10 Signs You Have a Toxic Friend
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Date: 2023-08-20
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TryingToUser
I have a friend that I would call toxic. The friendship started when he suddenly said he's going to pay what I have in my hands in a 7-eleven store. He did this in about 4 times a week for 2 months. After this, we apparently formed a group of 6 people. He's pretty much the rich kid. He's also the same kid that threw his math book & went bonkers in the class after he got yelled by our math teacher. Some did tried to stop and it worked. After that, he went to the boys toilet to cool down. Time pass by, he started to manipulate my life. He started pulling my hair, punching me, even poke my butt so hard to the point that it felt like it can't fart. He stole my pen and told me it's his but clearly it's mine. When I politely asked for it back, he declined and said I'm lying. I thought about telling the teacher about this but my introvert self kept my mouth shut. Recently, he decided to force take my tote bag when we were doing a creative sewing project(I brought 2. I asked it back and he said he needs it and tells me he will pay back. Yesterday, (3 weeks later) I asked for the payment back and he said the bag is ripped and he can't pay me. Last week, we had a report card session and my dad noticed him using the bag. He asked me why did I let him use it although it's for the project not him. I told my dad that he said he's going to pay back. He said if my friend didn't pay back, he's going to meet his father. Later, he told me I need to fight back and stop people from manipulating my life. Which led me here. I'm the type of guy that speak but stutters a lot. I've been like this for the past 6 years. He even said I could unfriend him and it's way better without him. The thing is, if I unfriended him, he will tell the other members that I betrayed him and tell them to unfriend me(same goes if I reported him for stealing. That's the worst part, members unfriending me will left me stranded in loneliness. Basically, unfriending him is hard and will lead to emptiness in life. 2 choices, either keep the same thing the same way or just accept that I need to let go. So the real question is:
How to deal with this?
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I have a friend that I would call toxic. The friendship started when he suddenly said he's going to pay what I have in my hands in a 7-eleven store. He did this in about 4 times a week for 2 months. After this, we apparently formed a group of 6 people. He's pretty much the rich kid. He's also the same kid that threw his math book & went bonkers in the class after he got yelled by our math teacher. Some did tried to stop and it worked. After that, he went to the boys toilet to cool down. Time pass by, he started to manipulate my life. He started pulling my hair, punching me, even poke my butt so hard to the point that it felt like it can't fart. He stole my pen and told me it's his but clearly it's mine. When I politely asked for it back, he declined and said I'm lying. I thought about telling the teacher about this but my introvert self kept my mouth shut. Recently, he decided to force take my tote bag when we were doing a creative sewing project(I brought 2. I asked it back and he said he needs it and tells me he will pay back. Yesterday, (3 weeks later) I asked for the payment back and he said the bag is ripped and he can't pay me. Last week, we had a report card session and my dad noticed him using the bag. He asked me why did I let him use it although it's for the project not him. I told my dad that he said he's going to pay back. He said if my friend didn't pay back, he's going to meet his father. Later, he told me I need to fight back and stop people from manipulating my life. Which led me here. I'm the type of guy that speak but stutters a lot. I've been like this for the past 6 years. He even said I could unfriend him and it's way better without him. The thing is, if I unfriended him, he will tell the other members that I betrayed him and tell them to unfriend me(same goes if I reported him for stealing. That's the worst part, members unfriending me will left me stranded in loneliness. Basically, unfriending him is hard and will lead to emptiness in life. 2 choices, either keep the same thing the same way or just accept that I need to let go. So the real question is:
How to deal with this?
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luvvlay
I need some help with friendship please. So i had this friend group of 4 and it was perfect, but then one friend moved to another country and everything changed. We became a trio but the two people keep talking about what they like and never what I do. I told them once how i was feeling and one of them said it is not such a big deal and its just because they have more similar intrests. Bur everything keeps going, they have matching pfps and matching usernames, so i asked them why they didnt asked me. They say said its because they thought i didnt like what the chose or i should have asked if i wanted to. Im not sure, am i overreacting because everytime i tell my friends i feel left out they just say its not a big deal. And the other friend who left to another country always says mean stuff like i lack of common sense or my personality turned bad over the summer or i brag everytime even if i said something like I got a salad from and expensive resturant she would ssay i was bragging and am super selfish for saying that, i really dont mean it. Now i have habit of saying sorry to everything and my friends say i should be.
