5 Signs You Cannot Handle a Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Toastedfriesog
I saw someone mention selflessness in the comments and I 100% agree with that one. I was in a 2 year relationship with this one girl named Olivia. At the start we seemed to have a good balance with the giving and receiving in the relationship. Later on she seemed to start pulling away and I had talked to her about it but she denied all of my claims and accusations. The relationship ended up being one sided to where I was doing everything I could to hold up the relationship while she put little to no effort into it. I had sleepless nights, cried a lot, starting having panic attacks(very first time ever getting them, and I did everything in my power to keep her happy and safe. Around 3 months ago I confronted her again cause the entire week before she barely talked to me and I could clearly sense she was drifting away from me and losing interest. I asked her a few questions to see what could've been going wrong then I asked what I thought was a simple question and that was why do you love me? 3 days went by and I got no answer so I decided to break up with her and she had nothing to say but Ok stop texting me, have a good life ig It broke me and ruined me mentally and emotionally, my grades in school went to shit for about a week and my parents were no help at all.
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I saw someone mention selflessness in the comments and I 100% agree with that one. I was in a 2 year relationship with this one girl named Olivia. At the start we seemed to have a good balance with the giving and receiving in the relationship. Later on she seemed to start pulling away and I had talked to her about it but she denied all of my claims and accusations. The relationship ended up being one sided to where I was doing everything I could to hold up the relationship while she put little to no effort into it. I had sleepless nights, cried a lot, starting having panic attacks(very first time ever getting them, and I did everything in my power to keep her happy and safe. Around 3 months ago I confronted her again cause the entire week before she barely talked to me and I could clearly sense she was drifting away from me and losing interest. I asked her a few questions to see what could've been going wrong then I asked what I thought was a simple question and that was why do you love me? 3 days went by and I got no answer so I decided to break up with her and she had nothing to say but Ok stop texting me, have a good life ig It broke me and ruined me mentally and emotionally, my grades in school went to shit for about a week and my parents were no help at all.
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Roseeevil
There are people who are interested in me but i can't seem to reciprocate the same energy most of the time. Like i prefer to not chat/messages them frequently, i tend to ignore their chat a little while before i reply back (because my work requires me to limit phone uses.
Maybe because I've seen my relatives/eldest family members trying to get in relationship but they haven't found their match and for that i kinda have this mindset where it's better off for me to be single sometimes. Also, due to past toxic relationship it's not easy to trust people. For example, they might being real but my mind tryna figure out if this wasn't a manipulation, flirting just to show their ego, or what else.
But honestly, im working on myself, engaging with people. making new connections and how to balance it all in real/socmed. For now, it's better for me to just living my life, exploring the universe and work on myself. So much more for me to learn all these stuff while balancing/juggling whatever is on the plate of our life. Hoping i will get new insight/knowledges upon all the things that matters.
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There are people who are interested in me but i can't seem to reciprocate the same energy most of the time. Like i prefer to not chat/messages them frequently, i tend to ignore their chat a little while before i reply back (because my work requires me to limit phone uses.
Maybe because I've seen my relatives/eldest family members trying to get in relationship but they haven't found their match and for that i kinda have this mindset where it's better off for me to be single sometimes. Also, due to past toxic relationship it's not easy to trust people. For example, they might being real but my mind tryna figure out if this wasn't a manipulation, flirting just to show their ego, or what else.
But honestly, im working on myself, engaging with people. making new connections and how to balance it all in real/socmed. For now, it's better for me to just living my life, exploring the universe and work on myself. So much more for me to learn all these stuff while balancing/juggling whatever is on the plate of our life. Hoping i will get new insight/knowledges upon all the things that matters.
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Kitzuki
idk why but sometimes i feel like my feelings are getting ignored my girlfriend has a Best friend its okay that she has him but the thing is she wasnt gave me the attention i needed it was like ignoring me i didnt know how to handle this so i gave her only two options but this was hurting her so we both hurted us so we talked about it but i dont feel very right about some disicions that are made i dont know how to handle my feelings about this i hope it will all get better soon but maybe it was the thing that she dont live with me now well long distance relationships are meh
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idk why but sometimes i feel like my feelings are getting ignored my girlfriend has a Best friend its okay that she has him but the thing is she wasnt gave me the attention i needed it was like ignoring me i didnt know how to handle this so i gave her only two options but this was hurting her so we both hurted us so we talked about it but i dont feel very right about some disicions that are made i dont know how to handle my feelings about this i hope it will all get better soon but maybe it was the thing that she dont live with me now well long distance relationships are meh
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The
I am currently facing difficulties in keeping myself calm in a relationship. We are still teenagers 17-18 years old, so we are sort of living a distance relationship(we live far, but in the same country. I get angry at my partner for apperently no reason(when she is talking about her hobby, when telling how her day was, when expressing her opinion) I am trying to fight with the inner self, control myself, but I can't and I don't know why. I think I am immature for a relationship, but how can I fix this problem without needing to break up with my loved one?
