This Is The Horrifying Illegal Adoption Crisis Happening In The USA & Uganda.
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Date: 2019-11-01
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Endwar1997
As a person who was adopted as a child, this story is both horrifying and soul-crushing. Much of that due to the obvious parts of this story, but also because I'm incredibly suspicious of any parents who want to adopt fast and cheap. There's a serious issue amongst adoptive parents that see adoption as less of adding a person to the family and more of a purchase of a commodity. Many couples want to become parents for completely selfish reasons; when they adopt a kid they evaluate the purchase in the same way one might evaluate the purchase of a television: does it work right? Does the feature set work right for me? They expect the kid to function properly right out of the box, so to speak; to love them unconditionally, to always obey and respect them, to go to the college the parents choose for them and get the job the parents want them to get. It isn't about the kind of love biological parents feel for their kids, it's about making a purchase to complete a fantasy they've always had. They end up treating the kid as a commodity rather than a human (let alone their own child, and when that setup inevitably fails they demand to return their defective product. Over 25% of all adoptions end with the child being given up by the parents. It's absolutely sickening, and like I said, it makes me incredibly suspicious of any couple that takes the fastest and cheapest route to adoption. They aren't willing or able to go through the longer and more expensive route, yet they still want a kid regardless. To me that sounds like they aren't really committed to finding and raising the specific child they can love and cherish more than anything or anyone else; it sounds like they just want a kid, any kid will do, and that's a serious red flag. I really hate that this exists. Everything about this is just awful.
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As a person who was adopted as a child, this story is both horrifying and soul-crushing. Much of that due to the obvious parts of this story, but also because I'm incredibly suspicious of any parents who want to adopt fast and cheap. There's a serious issue amongst adoptive parents that see adoption as less of adding a person to the family and more of a purchase of a commodity. Many couples want to become parents for completely selfish reasons; when they adopt a kid they evaluate the purchase in the same way one might evaluate the purchase of a television: does it work right? Does the feature set work right for me? They expect the kid to function properly right out of the box, so to speak; to love them unconditionally, to always obey and respect them, to go to the college the parents choose for them and get the job the parents want them to get. It isn't about the kind of love biological parents feel for their kids, it's about making a purchase to complete a fantasy they've always had. They end up treating the kid as a commodity rather than a human (let alone their own child, and when that setup inevitably fails they demand to return their defective product. Over 25% of all adoptions end with the child being given up by the parents. It's absolutely sickening, and like I said, it makes me incredibly suspicious of any couple that takes the fastest and cheapest route to adoption. They aren't willing or able to go through the longer and more expensive route, yet they still want a kid regardless. To me that sounds like they aren't really committed to finding and raising the specific child they can love and cherish more than anything or anyone else; it sounds like they just want a kid, any kid will do, and that's a serious red flag. I really hate that this exists. Everything about this is just awful.
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Valerie Tang
Dear super amazing person reading this, I hope you have a super awesome day If you dont think you did, just remember that there's always something to be happy about. Its the simplest things that can easily make us happy. Be friendly, nice and help each other out. If you are feeling sad or down, remember that there's always hope. Even if all the doors are closed there's still a window. You are awesome, and you are amazing. You are loved and someone cares about you. Be happy, laugh, smile Suicide is NEVER the answer. Fact is I'm terrified by how easily someone could take their own life. Please stay, there's HOPE You are smart, beautiful, handsome, wayyyy stronger than you think. Someone loves and cares about you. You're worth it, you're good enough, you're not a failure, you're not a piece of trash. Believe in yourself I know some people don't like this and will hate, but i just want more people to be happy and to spread more positive energy. I'm not doing this for myself, I just wanna spread the joy to everyone. Maybe I did make some grammar mistakes and spelled something wrong, but Im just a kid. Im writing this cause i just wanna make everyone happy.
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Dear super amazing person reading this, I hope you have a super awesome day If you dont think you did, just remember that there's always something to be happy about. Its the simplest things that can easily make us happy. Be friendly, nice and help each other out. If you are feeling sad or down, remember that there's always hope. Even if all the doors are closed there's still a window. You are awesome, and you are amazing. You are loved and someone cares about you. Be happy, laugh, smile Suicide is NEVER the answer. Fact is I'm terrified by how easily someone could take their own life. Please stay, there's HOPE You are smart, beautiful, handsome, wayyyy stronger than you think. Someone loves and cares about you. You're worth it, you're good enough, you're not a failure, you're not a piece of trash. Believe in yourself I know some people don't like this and will hate, but i just want more people to be happy and to spread more positive energy. I'm not doing this for myself, I just wanna spread the joy to everyone. Maybe I did make some grammar mistakes and spelled something wrong, but Im just a kid. Im writing this cause i just wanna make everyone happy.