I really want a new friend group but theyre my only friends, the other people i were really mean to, i never realized it until my friends are turning against me. I am really sorry to those people i was mean to but ik its too late. I have no one i trust anymore or no one that i can vent. Even thought ik this is a comment that no one will respond, it is nice to type everything. If someone does find this comment, please am i overreacting or not
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I need some help with friendship please. So i had this friend group of 4 and it was perfect, but then one friend moved to another country and everything changed. We became a trio but the two people keep talking about what they like and never what I do. I told them once how i was feeling and one of them said it is not such a big deal and its just because they have more similar intrests. Bur everything keeps going, they have matching pfps and matching usernames, so i asked them why they didnt asked me. They say said its because they thought i didnt like what the chose or i should have asked if i wanted to. Im not sure, am i overreacting because everytime i tell my friends i feel left out they just say its not a big deal. And the other friend who left to another country always says mean stuff like i lack of common sense or my personality turned bad over the summer or i brag everytime even if i said something like I got a salad from and expensive resturant she would ssay i was bragging and am super selfish for saying that, i really dont mean it. Now i have habit of saying sorry to everything and my friends say i should be.
I really want a new friend group but theyre my only friends, the other people i were really mean to, i never realized it until my friends are turning against me. I am really sorry to those people i was mean to but ik its too late. I have no one i trust anymore or no one that i can vent. Even thought ik this is a comment that no one will respond, it is nice to type everything. If someone does find this comment, please am i overreacting or not
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bruceleena
I do. My BFF who I known for years. She has NOT been a good friend for awhile now. She does bring up past stuff that I did wrong. She also tells me that she is jealous of me and my husband and the friendships we have with others. She is also talking about be behind my back to my other friends. She also uses manipulation because I tell her No on things. For a example, she has been going through a lot, but she Always have something going on. She asked me to come over to help her clean her house. I told her no. Then she flips out on me and later she ghost me and then starts talking bad about me to another friend. I also recently lost a baby. I didnt tell her because her husband and her anniversary day. So I waited. Once I told her, she said she will support me through this. But, she dumps her problems the very next day in a group chat and not once asked how I am doing or feeling. She got mad that I said no and flipped out on me and basically I am the bad friend and I am trying to write her off and I am this and I am that. Right now I am not even acknowledging her messages and she has been super quiet: ) kinda nice
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I do. My BFF who I known for years. She has NOT been a good friend for awhile now. She does bring up past stuff that I did wrong. She also tells me that she is jealous of me and my husband and the friendships we have with others. She is also talking about be behind my back to my other friends. She also uses manipulation because I tell her No on things. For a example, she has been going through a lot, but she Always have something going on. She asked me to come over to help her clean her house. I told her no. Then she flips out on me and later she ghost me and then starts talking bad about me to another friend. I also recently lost a baby. I didnt tell her because her husband and her anniversary day. So I waited. Once I told her, she said she will support me through this. But, she dumps her problems the very next day in a group chat and not once asked how I am doing or feeling. She got mad that I said no and flipped out on me and basically I am the bad friend and I am trying to write her off and I am this and I am that. Right now I am not even acknowledging her messages and she has been super quiet: ) kinda nice
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Username_2. 0
Idk if shes actually a fake friend or is joking around, I hope its the 2nd option because my friend is a little rude sometimes, she says my art looks like nothing and that she considers herself the best artist, yes I understand the confidence. so I took it as a joke and self love and confidence but then she says that when we are seat partners in science class she whispered ugh I wanna sit with (insert other friend of mine) and it was forced partner seats. She would scream at me to not do something but then the teacher says its ok to do that and then doesnt even say sorry and gets embarrassed and Im truly sorry for this super long ultra crazy long essay but I dont wanna summarize it anyways after telling me to do better and let my brain work better and that stuff oh and not to mention she said that shes the idk mean sassy pressuring friend and she wasnt wrong tho. sorry friend but this is too much to handle, it was my fault probably anyways so anyways have a good day
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Idk if shes actually a fake friend or is joking around, I hope its the 2nd option because my friend is a little rude sometimes, she says my art looks like nothing and that she considers herself the best artist, yes I understand the confidence. so I took it as a joke and self love and confidence but then she says that when we are seat partners in science class she whispered ugh I wanna sit with (insert other friend of mine) and it was forced partner seats. She would scream at me to not do something but then the teacher says its ok to do that and then doesnt even say sorry and gets embarrassed and Im truly sorry for this super long ultra crazy long essay but I dont wanna summarize it anyways after telling me to do better and let my brain work better and that stuff oh and not to mention she said that shes the idk mean sassy pressuring friend and she wasnt wrong tho. sorry friend but this is too much to handle, it was my fault probably anyways so anyways have a good day
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Tedmundthegreat
I really dont want to be friends with my friend who Im with right now actually, but I cant not be friends with her, Ive known her since we were born, literally. Ive been in countless holidays with her, shes always been their. But always shes been a rude bully who is snarky, forceful guilt trips, manipulates. Today was almost the final straw after she called me a retard and I snapped at her. But she just shrugged and said
What you going to do about it.
