10 Relationship Red Flags of Abuse
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Date: 2023-08-20
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WisteriaWinds
I saw red flags from the start but It just never clicked. I was just too caught up in my obsessed love for her that I didnt see how down hill it would go. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would yell at me for small things. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would kiss other people becuse I thought they were just a flirty person. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would talk to me about future relationships or her crushes even when she was already in one with me. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would force me to tell her every little aspect of my personal life like every little song that the artist played at the concert. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would control what I do. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would make her seem like the victim like how she would say everything was her fault when I got sligtly mad. i new she was bad news. I new the relationship would never last but I stayed. becuse I thought I could change her. 4 months later and shes the worst she can be. im breaking up with her tommrow. i hope she wont kill herself like she said she would.
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I saw red flags from the start but It just never clicked. I was just too caught up in my obsessed love for her that I didnt see how down hill it would go. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would yell at me for small things. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would kiss other people becuse I thought they were just a flirty person. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would talk to me about future relationships or her crushes even when she was already in one with me. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would force me to tell her every little aspect of my personal life like every little song that the artist played at the concert. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would control what I do. I didnt see how it was wrong that she would make her seem like the victim like how she would say everything was her fault when I got sligtly mad. i new she was bad news. I new the relationship would never last but I stayed. becuse I thought I could change her. 4 months later and shes the worst she can be. im breaking up with her tommrow. i hope she wont kill herself like she said she would.
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anny
I want to ask. I get confused about no. 8 forces you to do things you don't want to. Is it including when I asked many times or pushed him to get his bed get clean and wash his bed sheet and blanket? Because it's messy and smelly. Is it include when I asked him to end his relation with his ex collagues who put him in dangerous while he still in his job as a police officer? Is it include when I asked him to not having a girl friend (unknown girl) inside his FB since I always know that he is a womanixer before and he hurt me by giving a response to other girls selfie pic on FB while he ask me to keep my body covered up in FB or public? Is it including ask him to slowly stop smoking ciggerates or vape, because the smeels of it and I can see his teeth are already broken dan so dirty? I book an appoinment and pay for the dentist. Is it the no. 8 including take care of his health and hygene? Please tell me if it's wrong. PLEASE ANSWER
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I want to ask. I get confused about no. 8 forces you to do things you don't want to. Is it including when I asked many times or pushed him to get his bed get clean and wash his bed sheet and blanket? Because it's messy and smelly. Is it include when I asked him to end his relation with his ex collagues who put him in dangerous while he still in his job as a police officer? Is it include when I asked him to not having a girl friend (unknown girl) inside his FB since I always know that he is a womanixer before and he hurt me by giving a response to other girls selfie pic on FB while he ask me to keep my body covered up in FB or public? Is it including ask him to slowly stop smoking ciggerates or vape, because the smeels of it and I can see his teeth are already broken dan so dirty? I book an appoinment and pay for the dentist. Is it the no. 8 including take care of his health and hygene? Please tell me if it's wrong. PLEASE ANSWER
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heathhanz
Those abused may not know they are being abused, yes. But those who abuse may not know they're abusing. The abuser learned their behavior from somewhere where it was normalized, generally from parental figures. That is not to say the abuser may not know they are hurting someone. But they might not realize exactly the harm they're doing, just that it works to get the desired result. They may feel the person deserves it. They often perceive their victim as the threat, and that they are the ones in potential danger, so they become aggressive before the other has a chance. Indeed, abusers were probably victims at one point that promised 'never again'. In addition, many abuser-victim relationships switch roles throughout the relationship like a pendulum swing. Usually at some point, the victim will take an abusive role in order to protect themselves.
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Those abused may not know they are being abused, yes. But those who abuse may not know they're abusing. The abuser learned their behavior from somewhere where it was normalized, generally from parental figures. That is not to say the abuser may not know they are hurting someone. But they might not realize exactly the harm they're doing, just that it works to get the desired result. They may feel the person deserves it. They often perceive their victim as the threat, and that they are the ones in potential danger, so they become aggressive before the other has a chance. Indeed, abusers were probably victims at one point that promised 'never again'. In addition, many abuser-victim relationships switch roles throughout the relationship like a pendulum swing. Usually at some point, the victim will take an abusive role in order to protect themselves.
