Can't Find Love? Here's Why.
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Vahn
This years been really terrible. I find myself feeling lonely, wanting, and starved of someone i can feel comfortable being intimate with. Most of the time when i felt like this in the past decade i could get up and walk it off with no real issue but now i carry it with me.
I've noticed a building interest in romance novels/comics/manga too. I mean sweet mother of christ i used to hate romance and tolerate romantic subplots in other media but now? I'm almost seeking them out. And I couldn't tell you why. When reading them at first i feel fine, nothing but good vibes, until after some amount of time and an emotional event takes place in the story resulting in the characters becoming closer together then its like something in the back of my head slams a self-destruct button and my emotions begin to unwravel. I'll then spend time as this shredded mess of a person for hours or days just to turn around and go right back to it in what can only be described as some weird form of self abuse. And i dont know why.
I told myself id given up on relationships after high-school, it was a time where everybody else was seeing someone at some point and if I couldn't during a time like that then clearly im meant to be alone and i was fine with that at first. But i did not, could not, it never even occured to me that id turn into this later in life.
Im sure being in a relationship won't fix everything but damit i wish there were someone here with me. I want to come home and see someone genuinely happy im there. I want to sit together engaging in whatever leisure activity. I want to fall alseep to the comforts of sharing a bed and waking up the next morning with them still alongside me.
I want all these things and yet i still go about my own business. Ive been doing that since i was 15, its all i know. And now later on when i want to change things, i dont know how, or cant.
All this dumping to say i know why i cant find love. Im watching the boat sail away regretting not getting onboard, too afraid to swim after it.
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This years been really terrible. I find myself feeling lonely, wanting, and starved of someone i can feel comfortable being intimate with. Most of the time when i felt like this in the past decade i could get up and walk it off with no real issue but now i carry it with me.
I've noticed a building interest in romance novels/comics/manga too. I mean sweet mother of christ i used to hate romance and tolerate romantic subplots in other media but now? I'm almost seeking them out. And I couldn't tell you why. When reading them at first i feel fine, nothing but good vibes, until after some amount of time and an emotional event takes place in the story resulting in the characters becoming closer together then its like something in the back of my head slams a self-destruct button and my emotions begin to unwravel. I'll then spend time as this shredded mess of a person for hours or days just to turn around and go right back to it in what can only be described as some weird form of self abuse. And i dont know why.
I told myself id given up on relationships after high-school, it was a time where everybody else was seeing someone at some point and if I couldn't during a time like that then clearly im meant to be alone and i was fine with that at first. But i did not, could not, it never even occured to me that id turn into this later in life.
Im sure being in a relationship won't fix everything but damit i wish there were someone here with me. I want to come home and see someone genuinely happy im there. I want to sit together engaging in whatever leisure activity. I want to fall alseep to the comforts of sharing a bed and waking up the next morning with them still alongside me.
I want all these things and yet i still go about my own business. Ive been doing that since i was 15, its all i know. And now later on when i want to change things, i dont know how, or cant.
All this dumping to say i know why i cant find love. Im watching the boat sail away regretting not getting onboard, too afraid to swim after it.
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Trevor
Nobody needs romantic love. I'm done with the fantasy of a romantic relationship and tired of trying.
Once you realize being yourself doesn't do anything. But push others away more. Women. lemme rephrase. People in general value income more than love in general these days. If I was a fat. Out of shape balding man but made 6 figures. I'd probably most likely have a hot wife Or whatever. Except they would be emotionally distant and not do the obligations. Or whatever you Wana say it is. Once you learn to love you in turn learn to hate and feel pain.
I'm just tired of this notion that there's someone for everyone because there isn't. There's someone for somebody until they get bored and move on to another. Or multiple other reasons.
Sorry if this sounds aggressive but honestly. Almost being ran over by someone because my boss complemented them. I wasn't even the one who said anything to them and I got spit on and almost ran over by them in their car.
Kinda pushes the whole. I'd just rather be single for the rest of my life. Than be In a relationship with a woman these days. Sorry women. Twitter, the real world and just a lot of you had pushed me away. And I'd rather just stay away.
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Nobody needs romantic love. I'm done with the fantasy of a romantic relationship and tired of trying.
Once you realize being yourself doesn't do anything. But push others away more. Women. lemme rephrase. People in general value income more than love in general these days. If I was a fat. Out of shape balding man but made 6 figures. I'd probably most likely have a hot wife Or whatever. Except they would be emotionally distant and not do the obligations. Or whatever you Wana say it is. Once you learn to love you in turn learn to hate and feel pain.
I'm just tired of this notion that there's someone for everyone because there isn't. There's someone for somebody until they get bored and move on to another. Or multiple other reasons.
