5 Signs You re Self-Coddling, NOT Self-Love
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Date: 2023-12-05
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Dani-ICU-RN
TY for this. Im not kind to myself.
. nurses seldom are; ). But,
Hmmmm. In Teens, I call it Entitlement. parents, plz stop telling your child they are the only and most important one in the world, and it's all about them, nobody else matters, and they deserve a treat for doung WHAYS SIMPLY EXPECTED of them, and everybody gets a ribbon and they are the prettiest and they are the best and you know what I mean. I don't mean tell your child they're not pretty, or tell them they're not smart. etc. you know exactly what I mean. we are creating a new generation of rude, entitled, uncompassionate, disrespectful, self ish KIDS.
Being over 50 yeats of un respected experience & knowledge (working in ICU ) font yrump that me attitude.
I see these new Young 20-something nurses calling in sick cuz they have cramps, or their back hurts after last night's shift, or they can't work next weekend because their friend is having a birthday party. wearing black thongs under white scrubs and yellow nail polish. out of dress code or taking short cuts so they can chk snap chat for 5 min. grrr!
blah blah. No, ur no longer excrptions to the rules. and you don't get an extra 5 minutes for lunch just because you got to work on time; )
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TY for this. Im not kind to myself.
. nurses seldom are; ). But,
Hmmmm. In Teens, I call it Entitlement. parents, plz stop telling your child they are the only and most important one in the world, and it's all about them, nobody else matters, and they deserve a treat for doung WHAYS SIMPLY EXPECTED of them, and everybody gets a ribbon and they are the prettiest and they are the best and you know what I mean. I don't mean tell your child they're not pretty, or tell them they're not smart. etc. you know exactly what I mean. we are creating a new generation of rude, entitled, uncompassionate, disrespectful, self ish KIDS.
Being over 50 yeats of un respected experience & knowledge (working in ICU ) font yrump that me attitude.
I see these new Young 20-something nurses calling in sick cuz they have cramps, or their back hurts after last night's shift, or they can't work next weekend because their friend is having a birthday party. wearing black thongs under white scrubs and yellow nail polish. out of dress code or taking short cuts so they can chk snap chat for 5 min. grrr!
blah blah. No, ur no longer excrptions to the rules. and you don't get an extra 5 minutes for lunch just because you got to work on time; )
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stencilfox5
This. THIS! oh goodness, put into a lovely format, I've been trying to work out how to word things currently in my life situation and why things felt so un clear and this has helped so much for perfect timing. Especially the first one, being someone who over the past two years made big changes and now stuck in a loop of comfort I've been wondering if it's time to say yes to a small adventure with friends or to finally do something on my own as simple as walking a new path on a hike, trying new hobbies or foods, the little things I do in comfort zones that had been almost self sabotage. Reflecting in my journal today and seeing this video really helped alot to say to myself out loud and mean it by not overthinking and live in the moment outside my comfort zone that I built
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This. THIS! oh goodness, put into a lovely format, I've been trying to work out how to word things currently in my life situation and why things felt so un clear and this has helped so much for perfect timing. Especially the first one, being someone who over the past two years made big changes and now stuck in a loop of comfort I've been wondering if it's time to say yes to a small adventure with friends or to finally do something on my own as simple as walking a new path on a hike, trying new hobbies or foods, the little things I do in comfort zones that had been almost self sabotage. Reflecting in my journal today and seeing this video really helped alot to say to myself out loud and mean it by not overthinking and live in the moment outside my comfort zone that I built
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lisas3825
I will say that if you ve ignored your intuition on knowing yourself, your energy capacity & have learned costly lessons from burn out; saying yes to invitations, when it is going to send you into overwhelm, then it s ok to be seen as a little awkward for declining the offer. However, if we refuse the offer out of fear to look foolish or because we re afraid to fail joyfully at trying something new, then yes, I agree the latter would be fear-motivated-self-coddling.
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I will say that if you ve ignored your intuition on knowing yourself, your energy capacity & have learned costly lessons from burn out; saying yes to invitations, when it is going to send you into overwhelm, then it s ok to be seen as a little awkward for declining the offer. However, if we refuse the offer out of fear to look foolish or because we re afraid to fail joyfully at trying something new, then yes, I agree the latter would be fear-motivated-self-coddling.
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elydragonfly
I know persons who do that and I hate when they tell me that facing my traumas (to try to heal myself) is not living in the present. I mean. I can't spend my whole life avoiding my past because I don't want to face my own mistakes because it hurt me.
I imagine it like cutting open an old wound that didn't heal well to take the rotten bit away, even if it hurts. If it can help my wound to finally heal for real, it's worth feeling bad again for a moment.
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I know persons who do that and I hate when they tell me that facing my traumas (to try to heal myself) is not living in the present. I mean. I can't spend my whole life avoiding my past because I don't want to face my own mistakes because it hurt me.
I imagine it like cutting open an old wound that didn't heal well to take the rotten bit away, even if it hurts. If it can help my wound to finally heal for real, it's worth feeling bad again for a moment.
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namethestars
The first one is interesting because having moved recently I've started, albeit gently, pushing outside of my comfort zone; I'm doing yoga daily (something I use to refrain from with excuses, going for longer & longer walks. I admit I became lazy and unhealthy when i was in my abusive relationship and now I'm pushing against that comfort zone into something different for myself. The difference is already palpable.
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The first one is interesting because having moved recently I've started, albeit gently, pushing outside of my comfort zone; I'm doing yoga daily (something I use to refrain from with excuses, going for longer & longer walks. I admit I became lazy and unhealthy when i was in my abusive relationship and now I'm pushing against that comfort zone into something different for myself. The difference is already palpable.
