What is Emotional Blackmail?
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Uh boy. It should tell you what I've been coping with for most of my adult life that the SECOND blood relative in my family who has pulled this has threatened suicide repeatedly if things don't go his way or if I don't do what he says. And now, since I won't back down he is telling folks potty lies of his own, supposedly about me, when he barely knows me, knows nothing about my character apparently, and can no longer hold a new idea in his mind. Yuck.
When life dealt me my hand of cards, I managed to get TWO narcissistic nutjobs in the form of blood relatives to cope with in my adult life. As a blessing I only let this one live with me and mooch off of me for two years as an adult, not five years like the other one. AND I'm a woman in science, so that makes me an easy mark for creeps who don't like women or science and especially not the combination, or are scientists themselves and creeps (every profession has them. Having 'in house creeps already, family members who use these awful techniques to blackmail one emotionally, makes one also appear to be an easy mark to creeps outside one's own blood relatives who perceive and are appetized by perceived family disunity and weakness, the way sharks are appetized by blood.
But the take-home message is that, though some adults deteriorate as they age, as my two hair-raisingly manipulative, narcissistic blood relatives did as they aged and died or survived, SOME adults follow a different pattern: SOME adults IMPROVE and LEARN with age, getting better and better, like wine, or cheese, or. Christmas cake. or redwood trees or bristlecone pines.
I plan to become the SECOND kind of adult, who just keeps on getting better with age, like our new President of the US and our new Vice President. Yea, team USA! When they go low, we go high, keep calm, carry on, and develop new career skills, social skills, and human insight, deepening like the fictitious creatures called farandolae that the author Madeline L'Engle claimed lived within the mitochondria in her kids' novel, A Wind in the Door. we CAN do it!
(Jeepers creepers, I am likely the only white person left who remembers Barbara Jordan's DNC speech. I don't know anything about her really, I just really liked her speech that she gave on TV, a long, long time ago)
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Uh boy. It should tell you what I've been coping with for most of my adult life that the SECOND blood relative in my family who has pulled this has threatened suicide repeatedly if things don't go his way or if I don't do what he says. And now, since I won't back down he is telling folks potty lies of his own, supposedly about me, when he barely knows me, knows nothing about my character apparently, and can no longer hold a new idea in his mind. Yuck.
When life dealt me my hand of cards, I managed to get TWO narcissistic nutjobs in the form of blood relatives to cope with in my adult life. As a blessing I only let this one live with me and mooch off of me for two years as an adult, not five years like the other one. AND I'm a woman in science, so that makes me an easy mark for creeps who don't like women or science and especially not the combination, or are scientists themselves and creeps (every profession has them. Having 'in house creeps already, family members who use these awful techniques to blackmail one emotionally, makes one also appear to be an easy mark to creeps outside one's own blood relatives who perceive and are appetized by perceived family disunity and weakness, the way sharks are appetized by blood.
But the take-home message is that, though some adults deteriorate as they age, as my two hair-raisingly manipulative, narcissistic blood relatives did as they aged and died or survived, SOME adults follow a different pattern: SOME adults IMPROVE and LEARN with age, getting better and better, like wine, or cheese, or. Christmas cake. or redwood trees or bristlecone pines.
I plan to become the SECOND kind of adult, who just keeps on getting better with age, like our new President of the US and our new Vice President. Yea, team USA! When they go low, we go high, keep calm, carry on, and develop new career skills, social skills, and human insight, deepening like the fictitious creatures called farandolae that the author Madeline L'Engle claimed lived within the mitochondria in her kids' novel, A Wind in the Door. we CAN do it!