Sorry if this sounds aggressive but honestly. Almost being ran over by someone because my boss complemented them. I wasn't even the one who said anything to them and I got spit on and almost ran over by them in their car.
Kinda pushes the whole. I'd just rather be single for the rest of my life. Than be In a relationship with a woman these days. Sorry women. Twitter, the real world and just a lot of you had pushed me away. And I'd rather just stay away.
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Thoriq
26 year old, only had one meaningful love relationship for over 5 years then got breakup because she chose others whom she deemed more secured financially. After that, i tried to move on and make several dates with another love interest, but also ended by several rejection. At that time, i thought that nobody wanted me after all even though i already tried to listen and understand them, tried to become the best as much as i can.
Some friends told me that i'm the person that always smiled, joyful and funny, but i guess it's just a norm/standard and i need to become more than just a kind person, or maybe. i lack physicality and unattractive at all. Tried many grooming tips and workout for building my looks and body, but it still not enough.
Sometimes i jealous for them that just need some little effort to gain many affections, while i here, need to build myself as charismatic as Tom Cruise, as smart as Albert Einstein and as romantic as some Disney Princes just for one affection, ONLY ONE.
But i guess it's just me that don't give enough effort at all. Haha.
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26 year old, only had one meaningful love relationship for over 5 years then got breakup because she chose others whom she deemed more secured financially. After that, i tried to move on and make several dates with another love interest, but also ended by several rejection. At that time, i thought that nobody wanted me after all even though i already tried to listen and understand them, tried to become the best as much as i can.
Some friends told me that i'm the person that always smiled, joyful and funny, but i guess it's just a norm/standard and i need to become more than just a kind person, or maybe. i lack physicality and unattractive at all. Tried many grooming tips and workout for building my looks and body, but it still not enough.
Sometimes i jealous for them that just need some little effort to gain many affections, while i here, need to build myself as charismatic as Tom Cruise, as smart as Albert Einstein and as romantic as some Disney Princes just for one affection, ONLY ONE.
But i guess it's just me that don't give enough effort at all. Haha.
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education
Unfortunately this video didn't help at all. Almost 23 and do not have any experience at all. No speaking about kiss romance or relationship. I have tried it already so many times. almost everything. It's so unbelievably frustrating for me in some many ways. I do have hobbies, I'm at the university, I travel alone. But still. There is such a huge emptiness in my heart. I'm already sick of what people say to my problems. I mostly heat that I should stop finding and someone comes, or on contrary that I'm not doing enough. Yes. one don't has to be in the relationship to be happy and all the time. But it's also fine to have someone. I've been alone already for long enough. Do I have to be perfect to have someone? Where is the point where one is finally good enough to have loving relationship then?
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Unfortunately this video didn't help at all. Almost 23 and do not have any experience at all. No speaking about kiss romance or relationship. I have tried it already so many times. almost everything. It's so unbelievably frustrating for me in some many ways. I do have hobbies, I'm at the university, I travel alone. But still. There is such a huge emptiness in my heart. I'm already sick of what people say to my problems. I mostly heat that I should stop finding and someone comes, or on contrary that I'm not doing enough. Yes. one don't has to be in the relationship to be happy and all the time. But it's also fine to have someone. I've been alone already for long enough. Do I have to be perfect to have someone? Where is the point where one is finally good enough to have loving relationship then?
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Ponker. s
I just wanna feel loved at this point i dont have the greatest relationship with either of my parents so i feel as if i dont have a single feeling or connection of love at all and thats really hurtful to me and after about 4 years of desperately wanting a relationship i have yet to make any progress and i feel as if i will never have a genuine mutual connection of love ever which puts me into panic attack amounts of stress (i have depressive episodes with anxious distress) and this loop of wanting a connection of love, then not getting one, then having a mini panick attack that ill be alone for the rest of my life. Its terrible and im not religous or anything but im litterally praying at this point that i get someone who truly loves me and yet i have not.
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I just wanna feel loved at this point i dont have the greatest relationship with either of my parents so i feel as if i dont have a single feeling or connection of love at all and thats really hurtful to me and after about 4 years of desperately wanting a relationship i have yet to make any progress and i feel as if i will never have a genuine mutual connection of love ever which puts me into panic attack amounts of stress (i have depressive episodes with anxious distress) and this loop of wanting a connection of love, then not getting one, then having a mini panick attack that ill be alone for the rest of my life. Its terrible and im not religous or anything but im litterally praying at this point that i get someone who truly loves me and yet i have not.
