Dating With Anxiety: 8 Struggles
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Date: 2023-08-20
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I have a medical problem that I've had half my life. For 7 years, I fought it, but it eventually got bad enough that I had to stop working and a masters degree. I lost 2 job opportunities and a place at a university overseas because of it. Nowadays, I live in a separate building on my parents' property, on disability payments from the government (sorry) waiting for doctors. I've never been confident, I have friends, but none from university, the condition caused me to only be able to go to class, no extracurricular activities. I had really bad acne as a teen, and then this developed at 14. I never wanted to inflict this on anyone else, so I never dated, ever. I'm turning 30 this year. I've managed to put thinking about a relationship on the back burner for so long. But with a new recent diagnosis, the drs say this will be me from now on. I would really like a relationship, I'm so lonely sometimes. But who would want to date a 30 year old, who lives at home, on a pension without a job, with no relationship experience, with minimal hope of getting better. I feel like that's a lot to ask of someone for not much in return.
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I have a medical problem that I've had half my life. For 7 years, I fought it, but it eventually got bad enough that I had to stop working and a masters degree. I lost 2 job opportunities and a place at a university overseas because of it. Nowadays, I live in a separate building on my parents' property, on disability payments from the government (sorry) waiting for doctors. I've never been confident, I have friends, but none from university, the condition caused me to only be able to go to class, no extracurricular activities. I had really bad acne as a teen, and then this developed at 14. I never wanted to inflict this on anyone else, so I never dated, ever. I'm turning 30 this year. I've managed to put thinking about a relationship on the back burner for so long. But with a new recent diagnosis, the drs say this will be me from now on. I would really like a relationship, I'm so lonely sometimes. But who would want to date a 30 year old, who lives at home, on a pension without a job, with no relationship experience, with minimal hope of getting better. I feel like that's a lot to ask of someone for not much in return.
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M.
I don't have diagnosed anxiety but I think I might have a lighter form. The biggest stuggle in dating is that if nobody know you, how would they know if they are want to be with you. I think there are people who would like me, but they don't know me. I have hope, but I'm very afraid that I will end up just like my parents who haven't had enough experience and ended up together. But in the end they wasn't right for eachother. And now they have me and my brothers and they'll never have a partner, who were always there for them, and if they meet someone they won't have children, it's just messed up. Even my grandparents are all alone and sad. WHAT IF I DIE ALONE?
(Sorry, I just had to say that, I'am only 15, so there's not a catastrophe, but it's really frustrating)
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I don't have diagnosed anxiety but I think I might have a lighter form. The biggest stuggle in dating is that if nobody know you, how would they know if they are want to be with you. I think there are people who would like me, but they don't know me. I have hope, but I'm very afraid that I will end up just like my parents who haven't had enough experience and ended up together. But in the end they wasn't right for eachother. And now they have me and my brothers and they'll never have a partner, who were always there for them, and if they meet someone they won't have children, it's just messed up. Even my grandparents are all alone and sad. WHAT IF I DIE ALONE?
(Sorry, I just had to say that, I'am only 15, so there's not a catastrophe, but it's really frustrating)
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the. MonaAlicia
For me, I have been burned by guys in the past, it's like PTSD, so meeting new people I think subconsciously frightens me. Online dating is hard because I went from don't talk to strangers on the internet to talk to strangers on the internet if you want to meet people. And again, having to plan a meet-up (AFTER talking online) and that initial meeting is all very overwhelming and you like- need to be yourself, and when you're nervous that's what's on your mind all the ding dong day, and it feels like we're not even human anymore. And oddly enough, when you try and get to know someone you ALL READY know and like, they're not interested in you, so it feels hopeless, because I just want to connect human-to-human rather than digital. I'm sick of online dating.
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For me, I have been burned by guys in the past, it's like PTSD, so meeting new people I think subconsciously frightens me. Online dating is hard because I went from don't talk to strangers on the internet to talk to strangers on the internet if you want to meet people. And again, having to plan a meet-up (AFTER talking online) and that initial meeting is all very overwhelming and you like- need to be yourself, and when you're nervous that's what's on your mind all the ding dong day, and it feels like we're not even human anymore. And oddly enough, when you try and get to know someone you ALL READY know and like, they're not interested in you, so it feels hopeless, because I just want to connect human-to-human rather than digital. I'm sick of online dating.