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I am currently facing difficulties in keeping myself calm in a relationship. We are still teenagers 17-18 years old, so we are sort of living a distance relationship(we live far, but in the same country. I get angry at my partner for apperently no reason(when she is talking about her hobby, when telling how her day was, when expressing her opinion) I am trying to fight with the inner self, control myself, but I can't and I don't know why. I think I am immature for a relationship, but how can I fix this problem without needing to break up with my loved one?
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Bonhomie
I made a mistake that I tried to push my GF away because of my own insecurity but after 1 days without her, I feel something is missing and I want it back which is her. She asked me if I hate her and I reply I don't hate her, but that time I'm really have conflation with myself. I'm a long time phych2go fan and your video is helping to cope with it by providing how. I don't know what will be the result after that a while rest she told me, all I can hope is for the best that she will forgive me for that kind of stubbornness.
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I made a mistake that I tried to push my GF away because of my own insecurity but after 1 days without her, I feel something is missing and I want it back which is her. She asked me if I hate her and I reply I don't hate her, but that time I'm really have conflation with myself. I'm a long time phych2go fan and your video is helping to cope with it by providing how. I don't know what will be the result after that a while rest she told me, all I can hope is for the best that she will forgive me for that kind of stubbornness.
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Nicole
1. I'm not selfish
2. I'm not prideful
3. I don't have co-dependency
4. I'm always expressing my problem in a nice way and with good communication
5. I don't fear commitments
And yet still single for 27 years, don't even have one ex. Im the oldest and my youngest has one or more of this sign but he has his own family now. a wife and a child. While me despite don't have those signs but still turning down by women. Well maybe those signs are not absolute and it depends.
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1. I'm not selfish
2. I'm not prideful
3. I don't have co-dependency
4. I'm always expressing my problem in a nice way and with good communication
5. I don't fear commitments
And yet still single for 27 years, don't even have one ex. Im the oldest and my youngest has one or more of this sign but he has his own family now. a wife and a child. While me despite don't have those signs but still turning down by women. Well maybe those signs are not absolute and it depends.
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Jordan
I'm very committphobic, yet I have kept perusing relationships. I just broke off a thing that has only been happening with a co-worker for a couple of weeks and was moving too fast for me. I feel pretty guilty because they had a bad relationship with a co-worker with the same name in the past, and I feel like I've compounded that trauma. The consequences of that aren't only mine to deal with. I guess I just needed to say it out loud.
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I'm very committphobic, yet I have kept perusing relationships. I just broke off a thing that has only been happening with a co-worker for a couple of weeks and was moving too fast for me. I feel pretty guilty because they had a bad relationship with a co-worker with the same name in the past, and I feel like I've compounded that trauma. The consequences of that aren't only mine to deal with. I guess I just needed to say it out loud.
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megzx96
I was diagnosed with bpd 4 years ago. I was single for 3. I was fine. But before then I was in relationship from relationship, but it was toxic and I feel its messed me up more. I'm a person who dreams of having a husband and family but being in a relationship with how my brain is I feel I don't deserve love. I shut down when I try to communicate. I've finally went to better help for therapy, I'm desperate for help.
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I was diagnosed with bpd 4 years ago. I was single for 3. I was fine. But before then I was in relationship from relationship, but it was toxic and I feel its messed me up more. I'm a person who dreams of having a husband and family but being in a relationship with how my brain is I feel I don't deserve love. I shut down when I try to communicate. I've finally went to better help for therapy, I'm desperate for help.
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Mell
Help, I have all of these but I also dont want to leave my current relationship. We can get in a lot of discussions and misunderstandings due to our flaws (mostly mine, but we feel happy with each other. He puts up with so much because he doesnt want to end it either. I dont want to make him suffer like that anymore
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Help, I have all of these but I also dont want to leave my current relationship. We can get in a lot of discussions and misunderstandings due to our flaws (mostly mine, but we feel happy with each other. He puts up with so much because he doesnt want to end it either. I dont want to make him suffer like that anymore
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Testy
1) Selfishness: Taking significantly more. than you are giving
2) Prideful Having to be always right
3) Depending on your partner to make you happy; co dependent lacking self sufficiency.
4) Expect people to read your mind; know what you need without communication
5) Commitment to relationship fears
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1) Selfishness: Taking significantly more. than you are giving
2) Prideful Having to be always right
3) Depending on your partner to make you happy; co dependent lacking self sufficiency.
4) Expect people to read your mind; know what you need without communication
5) Commitment to relationship fears
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Hagan
I can relate my dating struggles from this video in terms of dealing with co-dependency. Ive also been involved with someone who was selfish and possessive but labeled it love Ive experienced someone who had severe abandonment and dependency issues that very much impacted our relationship.