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someonefromhere
The hard reality is:
If you are fat and want a lean and athletique person it will be hard
If you are too old and want a young women or men it will be hard also
If you are 6 or 7 in looks as a man dating a 8 ( girl ) will be hard
Some girl prefer here boyfriend to be taller than her
I give you my advice for men: get lean ( 10% bodyfat) +learn how to dress+ nice haircut + be social and if all those thing dont work you have 2 choice: 1go for plastic surgery if you have major flow that make you look weird or 2 acccept your fate
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The hard reality is:
If you are fat and want a lean and athletique person it will be hard
If you are too old and want a young women or men it will be hard also
If you are 6 or 7 in looks as a man dating a 8 ( girl ) will be hard
Some girl prefer here boyfriend to be taller than her
I give you my advice for men: get lean ( 10% bodyfat) +learn how to dress+ nice haircut + be social and if all those thing dont work you have 2 choice: 1go for plastic surgery if you have major flow that make you look weird or 2 acccept your fate
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Silver
Well, you didn't include an obvious one. ..
When you're too young to become married. .. .. ..
How many teens fight with that, for moths and years!
I think it's worth to make a video on teen love, how it's works (for everyone differently I know, but if there any goo):
for example: Is that worth to risk, or wait 2 more years?
For teens whom in love or having a crush can be so complicated, I think worth a video.
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Well, you didn't include an obvious one. ..
When you're too young to become married. .. .. ..
How many teens fight with that, for moths and years!
I think it's worth to make a video on teen love, how it's works (for everyone differently I know, but if there any goo):
for example: Is that worth to risk, or wait 2 more years?
For teens whom in love or having a crush can be so complicated, I think worth a video.
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GaleNeonToaster
I don't try to find love as I've been destroyed by people in the past.
Me falling in love with someone is like trusting someone: a huge commitment I just can't take. And I come to realize that people suck. I don't mean to generalize, but that's just bottom line. And, I'm not getting a lover if I don't even have myself and my own life together.
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I don't try to find love as I've been destroyed by people in the past.
Me falling in love with someone is like trusting someone: a huge commitment I just can't take. And I come to realize that people suck. I don't mean to generalize, but that's just bottom line. And, I'm not getting a lover if I don't even have myself and my own life together.
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turroluca
Wait. Therapists and friends say true love will find you and you don't have to look for it because the more u look and you show u are looking for, the lesser likely you will find it. Then u say you must keep searching. I am confused and more convinced that love is just an idea we create to justify meaningless or only reproduction based relationships.
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Wait. Therapists and friends say true love will find you and you don't have to look for it because the more u look and you show u are looking for, the lesser likely you will find it. Then u say you must keep searching. I am confused and more convinced that love is just an idea we create to justify meaningless or only reproduction based relationships.
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dagz
25 year old male havent had any activity with a female since i was 18 in my last relationship. its rough out here. Previous relationship trauma messed me up until about 23 and now Im stuck in a sort of limbo due to my introvert personality. Im also super hard on myself so that probably doesnt help. Still not giving up though: )
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25 year old male havent had any activity with a female since i was 18 in my last relationship. its rough out here. Previous relationship trauma messed me up until about 23 and now Im stuck in a sort of limbo due to my introvert personality. Im also super hard on myself so that probably doesnt help. Still not giving up though: )
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Theunis
I am probably going to be dead alone at a early age with stress. People cared about a lot of times took me for a fool and life been downhill not due to that but it compounded. I am 27 alone and jobless struggling to find work after last year losing job. Think might be numb to caring about love since I know I will die alone.
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I am probably going to be dead alone at a early age with stress. People cared about a lot of times took me for a fool and life been downhill not due to that but it compounded. I am 27 alone and jobless struggling to find work after last year losing job. Think might be numb to caring about love since I know I will die alone.
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Ethunder
I've felt love multiple times, however i keep letting them go.
For instance i had 2 girls that loved someone else, and just let them go i even helped 1 of them with dating the guy that she loved.
I had 1 girl in middle school i liked but i didn't have any backbone back then and couldn't ever say anything back then.
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I've felt love multiple times, however i keep letting them go.
For instance i had 2 girls that loved someone else, and just let them go i even helped 1 of them with dating the guy that she loved.
I had 1 girl in middle school i liked but i didn't have any backbone back then and couldn't ever say anything back then.
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Cestaron
Ive had a relationship which ended poorly after 2. 5 years. But every other woman ive met after that, is of similar age, just shows no interest in me. I do have a hard time putting myself out there which is hard to do when you a 9 to 5 with an hour to drive and are not really an outgoing person.
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Ive had a relationship which ended poorly after 2. 5 years. But every other woman ive met after that, is of similar age, just shows no interest in me. I do have a hard time putting myself out there which is hard to do when you a 9 to 5 with an hour to drive and are not really an outgoing person.