(Jeepers creepers, I am likely the only white person left who remembers Barbara Jordan's DNC speech. I don't know anything about her really, I just really liked her speech that she gave on TV, a long, long time ago)
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Sara
I've actually seen this happen to one of my friends before. He was groomed and emotionally blackmailed by an older male, this guy that my friend was talking to threatened to harm himself and made him feel accountable for anything bad that happened in their so called relationship. I saw that this was a clear problem and asked someone for help on the topic but that didn't work out too well since they didn't see the problem in the matter. This eventually led to my friend having an awful mental breakdown and having to get psychiatric help and go away for awhile. I don't know what happened to the groomer who emotionally blackmailed him and groomed him, but I do hope that he didn't get away Scott free from this. I had to cut my friend off after this since he was bringing me down with him as well by relying on me to make his relationship with the groomer work, which I tried to help at first since I thought it was just something friends did but after seeing this happen for about a year, I had to just cut them both off. There were times when me and my friend did speak after this but as far as I know at the moment he's still getting psychiatric help for the trauma he endured and is staying at a psychiatric hospital because he tried to commit suicide in the middle of all this (I only found out about the suicide attempt after the fact)
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I've actually seen this happen to one of my friends before. He was groomed and emotionally blackmailed by an older male, this guy that my friend was talking to threatened to harm himself and made him feel accountable for anything bad that happened in their so called relationship. I saw that this was a clear problem and asked someone for help on the topic but that didn't work out too well since they didn't see the problem in the matter. This eventually led to my friend having an awful mental breakdown and having to get psychiatric help and go away for awhile. I don't know what happened to the groomer who emotionally blackmailed him and groomed him, but I do hope that he didn't get away Scott free from this. I had to cut my friend off after this since he was bringing me down with him as well by relying on me to make his relationship with the groomer work, which I tried to help at first since I thought it was just something friends did but after seeing this happen for about a year, I had to just cut them both off. There were times when me and my friend did speak after this but as far as I know at the moment he's still getting psychiatric help for the trauma he endured and is staying at a psychiatric hospital because he tried to commit suicide in the middle of all this (I only found out about the suicide attempt after the fact)
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LEELEE_1989
My older brother is an alcoholic he is very badly behaved he smashes stuff and ends up homeless constantly because of his behaviour anyway I sorted him a flat and said he could stay with me until he gets the keys in a weeks time he knows I don't allow him to drink or be drunk at my property 4 days in he came back at 10am woke me up I'm very poorly I asked him to leave sober up and come back when he was sober his response was If I have to leave I will never come back and you will never see me again I gave in 30 hours later my shower had broken so he couldn't get a shower he had it in his head I was just preventing him from getting a shower he said if I can't get a shower within 24hrs I'm going into town and you won't see me again like it's my obligation to give him a shower I was nice enough to let him stay anyway when I pointed out the emotional blackmail he started throwing a massive temper tantrum this is a 45 year old man by the way he stormed off as if I'd wronged him he's always been extremely toxic putting me down I guess I'm at the point where I don't ever want to see him again it's sad because I truly love and care about him but he causes nothing but problems and ruins his own life constantly
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My older brother is an alcoholic he is very badly behaved he smashes stuff and ends up homeless constantly because of his behaviour anyway I sorted him a flat and said he could stay with me until he gets the keys in a weeks time he knows I don't allow him to drink or be drunk at my property 4 days in he came back at 10am woke me up I'm very poorly I asked him to leave sober up and come back when he was sober his response was If I have to leave I will never come back and you will never see me again I gave in 30 hours later my shower had broken so he couldn't get a shower he had it in his head I was just preventing him from getting a shower he said if I can't get a shower within 24hrs I'm going into town and you won't see me again like it's my obligation to give him a shower I was nice enough to let him stay anyway when I pointed out the emotional blackmail he started throwing a massive temper tantrum this is a 45 year old man by the way he stormed off as if I'd wronged him he's always been extremely toxic putting me down I guess I'm at the point where I don't ever want to see him again it's sad because I truly love and care about him but he causes nothing but problems and ruins his own life constantly
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Aupixa
I stayed in a relationship due to guilt cause he threatened to kill himself on Christmas if I left then I ended up becoming so codependent I wanted to inflate his ego I lost my ways to set boundaries and became a mental wreak I had problems of my own too and it just made them way worse soon Id be prone outburst and crying a lot cause I had no idea who I was and I felt so bad cause I didnt want my bf to die bc I was selfish wanting to better myself i ended up just completely not caring about myself and only focused on him and he had a lust/obsession looking back isnt love he was a broken person it took me 2 years to finally accept everything who I became I used to believe in being there for people my biggest mistake was keeping that he threatened me to myself cause if I wouldve said something I wouldve gotten out earlier till this day he claims hes a good guy and he never did anything wrong but its probably because he forgot about what he did to me that changed me forever I tolerated so much that shouldve never been he always told me the only way out was death and I hate that I let it hold me for so long
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I stayed in a relationship due to guilt cause he threatened to kill himself on Christmas if I left then I ended up becoming so codependent I wanted to inflate his ego I lost my ways to set boundaries and became a mental wreak I had problems of my own too and it just made them way worse soon Id be prone outburst and crying a lot cause I had no idea who I was and I felt so bad cause I didnt want my bf to die bc I was selfish wanting to better myself i ended up just completely not caring about myself and only focused on him and he had a lust/obsession looking back isnt love he was a broken person it took me 2 years to finally accept everything who I became I used to believe in being there for people my biggest mistake was keeping that he threatened me to myself cause if I wouldve said something I wouldve gotten out earlier till this day he claims hes a good guy and he never did anything wrong but its probably because he forgot about what he did to me that changed me forever I tolerated so much that shouldve never been he always told me the only way out was death and I hate that I let it hold me for so long
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M. D.
