5 Tips for Dating a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ken
Ladies, I'm going to let you in on a little truth about men. The men that you want, the top 10% in most areas of life, have options and don't need to deal with you being over sensitive and crying all the time. We will simply move on to a different woman who doesn't do that. The wimpy men who will put up with you acting like that aren't the men you'd probably even be attracted to in the first place.
You also don't get to play the, I'll act right for a good man crap either. Again, not how this works. Flip the genders on that and you'll see how rediculous it is. Say you're at the club and a guy you've been scoping out starts walking over to you. He's six feet four, dressed perfectly, educated, clearly has money, works out, and is perfect in just about every way. He walks up to you and says, omg I sooooo love your shoes girl! Where did you get that bag girl? Omg your nails are so frickin pretty I want to die! So like, can I have your phone number and we can maybe like, meet up sometime at the mall and like do some shopping and hit the salon for a mani pedi? Before you answer he says, don't worry, when I meet the right girl, I can be masculine/dominant. How would you react? Would you sleep with someone like that? Date them?
This is how guys look at you when you say, I can be feminine for the right guy. That isn't something you turn on and off. Just like masculinity with men.
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Ladies, I'm going to let you in on a little truth about men. The men that you want, the top 10% in most areas of life, have options and don't need to deal with you being over sensitive and crying all the time. We will simply move on to a different woman who doesn't do that. The wimpy men who will put up with you acting like that aren't the men you'd probably even be attracted to in the first place.
You also don't get to play the, I'll act right for a good man crap either. Again, not how this works. Flip the genders on that and you'll see how rediculous it is. Say you're at the club and a guy you've been scoping out starts walking over to you. He's six feet four, dressed perfectly, educated, clearly has money, works out, and is perfect in just about every way. He walks up to you and says, omg I sooooo love your shoes girl! Where did you get that bag girl? Omg your nails are so frickin pretty I want to die! So like, can I have your phone number and we can maybe like, meet up sometime at the mall and like do some shopping and hit the salon for a mani pedi? Before you answer he says, don't worry, when I meet the right girl, I can be masculine/dominant. How would you react? Would you sleep with someone like that? Date them?
This is how guys look at you when you say, I can be feminine for the right guy. That isn't something you turn on and off. Just like masculinity with men.
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Lotte
Point 5 counts for platonic relationships, too. I think I might be a HSP, because I relate a lot to these signs. There were times I felt (unnecessarily) unloved because I felt like my cup of love was empty. I felt like I was the one giving love and wanting people to feel appreciated, but never got it back. After a time, the cup gets empty. But then I realized there was someone who gave me love. Someone sweet I can relate to. I always end with an I love you to my friends, because I want them to know that I do love them. She was the one who said it back. And over time, two of my other friends told me they love me too: D
Because I felt unloved (even though it was for a short period of time, I accept and welcome love in a different way. I thank people for it and always make sure to give some back.
Often you need to give before you get. But plain love is precious and rare. By sharing it, love can spread. Everyone needs it.
I hope you have a wonderful day!
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Point 5 counts for platonic relationships, too. I think I might be a HSP, because I relate a lot to these signs. There were times I felt (unnecessarily) unloved because I felt like my cup of love was empty. I felt like I was the one giving love and wanting people to feel appreciated, but never got it back. After a time, the cup gets empty. But then I realized there was someone who gave me love. Someone sweet I can relate to. I always end with an I love you to my friends, because I want them to know that I do love them. She was the one who said it back. And over time, two of my other friends told me they love me too: D
Because I felt unloved (even though it was for a short period of time, I accept and welcome love in a different way. I thank people for it and always make sure to give some back.
Often you need to give before you get. But plain love is precious and rare. By sharing it, love can spread. Everyone needs it.
I hope you have a wonderful day!
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ToenyTV
The one thing I found is the honeymoon stage and love bobbing. I love to be positive to the person I am with feel dedicated to a flaw but the misinterpretation is a thing that I cant control. Others emotions mean everything to me. I identify with this HSP. Scenario. But dont think enough people even recognize it as something they are willing to consider. It leaves me wishing I wasnt this way. that all I want to do is love. Sarcasm and lies can leave me felling uneasy with trust. Is that normal? Or is it just me or the other person and how do u cope in your head. I believe in giving everyone a fair chance. But isnt the insanity saying about repeating your mistakes. And what about this HSP SCENARIO AND WHATS NEXT ON BEING WHO YOU ARE? Respect from others is important in emotional self acceptance and trust.