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Akira
I was in a relationship for a bit and it was going well but over time I felt like I didnt deserve my partner and began to isolate myself and we ended up breaking up, I wish I had this advice before that happened because I just keep remembering them and wish it wouldve not gone that way.
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I was in a relationship for a bit and it was going well but over time I felt like I didnt deserve my partner and began to isolate myself and we ended up breaking up, I wish I had this advice before that happened because I just keep remembering them and wish it wouldve not gone that way.
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reyes
2: 29 reminds me of Sonia I spilled my guts and she did not feel the same way and Natasha does not live in the us but I get along with her well but fear she is already taken it makes cry and pissed of on the inside no girl is worth me the so called girl is not out there for me
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2: 29 reminds me of Sonia I spilled my guts and she did not feel the same way and Natasha does not live in the us but I get along with her well but fear she is already taken it makes cry and pissed of on the inside no girl is worth me the so called girl is not out there for me
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Out
Man, I needed to watch this video. The last time I was in love was in 2021, but man. That shit is on a whole different level. It gets even tiring when you try to find someone. It's got to the point that I'd love myself and enjoy life rather than find someone else.
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Man, I needed to watch this video. The last time I was in love was in 2021, but man. That shit is on a whole different level. It gets even tiring when you try to find someone. It's got to the point that I'd love myself and enjoy life rather than find someone else.
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Aus_Huayra500
Well ive been waiting and looking for so long now but theres another point thats not on the list and that being that some of us like me are fully undesirable and every other guy is a better option so we never even get considered as an option.
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Well ive been waiting and looking for so long now but theres another point thats not on the list and that being that some of us like me are fully undesirable and every other guy is a better option so we never even get considered as an option.
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Magau
My sisters are crazy. Cheaters. Liars. Detached. And yet. They can keep men like nothing. But me. I am loyal, faithful, ride or die and yet. I cannot find a man to love me all the way through. I am literally about to give up. I am 36. Im done.
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My sisters are crazy. Cheaters. Liars. Detached. And yet. They can keep men like nothing. But me. I am loyal, faithful, ride or die and yet. I cannot find a man to love me all the way through. I am literally about to give up. I am 36. Im done.
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Sare
I'm 18, and I experienced love for once. Than it ended up somehow, our relationship ended it when I was 17.
And now I'm in a city that I don't even know and I do not know people at here. And it's hard to find people who are open to meet
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I'm 18, and I experienced love for once. Than it ended up somehow, our relationship ended it when I was 17.
And now I'm in a city that I don't even know and I do not know people at here. And it's hard to find people who are open to meet
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Addison
Im a 42yo trans woman. Plenty of people are supportive of trans people, but it seems absolutely no one wants to date us. As soon as anyone finds out Im trans that connection is destroyed, Im ghosted, or I get the just friends speech.
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Im a 42yo trans woman. Plenty of people are supportive of trans people, but it seems absolutely no one wants to date us. As soon as anyone finds out Im trans that connection is destroyed, Im ghosted, or I get the just friends speech.
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CYBER
I just wish I could get go on a date for the first time. Every girl I ask says no and I literally don't know what to do aside from keep trying over and over. If I die with out any, please put it on my gravestone that I never gave up.
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I just wish I could get go on a date for the first time. Every girl I ask says no and I literally don't know what to do aside from keep trying over and over. If I die with out any, please put it on my gravestone that I never gave up.
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olaf
Up until last year, I felt undeserving of love. Therapy helped tremendously.
Now, I just don't put myself out there. xD
But I remain hopeful that one day, I'll meet a gamer of the opposite gender who could like me. :3
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Up until last year, I felt undeserving of love. Therapy helped tremendously.
Now, I just don't put myself out there. xD
But I remain hopeful that one day, I'll meet a gamer of the opposite gender who could like me. :3
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Viscerface
just don't be a pussy. and if they don't feel the same way or don't meet your standards respectfully leave them nothing else. But loving yourself is always your #1 goal. And commiting to yourself and your goals
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just don't be a pussy. and if they don't feel the same way or don't meet your standards respectfully leave them nothing else. But loving yourself is always your #1 goal. And commiting to yourself and your goals
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Edd25164605
Love brought me nothing but pain.
Looking for it is awful. Constant rejection or simply finding no one is interested.
I found love twice. both times i was abused, tortured and put through the ringer.
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Love brought me nothing but pain.
Looking for it is awful. Constant rejection or simply finding no one is interested.
I found love twice. both times i was abused, tortured and put through the ringer.
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gamermc
meanwhile me: at work in the same office all day to come home and sit infront of my pc to play and get these videos get recommended.
theres also those that are scared of hurting others
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meanwhile me: at work in the same office all day to come home and sit infront of my pc to play and get these videos get recommended.
theres also those that are scared of hurting others
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