Crushing vs Being in Love: 5 Ways To Tell
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Katie
I. I feel disconnected. From everybody. I've had crushes but. I've never fallen in love. And I'm starting to doubt whether I love anyone, even my parents. They are the most incredible people I know and they are so good to me, my safety net, always by me supporting me. But I am so selfish. Yes, I get those feelings of 'love' you described, but actions speak louder than words and I can't remember the last time I put my own wants aside and attended to theirs instead. Can't remember the last time I actually _sacrificed_ anything. And the worst thing is that I'm aware of this and don't do anything about it. I feel like I want to but- maybe I don't care enough. Maybe I'm just really greedy and selfish and care more about myself than anyone else.
I do what they ask and feel guilty when I make them unhappy. But I don't _do_ anything, you know? I think I'm spoiled. I love their attention, am flowing with how much they give me, but I feel selfish for taking up their attention. and still feeling distant. I hate telling them my problems, hate concerning them, but I do it anyway because I'm selfish. Want, need their comfort. Even when I try to do things for them my mind twists it into something for my own gain. I can't even bring myself to push them away, because I'm selfish and want to keep them close. I feel like I'm gaining off of their love and giving nothing in return, even though I'm a cuddly and affectionate person. I'm moody. It rubs off on them sometimes and I hate it. But I can't stop. I can't stop feeling like a burden, like I'm not doing enough.
And now I'm feeling guilty again for spilling this online, how desperate am I? Stop looking for pity. I'm pathetic, I'm insecure. I'm just fed up.
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I. I feel disconnected. From everybody. I've had crushes but. I've never fallen in love. And I'm starting to doubt whether I love anyone, even my parents. They are the most incredible people I know and they are so good to me, my safety net, always by me supporting me. But I am so selfish. Yes, I get those feelings of 'love' you described, but actions speak louder than words and I can't remember the last time I put my own wants aside and attended to theirs instead. Can't remember the last time I actually _sacrificed_ anything. And the worst thing is that I'm aware of this and don't do anything about it. I feel like I want to but- maybe I don't care enough. Maybe I'm just really greedy and selfish and care more about myself than anyone else.
I do what they ask and feel guilty when I make them unhappy. But I don't _do_ anything, you know? I think I'm spoiled. I love their attention, am flowing with how much they give me, but I feel selfish for taking up their attention. and still feeling distant. I hate telling them my problems, hate concerning them, but I do it anyway because I'm selfish. Want, need their comfort. Even when I try to do things for them my mind twists it into something for my own gain. I can't even bring myself to push them away, because I'm selfish and want to keep them close. I feel like I'm gaining off of their love and giving nothing in return, even though I'm a cuddly and affectionate person. I'm moody. It rubs off on them sometimes and I hate it. But I can't stop. I can't stop feeling like a burden, like I'm not doing enough.
And now I'm feeling guilty again for spilling this online, how desperate am I? Stop looking for pity. I'm pathetic, I'm insecure. I'm just fed up.
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Llwelyn
This actually confused me. Cause I've had a thing for a girl since I was say about 12/13. Forward to 5/6 years later and I have an even stronger feeling towards her. But unfortunately she doesn't feel the same, or well I haven't told her again(told her when I was 13) but I doubt she'd feel the same. But the reason I'm confused is cause the thing I'm talking about is when I see her I get butterflies, my head goes blank and as you explain that's basicly a crush. Although I feel like we've had like deep connecting moments without even speaking to each other. So I would like to know how do I know if I'm actually in love with her or just have a huuggee crush before I try and make my move?
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This actually confused me. Cause I've had a thing for a girl since I was say about 12/13. Forward to 5/6 years later and I have an even stronger feeling towards her. But unfortunately she doesn't feel the same, or well I haven't told her again(told her when I was 13) but I doubt she'd feel the same. But the reason I'm confused is cause the thing I'm talking about is when I see her I get butterflies, my head goes blank and as you explain that's basicly a crush. Although I feel like we've had like deep connecting moments without even speaking to each other. So I would like to know how do I know if I'm actually in love with her or just have a huuggee crush before I try and make my move?
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Sam
I have made a deep connection with someone right off the bat. She and I are connected in ways that I've not connected with anyone at all, and she feels that same way.
But we're unsure about how to go, she's in a toxic relationship and I'm hoping she leaves her boyfriend to actually pursue her happiness. I don't mind her being single after him because it may be what she needs tbh
She and I are like copy/paste. She and I are so alike, it's crazy. Might call her my Sylvie. I'm feeling feelings a lot stronger than just like. I've been falling for her, and this is still a fresh new thing! Hoping things work out on her end. Wish me luck
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I have made a deep connection with someone right off the bat. She and I are connected in ways that I've not connected with anyone at all, and she feels that same way.