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The one thing I found is the honeymoon stage and love bobbing. I love to be positive to the person I am with feel dedicated to a flaw but the misinterpretation is a thing that I cant control. Others emotions mean everything to me. I identify with this HSP. Scenario. But dont think enough people even recognize it as something they are willing to consider. It leaves me wishing I wasnt this way. that all I want to do is love. Sarcasm and lies can leave me felling uneasy with trust. Is that normal? Or is it just me or the other person and how do u cope in your head. I believe in giving everyone a fair chance. But isnt the insanity saying about repeating your mistakes. And what about this HSP SCENARIO AND WHATS NEXT ON BEING WHO YOU ARE? Respect from others is important in emotional self acceptance and trust.
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george
I am a HSP.
I am Spectrum Autistic.
I am a quiet, kind, man.
My life is compartmentalized,
which to me is a way of saying,
That I have several hats & faces for my activities in life. I am liberal in
my actions at times, while restrictive in others.
I am a day dreamer, and for this reason decided not to ride motorcycles, after some events.
At 63yrs I stopped daily driving & sold my car. I am sliding into senior time, being on the lookout for small pleasures and kindnesses, as I await my passage through the pearly gates.
Heart attack 58yrs
Blood pressure has gone down
Diabetic, but going to normal with diet and walking.
Weight is my life long struggle, due to my sugar addiction.
I'll be fine until I die, OMG
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I am a HSP.
I am Spectrum Autistic.
I am a quiet, kind, man.
My life is compartmentalized,
which to me is a way of saying,
That I have several hats & faces for my activities in life. I am liberal in
my actions at times, while restrictive in others.
I am a day dreamer, and for this reason decided not to ride motorcycles, after some events.
At 63yrs I stopped daily driving & sold my car. I am sliding into senior time, being on the lookout for small pleasures and kindnesses, as I await my passage through the pearly gates.
Heart attack 58yrs
Blood pressure has gone down
Diabetic, but going to normal with diet and walking.
Weight is my life long struggle, due to my sugar addiction.
I'll be fine until I die, OMG
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Shawn
You can NEVER be spontaneous with a HSP. You will live in constant fear and confusion about saying the wrong thing (or saying the right thing the wrong way. You will always be walking on eggshells, and constantly feel like youre failing them. You can do nothing to temper their highly charged emotions or stop their inconsolable crying. Conflict is a fact of life and is the mechanism for growth. Anyone who insists on avoiding it is stunting their development and yours. You will be forever second-guessing yourself as they analyze everything you do and say in their heads with no moderator. You will be miserable! Move on and enjoy life with someone who is capable of doing that!
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You can NEVER be spontaneous with a HSP. You will live in constant fear and confusion about saying the wrong thing (or saying the right thing the wrong way. You will always be walking on eggshells, and constantly feel like youre failing them. You can do nothing to temper their highly charged emotions or stop their inconsolable crying. Conflict is a fact of life and is the mechanism for growth. Anyone who insists on avoiding it is stunting their development and yours. You will be forever second-guessing yourself as they analyze everything you do and say in their heads with no moderator. You will be miserable! Move on and enjoy life with someone who is capable of doing that!
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Kana'i
My partner is a HSP and because of my upbringing and job (bartender in a big city, I'm the opposite; very straightforward and blunt. So much so, that he takes a lot of what I say as being mean and insulting, even though I constantly reassure him during disagreements that's not the case. He basically expects me to coddle him during these moments but can't tell me exactly what he wants when I ask. I genuinely don't know how to articulate my thoughts in a way that would make him feel more comfortable, so we're having a difficult time seeing eye to eye on several things. I feel like he is stubborn and resistant in seeing things from my POV. Does anyone have any advice?
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My partner is a HSP and because of my upbringing and job (bartender in a big city, I'm the opposite; very straightforward and blunt. So much so, that he takes a lot of what I say as being mean and insulting, even though I constantly reassure him during disagreements that's not the case. He basically expects me to coddle him during these moments but can't tell me exactly what he wants when I ask. I genuinely don't know how to articulate my thoughts in a way that would make him feel more comfortable, so we're having a difficult time seeing eye to eye on several things. I feel like he is stubborn and resistant in seeing things from my POV. Does anyone have any advice?
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Jojoru
I think I'm dating a highly sensitive person. She has a lot going on in her life right now, especially now (she lives in the States and I live in Europe. Every time we talk, we talk for hours, but then she's gone for a month or sometimes more. We talked it through many times and she let me know she needs time to recharge. She's also struggling with depression, so that keeps her busy. I really miss her and I want to be understanding, but I must admit it gets lonely for me too. It's going to be 4 years in January. I won't give up on her because I know it's not her fault, and I can't imagine my life without her. She's a sweetie and her presence makes me really happy.