Sister it is very much important to distinguish that case a real emotional blackmail or literally any problem a person having baby somebody is emotional black wearing any other person how you will define and how you will rule out that a person is not emotionally blackmailing u i think first of all we have to have the knowledge how to control emotional blackmail of other person this is a very difficult as well as impossible task ever but in one case I could got success onley if you like to discuss with me this type of issues I will always welcome nice video for the definition of the emotional blackmails and fact the content which one has been given by you really have the impact in a General society but people do not know how does this thing can effect society when you know you child is Dexter as well as within the command or the impression of goons or the family of goons. I think this is the most dangerous thing ever and this type of system is self sufficient to destroy society village or otherwise.
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Sister it is very much important to distinguish that case a real emotional blackmail or literally any problem a person having baby somebody is emotional black wearing any other person how you will define and how you will rule out that a person is not emotionally blackmailing u i think first of all we have to have the knowledge how to control emotional blackmail of other person this is a very difficult as well as impossible task ever but in one case I could got success onley if you like to discuss with me this type of issues I will always welcome nice video for the definition of the emotional blackmails and fact the content which one has been given by you really have the impact in a General society but people do not know how does this thing can effect society when you know you child is Dexter as well as within the command or the impression of goons or the family of goons. I think this is the most dangerous thing ever and this type of system is self sufficient to destroy society village or otherwise.
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Victoria
Something like this happened with my mom. She said that if I wasn't there to watch the kids, then she would lose her job and live under a bridge. And this was when she found out that I was talking to my dad, who left because tension between them was intense.
Anyway, two years have passed since that incident, and she's got a boyfriend that she instantly forgave, but I know she's gonna still rely on me to take care of my sisters.
I just want to get out and get a job, so I won't have to be in that emotional war.
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Something like this happened with my mom. She said that if I wasn't there to watch the kids, then she would lose her job and live under a bridge. And this was when she found out that I was talking to my dad, who left because tension between them was intense.
Anyway, two years have passed since that incident, and she's got a boyfriend that she instantly forgave, but I know she's gonna still rely on me to take care of my sisters.
I just want to get out and get a job, so I won't have to be in that emotional war.
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CANDY
Ive had abusive tendencys ever since I was abused by a friend because I was young and I followed what my friends did. They would use this often but they would never Be clear with what they wanted accept for my pity and efforts to convince them not to kill themselves many times. I cant get rid of these violent habbits of hurting my friends to get what I want and I dont know what to do. I take it out on myself as I guess karma but thats not the right thing to do. can anyone give suggestions
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Ive had abusive tendencys ever since I was abused by a friend because I was young and I followed what my friends did. They would use this often but they would never Be clear with what they wanted accept for my pity and efforts to convince them not to kill themselves many times. I cant get rid of these violent habbits of hurting my friends to get what I want and I dont know what to do. I take it out on myself as I guess karma but thats not the right thing to do. can anyone give suggestions
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Danilo
I had a very tough (to say the least) relationship with my brother. After a lot of suffering and manipulation, I decided to break up with him. I dont avoid him, I just dont look for him anymore.
Now my mom wants us to make up. Her pressure is going high all the time for emotional reasons. My father says they are old and wont last long. My sister blames me for that and ask me to pretend to make up with my brother.
Do you think all this is an emotional blackmail?
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I had a very tough (to say the least) relationship with my brother. After a lot of suffering and manipulation, I decided to break up with him. I dont avoid him, I just dont look for him anymore.
Now my mom wants us to make up. Her pressure is going high all the time for emotional reasons. My father says they are old and wont last long. My sister blames me for that and ask me to pretend to make up with my brother.
Do you think all this is an emotional blackmail?
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YJ_SH
Can one be emotionally blackmailed by a family member too I wonder as I honestly feel trapped living with this said family member and having nowhere else or even noone else really who can substantially help me out on my situation especially during such a time like this. But watching videos like this does remind me I might not be the only one alone in my current situation but still. hoping for miracles that might never come my way.
