and a wierdo. i spend all my love on her. i think i cant be un broken and noon will ever love me for me. especialy after all my friends left. nomatter what i sayd i was the bad guy my friends lied to me and she did aswell about evrything beaing ok. untill it was not and she left. she playd that game 3 times untill i had no friends left. i was afraid of her leaveing me at that point. i knew she had a hand in it so i was afraid not to complye with her needs. she called me a narcissist. she was a covert one i susspect now. i was the onlyone putting in effort she drained my energy. i was suprised cuzz i feelt thesame. she drained me. whenever she stepped on my boundrys she sayd i stepped on hers. when i changed and she noticed she did take distance like i was a danger to her. thats also what she told our friends. that left me alone and suicidal. then she left me out of the blue. she had a new friend group i did not know of. and talked about a new boy. called me a stalker even tho she lived 5 yares with me. and fooled me and alienated me from evryone. in the end i had nothing left. i could have been dead. but i stayed strong. its a dangerus game. 116 days till it makes a yahre. se sayd she returns after that. i shuld not hang on - but she left a bunch of things here and sayd terrible things to leave me on the hook. i have a terrible non harmfull way of closeing the chapter on her. but ill wait 115 days for that. im broken - Ill never love again - now you know why!
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robdog9770
Yep, my ex-girlfriend did all of these with me. In just 1 1/2 months after being set up by a mutual friend, she played every trick in this video to rush us into a relationship after 7 total dates. She just wouldn't respect my boundaries of getting to know each other to establish a trust bond.
When we became a couple amid our 8th date, she had asked me with that charming smile and pose and said in front of an audience that were looking at us. I was pressured to say yes and I know she did that on purpose.
Her intentions were clear, all she wanted was a guy to romanticise with since she never had a boyfriend herself. Took advantage of me being in the spectrum. Only 2 weeks later when we had 3 more dates, I ended up calling it off. I could feel how shallow the relationship was, and I knew it wasn't getting any better. That was the split end of July last year and that was the last time I ever saw her.
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Yep, my ex-girlfriend did all of these with me. In just 1 1/2 months after being set up by a mutual friend, she played every trick in this video to rush us into a relationship after 7 total dates. She just wouldn't respect my boundaries of getting to know each other to establish a trust bond.
When we became a couple amid our 8th date, she had asked me with that charming smile and pose and said in front of an audience that were looking at us. I was pressured to say yes and I know she did that on purpose.
Her intentions were clear, all she wanted was a guy to romanticise with since she never had a boyfriend herself. Took advantage of me being in the spectrum. Only 2 weeks later when we had 3 more dates, I ended up calling it off. I could feel how shallow the relationship was, and I knew it wasn't getting any better. That was the split end of July last year and that was the last time I ever saw her.
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brzhnx
One of the side signs is when your partner avoids discussing any troubles, conflicts or even concerns about relationships. Most likely, they will try convincing you that you get the situation wrong and everything is fine. Whenever you try to remind that cases in future, they will be blaming and shaming you for all possible things and never approve their own responsibility. It's not because they're monsters or kinda (i know how strongly it seems to be that way sometimes, but it's not. It's because their own traumas and personality' aspects they can't control. Nonetheless it doesn't mean that a person who finds themselves as a victim in such relationships shall tolerate that moves. Work on your personal boundaries, ask for professional support and help, keep focus on your feelings, emotions. It gets better for sure. Dark times will pass and all painful affections will turn into useful and valuable lessons
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One of the side signs is when your partner avoids discussing any troubles, conflicts or even concerns about relationships. Most likely, they will try convincing you that you get the situation wrong and everything is fine. Whenever you try to remind that cases in future, they will be blaming and shaming you for all possible things and never approve their own responsibility. It's not because they're monsters or kinda (i know how strongly it seems to be that way sometimes, but it's not. It's because their own traumas and personality' aspects they can't control. Nonetheless it doesn't mean that a person who finds themselves as a victim in such relationships shall tolerate that moves. Work on your personal boundaries, ask for professional support and help, keep focus on your feelings, emotions. It gets better for sure. Dark times will pass and all painful affections will turn into useful and valuable lessons
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katon4444
I wanted to thank you.
