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7 Signs Your Friends Are Making You Depressed

7 Signs Your Friends Are Making You Depressed

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Depression is a serious mental illness characterized by impaired functioning and a persistently despondent mood. And one of the most concerning risk factors for clinical depression is a lack of social support. Are you stuck with the wrong friends? Are they emotionally unavailable or unsupportive? Are your friends making you depressed? When we dont have a strong support system to lean back on, it makes us more prone to depression. So it's important to recognize the signs your friends may be making you depressed. If you relate to this video but you're still not sure if you should let go of your friendships, especially when the person is your best friend, we've also made a video on the signs you should let go of your best friend here
Date: 2023-08-20

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Sorry for anyone seeing this I just needed to vent. TLDR; my friends suck, thank you Psych2Go for helping me realise that.
After I left my first group off friends (we were a group of three and all around just bad for each other), I found my current group (after helping my future 'best friend' leave a toxic friendship) at first they were amazing and I had never been happier, but now looking back it was always unbalanced; especially with my 'best friend', I always did more for them than they ever did for me. A year and a bit later this new person joined my new group everyone liked them, but behind closed doors they were awful to me, when I was younger I had a lot of issues with myself, mainly my personality, and this person loved to pick at that and they drove me back to hating the person I was. It eventually got so bad that I told my 'best friend' and they immediately brushed of my concerns; which hurt a lot considering I was the one to kick the toxic person hurting them out of the group. It gradually got worse and worse until it devolved into all my friends mocking me in front of each other for things I couldn't even control like my learning disability. While I was no longer as big a part of their group I was still close to my 'best friend' and one day confided in her about my hatred of my skin tone (I'm mixed race and have since got over it) I am much paler than the rest of my family so don't feel like a 'real Indian', which is dumb as hell. She ended up joking about it in front of the rest of our group calling me 'white washed. ' That was the final straw for me as only I was being targeted, not only did I hate them, but I now loathed myself too so I decided to kind of leave the group. I made a new smaller group of 5 and I guess I'm happy there, but I find trusting people hard and am a bit oversensitive sometimes. I am still kind of in the old group and I always felt my feeling of them being bad friends were invalid and that I was just causing drama because I'm a horrible awful person who needs to be put to death, but this video really helped me come to terms with the fact that they suck and I need to just cut them out, so thank you so much as I think I'm ready to put them behind me and move on with my new friends. :)

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So, I can kinda relate to some of them. I have this much older friend that I have known for years, we both bond over the fact that we're both autistic artists/book nerds, but for a while after she graduated it's hard for me to have conversations with her since our interests have changed. She's not a bad person, in fact she's the opposite. The problem is me; she calls every day although I purposely ignore them. When she doesn't get the fact that I might be busy or exhausted to take her call for the day, she'd nonstop keep calling at least 15 times not getting the hint that I'm unavailable.
I am a people pleaser, always have due to past trauma. So instead of it feeling like a friendship, I'd try to force myself to like the same things since she is the one to organise a day out. I feel bad, but I don't know what to do.
Also, I have another kind of friend who is slightly younger than me. She's very touchy, clingy and follows me like a stray dog. As I have mentioned before I am autistic but also diagnosed with ADHD, naturally I am not comfortable with being touched or hugged unless if I am the one to hug or touch them. This girl literally clings onto me any chance she gets, and any time I try to avoid her she wouldn't take the hint and would just follow me.
She can be rude, lack respect for herself and others and swear even around my mother even when I tell her that she shouldn't do it. She is very negative and depressing to be around, at most I am still friends with her because I feel sorry.
I know I should tell them what I am uncomfortable with when around them, but I always hesitate. Again, I'm a people pleaser who is afraid of disappointing others. What should I do?