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active
i just got out of a relationship of 2 years and a good portion of this was present in the relationship. she tried manipulating me using pregnancy. she told me to commit suicide, to relapse and that she hates me all over me not being able to go see her while my father was away. he didn't want me away from home if my mother was gonna be the only one there. little to no control over that situation, but she still found a way to ruin my day over it.
this entire video is true and if you see even 2 of these please distance yourself from the person or whoever you're with will get an understanding of your tolerance and severity will just rise. i wish anyone who reads this well.
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i just got out of a relationship of 2 years and a good portion of this was present in the relationship. she tried manipulating me using pregnancy. she told me to commit suicide, to relapse and that she hates me all over me not being able to go see her while my father was away. he didn't want me away from home if my mother was gonna be the only one there. little to no control over that situation, but she still found a way to ruin my day over it.
this entire video is true and if you see even 2 of these please distance yourself from the person or whoever you're with will get an understanding of your tolerance and severity will just rise. i wish anyone who reads this well.
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Nizhoni
I get beaten up every day by my sister and she gaslights me in front of my family I feel like Im crazy I really dont know what to do anymore. Ive tried to leave however now I have no job because my sister got drunk and came to my job after the big boss came I got fired. If anyone reads this Id appreciate any help at I can get from anybody cause Im at the end of my rope and I dont know how to make it better Ive tried any possible way
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I get beaten up every day by my sister and she gaslights me in front of my family I feel like Im crazy I really dont know what to do anymore. Ive tried to leave however now I have no job because my sister got drunk and came to my job after the big boss came I got fired. If anyone reads this Id appreciate any help at I can get from anybody cause Im at the end of my rope and I dont know how to make it better Ive tried any possible way
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Jose
I know Im about to be in an abusive relationship. My toxic co-workers have been gaslighting and manipulating me into dating a couple of women I dont want to at all. So, they have been buying me gifts. Complimenting me and flattering me. Taking away my support system. Doing me favors. Ignoring me and withholding attention. And overall acting strange
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I know Im about to be in an abusive relationship. My toxic co-workers have been gaslighting and manipulating me into dating a couple of women I dont want to at all. So, they have been buying me gifts. Complimenting me and flattering me. Taking away my support system. Doing me favors. Ignoring me and withholding attention. And overall acting strange
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Robin
All the boxes ticked for me except the physical violence bit.
But I struggle with the characterisation of this as like deliberate tactics on the part of the abuser. I know my partner pretty well, we've been together for 8 years, and I don't think they are rationally aware that they're doing these things to control me.
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All the boxes ticked for me except the physical violence bit.
But I struggle with the characterisation of this as like deliberate tactics on the part of the abuser. I know my partner pretty well, we've been together for 8 years, and I don't think they are rationally aware that they're doing these things to control me.
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Emily
These are all the flags I see in my mom and some I see in my bf. I am terrified of my mom because of these reasons and because of some of the reasons for my bf. I can't move back cuz I am traumatized but I know I can't stay living with my bf much longer or I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last.
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These are all the flags I see in my mom and some I see in my bf. I am terrified of my mom because of these reasons and because of some of the reasons for my bf. I can't move back cuz I am traumatized but I know I can't stay living with my bf much longer or I don't know how much longer my sanity is going to last.
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psych2go
I feel like I did all of this but they did too, I still feel so guilty and don't know if I can forgive myself because I didn't even know I being emotionally controlling, I hate the though of it.
Should I be forgiven?
I want to learn from my past actions.
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I feel like I did all of this but they did too, I still feel so guilty and don't know if I can forgive myself because I didn't even know I being emotionally controlling, I hate the though of it.
Should I be forgiven?
I want to learn from my past actions.
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Robin
I'm reaching out here on u tube I'm being abused an have been abused for almost 2 years. He stalks me with phone has access to everything in my phone installed internet in my home breaker box. Police do not help.