Sometime, I feel guilty about the way I left an 15 years friendship. After 2 hard years getting back to myself, still wondering if I was completly right or not, I took a deep moment to check with more objectivity if this was really that bad with this video criterias. And damn, I was right.
The thing is, I was always walking on eggshells. It was for a long time not my only friend but time passed and he was still here. Other stuff like the 3 victim triangle and more. Those dynamic were just a habit that I was always trying to fight in order to help him. At some point I was about to be as bad as him with people and I got crazy. So I gave up after 15 years. Accepting that I can't help him anymore and just ressurected.
So well, it's good to have some feedback checkup that still make me remember that I was not crazy
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I wanted to thank you.
Sometime, I feel guilty about the way I left an 15 years friendship. After 2 hard years getting back to myself, still wondering if I was completly right or not, I took a deep moment to check with more objectivity if this was really that bad with this video criterias. And damn, I was right.
The thing is, I was always walking on eggshells. It was for a long time not my only friend but time passed and he was still here. Other stuff like the 3 victim triangle and more. Those dynamic were just a habit that I was always trying to fight in order to help him. At some point I was about to be as bad as him with people and I got crazy. So I gave up after 15 years. Accepting that I can't help him anymore and just ressurected.
So well, it's good to have some feedback checkup that still make me remember that I was not crazy
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pariscooper9081
Ex did this to me but I couldn’t recognize it because I wasn’t stable with bipolar I emotionally cheated during a bout of psychosis immediately told her she said she forgave me then extracted all she could from me. Maybe it was retribution but man just leave don’t destroy the person especially when mental illness is at play. 5min conversation destroyed me for a year and a half after. I could’ve lied but my mind doesn’t work that way, crazy right. I tried to atone. I gave my all, we broke up and she still checks on me makes promises of being together again conveniently when she needs help I give in help and get ghosted for months and the cycle continued until I flipped she has a way of coming around right as I’m finally getting over her but I am aware it was my choice every step of the way letting me know I didn’t love myself
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Ex did this to me but I couldn’t recognize it because I wasn’t stable with bipolar I emotionally cheated during a bout of psychosis immediately told her she said she forgave me then extracted all she could from me. Maybe it was retribution but man just leave don’t destroy the person especially when mental illness is at play. 5min conversation destroyed me for a year and a half after. I could’ve lied but my mind doesn’t work that way, crazy right. I tried to atone. I gave my all, we broke up and she still checks on me makes promises of being together again conveniently when she needs help I give in help and get ghosted for months and the cycle continued until I flipped she has a way of coming around right as I’m finally getting over her but I am aware it was my choice every step of the way letting me know I didn’t love myself
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dalilsty
never being in a relationship again after i've been in one and i showed signs bordering on manipulation. not as if i'm a manipulative person, i just never knew how to be in a healthy one, am terrified of being vulnerable, and have terrible communication skills. i end up pushing everyone from me, giving silent treatment because i have no idea how to process my feelings, blaming people for having normal emotions because i can't allow myself to have them so i don't think it's normal. it would be a lie of i said i didn't liked having someone that depended on me. it is no way an excuse, i've hurted someone because of it, regret it for years even when I've made peace with the person, and i'm not doing it again or being in a relationship before i can love like a sane humab being
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never being in a relationship again after i've been in one and i showed signs bordering on manipulation. not as if i'm a manipulative person, i just never knew how to be in a healthy one, am terrified of being vulnerable, and have terrible communication skills. i end up pushing everyone from me, giving silent treatment because i have no idea how to process my feelings, blaming people for having normal emotions because i can't allow myself to have them so i don't think it's normal. it would be a lie of i said i didn't liked having someone that depended on me. it is no way an excuse, i've hurted someone because of it, regret it for years even when I've made peace with the person, and i'm not doing it again or being in a relationship before i can love like a sane humab being
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MyPPisOnFire
Been through a recent breakup, she pushed me to my absolute mental limits in order to show her affection, love and attention, even when i am absolutely exhausted from other things in life like work, family and such.
she always pushed me to fight for our relationship and even confront my mother (my mother 'hated' her to say the least. my ex always has been pouring ideas onto me like: my mother never showed me affection like she did, my friends aren't really my friends and even got to the point that i met with them less and less because of her.
until i talked with my friends and other people about this situation i did not see through the manipulation.
all of the signs presented in the video were there but i did not see it.