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I think I'm dating a highly sensitive person. She has a lot going on in her life right now, especially now (she lives in the States and I live in Europe. Every time we talk, we talk for hours, but then she's gone for a month or sometimes more. We talked it through many times and she let me know she needs time to recharge. She's also struggling with depression, so that keeps her busy. I really miss her and I want to be understanding, but I must admit it gets lonely for me too. It's going to be 4 years in January. I won't give up on her because I know it's not her fault, and I can't imagine my life without her. She's a sweetie and her presence makes me really happy.
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Manuel
My girlfriend is highly sensitive but also pressures herself to do things against her will. Like going to a crowded place because I said I wanted to be there. So she constantly goes with my flow as it seems to me she is kind of a pleaser. And she is also very stubborn. How can I get her to things she wants herself? She is highly sensitive but also a perfectionist and when I ask what she likes she tries to let me say it first wat I like and we end up doing my thing. Is there a way to make her more comfortable with the things she wants?
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My girlfriend is highly sensitive but also pressures herself to do things against her will. Like going to a crowded place because I said I wanted to be there. So she constantly goes with my flow as it seems to me she is kind of a pleaser. And she is also very stubborn. How can I get her to things she wants herself? She is highly sensitive but also a perfectionist and when I ask what she likes she tries to let me say it first wat I like and we end up doing my thing. Is there a way to make her more comfortable with the things she wants?
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Joe
Glad to see this video and some good comments too. It made me realize the need to be sensitive to my HS partner. I would say this is not easy because in my experience an HSP may give your remarks or actions an interpretation that you never imagined, which can can mean your being made into someone you are not, for no fault of yours! The trigger for this behavior might be coming from past experiences. What I would like to know is whether over time, with the other partner's patience, an HSP becomes less sensitive or not. Any thoughts?
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Glad to see this video and some good comments too. It made me realize the need to be sensitive to my HS partner. I would say this is not easy because in my experience an HSP may give your remarks or actions an interpretation that you never imagined, which can can mean your being made into someone you are not, for no fault of yours! The trigger for this behavior might be coming from past experiences. What I would like to know is whether over time, with the other partner's patience, an HSP becomes less sensitive or not. Any thoughts?
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Goofy
Guys. a great advise for anyone who is or wants to date an hsp. I just wanna tell you a thing about hsps. they like living in the moment. so take them to a place where there is all quite around and (JUST) you and them. like at the beach at night. Just take them to a special place that makes them feel good. and if you do so. they will feel the same way they feel about the enviorment and as an Hsp. remember to take them to a place where there is just you and them.
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Guys. a great advise for anyone who is or wants to date an hsp. I just wanna tell you a thing about hsps. they like living in the moment. so take them to a place where there is all quite around and (JUST) you and them. like at the beach at night. Just take them to a special place that makes them feel good. and if you do so. they will feel the same way they feel about the enviorment and as an Hsp. remember to take them to a place where there is just you and them.
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airbatt
It's more difficult as a guy, every time I try getting close with a girl, they suddenly stop texting and slowly ghost away. I understand everyone has their things to do, but it kinda hurts after so much contact leading to nothing. I try not letting it get personal but as an HSP it's almost impossible to not get hurt. I just want to experience a balanced relationship for once. I guess I'll have to start telling people who I really am.
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It's more difficult as a guy, every time I try getting close with a girl, they suddenly stop texting and slowly ghost away. I understand everyone has their things to do, but it kinda hurts after so much contact leading to nothing. I try not letting it get personal but as an HSP it's almost impossible to not get hurt. I just want to experience a balanced relationship for once. I guess I'll have to start telling people who I really am.
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Thabo
My girlfriend is a HSP and this video helps a lot because this video describes who she is perfectly. I would get anxious because I wouldn't know what to do, she would give so much of herself and she would get drained. Then I would try to give as much as she does and she still gets drained. I really love her and I'm willing to do anything for her. This video really simplified things. Thank you!
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My girlfriend is a HSP and this video helps a lot because this video describes who she is perfectly. I would get anxious because I wouldn't know what to do, she would give so much of herself and she would get drained. Then I would try to give as much as she does and she still gets drained. I really love her and I'm willing to do anything for her. This video really simplified things. Thank you!
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Proud
Here I am 44 years old and just now trying to understand myself, I was always told I was too sensitive and asked why does TV and movies both me so much? I don't know any of these answers but I figure I need to start before the pain in my chest all the time forces a bigger problem. How do I get this under control? I know there is a lot of good but the bad is really holding me back.
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Here I am 44 years old and just now trying to understand myself, I was always told I was too sensitive and asked why does TV and movies both me so much? I don't know any of these answers but I figure I need to start before the pain in my chest all the time forces a bigger problem. How do I get this under control? I know there is a lot of good but the bad is really holding me back.
