Sternberg's Theory of Love: Intimacy, Commitment, Passion
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Pang
I Think that love is a sense of loss and gain for someone when they are in a relationship. this can be stuff like feeling sympathy or empathy for someone when they have
some thing happen to them. and also that you care for their general well being. if you put this in action when someone is happy or gained something you will also feel happy or
feel like you gained something. but when they lose something you can feel loss as well as if it were your own or at least you care. the sense of loss and gain in a relationship can
affect you in many ways even in pleasure and passion or even coveting there must be something to gain and receive and something to give this is all so that some one may
experience gain. the commitment is categorized in the care for as long as you care there will be a sense of love but when you lose care there is no sense of love. some may
experience gain and loss but if they don't care about it it would not be categorized as love. it would make sense what i am going on a bout. in relation ship where loss is only
a thing there would be negative emotions that would damage them and make then have a loss of care due to its intensity or occurrence over time in accumulation. this will cause
toleration to be intolerable making causing you to not care anymore. But this can be fixed as long as you care there is reality involved and as long as you know gain and loss
and care you can continue your live as normal people. as long as you can care for someone or something and try to protect them or give to some one or some thing as something
to work towards. you will in a sense experience love in the form of accumulation. but if you give to someone and do not view it as your own gain and accumulation then things can
go very wrong. you will be frustrated or confused over what you are doing and you are not want to work towards something that you deem not worthy of your attention. this
can lead to neglect and even a empty feeling when some one that you once cared about got something or loss something. the simplest thing to know love is to care. love with
out the knowledge of loss and gain or at least the sense of it can be very confusing. the simple way to fix this is knowledge of the person and thing you care about what is
considered loss and gain for them and most importantly do you care?
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I Think that love is a sense of loss and gain for someone when they are in a relationship. this can be stuff like feeling sympathy or empathy for someone when they have
some thing happen to them. and also that you care for their general well being. if you put this in action when someone is happy or gained something you will also feel happy or
feel like you gained something. but when they lose something you can feel loss as well as if it were your own or at least you care. the sense of loss and gain in a relationship can
affect you in many ways even in pleasure and passion or even coveting there must be something to gain and receive and something to give this is all so that some one may
experience gain. the commitment is categorized in the care for as long as you care there will be a sense of love but when you lose care there is no sense of love. some may
experience gain and loss but if they don't care about it it would not be categorized as love. it would make sense what i am going on a bout. in relation ship where loss is only
a thing there would be negative emotions that would damage them and make then have a loss of care due to its intensity or occurrence over time in accumulation. this will cause
toleration to be intolerable making causing you to not care anymore. But this can be fixed as long as you care there is reality involved and as long as you know gain and loss
and care you can continue your live as normal people. as long as you can care for someone or something and try to protect them or give to some one or some thing as something
to work towards. you will in a sense experience love in the form of accumulation. but if you give to someone and do not view it as your own gain and accumulation then things can
go very wrong. you will be frustrated or confused over what you are doing and you are not want to work towards something that you deem not worthy of your attention. this
can lead to neglect and even a empty feeling when some one that you once cared about got something or loss something. the simplest thing to know love is to care. love with
out the knowledge of loss and gain or at least the sense of it can be very confusing. the simple way to fix this is knowledge of the person and thing you care about what is
considered loss and gain for them and most importantly do you care?
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Ramchandra
There is some thing beyond intimacy, passion and commitment and that is a pure relation in which
There is no expectations from the partner completely unconditional sheer love and not attached.
Commitment, intimacy follows this kind of behaviour.
Even if one partner practices it the partner naturally starts reciprocating.
This is how the Rishis and muni s of India be in marital lifes.
As long as there are Conditions of intimacy, passion and commitment true relationship doesnt exist.
True relationship is built on truth of unconditionally.
Any relation if based on any condition, one day it has to violate.
Hence the ideal yet challenging ( since self interest is given priority over others interest ) relationship is both coming together and set 0 expectations and each person is concerned for others needs, wishing good and beneficial.
All the rest follows.
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There is some thing beyond intimacy, passion and commitment and that is a pure relation in which
There is no expectations from the partner completely unconditional sheer love and not attached.
Commitment, intimacy follows this kind of behaviour.
Even if one partner practices it the partner naturally starts reciprocating.