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Been through a recent breakup, she pushed me to my absolute mental limits in order to show her affection, love and attention, even when i am absolutely exhausted from other things in life like work, family and such.
she always pushed me to fight for our relationship and even confront my mother (my mother 'hated' her to say the least. my ex always has been pouring ideas onto me like: my mother never showed me affection like she did, my friends aren't really my friends and even got to the point that i met with them less and less because of her.
until i talked with my friends and other people about this situation i did not see through the manipulation.
all of the signs presented in the video were there but i did not see it.
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Splat654
0: 01 Such a sudden surprise you referenced Emmanuel Kant. A philosopher from where I am from. It's so heartwarming to hear close motives of your home in a video of your favorite author. Not to mention that in a light of recent tragic events, these past 3 days, locals bring flowers to Immanuel Kant's gravestone as a symbol of love. To grief the passing of Navalny, as there are unfortunately, no proper monuments to victims of political repressions in our city. Thank you humbly, thank to you, I am once again inspired to come back to his works and read them, but much more attentive this time.
I am thinking of visiting his monument and bringing flowers as well.
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0: 01 Such a sudden surprise you referenced Emmanuel Kant. A philosopher from where I am from. It's so heartwarming to hear close motives of your home in a video of your favorite author. Not to mention that in a light of recent tragic events, these past 3 days, locals bring flowers to Immanuel Kant's gravestone as a symbol of love. To grief the passing of Navalny, as there are unfortunately, no proper monuments to victims of political repressions in our city. Thank you humbly, thank to you, I am once again inspired to come back to his works and read them, but much more attentive this time.
I am thinking of visiting his monument and bringing flowers as well.
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priyankanaik1601
Well, manipulative person can also be your friends or even family members. All these signs apply to every relationship. Having such people in life is a horrible experience. These manipulators will go to extreme extents to achieve their goals. You can't actually identify them early as they will give a genuine vibe at first but later on when u get to know them better you will know who they actually are. Manipulativeness is a personality. It can be developed knowingly or by surrounding influence. They will never accept they are wrong.
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Well, manipulative person can also be your friends or even family members. All these signs apply to every relationship. Having such people in life is a horrible experience. These manipulators will go to extreme extents to achieve their goals. You can't actually identify them early as they will give a genuine vibe at first but later on when u get to know them better you will know who they actually are. Manipulativeness is a personality. It can be developed knowingly or by surrounding influence. They will never accept they are wrong.
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sjpercy1334
I was in a relationship with one. It took me just shy of three years to see through him and finish it. I went from loving him to not even liking him as a person.
The main issues were gaslighting, victim mentality, inability to take any responsibility, blame shifting, avoidance, taking my words and using them as his own, minimising, future promising, outright lying and so on.
I’m so glad I didn’t waste any more time on him.
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I was in a relationship with one. It took me just shy of three years to see through him and finish it. I went from loving him to not even liking him as a person.
The main issues were gaslighting, victim mentality, inability to take any responsibility, blame shifting, avoidance, taking my words and using them as his own, minimising, future promising, outright lying and so on.
I’m so glad I didn’t waste any more time on him.
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psych2go
I dated/was friends with one for I time but I doubt they were going it consciously. I think they just thought that’s how things worked and it never failed them before badly so they probably thought it was fine. Though I’m not in direct contact after things they did I hope they can find the steps to improvement.
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I dated/was friends with one for I time but I doubt they were going it consciously. I think they just thought that’s how things worked and it never failed them before badly so they probably thought it was fine. Though I’m not in direct contact after things they did I hope they can find the steps to improvement.
