Why Falling In Love SUCKS
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Date: 2024-09-02
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Rafsanul_Haq_96
Love is indeed a complex and multifaceted emotion, a truth I've come to understand through personal experience. It encompasses care, affection, attraction, trust, and a myriad of other emotions. Surprisingly, jealousy also plays a role in love. Consider two romantic partners, X and Y. One day, X notices that Y is frequently chatting, gossiping, and spending more time with another person. Upon seeing this, X feels a surge of jealousy because Y is extremely important to him. X deeply values their relationship and fears losing Y, with his jealousy signalling this fear. This kind of jealousy can sometimes motivate X to put more effort into the relationship, by giving Y more attention or working harder to maintain their bond. However, jealousy also points to a lack of trust. X's doubts about Y's interactions with another person indicate that he doesn't fully trust Y, which is problematic because trust is a crucial component of love. In this scenario, jealousy and trust become conflicting emotions. This conflict underscores the complexity and multifaceted nature of love, revealing how it can involve emotions that both strengthen and challenge a relationship.
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Love is indeed a complex and multifaceted emotion, a truth I've come to understand through personal experience. It encompasses care, affection, attraction, trust, and a myriad of other emotions. Surprisingly, jealousy also plays a role in love. Consider two romantic partners, X and Y. One day, X notices that Y is frequently chatting, gossiping, and spending more time with another person. Upon seeing this, X feels a surge of jealousy because Y is extremely important to him. X deeply values their relationship and fears losing Y, with his jealousy signalling this fear. This kind of jealousy can sometimes motivate X to put more effort into the relationship, by giving Y more attention or working harder to maintain their bond. However, jealousy also points to a lack of trust. X's doubts about Y's interactions with another person indicate that he doesn't fully trust Y, which is problematic because trust is a crucial component of love. In this scenario, jealousy and trust become conflicting emotions. This conflict underscores the complexity and multifaceted nature of love, revealing how it can involve emotions that both strengthen and challenge a relationship.
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StudioGhostUtah
Another thing that can make the whole prospect of falling in love utter hell is being surrounded by people who make romance sound like the be all end all of life.
There was one person at my high school who would always complain about the fact that I didn't have a girlfriend.
They would bring it up out of the blue, like if I was talking about a video game I was excited for, they would just switch the subject to my non-existent dating life.
Combine that with the frequent teasing and taunting from my peers that would follow the RARE instances where I seemed to show interest, it left me feeling like it wasn't worth it. If I was single, I'd get made fun of, if I made any effort, I'd get made fun of for even trying. There was no way to win.
Fortunately, since leaving high school, I've long since gotten away from those people and surrounded myself with a better friend group.
While those wounds are still there, I'm more focused on improving myself, cultivating inner peace, and working through my own baggage rather than treating a potential partner as an emotional bell-hop.
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Another thing that can make the whole prospect of falling in love utter hell is being surrounded by people who make romance sound like the be all end all of life.
There was one person at my high school who would always complain about the fact that I didn't have a girlfriend.
They would bring it up out of the blue, like if I was talking about a video game I was excited for, they would just switch the subject to my non-existent dating life.
Combine that with the frequent teasing and taunting from my peers that would follow the RARE instances where I seemed to show interest, it left me feeling like it wasn't worth it. If I was single, I'd get made fun of, if I made any effort, I'd get made fun of for even trying. There was no way to win.
Fortunately, since leaving high school, I've long since gotten away from those people and surrounded myself with a better friend group.
While those wounds are still there, I'm more focused on improving myself, cultivating inner peace, and working through my own baggage rather than treating a potential partner as an emotional bell-hop.
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Nano_Nanos
I already HATE it SO much, cuz that made my ex friend dirty minded, until she got a bf, she became 18 that what made me uncomfortable, and she became jealous of every girl, because she is afraid that they steal her bf. I was going to be dirty minded too because someone fell in love with me, that made me so uncomfortable, he was alwyas shy to come to meet me, but he just came, we became friends, and he finally said that he fell in love with me, i didnt accept to be his gf but his brother is forcing me and i became hated so i just accepted i was so close to he dirty minded, so i realized and i just left him.
Now i dont have a crush or something.
I hated everyone i wnated to be alone and avoiding friends.
I was finally comfortable.
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I already HATE it SO much, cuz that made my ex friend dirty minded, until she got a bf, she became 18 that what made me uncomfortable, and she became jealous of every girl, because she is afraid that they steal her bf. I was going to be dirty minded too because someone fell in love with me, that made me so uncomfortable, he was alwyas shy to come to meet me, but he just came, we became friends, and he finally said that he fell in love with me, i didnt accept to be his gf but his brother is forcing me and i became hated so i just accepted i was so close to he dirty minded, so i realized and i just left him.
Now i dont have a crush or something.
I hated everyone i wnated to be alone and avoiding friends.
I was finally comfortable.