But we're unsure about how to go, she's in a toxic relationship and I'm hoping she leaves her boyfriend to actually pursue her happiness. I don't mind her being single after him because it may be what she needs tbh
She and I are like copy/paste. She and I are so alike, it's crazy. Might call her my Sylvie. I'm feeling feelings a lot stronger than just like. I've been falling for her, and this is still a fresh new thing! Hoping things work out on her end. Wish me luck
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yung
Idk what to feel anymore. I may not be sure if I have a crush on someone of falling in love with someone. But I know for a fact I will never give him up or let him go. All I can say is, I like him for now. I don't want to lose him because we have a strong bond. But nowadays we don't talk anymore. I just keep asking myself. Am I that easy to forget? Or Does all our memories meant nothing. My mind says There's no hope. He moved on but my heart says Maybe there's a chance later on
I know you may call me dramatic but please comment what do you think I should do. I just need help.
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Idk what to feel anymore. I may not be sure if I have a crush on someone of falling in love with someone. But I know for a fact I will never give him up or let him go. All I can say is, I like him for now. I don't want to lose him because we have a strong bond. But nowadays we don't talk anymore. I just keep asking myself. Am I that easy to forget? Or Does all our memories meant nothing. My mind says There's no hope. He moved on but my heart says Maybe there's a chance later on
I know you may call me dramatic but please comment what do you think I should do. I just need help.
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Baylen_
So theres this guy Ive been going crazy over for the past 2 years
But the thing is weve rarely ever talked: p Im super shy and I doubt he even knows my name; -; he isnt in any of my classes but sometimes, during lunch or just walking in the hall, I catch him staring at me
Recently this super pretty girl came to our school and shes in most of his classes
Im afraid that he might start crushing on her or something: (
I wanna try and talk to him so we can at least become friends but its super hard for me to talk to ppl
Sooo I kinda need some advice.
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So theres this guy Ive been going crazy over for the past 2 years
But the thing is weve rarely ever talked: p Im super shy and I doubt he even knows my name; -; he isnt in any of my classes but sometimes, during lunch or just walking in the hall, I catch him staring at me
Recently this super pretty girl came to our school and shes in most of his classes
Im afraid that he might start crushing on her or something: (
I wanna try and talk to him so we can at least become friends but its super hard for me to talk to ppl
Sooo I kinda need some advice.
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Sovk
I like this guy in my history and in my English (he's in both tehehe) and I sit next to him in history, and we always talk, so im not in that stage where I cant even talk to him, and a couple of my friends think he likes me too but idk, like he gets really close to my face sometimes, and one time it was so close like I could barely see anything else, and then he bought me a loli pop and put it in my mouth, and then out his arm around me and my guy friend when we were walking together, BUT MY DUMBASS DONT KNOWWW
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I like this guy in my history and in my English (he's in both tehehe) and I sit next to him in history, and we always talk, so im not in that stage where I cant even talk to him, and a couple of my friends think he likes me too but idk, like he gets really close to my face sometimes, and one time it was so close like I could barely see anything else, and then he bought me a loli pop and put it in my mouth, and then out his arm around me and my guy friend when we were walking together, BUT MY DUMBASS DONT KNOWWW
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Marco
Oh man, so, there is this girl, and somehow I like her and I somehow did some things, that I normally wouldn't do, and I guess she also likes me, and she also does things sometimes that show that she likes me, but at some days it's just like she forgot me and just texts because shes bored and it feels like she doesnt care about me, for example when I tell her something. I would take every second of my day to talk to her, but she just doesnt care about it.
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Oh man, so, there is this girl, and somehow I like her and I somehow did some things, that I normally wouldn't do, and I guess she also likes me, and she also does things sometimes that show that she likes me, but at some days it's just like she forgot me and just texts because shes bored and it feels like she doesnt care about me, for example when I tell her something. I would take every second of my day to talk to her, but she just doesnt care about it.
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Shibeisme
I like a boy from my youth group named Jacob. The problem is, I have a boyfriend. I'm beginning to lose feelings for my boyfriend as well and I'm gaining feelings for Jacob. I really want him to like me back but I don't know if he does. I don't think he does. It seems more likely for a relationship with Jacob to work rather than a relationship with my now boyfriend.
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I like a boy from my youth group named Jacob. The problem is, I have a boyfriend. I'm beginning to lose feelings for my boyfriend as well and I'm gaining feelings for Jacob. I really want him to like me back but I don't know if he does. I don't think he does. It seems more likely for a relationship with Jacob to work rather than a relationship with my now boyfriend.
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oxAuthor
The thing is im just so scared that if i trust, even if we are in love, that out of nowhere ill be hit with some truth and feel like an idiot, my heart will be broken and i won't be able to take it.
So even if i love you with ally soul ill always be scared and have that fear, making me be less open and not wanting to get close.
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The thing is im just so scared that if i trust, even if we are in love, that out of nowhere ill be hit with some truth and feel like an idiot, my heart will be broken and i won't be able to take it.
So even if i love you with ally soul ill always be scared and have that fear, making me be less open and not wanting to get close.