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I can relate my dating struggles from this video in terms of dealing with co-dependency. Ive also been involved with someone who was selfish and possessive but labeled it love Ive experienced someone who had severe abandonment and dependency issues that very much impacted our relationship.
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silver2therescue1
I used to be like this but over the last year and a half I've been leaning about myself. Learning who I really am, learning what trauma I had in my childhood and how to overcome it and how to be in relationships and I don't have these problems anymore.
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I used to be like this but over the last year and a half I've been leaning about myself. Learning who I really am, learning what trauma I had in my childhood and how to overcome it and how to be in relationships and I don't have these problems anymore.
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Smoke
It's true about the childhood stuff. During the time in my childhood where everyone was learning to be intimate I was learning to be numb and closed off and now as an adult I am in a default state of being numb and closed off so I can't have normal relationships
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It's true about the childhood stuff. During the time in my childhood where everyone was learning to be intimate I was learning to be numb and closed off and now as an adult I am in a default state of being numb and closed off so I can't have normal relationships
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Smitty
My gf isn't physically attracted to me because I gained weight and now I'm losing weight but she still doesn't seem to be attracted she says I'm the perfect guy in every way but doesn't seem to show that is it worth the effort and heart ache or should I walk
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My gf isn't physically attracted to me because I gained weight and now I'm losing weight but she still doesn't seem to be attracted she says I'm the perfect guy in every way but doesn't seem to show that is it worth the effort and heart ache or should I walk
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Speed
Ik its not common, but what about being afraid of relationships in general because of detachment issues. Like you feel like you love someone but at the same time worry you might lose feelings way too easily, hence pushing any kinds of relationships away
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Ik its not common, but what about being afraid of relationships in general because of detachment issues. Like you feel like you love someone but at the same time worry you might lose feelings way too easily, hence pushing any kinds of relationships away
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woozybycozy
Low self - esteem is also a culprit!
I am trying to deal with that. This phase is different but by strong will and wide thinking ( Put yourself outside the zone and catch what's happening in the zone ) can make it possible to overcome it.
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Low self - esteem is also a culprit!
I am trying to deal with that. This phase is different but by strong will and wide thinking ( Put yourself outside the zone and catch what's happening in the zone ) can make it possible to overcome it.
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Fanta
everytime i date people they often leave my saying i'm too awkward and that they don't feel any connection with me. What should i do? I want to change, i'm emotionally ready to be someone's partner but i just can't be interesting with people.
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everytime i date people they often leave my saying i'm too awkward and that they don't feel any connection with me. What should i do? I want to change, i'm emotionally ready to be someone's partner but i just can't be interesting with people.
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Pratima
With time, I have realised its not how much you get from the relationship, its also about how abled are you to give the same efforts to the other one.
I think that solves major problems.
Thank you psych2go!
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With time, I have realised its not how much you get from the relationship, its also about how abled are you to give the same efforts to the other one.
I think that solves major problems.
Thank you psych2go!
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yoimiya's
Only thing i do is the pride one but i only insist on being right because its logically the best option for everyone not just myself. Im also open for their opinion but if its not reasonable well-
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Only thing i do is the pride one but i only insist on being right because its logically the best option for everyone not just myself. Im also open for their opinion but if its not reasonable well-
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Lupus419
6: You can't get emotional attached with anyone. And you prefer to stay single
7: You are sociopath or narcissist and your nature tend to be predatory and harmful to other people.
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6: You can't get emotional attached with anyone. And you prefer to stay single
7: You are sociopath or narcissist and your nature tend to be predatory and harmful to other people.
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Nynna
All this does is come help me. Then he pretends to have feelings for me but just ignores me. Very lonely and herat broken for way to long. I think lm killing myself. Way too long.
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All this does is come help me. Then he pretends to have feelings for me but just ignores me. Very lonely and herat broken for way to long. I think lm killing myself. Way too long.
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Sourya
Well, I'm convinced that anyone who comes to my life will leave me eventually. As negative as it sounds, it's liberating really, helps me keep my expectations in check.
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Well, I'm convinced that anyone who comes to my life will leave me eventually. As negative as it sounds, it's liberating really, helps me keep my expectations in check.
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greenasemerald
Love is about appreciation heck yeah, it's the reason i quit when other person can't understand your efforts it's better to seprate than slowly start to hate
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Love is about appreciation heck yeah, it's the reason i quit when other person can't understand your efforts it's better to seprate than slowly start to hate
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Copper
6. She's way too good looking and you're actually white bread generic like in this video. Oh and you have all 5 of those issues and she doesn't have any.
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6. She's way too good looking and you're actually white bread generic like in this video. Oh and you have all 5 of those issues and she doesn't have any.
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