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asaknight321
The lack of commitment and loyalty and the rise of polyamory, cheating, manipulation and recklessness sickens me to the core. They think it's a harmless little game until it ruins somebody's life, unfortunately my mother found that one out the hard way by cheating on my dad after a long and happy marriage and then leaving my life at 16 calling me worthless and never reaching out again. They might remove my comment but as wrathful and harsh as my words are they are true. This is a lesson that people need to know. This is why people do not date as much anymore, mainly because of these Cheaters and manipulators like that. Cheaters that do not deserve a happy ending that most people deserve
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The lack of commitment and loyalty and the rise of polyamory, cheating, manipulation and recklessness sickens me to the core. They think it's a harmless little game until it ruins somebody's life, unfortunately my mother found that one out the hard way by cheating on my dad after a long and happy marriage and then leaving my life at 16 calling me worthless and never reaching out again. They might remove my comment but as wrathful and harsh as my words are they are true. This is a lesson that people need to know. This is why people do not date as much anymore, mainly because of these Cheaters and manipulators like that. Cheaters that do not deserve a happy ending that most people deserve
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psych2go
I would like a romantic relationship and even friendship, but I’m fine without them. I believe it’s in my best interest to be alone and focusing on my own life and goals.
I’ve had really only one good relationship and a few good friends, but also many bad relationships and bad friends that didn’t want the best for me. The good ones I did have faded out of my life or we both changed and don’t see eye to eye.
I believe that I have to be alone. I started to learn for my Dad that unfortunately many people are seasonal. They’ll go away for whatever reason they have or don’t. I’m content on being completely alone.
Has anyone else felt this way
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I would like a romantic relationship and even friendship, but I’m fine without them. I believe it’s in my best interest to be alone and focusing on my own life and goals.
I’ve had really only one good relationship and a few good friends, but also many bad relationships and bad friends that didn’t want the best for me. The good ones I did have faded out of my life or we both changed and don’t see eye to eye.
I believe that I have to be alone. I started to learn for my Dad that unfortunately many people are seasonal. They’ll go away for whatever reason they have or don’t. I’m content on being completely alone.
Has anyone else felt this way
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crazedvole
I have never let myself fall in love. (Yes I think you only fall in love if you want to) The reason being I have always known that if i ever let myself fall in love, I would be in love by myself. And I would guess the only thing worse than being in love by yourself, is if the person you have feelings for knows how you feel and you are still in love by yourself. I could go throwing my heart around to every other woman I see just for her to step on it, or eat it or something. No thank you. Fortunately for me I blessed with neither the looks or money to attract a woman so that makes everything even easier.
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I have never let myself fall in love. (Yes I think you only fall in love if you want to) The reason being I have always known that if i ever let myself fall in love, I would be in love by myself. And I would guess the only thing worse than being in love by yourself, is if the person you have feelings for knows how you feel and you are still in love by yourself. I could go throwing my heart around to every other woman I see just for her to step on it, or eat it or something. No thank you. Fortunately for me I blessed with neither the looks or money to attract a woman so that makes everything even easier.
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psych2go
I think the main problem with love is that many ppl mistake attachment bonds and infatuation for love. Love is not smth that makes u ur worst version, it isnt smth that's supposed to be obsessive, thats just the work of chemicals in your brain. Actual love is smth deeper than that. Yes love is hard, it takes time to understand the other person completely but that does not mean it doesn't exist. I genuinely feel bad for the ppl in the comment section, i hope yall will be able to find someone who will care for you and love you just the way you are
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I think the main problem with love is that many ppl mistake attachment bonds and infatuation for love. Love is not smth that makes u ur worst version, it isnt smth that's supposed to be obsessive, thats just the work of chemicals in your brain. Actual love is smth deeper than that. Yes love is hard, it takes time to understand the other person completely but that does not mean it doesn't exist. I genuinely feel bad for the ppl in the comment section, i hope yall will be able to find someone who will care for you and love you just the way you are
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DarkEdgePrince
Real romantic love is always temporary because passion is temporary, and romantic love requires the right balance of passion and friendship. If it leans too much towards passion, when the passion fizzles, the relationship falls apart. If it leans too much towards friendship, when the passion fizzles, it becomes just that: Friendship. But if you have the right balance, once the passion fizzles, the romantic love will become a familial love. The deep love lots of older couples will talk about.
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Real romantic love is always temporary because passion is temporary, and romantic love requires the right balance of passion and friendship. If it leans too much towards passion, when the passion fizzles, the relationship falls apart. If it leans too much towards friendship, when the passion fizzles, it becomes just that: Friendship. But if you have the right balance, once the passion fizzles, the romantic love will become a familial love. The deep love lots of older couples will talk about.
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xxihategunsxx
You know what's messed up When someone who has never felt unconditional, selfless love or love that didn't come with a price falls in love and believes they're being tricked or conned. They just can't fathom someone loving them for who they are inside or for what they do to the person that loves them. I think it's sad. I don't believe in love anymore. It annoys me.
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You know what's messed up When someone who has never felt unconditional, selfless love or love that didn't come with a price falls in love and believes they're being tricked or conned. They just can't fathom someone loving them for who they are inside or for what they do to the person that loves them. I think it's sad. I don't believe in love anymore. It annoys me.