This is how the Rishis and muni s of India be in marital lifes.
As long as there are Conditions of intimacy, passion and commitment true relationship doesnt exist.
True relationship is built on truth of unconditionally.
Any relation if based on any condition, one day it has to violate.
Hence the ideal yet challenging ( since self interest is given priority over others interest ) relationship is both coming together and set 0 expectations and each person is concerned for others needs, wishing good and beneficial.
All the rest follows.
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Laura
I imagine that 'love' in the sense of 'agape', is the result of an intention to love, whatever else is going on in terms of commitment, passion and/or intimacy. I don't imagine that proximity to the object of one's affections is necessary for an individual to care deeply about another/others, although it must help to support and foster attachment. I'd question the notion that attachment is necessary for love/agape to thrive. Much depends on the nature of the relationship between people. The Greeks describe these relationships beautifully, in my opinion.
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I imagine that 'love' in the sense of 'agape', is the result of an intention to love, whatever else is going on in terms of commitment, passion and/or intimacy. I don't imagine that proximity to the object of one's affections is necessary for an individual to care deeply about another/others, although it must help to support and foster attachment. I'd question the notion that attachment is necessary for love/agape to thrive. Much depends on the nature of the relationship between people. The Greeks describe these relationships beautifully, in my opinion.
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Frances
Dont let this discourage you from pursuing a relationship. While it may not be permanent, that doesnt stop you from enjoying what you have while you still have it. Love is a wonderful thing, and you should try to enjoy it in the moment and not worry so much about the future. The future will come as the present, eventually. Until then, just absorb the happiness that love brings. If it doesnt bring you happiness, then maybe that person isnt right for you.
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Dont let this discourage you from pursuing a relationship. While it may not be permanent, that doesnt stop you from enjoying what you have while you still have it. Love is a wonderful thing, and you should try to enjoy it in the moment and not worry so much about the future. The future will come as the present, eventually. Until then, just absorb the happiness that love brings. If it doesnt bring you happiness, then maybe that person isnt right for you.
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Michael
I am studying the 8 different types of love, as Sternberg (1985) implies.
I am thankful for this video. I think it's interesting that one can know that there can be different types of love they experience, in terms with interdependency.
Honestly, my favorite, of the 8, is companionate love. I think that is a given, because with that love, you can establish firm relationships with your friends, family, and a significant other.
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I am studying the 8 different types of love, as Sternberg (1985) implies.
I am thankful for this video. I think it's interesting that one can know that there can be different types of love they experience, in terms with interdependency.
Honestly, my favorite, of the 8, is companionate love. I think that is a given, because with that love, you can establish firm relationships with your friends, family, and a significant other.
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The
If you're are a good person (I mean actually a good person not the type of good everyone thinks of oneself) you'll be able to recognise another good person and when you both meet you'll fall in love, the real one cause that wouldn't be cause of looks or wealth or passion bit for what you're from inside, your kind /soul, and It'll never change, only grows
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If you're are a good person (I mean actually a good person not the type of good everyone thinks of oneself) you'll be able to recognise another good person and when you both meet you'll fall in love, the real one cause that wouldn't be cause of looks or wealth or passion bit for what you're from inside, your kind /soul, and It'll never change, only grows
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Mentoring
What I appreciate about this is it gives us some concrete areas to work toward - developing all three aspects of love. What I've experienced in my marriage is the commitment because of the sake of principle and to please societal expectations without the passion or intimacy from either partner. This was helpful to me.
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What I appreciate about this is it gives us some concrete areas to work toward - developing all three aspects of love. What I've experienced in my marriage is the commitment because of the sake of principle and to please societal expectations without the passion or intimacy from either partner. This was helpful to me.
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Spectre
Well if Ive learned anything from my relationships is that its never gonna be what I expect it to be or what she wants it to be. If anything its going to be the relationship is gonna look like the offshoot of the B roll spoof of the ideal shared vision. So Id say the loves presented here are pretty accurate
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Well if Ive learned anything from my relationships is that its never gonna be what I expect it to be or what she wants it to be. If anything its going to be the relationship is gonna look like the offshoot of the B roll spoof of the ideal shared vision. So Id say the loves presented here are pretty accurate
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Loraine
Consummate love is what people with ADHD felt on the first few months of the the relationship, however as the relationship keep going, they tend to feel bored as it became a routine and the supply of dopamine is falling down. And normally it could end up cheating on their partners. Just my opinion.