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KatieDidIt
Don't kill me guys. I love this story (the coverage of what I consider to be a very important issue, but I think that the selection of the Ugandan woman in particular was poor. I do not believe that she was not aware of what she was doing. 1) She thought her firstborn son would live in the USA until the age of eighteen. and then return to Uganda? To a virtual stranger as a mother, a completely different culture, language, economic situation? If THAT is what she wanted to happen, that's even crueler than what actually happened. 2) She discovered the adoptions after her money was discontinued3) The judge in the adoption hearing asked her several times if she understood in her language. She later claimed that she thought that she was agreeing to financial support. Financial support. Which she was ALREADY RECEIVING. Why on earth would there be a hearing for someone to RECEIVE MONEY? I'm sorry, but this woman's story is highly suspect. There are many other parents whose stories are legit, though I imagine it's probably hard to find them. I think that this story is incredibly important, I just don't believe her.
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Don't kill me guys. I love this story (the coverage of what I consider to be a very important issue, but I think that the selection of the Ugandan woman in particular was poor. I do not believe that she was not aware of what she was doing. 1) She thought her firstborn son would live in the USA until the age of eighteen. and then return to Uganda? To a virtual stranger as a mother, a completely different culture, language, economic situation? If THAT is what she wanted to happen, that's even crueler than what actually happened. 2) She discovered the adoptions after her money was discontinued3) The judge in the adoption hearing asked her several times if she understood in her language. She later claimed that she thought that she was agreeing to financial support. Financial support. Which she was ALREADY RECEIVING. Why on earth would there be a hearing for someone to RECEIVE MONEY? I'm sorry, but this woman's story is highly suspect. There are many other parents whose stories are legit, though I imagine it's probably hard to find them. I think that this story is incredibly important, I just don't believe her.
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Drew Kabala
Trafficking. So a poor woman in a 3rd world country made an irresponsible decision to get pregnant and raise a child. Realized that she couldn't give the child a good life or hope for a prosperous future and sent the kid away. Kid is brought to America where they have access to healthcare, education, endless opportunity, and now that they have a chance at a good life instead of living in squalor and disease you want bring them back to your 3rd world dump because motherly love? Nah, obviously you have no problem cranking out kids you can't support so just make a few more and raise them, don't try and take back the ones who got out. Selfishness to the absolute extreme. No illiterate mother from Uganda will ever be able to give a child the kind of opportunity they can get with a well off American family. Forget the mother, why would you do that to the kid?
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Trafficking. So a poor woman in a 3rd world country made an irresponsible decision to get pregnant and raise a child. Realized that she couldn't give the child a good life or hope for a prosperous future and sent the kid away. Kid is brought to America where they have access to healthcare, education, endless opportunity, and now that they have a chance at a good life instead of living in squalor and disease you want bring them back to your 3rd world dump because motherly love? Nah, obviously you have no problem cranking out kids you can't support so just make a few more and raise them, don't try and take back the ones who got out. Selfishness to the absolute extreme. No illiterate mother from Uganda will ever be able to give a child the kind of opportunity they can get with a well off American family. Forget the mother, why would you do that to the kid?
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Rowan Aladawy
Okay im gonna try to get my point accross as clearly as possible please bear with me. So, you wanna tell me that thousands of newborn & very young children are being adopted. Okay so who would build this country when the older generations dies? When the younger generations are being adopted and not even lawfully This is absurd. Theyre building a business on completely vanishing any possible future for the country. I believe the solution for this is to ban ALL adoptions and only have sponsorships like the one Appo talked about where the children would leave to study and the parents would take care of them financially and so on while going back to their country of origin (Uganda in this case) every 4 or so years to visit and after the age of 18 they return to their family and country to help build it and develop their own economy. My opinion
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Okay im gonna try to get my point accross as clearly as possible please bear with me. So, you wanna tell me that thousands of newborn & very young children are being adopted. Okay so who would build this country when the older generations dies? When the younger generations are being adopted and not even lawfully This is absurd. Theyre building a business on completely vanishing any possible future for the country. I believe the solution for this is to ban ALL adoptions and only have sponsorships like the one Appo talked about where the children would leave to study and the parents would take care of them financially and so on while going back to their country of origin (Uganda in this case) every 4 or so years to visit and after the age of 18 they return to their family and country to help build it and develop their own economy. My opinion
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Lammy Lams
I think it just comes down to an ugly truth that we don't want to realise, say, or face up to: people in western countries (not all, by any means) think that these people's love matters less, and they don't love as strongly for their children as we do for ours. Because they can't give them an education, or three meals a day, and they have so many other children, and people are always dying all around them, so surely it hurts less to have a child taken away, and hurts less when your child dies of AIDS, famine, conflict, drowning at sea in a leaky boat trying to reach better lands. I think until the universal concept of love being equal for all people and the feeling that, oh it's ok, they've already had so much turmoil in their life, some more won't hurt is eradicated, things like this are an inevitability.