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psych2go
Sometimes, I'm real worried about two friends of mine who are a couple. I can't really tell which of the two are more manipulative.
And yeah, this is one of the real reasons why I'm afraid to find anyone: I'm worried that I would be the one to manipulate or this girl would manipulate poor, innocent me.
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Sometimes, I'm real worried about two friends of mine who are a couple. I can't really tell which of the two are more manipulative.
And yeah, this is one of the real reasons why I'm afraid to find anyone: I'm worried that I would be the one to manipulate or this girl would manipulate poor, innocent me.
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tovadeutsch6731
When I broke up with my manipulative busive toxic ex for a while after I CRAVED manipulation from someone I felt like I NEEDED someone to make me feel bad abt myself. This stuff can really manipulate and gaslight you until your brain is literally re wired and can make you think that’s what love is
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When I broke up with my manipulative busive toxic ex for a while after I CRAVED manipulation from someone I felt like I NEEDED someone to make me feel bad abt myself. This stuff can really manipulate and gaslight you until your brain is literally re wired and can make you think that’s what love is
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nataliechiang9787
I needed this. I feel like I'm being gaslighted repeatedly by my roommate, who's my mom. I need to take control by not isolating myself. Taking it out using exercise, faith and hope. Of course, music. And stick it out until I graduate. That's the secret of my patience.
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I needed this. I feel like I'm being gaslighted repeatedly by my roommate, who's my mom. I need to take control by not isolating myself. Taking it out using exercise, faith and hope. Of course, music. And stick it out until I graduate. That's the secret of my patience.
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miahernandez8652
Now my next question is how do you fix yourself after this How do you go about your day to day life without now viewing everyone as a user and manipulator. How do you try and reduce the personality changes that may happen on yourself due to the negative experience
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Now my next question is how do you fix yourself after this How do you go about your day to day life without now viewing everyone as a user and manipulator. How do you try and reduce the personality changes that may happen on yourself due to the negative experience
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Levixne
Love bombing isnt the issue or even a sign of the issue
The issue is when its fake or the person doing it has poor communication or bipolar episodes where they love bomb and then go completely cold.
just saying love bombing itself is a bad thing makes no sense
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Love bombing isnt the issue or even a sign of the issue
The issue is when its fake or the person doing it has poor communication or bipolar episodes where they love bomb and then go completely cold.
just saying love bombing itself is a bad thing makes no sense
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artisan002
The single worst aspect of being in love with a manipulator is the fact that it felt like the truest relationship I've ever had. I've spent a good 4 years deprograming and debriefing from it, and I still can't really discern how much of it was real.
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The single worst aspect of being in love with a manipulator is the fact that it felt like the truest relationship I've ever had. I've spent a good 4 years deprograming and debriefing from it, and I still can't really discern how much of it was real.
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southerncatlady
My ex was a grandmaster level manipulator. Months after the breakup, and I'm STILL uncovering manipulative tactics he used. He was a narcissist, and one the likes of which I've never seen. So glad to have gotten away from him.
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My ex was a grandmaster level manipulator. Months after the breakup, and I'm STILL uncovering manipulative tactics he used. He was a narcissist, and one the likes of which I've never seen. So glad to have gotten away from him.
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pomni. s_insanity
glad you guys talked about this since i was a with manipulator long ago and for others to know: it's not worth it, especially trying to change them and definitely don't fall for the love bomb like i did.
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glad you guys talked about this since i was a with manipulator long ago and for others to know: it's not worth it, especially trying to change them and definitely don't fall for the love bomb like i did.
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fluff9231
Pfft this person was desperate to get me after breaking my heart. We haven't date yet but we're talking, he said he'll persue me when I know damn well it won't work. So I'm just gonna let things cook: )
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Pfft this person was desperate to get me after breaking my heart. We haven't date yet but we're talking, he said he'll persue me when I know damn well it won't work. So I'm just gonna let things cook: )
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