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zigzagoon
So, I came here for one reason: My friend says shes in love with this guy shes been crushing on for like, 5 months I dont believe it. Shes very infatuated but its clear to anyone that shes not in love. Well, this video proved me correct. It also heavily implies that Im in love with the girl Ive been crushing on for a year.
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So, I came here for one reason: My friend says shes in love with this guy shes been crushing on for like, 5 months I dont believe it. Shes very infatuated but its clear to anyone that shes not in love. Well, this video proved me correct. It also heavily implies that Im in love with the girl Ive been crushing on for a year.
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Moon
When February 13 I told my crush I liked him and he said that we we're just friends. In Valentine's Day it was so hard to even talk to him but now we're good bro's(he's kinda like a brother to me when we first became friends) and good friends
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When February 13 I told my crush I liked him and he said that we we're just friends. In Valentine's Day it was so hard to even talk to him but now we're good bro's(he's kinda like a brother to me when we first became friends) and good friends
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Sheryl
Well, whenever I think I'm crushing on someone I instantly ask myself if I can picture myself married to him and check if I like it or not. Most of the times I end up getting someone out of the book
Maybe that's why I'm still single.
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Well, whenever I think I'm crushing on someone I instantly ask myself if I can picture myself married to him and check if I like it or not. Most of the times I end up getting someone out of the book
Maybe that's why I'm still single.
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TimeKing
Ptg: falling in love feels familiar and helps you mature and express yourself more n shit
Me: welp i guess ill never be able to express myself and imma be immature for the rest of my life cuz im forever alone lol
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Ptg: falling in love feels familiar and helps you mature and express yourself more n shit
Me: welp i guess ill never be able to express myself and imma be immature for the rest of my life cuz im forever alone lol
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Myth! c_Zer0
Oooooo now I see why I never thought I had any crushes I probably saw like a crush and looked over like nah I dont really like them and when I had my first actual real crush it was actually love wHoOpS
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Oooooo now I see why I never thought I had any crushes I probably saw like a crush and looked over like nah I dont really like them and when I had my first actual real crush it was actually love wHoOpS
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Prettier
This challenge really is confusing on me on the difference between crushes, infatuation, obsession, love, and being in love. The terms seem so interchangeable at first glance, but theyre not apparently.
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This challenge really is confusing on me on the difference between crushes, infatuation, obsession, love, and being in love. The terms seem so interchangeable at first glance, but theyre not apparently.
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Zizzy
I feel like people who like others are slowly liking them less bcs of Corona and not seeing each other. My friends are all talking to me less so I'm not sure if I'm just talking to much or if its normal
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I feel like people who like others are slowly liking them less bcs of Corona and not seeing each other. My friends are all talking to me less so I'm not sure if I'm just talking to much or if its normal
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Kxzty
I have a crush on this guy. He's kinda shy tho super shy and me too. So yeah, thats it. i guess we will always stay in this situation until one of us make a move. But nahh, im too shy to do it
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I have a crush on this guy. He's kinda shy tho super shy and me too. So yeah, thats it. i guess we will always stay in this situation until one of us make a move. But nahh, im too shy to do it
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where
I noticed that this video mainly talked about already being in love and how to tell. It didn't really touch on how to know if you're falling in love if the other person doesn't know yet.
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I noticed that this video mainly talked about already being in love and how to tell. It didn't really touch on how to know if you're falling in love if the other person doesn't know yet.
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Renata
there is this guy I have liked for months now but now I don't feel flustered or nervous around him anymore. does that mean love is forming? I just feel really comfortable around him
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there is this guy I have liked for months now but now I don't feel flustered or nervous around him anymore. does that mean love is forming? I just feel really comfortable around him
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GhostLK
started by crushing, then actually got to know her better, started a relationship only to end up loving someone that doesn't feel the same anymore. definetly wasn't just a crush
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started by crushing, then actually got to know her better, started a relationship only to end up loving someone that doesn't feel the same anymore. definetly wasn't just a crush
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Amys
Me: planning to ask my crush out
My crush: doesnt come to school for the last two days of school that I was planning to ask them out
Its like they knew seriously
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Me: planning to ask my crush out
My crush: doesnt come to school for the last two days of school that I was planning to ask them out
Its like they knew seriously
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Juno
I have a crush on a guy and my friend help me to tell him that i like him but he just laughed and said it was funny that i liked himThen act like nothing happened
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I have a crush on a guy and my friend help me to tell him that i like him but he just laughed and said it was funny that i liked himThen act like nothing happened
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Dynastyy
I'm finna be reallllllllll bold his name is Zane he's in my 6th grade class if you know you know. imma say this N. W if you know you know -. -
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I'm finna be reallllllllll bold his name is Zane he's in my 6th grade class if you know you know. imma say this N. W if you know you know -. -
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Oi
i used to fall in love but i'm kinda starting to wonder if the bitter memories and sadness of heartbreak has changed my ability to fall for someone.
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i used to fall in love but i'm kinda starting to wonder if the bitter memories and sadness of heartbreak has changed my ability to fall for someone.
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