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Just
Not really relevant to dating (I'm aroace so I literally don't care lmao) but anxiety in general feels so terrible. Now I was never diagnosed by a professional but I honestly think I might anxiety. Not only do I assume the worst but I come up with highly unrealistic scenarios in my head which end up scaring me a lot for nothing. (I seriously once thought I was going to get beaten up by others because of one minor thing I did wrong the previous day) I easily get overwhelmed when being forced to speak to people I don't know well. And often than not I feel anxious for no particular reason. At least these feelings aren't as severe as they used to be and for the most part I can suppress them but idk. :l
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Not really relevant to dating (I'm aroace so I literally don't care lmao) but anxiety in general feels so terrible. Now I was never diagnosed by a professional but I honestly think I might anxiety. Not only do I assume the worst but I come up with highly unrealistic scenarios in my head which end up scaring me a lot for nothing. (I seriously once thought I was going to get beaten up by others because of one minor thing I did wrong the previous day) I easily get overwhelmed when being forced to speak to people I don't know well. And often than not I feel anxious for no particular reason. At least these feelings aren't as severe as they used to be and for the most part I can suppress them but idk. :l
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Grace
I have discouraged (quiet) BPD so anxiety/panic, depression, high sensitivity & rapid mood changes, and dissociation plays a huge part of it all. This makes me feel like I'm not normal and makes me feel unworthy of love. I either ghost people because of anxiety/panic or people ghost me because I'm too complicated. A lot of people just don't understand mental Illness. When you feel extremely lonely & need people the most, they just leave and don't even give a thought about you. It's also crazy how many people don't even think about you or talk to you when you don't always text first.
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I have discouraged (quiet) BPD so anxiety/panic, depression, high sensitivity & rapid mood changes, and dissociation plays a huge part of it all. This makes me feel like I'm not normal and makes me feel unworthy of love. I either ghost people because of anxiety/panic or people ghost me because I'm too complicated. A lot of people just don't understand mental Illness. When you feel extremely lonely & need people the most, they just leave and don't even give a thought about you. It's also crazy how many people don't even think about you or talk to you when you don't always text first.
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Francisca
I relate with many of this symptoms, specially no. 2 - self-sabotage. I'm 22 yo and I've never been kissed because of that. But because I'm an ambivert, people around me can't see that I struggle a lot with this. One moment I'm totally fine, but once I understand that someone is interested on me, my mind just collapses and I start overthinking A LOT.
I'm just very sad, because I lost many good opportunities in the past and once I decided that I wanted to change (or at least try to) - BANG! - a huge pandemic where you have to stay at home and you can't meet anyone: (
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I relate with many of this symptoms, specially no. 2 - self-sabotage. I'm 22 yo and I've never been kissed because of that. But because I'm an ambivert, people around me can't see that I struggle a lot with this. One moment I'm totally fine, but once I understand that someone is interested on me, my mind just collapses and I start overthinking A LOT.
I'm just very sad, because I lost many good opportunities in the past and once I decided that I wanted to change (or at least try to) - BANG! - a huge pandemic where you have to stay at home and you can't meet anyone: (
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Matt
I never thought I had anxiety, until I started using online dating apps and I'm going insane. Constantly focusing on people's careers, achievements etc, I was meant to go on a date today, I left the house but had so much anxiety - why is she interested in me, what can I offer her in conversation, what does she see in me? I cancelled blaming on the weather, I now feel bad for myself and her! I just can't shake this feeling of being inferior and self hatred, which has now manifested itself into anxiety and depression.
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I never thought I had anxiety, until I started using online dating apps and I'm going insane. Constantly focusing on people's careers, achievements etc, I was meant to go on a date today, I left the house but had so much anxiety - why is she interested in me, what can I offer her in conversation, what does she see in me? I cancelled blaming on the weather, I now feel bad for myself and her! I just can't shake this feeling of being inferior and self hatred, which has now manifested itself into anxiety and depression.
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Nim
For me, a lot of the anxiety I face with the person I'm currently pursuing comes from a wild mix of things. I have just been through a breakup, we only know each other online, and I have been in an emotionaly abusive friendship before, so my mind constantly overanalyses, in fear of going through another trauma. It's just hard to believe someone good and caring actually exists, and I feel like I can see all the ways in which we might not work out or what could go wrong, no matter how many green flags he's given me.
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For me, a lot of the anxiety I face with the person I'm currently pursuing comes from a wild mix of things. I have just been through a breakup, we only know each other online, and I have been in an emotionaly abusive friendship before, so my mind constantly overanalyses, in fear of going through another trauma. It's just hard to believe someone good and caring actually exists, and I feel like I can see all the ways in which we might not work out or what could go wrong, no matter how many green flags he's given me.