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Can one be emotionally blackmailed by a family member too I wonder as I honestly feel trapped living with this said family member and having nowhere else or even noone else really who can substantially help me out on my situation especially during such a time like this. But watching videos like this does remind me I might not be the only one alone in my current situation but still. hoping for miracles that might never come my way.
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betrix3000
My issue is, when it's not used as a threat, just a known possibility and they actually follow through with it. Example:
Me: I need to take some time for myself this evening.
Friend: Okay.
Friend: (self harms)
Me: Why'd you do that?
Friend: I missed you. It's hard to be away from you. But it's okay. You're back now!
It's extremely hard, and I know it's not my fault, but still.
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My issue is, when it's not used as a threat, just a known possibility and they actually follow through with it. Example:
Me: I need to take some time for myself this evening.
Friend: Okay.
Friend: (self harms)
Me: Why'd you do that?
Friend: I missed you. It's hard to be away from you. But it's okay. You're back now!
It's extremely hard, and I know it's not my fault, but still.
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Savannah
I worry about my partners health a lot as they have a very poor sleep schedule and I know its not healthy but their friends have told me Im controlling their life by suggesting to my s/o they should sleep at a better time bc Im worried about them. I was worried I was doing just this by being concerned about my s/o: emotional blackmailing. But it doesnt seem to be the case, which I am very relieved.
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I worry about my partners health a lot as they have a very poor sleep schedule and I know its not healthy but their friends have told me Im controlling their life by suggesting to my s/o they should sleep at a better time bc Im worried about them. I was worried I was doing just this by being concerned about my s/o: emotional blackmailing. But it doesnt seem to be the case, which I am very relieved.
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anjana
My father is blackmailing me, he use to blackmail my mother before now he is doing the same to me, I have to agree every thing he says if not he will stop eating and make me feel bad, he is diabetic patients and he uses it very well, my sisters don't understand what he is doing is wrong instead they say it's because of me, some times I feel like taking own my life, am tired only God can help me
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My father is blackmailing me, he use to blackmail my mother before now he is doing the same to me, I have to agree every thing he says if not he will stop eating and make me feel bad, he is diabetic patients and he uses it very well, my sisters don't understand what he is doing is wrong instead they say it's because of me, some times I feel like taking own my life, am tired only God can help me
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diehardanimefann
I have been abused by my narcissistic mum and she used a lot of emotional blackmail to me. When I grow up as an adult now, I start to pick up these emotional blackmailing and used it to my partner. I dont know what I can do. I am aware that I can be toxic and manipulative, but i dont know what to do about it. I feel like I am a very bad person and I feel really helpless.
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I have been abused by my narcissistic mum and she used a lot of emotional blackmail to me. When I grow up as an adult now, I start to pick up these emotional blackmailing and used it to my partner. I dont know what I can do. I am aware that I can be toxic and manipulative, but i dont know what to do about it. I feel like I am a very bad person and I feel really helpless.
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Olutman
This can and will be a tremendous help for others to explore their feelings in a new perspective. I was lucky enough to get back at the blackmailer, I found a small helper I liked talking about this man and my feeling of confusion being put into words helped me become confident, of course they have skills to solve but this is truly validating. Thanks dude
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This can and will be a tremendous help for others to explore their feelings in a new perspective. I was lucky enough to get back at the blackmailer, I found a small helper I liked talking about this man and my feeling of confusion being put into words helped me become confident, of course they have skills to solve but this is truly validating. Thanks dude
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Waffles
Does it count if your friend says that I owe her a lot of things because she bought me food? Like oh I bought you a donut when we first met even though she already used that 5 times now. There's a lot of things she did but that would be too long
Edit: I want to leave her but she's sicidal and everytime we call her out she says she'd do it
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Does it count if your friend says that I owe her a lot of things because she bought me food? Like oh I bought you a donut when we first met even though she already used that 5 times now. There's a lot of things she did but that would be too long
Edit: I want to leave her but she's sicidal and everytime we call her out she says she'd do it
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Kamalov
I need help, my girlfriend is upset, she didn't say it's my fault directly but what she says clearly indicates it.
No matter how I explain myself to her she just says things repeatedly and doesn't take any words from me. Even after I explained to her that her behaviour is also making me upset.
Is this emtional blackmail?
