7 Ways Unhealed Relationship Trauma Shows Up
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Isabelle
This is healing for me to see my dad explained in a video. I've projected all of his own shame and guilt onto myself from a young age. To a point where I not only see how he relates but how I also portray these signs.
The result of his life up to this point is the consequences of unhealed relationship trauma and I've watched him push away his long-term career just months before retiring, his marriage to my mom, our father/daughter relationship, parental/familial connections, age advancement, self-confidence, physical strength, savings.
I've always known and seen that he can temporarily put these habitual reactions to the side when a circumstance calls for it, but my sympathy would always grow as I watched how he wasn't equipped to even handle this life because of his own childhood trauma. I understand that my father disassociates to comfort himself during the parts of his life where he doesn't understand. His life is meant for different, but better and aligned habitual actions.
And it feels like I can lay this burden down here in this comment section. I feel as if the amygdala part of my brain is satisfied after 20 years of searching. After all that time full of lived experiences-- I can just send him this link. Thank you.
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This is healing for me to see my dad explained in a video. I've projected all of his own shame and guilt onto myself from a young age. To a point where I not only see how he relates but how I also portray these signs.
The result of his life up to this point is the consequences of unhealed relationship trauma and I've watched him push away his long-term career just months before retiring, his marriage to my mom, our father/daughter relationship, parental/familial connections, age advancement, self-confidence, physical strength, savings.
I've always known and seen that he can temporarily put these habitual reactions to the side when a circumstance calls for it, but my sympathy would always grow as I watched how he wasn't equipped to even handle this life because of his own childhood trauma. I understand that my father disassociates to comfort himself during the parts of his life where he doesn't understand. His life is meant for different, but better and aligned habitual actions.
And it feels like I can lay this burden down here in this comment section. I feel as if the amygdala part of my brain is satisfied after 20 years of searching. After all that time full of lived experiences-- I can just send him this link. Thank you.
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Samalie
Thank yous omuch for this video. I have been on my path to healing from numerous aspects of trauma in my life. I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia which is ALL of the symptoms mentioned here as well as BPD. I have a been managing my BPD to the point where at times I feel I am almost at that point I have been trying to achieve; yet there has always been a part of me I could not reach and didn't know how to reach. I can only say thank you, so much because now I can look at this particular aspect of my life and unknot that knot that will finally untangle the the remaining tangles left.
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Thank yous omuch for this video. I have been on my path to healing from numerous aspects of trauma in my life. I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia which is ALL of the symptoms mentioned here as well as BPD. I have a been managing my BPD to the point where at times I feel I am almost at that point I have been trying to achieve; yet there has always been a part of me I could not reach and didn't know how to reach. I can only say thank you, so much because now I can look at this particular aspect of my life and unknot that knot that will finally untangle the the remaining tangles left.
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Johan
This is really what i all go through right now, i had a beat friend i had a fight with over things he said wrong to me and then he cut me off and is blaming me and holding me accountable for all the fault, i had someone i loved turned on me too severely and she took me apart as well, now i sit here too this horrible ugly piece of crap bad person hating myself, i hate myself so much that i despise the thought of me and want to inflict self harm onto me or kill myself, i feel like the devil itself
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This is really what i all go through right now, i had a beat friend i had a fight with over things he said wrong to me and then he cut me off and is blaming me and holding me accountable for all the fault, i had someone i loved turned on me too severely and she took me apart as well, now i sit here too this horrible ugly piece of crap bad person hating myself, i hate myself so much that i despise the thought of me and want to inflict self harm onto me or kill myself, i feel like the devil itself
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Celeste
Is this just for romantic relationships? Or any situations? I've currently been suffering from emotional and psychological trauma from a conflict I had with a couple a few months back. Even though I'm not in contact with them anymore. their words still haunt me. they've made me question myself and my mental state. I hate that they have this power over me and I can't seem to move on no matter how hard I try
Plus the music overpowers mid video and you can't hear what their saying.
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Is this just for romantic relationships? Or any situations? I've currently been suffering from emotional and psychological trauma from a conflict I had with a couple a few months back. Even though I'm not in contact with them anymore. their words still haunt me. they've made me question myself and my mental state. I hate that they have this power over me and I can't seem to move on no matter how hard I try
Plus the music overpowers mid video and you can't hear what their saying.
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Yessicuhhh
My relationship trauma sent me to the hospital for heart palpitations, gave me shingles (I'm only 31, and caused me intense anxiety, shame, and suicidal thoughts. It has also prevented me from being comfortable opening up to and being vulnerable with someone new that I was dating that loved me. We just broke up on valentines day actually because I was too afraid to reciprocate his feelings. I'm trying to figure out how to heal but it has been an up hill battle.