She has a harder life then I do, her mother is lovely but also a bit crazy, her dad is out of the picture and her poor poor sister is moving out as soon as possible.
But I cant I unfriend her since her sister and my sister (older, they have been friends since like year 1 and theyre 19 now)
Sorry to vent just want advice
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I really dont want to be friends with my friend who Im with right now actually, but I cant not be friends with her, Ive known her since we were born, literally. Ive been in countless holidays with her, shes always been their. But always shes been a rude bully who is snarky, forceful guilt trips, manipulates. Today was almost the final straw after she called me a retard and I snapped at her. But she just shrugged and said
What you going to do about it.
She has a harder life then I do, her mother is lovely but also a bit crazy, her dad is out of the picture and her poor poor sister is moving out as soon as possible.
But I cant I unfriend her since her sister and my sister (older, they have been friends since like year 1 and theyre 19 now)
Sorry to vent just want advice
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Evelyn
I had a probably toxic friend at a very young age. My friend became a completely different person over the summer, she bully's me but, she says it's all a joke. Over time the comments became more hurt full and as a 9 year old, it hurt a lot more because at that age, kids aren't aware of what they can do. I told her so many times that I felt hurt but she always said, deal with it or stop being my friend. I ignored her because I decided I don't want to crash it down, I want to slowly bring or friendship down because I don't want to hurt her. I wish I ended it earlier because I became very self aware and I felt ugly or not good enough that stayed like that for a year, but I'm glad it ended before it got worse.
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I had a probably toxic friend at a very young age. My friend became a completely different person over the summer, she bully's me but, she says it's all a joke. Over time the comments became more hurt full and as a 9 year old, it hurt a lot more because at that age, kids aren't aware of what they can do. I told her so many times that I felt hurt but she always said, deal with it or stop being my friend. I ignored her because I decided I don't want to crash it down, I want to slowly bring or friendship down because I don't want to hurt her. I wish I ended it earlier because I became very self aware and I felt ugly or not good enough that stayed like that for a year, but I'm glad it ended before it got worse.
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Shiron91
I had an ex friend always making me feel like that I wasnt good enough whenever I tried to comfort him. Now keep in mind as well Im not very good with reading people or anything because of my mental disability which was high functioning autism but just because I have autism it doesnt mean I dont care Im just not good at expressing feeling really well. And I always felt like my friend never really cared about that and just wanted to make excuses and complaints and trying to make me feel bad there were a lot of things that he did to me that was mentioned in the video I felt like an idiot still being his friend. But now that I cut ties with him a couple days ago I feel a lot lighter than I have before.
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I had an ex friend always making me feel like that I wasnt good enough whenever I tried to comfort him. Now keep in mind as well Im not very good with reading people or anything because of my mental disability which was high functioning autism but just because I have autism it doesnt mean I dont care Im just not good at expressing feeling really well. And I always felt like my friend never really cared about that and just wanted to make excuses and complaints and trying to make me feel bad there were a lot of things that he did to me that was mentioned in the video I felt like an idiot still being his friend. But now that I cut ties with him a couple days ago I feel a lot lighter than I have before.
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xLxcy_edits
I just realised this friend of mine checked off 7 of the 10 boxes here. She used to be great, but she was a little bit too clingy and used to get dissapointed or frustrated when I was too busy to actually make plans for her. She's always jealous about my success, disrespects my decisions, gives me a hard time and more. She also gives me a really hard time about the mistakes I made, I used to gossip about her once. and hear me out, I regret that so much that up to this day I still have this large lump of regret sitting inside me. I'm now having second thoughts and I think she's treating me this way due to my past mistakes. What should I do?
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I just realised this friend of mine checked off 7 of the 10 boxes here. She used to be great, but she was a little bit too clingy and used to get dissapointed or frustrated when I was too busy to actually make plans for her. She's always jealous about my success, disrespects my decisions, gives me a hard time and more. She also gives me a really hard time about the mistakes I made, I used to gossip about her once. and hear me out, I regret that so much that up to this day I still have this large lump of regret sitting inside me. I'm now having second thoughts and I think she's treating me this way due to my past mistakes. What should I do?
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Beth
dear psych2gok
my friend pheoebie always says i should stay inside and not speak to my mother. She also keeps a calender and tracks my menstrual cycle as well as my ovulation. She has recently started to bring up forced births. Is this a sign that i should stand my ground and stop letting her handcuff me to her radiator?