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CuddleFish124
Dude as the queen of self sabotage I feel #2 in my BONES. Other fears include treating someone like a goddess, not because she deserves it (though she probably would, but because Im afraid if I dont, she would leave me. Also that Im more in love with the idea of being in love, than actually loving her. Oh and lets not forget the fear that Im not doing enough because Ive dated a total of zero people and have no idea how the frick to girlfriend. So yeah, multiple ways to feed my anxiety
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Dude as the queen of self sabotage I feel #2 in my BONES. Other fears include treating someone like a goddess, not because she deserves it (though she probably would, but because Im afraid if I dont, she would leave me. Also that Im more in love with the idea of being in love, than actually loving her. Oh and lets not forget the fear that Im not doing enough because Ive dated a total of zero people and have no idea how the frick to girlfriend. So yeah, multiple ways to feed my anxiety
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LuenAnda
I feel so much shame for freezing up when I like someone. I obsess with a person, shame myself for not trying or having the confidence to try a relationship, and get panic attacks/cannot concentrate during the day.
I can make tons and tons of friends, but for the people I care about the most romantically and physically I freeze up and almost seems like I ignore them.
I just want a normal love story sometimes, no anxiety, no obsessing over other people.
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I feel so much shame for freezing up when I like someone. I obsess with a person, shame myself for not trying or having the confidence to try a relationship, and get panic attacks/cannot concentrate during the day.
I can make tons and tons of friends, but for the people I care about the most romantically and physically I freeze up and almost seems like I ignore them.
I just want a normal love story sometimes, no anxiety, no obsessing over other people.
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NallieVGotSwag
I have Generalized anxiety but I never had trouble with it on dates. When you feel SO comfortable and in love with your date that you don't even feel anxiety anymore: ') So I'm telling you guys it's not as impossible as it seems when you have anxiety: ) Even now I get a lot of anxiety in my relationship, but my partner is always there to comfort me He takes my anxiety away and makes me live in the moment when we're together. So don't give up!
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I have Generalized anxiety but I never had trouble with it on dates. When you feel SO comfortable and in love with your date that you don't even feel anxiety anymore: ') So I'm telling you guys it's not as impossible as it seems when you have anxiety: ) Even now I get a lot of anxiety in my relationship, but my partner is always there to comfort me He takes my anxiety away and makes me live in the moment when we're together. So don't give up!
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glitchydeku
i recently broke up with the Poly i was in. cause it was not only getting to toxic for my liking but i also liked someone else and i didnt feel the same way towards my poly anymore. but now the people i was with in my poly now hate me. now i feel like nobody is right for me or nobody cares about me now, i feel like just giving up. im sorry if i seem like im faking this or something but this is the only place i can actually vent.
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i recently broke up with the Poly i was in. cause it was not only getting to toxic for my liking but i also liked someone else and i didnt feel the same way towards my poly anymore. but now the people i was with in my poly now hate me. now i feel like nobody is right for me or nobody cares about me now, i feel like just giving up. im sorry if i seem like im faking this or something but this is the only place i can actually vent.
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Jake
I dont think this has to do with anxiety but I throw myself into relationships because I feel like if I say no I'm being rude and I'll hurt there feelings, and when I get overwhelmed by all the attention and daily texts I ignore them for weeks I cry telling myself I dont deserve them they could be with someone better. Relationships are really hard and I feel like I'm going to die alone.
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I dont think this has to do with anxiety but I throw myself into relationships because I feel like if I say no I'm being rude and I'll hurt there feelings, and when I get overwhelmed by all the attention and daily texts I ignore them for weeks I cry telling myself I dont deserve them they could be with someone better. Relationships are really hard and I feel like I'm going to die alone.
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Sarah
My boyfriend loves me but doubts land over things everything, hes never hurt me and we have a healthy relationship but its gotten to a point where Im so exauhsted, I love him so much but I dont know how to cope with all this weight that gets put on me and its turn to a point where I get verbally loud and irritated Bc of my fustration. if anyone has any advice please help me
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My boyfriend loves me but doubts land over things everything, hes never hurt me and we have a healthy relationship but its gotten to a point where Im so exauhsted, I love him so much but I dont know how to cope with all this weight that gets put on me and its turn to a point where I get verbally loud and irritated Bc of my fustration. if anyone has any advice please help me
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Sinucon
I'm 36 years old. Never had a real relationship. Social anxiety has ruined my life. The mere thought of going on a date makes me want to throw up due to the fear of being judged. I am awalking red flag to any sane person. To tell some guy why I've been single for so long would make them run for the hills. I'm stuck in a cycle of shame.