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My relationship trauma sent me to the hospital for heart palpitations, gave me shingles (I'm only 31, and caused me intense anxiety, shame, and suicidal thoughts. It has also prevented me from being comfortable opening up to and being vulnerable with someone new that I was dating that loved me. We just broke up on valentines day actually because I was too afraid to reciprocate his feelings. I'm trying to figure out how to heal but it has been an up hill battle.
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Chise
I already knew that I have relationship trauma, I found myself relating to some of the indications. My problem is that I divorced mostly because for my ex wife having kids was more important than staying with me, so I could meet someone else be perfect for each other and not end up together because for most woman (my guess is 99. 99%) its not worth their time to start a relationship with someone which they know is sterile.
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I already knew that I have relationship trauma, I found myself relating to some of the indications. My problem is that I divorced mostly because for my ex wife having kids was more important than staying with me, so I could meet someone else be perfect for each other and not end up together because for most woman (my guess is 99. 99%) its not worth their time to start a relationship with someone which they know is sterile.
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America
Its about 4 years now and i have a new friend i love for about 3 years now.
But im still traumatized.
My ex told me i was trash Look the trash bin is sitting here
he told me that i did not care enough for him. He ignored my messages. I got a heavy heart.
I thought he would stop cause sometimes he said that he loves me.
I hate myself. I was sure it was my fault. and im still sure it was.
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Its about 4 years now and i have a new friend i love for about 3 years now.
But im still traumatized.
My ex told me i was trash Look the trash bin is sitting here
he told me that i did not care enough for him. He ignored my messages. I got a heavy heart.
I thought he would stop cause sometimes he said that he loves me.
I hate myself. I was sure it was my fault. and im still sure it was.
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chernush_cat
i know it will sound strange. but i have boxed myself out of any relationshits when i was 7 because of my friend and neighbor that i really loved. i was rolling that thought from that point and even tho there were people i loved. but never even tried to do something because i thought it will al be the same and nobody would love me. and all because of 1 thing when i was a child.
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i know it will sound strange. but i have boxed myself out of any relationshits when i was 7 because of my friend and neighbor that i really loved. i was rolling that thought from that point and even tho there were people i loved. but never even tried to do something because i thought it will al be the same and nobody would love me. and all because of 1 thing when i was a child.
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ooi
I don't have relationship trauma but hey can you do an analysis on; Why do some people, no matter how much you do for them, they still think you want something or, you will not continue to help them or, you are not that interested in helping them. I know that is due to lack of self confidence, but how severe can it get? Will it be so severe that that person non stop hacking your phone
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I don't have relationship trauma but hey can you do an analysis on; Why do some people, no matter how much you do for them, they still think you want something or, you will not continue to help them or, you are not that interested in helping them. I know that is due to lack of self confidence, but how severe can it get? Will it be so severe that that person non stop hacking your phone
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wrenne$$y
I love these videos. they seriously help me every single day.
but something is wrong with the edit for sure, the music got way too loud and played over her voice so loud that you couldn't understand her. I had to pause it and see if something else was playing in the background of my tablet. :(
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I love these videos. they seriously help me every single day.
but something is wrong with the edit for sure, the music got way too loud and played over her voice so loud that you couldn't understand her. I had to pause it and see if something else was playing in the background of my tablet. :(
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education
thank you, this makes me feel better, as I've been struggling for a couple of years now, after a very toxic relationship ended, now I see that it's okay that it's been hard for me to trust people, to focus, to value myself and to do things in general, also that I've been dissociating quite a bit.
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thank you, this makes me feel better, as I've been struggling for a couple of years now, after a very toxic relationship ended, now I see that it's okay that it's been hard for me to trust people, to focus, to value myself and to do things in general, also that I've been dissociating quite a bit.
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AngelCnderDreamer
This is a great video psych2go but I have to say in number 6 and probably number 5 the voice gets quieter and I had to turn up my volume, but in number 7 the music gotten louder and I couldn't hear what the narrator was saying over the depression! D: At the end it fine tho.
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This is a great video psych2go but I have to say in number 6 and probably number 5 the voice gets quieter and I had to turn up my volume, but in number 7 the music gotten louder and I couldn't hear what the narrator was saying over the depression! D: At the end it fine tho.
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ROBERT
I can relate to the majority of these relationship trauma symptoms. I was in a toxic, abusive relationship for several years, and this video has helped to explain the anxiety, brain fog, and muscular tightness, etc. i now have after the relationship ended.