Thanks again to the psych2go team, you always seem to know the right course of action.
Good luck with the business (shout out to the amazing cast and crew)
Can't wait to hear back from you guys: )
Lots of lovin and smoochin,
Beth (Collihole (2004 (York, North Yorkshire (UK)
xxx
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dear psych2gok
my friend pheoebie always says i should stay inside and not speak to my mother. She also keeps a calender and tracks my menstrual cycle as well as my ovulation. She has recently started to bring up forced births. Is this a sign that i should stand my ground and stop letting her handcuff me to her radiator?
Thanks again to the psych2go team, you always seem to know the right course of action.
Good luck with the business (shout out to the amazing cast and crew)
Can't wait to hear back from you guys: )
Lots of lovin and smoochin,
Beth (Collihole (2004 (York, North Yorkshire (UK)
xxx
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Lyssa
I just now dropped my best friend of 4 years and I feel really good about myself. I didnt even realize that she wasnt a good friend until last year but I couldnt bring myself to drop her, I loved her to much. But just today, I was done with her senanagains and I did the thing I have wanted to do for a while now. It honestly felt like I was walking on eggshells around her and i couldnt do it anymore. It also felt like I was stuck in a bubble for 4 years and it finally popped and now Im free
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I just now dropped my best friend of 4 years and I feel really good about myself. I didnt even realize that she wasnt a good friend until last year but I couldnt bring myself to drop her, I loved her to much. But just today, I was done with her senanagains and I did the thing I have wanted to do for a while now. It honestly felt like I was walking on eggshells around her and i couldnt do it anymore. It also felt like I was stuck in a bubble for 4 years and it finally popped and now Im free
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Aditiiii
My friends are literally planning to go out when i am constantly telling them to postpone the plan because I have medical appointments. But they just keep ignoring my MSG.
Is this a toxic friendship? Before u guys say no i want to add more that they always exclude me from literally EVERYTHING! And when i get emotional abt it, they come to me and say no we are not like that but I feel inferior when i am around them! Please tell me should i leave them?
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My friends are literally planning to go out when i am constantly telling them to postpone the plan because I have medical appointments. But they just keep ignoring my MSG.
Is this a toxic friendship? Before u guys say no i want to add more that they always exclude me from literally EVERYTHING! And when i get emotional abt it, they come to me and say no we are not like that but I feel inferior when i am around them! Please tell me should i leave them?
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BestiesCookies
Guys I have toxic friend and her mum and my our friends and each time I try to break this friendship her mum texts/calls my mum and blame me and then my mum would be quite disappointed or mad at me so I would have to be friends again and I have no clue how to break this toxic uncomfortable friendship so guys do u have any idea if u do please tell but dont say tell ur mum bc my mum wouldnt just feel my pain: (
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Guys I have toxic friend and her mum and my our friends and each time I try to break this friendship her mum texts/calls my mum and blame me and then my mum would be quite disappointed or mad at me so I would have to be friends again and I have no clue how to break this toxic uncomfortable friendship so guys do u have any idea if u do please tell but dont say tell ur mum bc my mum wouldnt just feel my pain: (
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Chris
Sometimes I get sad thinking about how I'm not friends with my ex-best friends from highschool anymore, but then I remember how one would always making joking insults about my appearance and would continue to not handle communication and the other literally replaced me and called that person a better me and has always tried to be sneaky about going after guys she thought or knew I was interested in. Yikes.
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Sometimes I get sad thinking about how I'm not friends with my ex-best friends from highschool anymore, but then I remember how one would always making joking insults about my appearance and would continue to not handle communication and the other literally replaced me and called that person a better me and has always tried to be sneaky about going after guys she thought or knew I was interested in. Yikes.
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herrai
yes I start questioning the reason of our friendship in the first place like whyyy she always makes me feel bad about my self intentionally or not and when I talk she doubt a lot of things I said even if they didn't need a check it's just my opinions: ) while I always respect hers and encourage her to say more to me because I'm her firend, lately she also hide a lot of things from me for no reason
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yes I start questioning the reason of our friendship in the first place like whyyy she always makes me feel bad about my self intentionally or not and when I talk she doubt a lot of things I said even if they didn't need a check it's just my opinions: ) while I always respect hers and encourage her to say more to me because I'm her firend, lately she also hide a lot of things from me for no reason
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ThePuppin
I had a friend who would tell me terribly triggering things, then act like she couldn't understand why with my history I might find those things triggering. She would smother me and wonder why I'd stay away from her even though I'd explain it. Then she'd do and say awful stuff to others, but use me as an emotional punching bag over the tiniest infractions
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I had a friend who would tell me terribly triggering things, then act like she couldn't understand why with my history I might find those things triggering. She would smother me and wonder why I'd stay away from her even though I'd explain it. Then she'd do and say awful stuff to others, but use me as an emotional punching bag over the tiniest infractions
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Silk
Thank you, this video helped me realise how toxic my two best friends are they are always making me uncomfortable and like the only thing Im good for is to dump their problems on me and no longer worry about it. Also whenever I speak they just look at me as of Im a piece of inconvenient dirt that just happened to be there.