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Isabel
This is such an incredible video! I wish I wouldve known this waaay before and couldve saved many arguments. I am definitely with a HSP and with me being an extrovert who loves change and surprises and can be intense sometimes- I didnt understand whats going on with him most of the time. Thanks for making this video guys
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This is such an incredible video! I wish I wouldve known this waaay before and couldve saved many arguments. I am definitely with a HSP and with me being an extrovert who loves change and surprises and can be intense sometimes- I didnt understand whats going on with him most of the time. Thanks for making this video guys
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Lola
For years I struggled with this.
Now As an HSP I call it my super power. My Intuition is on point, its like magic sometimes! When I follow my gut I can never go wrong. I am truly amazing and a nice walk on the beach or an evening curled up drinking tea and watching iron man never did me any harm.
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For years I struggled with this.
Now As an HSP I call it my super power. My Intuition is on point, its like magic sometimes! When I follow my gut I can never go wrong. I am truly amazing and a nice walk on the beach or an evening curled up drinking tea and watching iron man never did me any harm.
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pagophilus
Not even just for dating but for forming good, solid friendships with them. They make the best friends. But being a borderline HSP it's something I've figured out for myself. (I'm not fully HSP but share many traits) I just love connecting with HSP's because I feel I understand them.
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Not even just for dating but for forming good, solid friendships with them. They make the best friends. But being a borderline HSP it's something I've figured out for myself. (I'm not fully HSP but share many traits) I just love connecting with HSP's because I feel I understand them.
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Kaylee
I've got HSP and I just want to say for the not overstimulating environment I personally would not recommend the beach just due to how it can be very overwhelming (the sand especially) or just make sure whoever you're going with is comfortable at the beach
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I've got HSP and I just want to say for the not overstimulating environment I personally would not recommend the beach just due to how it can be very overwhelming (the sand especially) or just make sure whoever you're going with is comfortable at the beach
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joel
I am a highly sensitive person, loved by everyone that knows me. Divorced twice, well understanding how I am. I see what people arent saying, and they love it until it gets to them. People like when nobody cares. Then they can be themselves unnoticed.
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I am a highly sensitive person, loved by everyone that knows me. Divorced twice, well understanding how I am. I see what people arent saying, and they love it until it gets to them. People like when nobody cares. Then they can be themselves unnoticed.
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AsianBoy
My girlfriend and I broke up because of her being too sensitive.
one time when we were chatting online, I just stated that girls look better with shorter eyelashes
and she literally wrote a paragraph about me being insensitive.
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My girlfriend and I broke up because of her being too sensitive.
one time when we were chatting online, I just stated that girls look better with shorter eyelashes
and she literally wrote a paragraph about me being insensitive.
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Ryan
Am HSP its hard dating for me its a tightrope dont beat yourself up. I need someone who understand me theres nothing wrong with you. Its about these things they are talking about. You shouldnt be approaching me like am everyone else.
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Am HSP its hard dating for me its a tightrope dont beat yourself up. I need someone who understand me theres nothing wrong with you. Its about these things they are talking about. You shouldnt be approaching me like am everyone else.
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Sil
Thank you. I feel that I belong in this world. Even though we all are different, there is room for HSP people. That is exactly how I feel when go to crowded places, which I avoid as much as possible and I dont like confrontation.
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Thank you. I feel that I belong in this world. Even though we all are different, there is room for HSP people. That is exactly how I feel when go to crowded places, which I avoid as much as possible and I dont like confrontation.
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Exp1rEd
This helped a lot! My boyfriend is very sensitive and weve only been together for 4 months. I used to bother him a lot not knowing he was sensitive, now bc of this video I know to give him his space. Thank you very much!
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This helped a lot! My boyfriend is very sensitive and weve only been together for 4 months. I used to bother him a lot not knowing he was sensitive, now bc of this video I know to give him his space. Thank you very much!
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Eddie
What if my partner is HSP but also has depression, anxiety, low self esteem, bipolar? Its a dangerous combination, its been almost impossible to overcome and our relationship is getting destroyed, probably already is.
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What if my partner is HSP but also has depression, anxiety, low self esteem, bipolar? Its a dangerous combination, its been almost impossible to overcome and our relationship is getting destroyed, probably already is.
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Jenna
I'm definitely a HSP and always think with my heart. My boyfriend on the other hand isn't a HSP and thinks with his head. So I appreciate this video and will be sharing it with him when he gets home.
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I'm definitely a HSP and always think with my heart. My boyfriend on the other hand isn't a HSP and thinks with his head. So I appreciate this video and will be sharing it with him when he gets home.
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A.
Sounds like HSP who embrace being HSP are likely to be self-centered people who expect everyone to adjust rather than doing some inner work to not make themselves less uncomfortable to be around.
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Sounds like HSP who embrace being HSP are likely to be self-centered people who expect everyone to adjust rather than doing some inner work to not make themselves less uncomfortable to be around.
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