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savannahallen8590
I have a low self esteem and a feeling of weakness and failure from being sheltered too much as a kid. I had helicopter parents, but more of the micromanaging type that wanted everything just so. They could not admit being wrong.
I am proud of myself for not slipping into self-coddling, even though I was predisposed to it. As exhausting as it can be, I enjoy pushing myself to do difficult things
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I have a low self esteem and a feeling of weakness and failure from being sheltered too much as a kid. I had helicopter parents, but more of the micromanaging type that wanted everything just so. They could not admit being wrong.
I am proud of myself for not slipping into self-coddling, even though I was predisposed to it. As exhausting as it can be, I enjoy pushing myself to do difficult things
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jclay452
I soak in the bathtub once or twice a week to reset my mind. It s become a meditation practice. Where I try to focus on being, no thinking. I don t look at it as self-coddling. I m a stay-at-home mom, so I need those few uninterrupted moments of peace. I m also a highly sensitive person, so it s nice to sit alone in the tub.
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I soak in the bathtub once or twice a week to reset my mind. It s become a meditation practice. Where I try to focus on being, no thinking. I don t look at it as self-coddling. I m a stay-at-home mom, so I need those few uninterrupted moments of peace. I m also a highly sensitive person, so it s nice to sit alone in the tub.
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AMindnamedAdam
Most people have never even heard of Jungian Individuation, and it shows. Self love doesn't mean pointless hedonism, it means becoming a better version of yourself by actually doing the work to better yourself and facing your fears to overcome them. Self actualization is infinitely superior to Self love.
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Most people have never even heard of Jungian Individuation, and it shows. Self love doesn't mean pointless hedonism, it means becoming a better version of yourself by actually doing the work to better yourself and facing your fears to overcome them. Self actualization is infinitely superior to Self love.
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serenology23
Self care is the key to proper self love. The more you care for something the more you love it, whether it's a gold fish or your self. This means making more objective, rational, and virtuous decisions (doing things that are good for you) I don't feel like it isn't a good enough excuse.
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Self care is the key to proper self love. The more you care for something the more you love it, whether it's a gold fish or your self. This means making more objective, rational, and virtuous decisions (doing things that are good for you) I don't feel like it isn't a good enough excuse.
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TheSilverL
I don't match any of these points. I guess I have something to be proud about after all.
I still don't know if I love myself. I try. I finally opened up a bit to one of my friends; it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
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I don't match any of these points. I guess I have something to be proud about after all.
I still don't know if I love myself. I try. I finally opened up a bit to one of my friends; it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
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AMindnamedAdam
OK so by Self Coddling you basically mean Nihilistic Hedonism, narcissistic supplying yourself, and being overly selfish. OK got it. It's like the difference between confidence and overconfidence. (Long story short)
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OK so by Self Coddling you basically mean Nihilistic Hedonism, narcissistic supplying yourself, and being overly selfish. OK got it. It's like the difference between confidence and overconfidence. (Long story short)
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existingbone
Guess I do neither of those, I don't really care about myself making me not reward myself, but I also don't find myself worthless or powerless just find it pointless to care about myself if I can survive without it
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Guess I do neither of those, I don't really care about myself making me not reward myself, but I also don't find myself worthless or powerless just find it pointless to care about myself if I can survive without it
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_Mirai_.
This video helps a lot actually- I ve been trying to practice self love a lot more recently. Good to know I m not coddling and stuff- I used to think that self coddling was self love in general.
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This video helps a lot actually- I ve been trying to practice self love a lot more recently. Good to know I m not coddling and stuff- I used to think that self coddling was self love in general.
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Jediahbear
If things like pampering yourself are helping you relax and helping you feel more confident and comfortable in your own body, do what makes you the most happy. There's nothing wrong with that.
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If things like pampering yourself are helping you relax and helping you feel more confident and comfortable in your own body, do what makes you the most happy. There's nothing wrong with that.
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priscillajimenez27
Im glad you've addressed this. Self love has taken an extreme turn to weak mindedness, victim mindset, narcissism, and entitlement. People need to really that balance is essential.
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Im glad you've addressed this. Self love has taken an extreme turn to weak mindedness, victim mindset, narcissism, and entitlement. People need to really that balance is essential.
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dani_is_dumb
Timestamps!
1) Only what's comfortable 0: 49
2) Just perfect 1: 50
3) Low Self Esteem 2: 37
4) Entitled 3: 26
5) Has to be relaxing 4: 07
Hope this helps!
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Timestamps!
1) Only what's comfortable 0: 49
2) Just perfect 1: 50
3) Low Self Esteem 2: 37
4) Entitled 3: 26
5) Has to be relaxing 4: 07
Hope this helps!
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emerywhitten5943
I love myself. I think I have a good personality but I honestly don t self coddle I work hard on not eating too much too little and treat myself averagely: )
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I love myself. I think I have a good personality but I honestly don t self coddle I work hard on not eating too much too little and treat myself averagely: )
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jking4854
To think I've just recently started practicing self-love and it seems even that I do wrong. But hey, at least it's a first step towards improving, right?
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To think I've just recently started practicing self-love and it seems even that I do wrong. But hey, at least it's a first step towards improving, right?
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psych2go
Self-coddling in moderation is fine. Just don't go nuts and bankrupt yourself or end up damaging yourself, eg. Overindulgence in alcohol or food.
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Self-coddling in moderation is fine. Just don't go nuts and bankrupt yourself or end up damaging yourself, eg. Overindulgence in alcohol or food.
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