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Thank you, this video helped me realise how toxic my two best friends are they are always making me uncomfortable and like the only thing Im good for is to dump their problems on me and no longer worry about it. Also whenever I speak they just look at me as of Im a piece of inconvenient dirt that just happened to be there.
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bdfunke
Does anyone have a perfect friend that doesnt judge, compete with you, tease you, have other people in their life? I do I guess but I call her my dog. I think this video is inadvertently describes what you should get as a friend. Quite honestly, I dont know why these videos are in my feed in the first place. ;)
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Does anyone have a perfect friend that doesnt judge, compete with you, tease you, have other people in their life? I do I guess but I call her my dog. I think this video is inadvertently describes what you should get as a friend. Quite honestly, I dont know why these videos are in my feed in the first place. ;)
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dina4u
hi a question, i think IM the toxic friend but when my friend saw my bffs she started to talk to them, like talking to them WAYYY more and like she talked to them like she was their bff i think im the one and one time i told her i had a headache and she was like and? ive had a headache since this month
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hi a question, i think IM the toxic friend but when my friend saw my bffs she started to talk to them, like talking to them WAYYY more and like she talked to them like she was their bff i think im the one and one time i told her i had a headache and she was like and? ive had a headache since this month
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Sarah
I have many friends, but after meeting this friend everything changed, I introduced her to my other friends but she finally took all my friends and I was exiled. Yeah I wish I could turn back time and if I met her I wouldn't want to know her again. My biggest regret in highschool life.
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I have many friends, but after meeting this friend everything changed, I introduced her to my other friends but she finally took all my friends and I was exiled. Yeah I wish I could turn back time and if I met her I wouldn't want to know her again. My biggest regret in highschool life.
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Silk
Also next video can u mention something about friends who dont talk badly about you but they only ever talk to when they want to talk badly about someone else? Like someone who only uses you as someone they can make bad decisions with but know that you will never tell them off.
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Also next video can u mention something about friends who dont talk badly about you but they only ever talk to when they want to talk badly about someone else? Like someone who only uses you as someone they can make bad decisions with but know that you will never tell them off.
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Zotoro
Its better to lay off than trying to fit in with a toxic person. I've experienced this, its like a toxic relationship very unhealthy. Distancing from toxicity is a good move rather than stayed and be a punching bag forever, staying away with toxic people is a good move.
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Its better to lay off than trying to fit in with a toxic person. I've experienced this, its like a toxic relationship very unhealthy. Distancing from toxicity is a good move rather than stayed and be a punching bag forever, staying away with toxic people is a good move.
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Random_dog
The day before yesterday my best friend at school called me an ugly disgusting freak for not doing a dare she said. She's manipulative and she always makes up fights for little things. Definitely considering our friendship.
Tysm for making this video Psych2Go
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The day before yesterday my best friend at school called me an ugly disgusting freak for not doing a dare she said. She's manipulative and she always makes up fights for little things. Definitely considering our friendship.
Tysm for making this video Psych2Go
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Bhavya
I had preety good friends, but once i told them I have a quota or reservation in college seats due to a particular category they freaking changed. Now they all look and call names, i always take the initiative to hangout and still it feels shitty
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I had preety good friends, but once i told them I have a quota or reservation in college seats due to a particular category they freaking changed. Now they all look and call names, i always take the initiative to hangout and still it feels shitty
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Cartoon
Ive ended a16 year old friendships its absolutely heartbreaking especially when youre in your 40 with no other friends but it was toxic, abusive and needed to be end I know it will take time to heal but i need to do it for my own mental health
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Ive ended a16 year old friendships its absolutely heartbreaking especially when youre in your 40 with no other friends but it was toxic, abusive and needed to be end I know it will take time to heal but i need to do it for my own mental health
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WHYDIDIKEEPTHISUP
My neighbor is my toxic friend, and my parents and their parents are also toxic friends, and my little brother and sister also have a toxic friendship with their son. But neither of us are planning on moving. Kill me now.
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My neighbor is my toxic friend, and my parents and their parents are also toxic friends, and my little brother and sister also have a toxic friendship with their son. But neither of us are planning on moving. Kill me now.
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