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Consummate love is what people with ADHD felt on the first few months of the the relationship, however as the relationship keep going, they tend to feel bored as it became a routine and the supply of dopamine is falling down. And normally it could end up cheating on their partners. Just my opinion.
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Seadog
Wow so consummate love which has all 3 components not only wont last but isnt considered a true form of love? Very disheartening. So does that mean companionate love is what we are all sentenced to in life. intimacy and companionship without passion!
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Wow so consummate love which has all 3 components not only wont last but isnt considered a true form of love? Very disheartening. So does that mean companionate love is what we are all sentenced to in life. intimacy and companionship without passion!
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Vincent
What about P + C and no I? Seems totally valid for a man to have that sort of relationship. Dont necessarily need to be super intimate with the woman. But willing to provide and protect. Intimacy can be with other men.
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What about P + C and no I? Seems totally valid for a man to have that sort of relationship. Dont necessarily need to be super intimate with the woman. But willing to provide and protect. Intimacy can be with other men.
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Sarah
So that's what it is. I've always had difficulty feeling most kinds of love and have fallen out of so many relationships from it. I lack passion, closed off intimacy, and fear commitment.
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So that's what it is. I've always had difficulty feeling most kinds of love and have fallen out of so many relationships from it. I lack passion, closed off intimacy, and fear commitment.
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Erika
Wait, I'm confused, are these the 6 forms of love or the 8? I found it very interesting but I counted 8 forms of love and not 6, unless two of these listed didn't count as a form of love?
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Wait, I'm confused, are these the 6 forms of love or the 8? I found it very interesting but I counted 8 forms of love and not 6, unless two of these listed didn't count as a form of love?
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Jonas
I feel like every time I meet an attractive girl I feel all of the 3 but they only see me as a friend I feel like I'm catching feelings way way too fast and it's horrible
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I feel like every time I meet an attractive girl I feel all of the 3 but they only see me as a friend I feel like I'm catching feelings way way too fast and it's horrible
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Hurk
Fatuous love is the hookup culture like tinder. DTF? Responses are from the first conversation. If they like the activity together then it will be permanent.
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Fatuous love is the hookup culture like tinder. DTF? Responses are from the first conversation. If they like the activity together then it will be permanent.
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Ricardo
Its kinda awkward watching this when you finally get a chance with someone youve wanted for a while but theres only passion. No intimacy or commitment.
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Its kinda awkward watching this when you finally get a chance with someone youve wanted for a while but theres only passion. No intimacy or commitment.
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Willow-Blaize
Did anyone else notice that the video says that, according to Sternberg, there are 6 forms of love, but then the video went on to list 8?
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Did anyone else notice that the video says that, according to Sternberg, there are 6 forms of love, but then the video went on to list 8?
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Roger
You forgot about self love the type of love that only you give to yourself and no commit to anybody that want to suck you life force
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You forgot about self love the type of love that only you give to yourself and no commit to anybody that want to suck you life force
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Clqudy
Yeah, that's nice. but other than familial, love btwn 2 ppl is:
1) a temporary mental illness that then becomes
2) a choice
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Yeah, that's nice. but other than familial, love btwn 2 ppl is:
1) a temporary mental illness that then becomes
2) a choice
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Catherine
I was in an empty love relationship. Those relationships don't last. You need intimacy and passion to keep it going.
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I was in an empty love relationship. Those relationships don't last. You need intimacy and passion to keep it going.
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education
That's really interesting, I think I'll use it to build my future relationship goals X) yknow like a check list XDD
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That's really interesting, I think I'll use it to build my future relationship goals X) yknow like a check list XDD
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Margaret
Got AP psy Exam tomorrow and my teacher didn't touch much about this topic, so watching this is so helpful.
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Got AP psy Exam tomorrow and my teacher didn't touch much about this topic, so watching this is so helpful.
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Utopias
This is not talking kinds of love. It's talking about kinds of human relationships. Which is not the same
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This is not talking kinds of love. It's talking about kinds of human relationships. Which is not the same
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EDUCATOR
You have not covered Agape love where you can love the person without intimacy, passion and commitment.
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You have not covered Agape love where you can love the person without intimacy, passion and commitment.
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