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I think it just comes down to an ugly truth that we don't want to realise, say, or face up to: people in western countries (not all, by any means) think that these people's love matters less, and they don't love as strongly for their children as we do for ours. Because they can't give them an education, or three meals a day, and they have so many other children, and people are always dying all around them, so surely it hurts less to have a child taken away, and hurts less when your child dies of AIDS, famine, conflict, drowning at sea in a leaky boat trying to reach better lands. I think until the universal concept of love being equal for all people and the feeling that, oh it's ok, they've already had so much turmoil in their life, some more won't hurt is eradicated, things like this are an inevitability.
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Iziiola
I'm not from the US but I know that here in Sweden we have very strict laws on adoptions outside of Europe and it costs alot of money. This just terrifies me, children being sold as currency and taken away from their birth parents is heartbreaking and as Lydia said, no-one wants to adopt a child that already has a loving family caring for them. I do feel like it's both parties responsibility to to through-out check to see to it that the child is being adopted legally, both in your country and in the country from which the child is being adopted from. Don't adopt without a proper investigation from a third party. There's so many children who needs a place to call home, we don't need to take from parents who do not wish to give their children up
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I'm not from the US but I know that here in Sweden we have very strict laws on adoptions outside of Europe and it costs alot of money. This just terrifies me, children being sold as currency and taken away from their birth parents is heartbreaking and as Lydia said, no-one wants to adopt a child that already has a loving family caring for them. I do feel like it's both parties responsibility to to through-out check to see to it that the child is being adopted legally, both in your country and in the country from which the child is being adopted from. Don't adopt without a proper investigation from a third party. There's so many children who needs a place to call home, we don't need to take from parents who do not wish to give their children up
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nateo200
I was going to talk with my Congressman about some other stuff whenever he gets the time (he is a family friend) but I definitely going to put this in my notes to mention to him first. He is very very ethical and a man with actual integrity who has helped people with the red tape of adoption and has two adopted sons who are wonderful. He is on several committees and is bipartisan. He is on the Homeland Security Committee and during the past Congress was chairman of the Subcommittee on Transportation Security and some other committees like the counterterrorism and intelligence subcommittee. I suspect he is aware of the issue already though but I'll at least bring it up when I see him if not in a letter or email to him.
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I was going to talk with my Congressman about some other stuff whenever he gets the time (he is a family friend) but I definitely going to put this in my notes to mention to him first. He is very very ethical and a man with actual integrity who has helped people with the red tape of adoption and has two adopted sons who are wonderful. He is on several committees and is bipartisan. He is on the Homeland Security Committee and during the past Congress was chairman of the Subcommittee on Transportation Security and some other committees like the counterterrorism and intelligence subcommittee. I suspect he is aware of the issue already though but I'll at least bring it up when I see him if not in a letter or email to him.
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azkaland
This happened to our family friends but in Haiti. They were going to adopt 2 children and they lived and worked at this creche (which is like an orphanage) for over a year and it turns out that the kids weren't really orphans. Heartbreak aside (and they had 2 biological children who were with them, imagine explaining THAT, they lost tens of thousands of dollars in the process. There's a lot more to the story but that's the gist. Orphanages are HUGE money-makers for the dishonest in developing countries. If not outright trafficking children for adoption, they invite wealthy missionaries to visit and bring gifts and food for the kids, then after they leave they take away the nice clothes, toys, and food and sell it.
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This happened to our family friends but in Haiti. They were going to adopt 2 children and they lived and worked at this creche (which is like an orphanage) for over a year and it turns out that the kids weren't really orphans. Heartbreak aside (and they had 2 biological children who were with them, imagine explaining THAT, they lost tens of thousands of dollars in the process. There's a lot more to the story but that's the gist. Orphanages are HUGE money-makers for the dishonest in developing countries. If not outright trafficking children for adoption, they invite wealthy missionaries to visit and bring gifts and food for the kids, then after they leave they take away the nice clothes, toys, and food and sell it.
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