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I can relate to the majority of these relationship trauma symptoms. I was in a toxic, abusive relationship for several years, and this video has helped to explain the anxiety, brain fog, and muscular tightness, etc. i now have after the relationship ended.
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Jake
This was me I nearly died tried to hang myself couldn't live with the pain thankfully I found friends that took me in and healed me I still get emotionally unstable at times but I'm managing I had to let what I was holding onto go because it was killing me
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This was me I nearly died tried to hang myself couldn't live with the pain thankfully I found friends that took me in and healed me I still get emotionally unstable at times but I'm managing I had to let what I was holding onto go because it was killing me
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Sincere
I've had a constant sense of shame all my life. Does being given up for adoption as an infant, count as a traumatic unhealed relationship? No one wants to admit there could possible be any trauma.
Mostly I hear how lucky I am that I was chosen.
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I've had a constant sense of shame all my life. Does being given up for adoption as an infant, count as a traumatic unhealed relationship? No one wants to admit there could possible be any trauma.
Mostly I hear how lucky I am that I was chosen.
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Pokii
The guilt and shame everything really - was spot on Ive been trying to learn more about myself and as strong as I feel I am going through trauma mentally everyday not realizing it? Thank you for sharing this, now I know where to begin.
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The guilt and shame everything really - was spot on Ive been trying to learn more about myself and as strong as I feel I am going through trauma mentally everyday not realizing it? Thank you for sharing this, now I know where to begin.
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misskaydie
I ended my marriage back in August after being a doormat for 8 years, and I absolutely experience most of these. I didn't realise it was linked to relationships or that I was experiencing trauma, but it makes total sense
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I ended my marriage back in August after being a doormat for 8 years, and I absolutely experience most of these. I didn't realise it was linked to relationships or that I was experiencing trauma, but it makes total sense
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cerulean
It takes time to heal from trauma, sometimes a long time, but eventually find that your great the way you are and will find someone or something that makes you better and happier than you ever thought you could be.
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It takes time to heal from trauma, sometimes a long time, but eventually find that your great the way you are and will find someone or something that makes you better and happier than you ever thought you could be.
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Samantha
I think I've had these symptoms since I was a kid, but more notably so for the past 3 years. So how do we get rid of it? Relationships make me feel unsettled and unhappy as soon as they start and I trust NOBODY.
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I think I've had these symptoms since I was a kid, but more notably so for the past 3 years. So how do we get rid of it? Relationships make me feel unsettled and unhappy as soon as they start and I trust NOBODY.
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garrett
I relate to this to much. My mind has always raced since I broke it off with my toxic ex. I was on and off with her for 4 years. Did I do this to myself? Should I get help? Because it only gets worse
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I relate to this to much. My mind has always raced since I broke it off with my toxic ex. I was on and off with her for 4 years. Did I do this to myself? Should I get help? Because it only gets worse
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Stephen
Never should have watched this. It made me feel so much worse and hopeless. Thought I might gain some clarity but now I just feel like the damage is done and there's no hope of ever being happy.
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Never should have watched this. It made me feel so much worse and hopeless. Thought I might gain some clarity but now I just feel like the damage is done and there's no hope of ever being happy.
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Ms
I love the videos you guys produce but when the music is playing in the background it distracts my mind from the message & I get overwhelmed. Then I check out. WHAT IS THAT ABOUT? Overstimulation?
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I love the videos you guys produce but when the music is playing in the background it distracts my mind from the message & I get overwhelmed. Then I check out. WHAT IS THAT ABOUT? Overstimulation?
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Wendy
I deal with many of these, and am working on resolving them because I am MUCH happier in the 5 years since the narcissist allowed me to leave, than I was in the 5 years we were together.
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I deal with many of these, and am working on resolving them because I am MUCH happier in the 5 years since the narcissist allowed me to leave, than I was in the 5 years we were together.
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October
I'm dealing with this. But, I am a massage therapist. I take Ashwaghanda. This helps A LOT! I do deep breathing and stretching exercises. These help the body and mind to heal.
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I'm dealing with this. But, I am a massage therapist. I take Ashwaghanda. This helps A LOT! I do deep breathing and stretching exercises. These help the body and mind to heal.
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O. J.
Yeah this slick is me I've been going thru this for such a long time and I couldn't put my finger on what it was that had me feeling this way. Yeah gotta get back to therapy
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Yeah this slick is me I've been going thru this for such a long time and I couldn't put my finger on what it was that had me feeling this way. Yeah gotta get back to therapy
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