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I'm reaching out here on u tube I'm being abused an have been abused for almost 2 years. He stalks me with phone has access to everything in my phone installed internet in my home breaker box. Police do not help.
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Tooba
If my partner is not harming me in any way or form, but throwing things during an argument, or screaming like crazy and holding my wrist tight, is it considered physical violence? Please let me know! It's URGENT.
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If my partner is not harming me in any way or form, but throwing things during an argument, or screaming like crazy and holding my wrist tight, is it considered physical violence? Please let me know! It's URGENT.
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louiseju
What do you do when u want to leave the father of your two children, because he is abusive to you? But kind of an ok father to the kids. And he has a right to have them x days during a month?
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What do you do when u want to leave the father of your two children, because he is abusive to you? But kind of an ok father to the kids. And he has a right to have them x days during a month?
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Lana
I broke up with my partner yesterday. It hurts so much because I truly loved them. I know that it was what I needed to do for my health and for my future. Im going to be focusing on me now
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I broke up with my partner yesterday. It hurts so much because I truly loved them. I know that it was what I needed to do for my health and for my future. Im going to be focusing on me now
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Katarina
Controlling behavior is not always that extreme. My boyfriend right now tries to control me on the simplist things. Did not realize he was emotionally abusive cause its so subtle
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Controlling behavior is not always that extreme. My boyfriend right now tries to control me on the simplist things. Did not realize he was emotionally abusive cause its so subtle
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education
I try to check the sign to be able to spot if my partner is abuser, but end up spotting myself doing one of the sign to my partner, I think I've a bit of abuse in me
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I try to check the sign to be able to spot if my partner is abuser, but end up spotting myself doing one of the sign to my partner, I think I've a bit of abuse in me
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nai
I didn't leave til it was was almost to late. He was chocking me in front of my daughter. He almost got attempted murder charges
I was lucky I lived.
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I didn't leave til it was was almost to late. He was chocking me in front of my daughter. He almost got attempted murder charges
I was lucky I lived.
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? 123.
My mom - its sickening! Especially after all the nasty stuff i saw or was forced to hear her involved in countless times growing up and currently.
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My mom - its sickening! Especially after all the nasty stuff i saw or was forced to hear her involved in countless times growing up and currently.
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RENEGADE
That moment when your significant other pretty much gets defined by this video. so yeah guys I'm probably gonna be single soon who want me? /j
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That moment when your significant other pretty much gets defined by this video. so yeah guys I'm probably gonna be single soon who want me? /j
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Victria
thank you for that video! im trying to help a friend that is in an abusive relationship and those topics made me understand more how she feels.
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thank you for that video! im trying to help a friend that is in an abusive relationship and those topics made me understand more how she feels.
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Sturdy
The last year was brutal. I never should of given you reaction and ended things long time ago. You know who, you'll see this possibly, M. T
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The last year was brutal. I never should of given you reaction and ended things long time ago. You know who, you'll see this possibly, M. T
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Amnesic
#2: when I'd mention having a headache my ex would always say the first time I saw your head I knew you would have problems with it.
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#2: when I'd mention having a headache my ex would always say the first time I saw your head I knew you would have problems with it.
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Trevor
an interesting idea: think about whether or not you do these things to others you know, instead of just whether it happens to you.
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an interesting idea: think about whether or not you do these things to others you know, instead of just whether it happens to you.
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susette
Since when has 911 been the number, one calls for abusive relationships. Unless it is for protection from physical violence
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Since when has 911 been the number, one calls for abusive relationships. Unless it is for protection from physical violence
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Onenation
I have had 8 out of these 10 red flags of abuse in my relationship. I left him now but why am I still in love with him.
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I have had 8 out of these 10 red flags of abuse in my relationship. I left him now but why am I still in love with him.
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Julson
Do they to this with purpose? Or because of their own trauma just behave this way And not Even notice those behaviours?
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Do they to this with purpose? Or because of their own trauma just behave this way And not Even notice those behaviours?
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