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mythdream9833
I really want to fall in love cause' I want to know how it really feels and what plans I make, and I want to know what is the feeling of getting heart broke.
Basically I want to gain empathy this way, I also want try to replicate the feeling
Ex: You can replicate the feeling of licking the bottom of a shoes. Or tasting the wooden spoon of an ice cream.
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I really want to fall in love cause' I want to know how it really feels and what plans I make, and I want to know what is the feeling of getting heart broke.
Basically I want to gain empathy this way, I also want try to replicate the feeling
Ex: You can replicate the feeling of licking the bottom of a shoes. Or tasting the wooden spoon of an ice cream.
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muhammadfawwad4599
True, we don't value marriage or monogamy. Which is the core part of being in a lasting fruitful relationship. How do I know Cuz I've been through a loss of marriage. I was told that it's just a piece of paper and it doesn't have any more value. But for me, it was the most beautiful thing I imagined. I'm glad I'm recovering now. Thanks for the spot on
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True, we don't value marriage or monogamy. Which is the core part of being in a lasting fruitful relationship. How do I know Cuz I've been through a loss of marriage. I was told that it's just a piece of paper and it doesn't have any more value. But for me, it was the most beautiful thing I imagined. I'm glad I'm recovering now. Thanks for the spot on
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Modern day cynicism 0: 32
2. The social media trap 1: 14
3. Psychology compromising 1: 54
4. Neglected friendships 2: 39
5. Clouded judgement 3: 20
6. Attachment styles 3: 48
7. Heartbreak and emotional vulnerability 5: 14
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Modern day cynicism 0: 32
2. The social media trap 1: 14
3. Psychology compromising 1: 54
4. Neglected friendships 2: 39
5. Clouded judgement 3: 20
6. Attachment styles 3: 48
7. Heartbreak and emotional vulnerability 5: 14
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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TheNinable
I definitely do not agree with the statement, that polyamorous relationships are just the result af avoiding commitment. Consensual non-monogamous relationships and interactions can be just as committed and filled with responsibility, reciprocal care and natural as any other kind of relationships.
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I definitely do not agree with the statement, that polyamorous relationships are just the result af avoiding commitment. Consensual non-monogamous relationships and interactions can be just as committed and filled with responsibility, reciprocal care and natural as any other kind of relationships.
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imbatzz2384
i’ve been in love for nearly 10 years with this girl that i’ve known since first grade. It doesn’t look like she feels the same way about me which puts me in a weird state because i still care so much about her and i feel so wrong if i were to start thinking about other girls like that
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i’ve been in love for nearly 10 years with this girl that i’ve known since first grade. It doesn’t look like she feels the same way about me which puts me in a weird state because i still care so much about her and i feel so wrong if i were to start thinking about other girls like that
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klpigbighh
I have the theory that this butterfly feeling is fake so when im rlly interested in a girl i just have fun and i go with the expectation that its not gonna work anyways its so much better this way just have fun flirting and smiling, thats what its all about
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I have the theory that this butterfly feeling is fake so when im rlly interested in a girl i just have fun and i go with the expectation that its not gonna work anyways its so much better this way just have fun flirting and smiling, thats what its all about
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meme-bc8tf
Understand that there is a very big difference between a simple crush, TRUE love, lust, and infatuation, which people often get confused. Psych2go had plenty of videos that go over stuff like this though, so I don’t think I have to explain.
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Understand that there is a very big difference between a simple crush, TRUE love, lust, and infatuation, which people often get confused. Psych2go had plenty of videos that go over stuff like this though, so I don’t think I have to explain.
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bottomline7923
Falling in love is a gift. Sure it sucks when the relationship falls flat, horrible if you lose that person you love. but WoW! That moment it happens. None of us are really good at it and it's horrible to endure grief but WoW! WoW!
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Falling in love is a gift. Sure it sucks when the relationship falls flat, horrible if you lose that person you love. but WoW! That moment it happens. None of us are really good at it and it's horrible to endure grief but WoW! WoW!
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psych2go
Falling in love DOES suck. You start becoming so interested in someone, only to discover they're either taken or was never into you from the start. You also have that one crush who would probably manipulate you and give you false hopes.
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Falling in love DOES suck. You start becoming so interested in someone, only to discover they're either taken or was never into you from the start. You also have that one crush who would probably manipulate you and give you false hopes.
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deborahswart1718
Maybe it's b/c of my age group. But I do not think 'falling in love' is worth all the risks (anymore. Therefore truly feel for the Millennials & Gen. Z. This world is not held together by a human concept of love.
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Maybe it's b/c of my age group. But I do not think 'falling in love' is worth all the risks (anymore. Therefore truly feel for the Millennials & Gen. Z. This world is not held together by a human concept of love.
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lindaalvarez8855
I fell in Love in 1985 with my soul-mate for over 35 years until he passed away on April 22nd & now I'm lost without him emotionally. I'm not looking for anymore Love with anyone else just to bury another man.
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I fell in Love in 1985 with my soul-mate for over 35 years until he passed away on April 22nd & now I'm lost without him emotionally. I'm not looking for anymore Love with anyone else just to bury another man.
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