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I'm 36 years old. Never had a real relationship. Social anxiety has ruined my life. The mere thought of going on a date makes me want to throw up due to the fear of being judged. I am awalking red flag to any sane person. To tell some guy why I've been single for so long would make them run for the hills. I'm stuck in a cycle of shame.
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John
I think I missed an incredible opportunity when I was 28 because of this. Met this girl online and went on a date with her. She was very smart, quite fascinating, overall just a standout of a girl. I certainly liked her but I was too scared and uncertain to go out with her again. Even to the point that I had a panic attack over it.
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I think I missed an incredible opportunity when I was 28 because of this. Met this girl online and went on a date with her. She was very smart, quite fascinating, overall just a standout of a girl. I certainly liked her but I was too scared and uncertain to go out with her again. Even to the point that I had a panic attack over it.
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Akio
I relate to all the signs listed. Even when my friends tell me they are sure someone likes me, I still doubt it, have hard times imagining how I should reach and end up being super anxious doing nothing. At the end of the day, I feel extremely tired of imagining so much things.
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I relate to all the signs listed. Even when my friends tell me they are sure someone likes me, I still doubt it, have hard times imagining how I should reach and end up being super anxious doing nothing. At the end of the day, I feel extremely tired of imagining so much things.
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ShreNal
If you're feeling depressed -
Talk with me. I'LL BE A FRIEND.
How can strangers be friends?
-See my name. Best if luck. I'll be a good listener.
What's your purpose?
-My purpose is I wanna feel a depressed person is smiling. What can be greater than this?
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If you're feeling depressed -
Talk with me. I'LL BE A FRIEND.
How can strangers be friends?
-See my name. Best if luck. I'll be a good listener.
What's your purpose?
-My purpose is I wanna feel a depressed person is smiling. What can be greater than this?
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neilius
Dating scares me
Ive been in 3 relationships and I always break up with them after a tiny argument because Im frightened that the argument might get worse
My mam has been in an abusive relationship and I had to witness that. So its really hard to trust the partner
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Dating scares me
Ive been in 3 relationships and I always break up with them after a tiny argument because Im frightened that the argument might get worse
My mam has been in an abusive relationship and I had to witness that. So its really hard to trust the partner
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Brianna
I had a date with someone who I'd been talking to for over a month over text. We were super close, but before I arrived, I decided to run away. I cried two hours afterwards because I felt guilty and terrible. He said it was fine. Tomorrow we'll try again. Wish me luck
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I had a date with someone who I'd been talking to for over a month over text. We were super close, but before I arrived, I decided to run away. I cried two hours afterwards because I felt guilty and terrible. He said it was fine. Tomorrow we'll try again. Wish me luck
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RunToEternity
I've never even seen another guy ask a woman out in public, does it even exist? I wouldn't even know it was a thing if I didn't see it on TV or the internet.
I'd like to be able to, but I guess I'll be stuck to going to dating sites.
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I've never even seen another guy ask a woman out in public, does it even exist? I wouldn't even know it was a thing if I didn't see it on TV or the internet.
I'd like to be able to, but I guess I'll be stuck to going to dating sites.
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Zemira
Just ended my relationship today, the person I was seeing never understood my issues and used them to make me feel terrible about myself. My anxiety, depression, ptsd and being on the spectrum made me self centered apparently.
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Just ended my relationship today, the person I was seeing never understood my issues and used them to make me feel terrible about myself. My anxiety, depression, ptsd and being on the spectrum made me self centered apparently.
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Nevan
As an introvert I have had far too many negative experiences with women and I have decided to not date anyone for the fear of being rejected. Besides I have far better things to do with my time than dating.
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As an introvert I have had far too many negative experiences with women and I have decided to not date anyone for the fear of being rejected. Besides I have far better things to do with my time than dating.
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MR.
Wow thank you for this video. now i understand why my gf doesn't talk too much in call but when i say may i cut the call she told me no please. i always get confused but now i know. thank you for this video
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Wow thank you for this video. now i understand why my gf doesn't talk too much in call but when i say may i cut the call she told me no please. i always get confused but now i know. thank you for this video
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Albert
I have a problem with dating in which I think that the date goes well, but then they tell me that they don't feel the vibe or connection, what should I do to change this if I have depression and anxiety?
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I have a problem with dating in which I think that the date goes well, but then they tell me that they don't feel the vibe or connection, what should I do to change this if I have depression and anxiety?
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