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I need help, my girlfriend is upset, she didn't say it's my fault directly but what she says clearly indicates it.
No matter how I explain myself to her she just says things repeatedly and doesn't take any words from me. Even after I explained to her that her behaviour is also making me upset.
Is this emtional blackmail?
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Arshia
My father is in huge debt and remains unemployed. Whenever my mother I ask him to do something about it he leaves the house and threatens to kill himself. Everytime this happens, I need to apologize to him a hundred times and keep begging him to return. This is abuse is taking a huge toll on my mental health. What should I do
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My father is in huge debt and remains unemployed. Whenever my mother I ask him to do something about it he leaves the house and threatens to kill himself. Everytime this happens, I need to apologize to him a hundred times and keep begging him to return. This is abuse is taking a huge toll on my mental health. What should I do
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Cotten
I don't know exactly what this is but my dad made me cry hard once like CRY. REALLY. HARD. Then he said Stop crying, or I'll hit the car into another car then we'll all die yes, we were all in a car, idk If this is emotional blackmail or not but it was horrific because my dad is mentally unstable and might do that
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I don't know exactly what this is but my dad made me cry hard once like CRY. REALLY. HARD. Then he said Stop crying, or I'll hit the car into another car then we'll all die yes, we were all in a car, idk If this is emotional blackmail or not but it was horrific because my dad is mentally unstable and might do that
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xL1L13x
I don't think this is what's happening with me but maybe it's close, but my friend today said Oh no it's okay I guess I'll just play alone then and in the past during school she told me I'll just work alone I guess, nobody wants to work with me anyway. I'm just wondering what it means when she does that.
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I don't think this is what's happening with me but maybe it's close, but my friend today said Oh no it's okay I guess I'll just play alone then and in the past during school she told me I'll just work alone I guess, nobody wants to work with me anyway. I'm just wondering what it means when she does that.
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fhhsvnggbh
We are all guilty of this to some extent. Whether we admit it or not. Even on a very small scale its human nature. Its up to the receiver to say hey, please dont do that, your trying to blackmail me to do what you want by manipulation. Do you really want to do that? Your a better person than that.
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We are all guilty of this to some extent. Whether we admit it or not. Even on a very small scale its human nature. Its up to the receiver to say hey, please dont do that, your trying to blackmail me to do what you want by manipulation. Do you really want to do that? Your a better person than that.
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Andrew
I've been dealing with the thoughts of emotionally blackmailing and manipulating someone and other people online for a couple years, because they wouldn't do something for me, or if they wouldn't respect me. It all stills haunts me to this very day, and it's left such a big impact on me. Great video.
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I've been dealing with the thoughts of emotionally blackmailing and manipulating someone and other people online for a couple years, because they wouldn't do something for me, or if they wouldn't respect me. It all stills haunts me to this very day, and it's left such a big impact on me. Great video.
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Brendan
I have a landscaping boss who wants me to work around his house for the summer. I have applied to work at an internship for that summer. My landscaping boss refuses to let me go to that internship. He said that if I go to that internship, he will have no choice but to shut down his business.
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I have a landscaping boss who wants me to work around his house for the summer. I have applied to work at an internship for that summer. My landscaping boss refuses to let me go to that internship. He said that if I go to that internship, he will have no choice but to shut down his business.
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ftfreddyVR
I have PTSD from something that happened only last year and I never really knew how to describe my trauma. Thats when I found out it was this. Im really glad I found out what emotional blackmail is. Now I will definitely have an easier way to describe my trauma to people. :)
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I have PTSD from something that happened only last year and I never really knew how to describe my trauma. Thats when I found out it was this. Im really glad I found out what emotional blackmail is. Now I will definitely have an easier way to describe my trauma to people. :)
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Nessy
They overstepped by boundaries, that I put in place and was comfortable with, and told me its love and its natural in a relationship and threatened to kill themselves multiple times, I left her three weeks ago and Ive never felt more free
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They overstepped by boundaries, that I put in place and was comfortable with, and told me its love and its natural in a relationship and threatened to kill themselves multiple times, I left her three weeks ago and Ive never felt more free
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Sudarshan
My parents do this to me sometimes.
They keep telling me that they have done so much for me, fed me, took care when I fell ill, provided me education, etc. So I need to oblige them even if it goes against me
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My parents do this to me sometimes.
They keep telling me that they have done so much for me, fed me, took care when I fell ill, provided me education, etc. So I need to oblige them even if it goes against me
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