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i feel all these things hanging out with my friends. i think theyre making me depressed. but they also say: you always think youre right. yea youre never wrong. youre always right.
i just keep thinking in my head:
you're arrogant. youre probably full of yourself and you need to stop. but you feel so empty around them. is it their fault? are they just mad i have a different opinion or better than them? are they the ones being an asshole? or am i just being ignorant and ignoring my own arrogance by thinking theyre the asshole? im just finding excuses to continue to be a shitty person. but i feel like its them thats the problem. i feel like theyre just being overly irritated and blaming me. i cant help but feel that. but at the same time i feel its actually my fault? or maybe im overthinking right now and being dramatic. maybe theres a simple solution to all of this and im being overly dramatic as an excuse to pity myself for being gaslit by them. am i the bad person?
these thoughts just keep circling my head. i dont know what to do anymore. should i leave them? if i leave them theyll think im being even more arrogant. i feel so empty around them. i think its better for me if i just leave them but theyre the only friends i have. and theyll have a bad impression of me if i leave them.
i dont know what to do anymore at all. can someone PLEASE tell me their perspective looking at my situation?

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Idk, I have friends ive known for quite some time. And this one friend ive known since childhood, I feel like ever since my childhood bff started getting closer to my other friends, I felt so. Alone we just recently made a group chat me her her and her ( not giving names) and said in the guidelines listen to me her her and her and not me. And also always make little group chat behind my back. I always here them talking about it and when I ask my. Childhood bff about it she says its nothing. I honestly just dont know id they are not real cuz they are very nice just dont exactly pay much attention to me, they don't wanna hang out with me I go up to them and hang out with them, im gonna be honest, they are great ppl, but sometimes i feel like I dont belong with there group. There my only greatish friends, and they never get me anything for any type of celebration liek my bday, Val day, xmas etc. But they ALWAYS giev eachother stuff this Val day I feel so excluted, nobody in there group pays attention to me, idk what y'all think, should I find other friends or what-
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i have a friend and i want to talk to him so bad, we used to have such a close bond but he ignores me. i havent changed and am the same but i havent talked to him in a month. i invited him to a theme park so we could catch up but i got sick. i want to just talk to him so i can have that bond again. i text him like once a week with memes or questions but he either doesnt answer or says a one word reply. i need better friends.
i argue with one too much
one is a creep
one wont talk with me
one is too popular and i feel left out when we are together
one is caring and a good friend
there is this girl who i used to talk to all the time too, but then we stopped for no reason, i dont know how we can talk again. were just friends tho, i dont have a crush on her
i have summer depression where during the break i feel so lonely like im falling into a pit of despair. someone give me advice. i need it.

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Finally realizing that this has been a long time coming. All the roommates are like this and they treat me like the laughing stock of the house. Even one on one none of them talk to me about anything they just ignore me or make fun of me for existing. They treat me with way less respect than I see them give each other and I recognize some of it is projecting their insecurities but they pick on me because I dare to stand out. Two of them used to be people I considered my best friends but I feel like they just want me around so they can step on me and use me as an emotional punching bag when they hate themselves. Im moving because I honestly cant take it anymore. Everything in my life has fallen off track and i think its because of my steadily declining mental health. Im so done with the these people.
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Have girlfriends through my husband who has two sisters and some friends who have wives. Weve been un-included after my husband and I were able to voice our opinions about their lifestyles. Not in a disrespectful way, they took it to the extremes when they were disappointed. Wed all been friends despite that without words being said for a couple of years. Now they go out of their way to not sit with us, talk to us at family or friend get togethers and never text us. They tell me they miss seeing our boys who they saw every weekend until all of this. Im torn on trying to repair it because every time we do see them, its painful and I feel overwhelmed with loneliness. Not sure if I should just walk away from it all and move on or fix the problem.
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Ive had this group of friends for 3 years (bunch of online friends) and at one point I realized that we started drifting away so I tried to add more people in the group to livein it back to the old days, it worked at one point then eventually everyone started arguing and I was just stuck there listening to my friends that I am very close with argue and argue. I would have to listen to my close friends talk shit about each other and I got sick of it. The arguing ended but now we are drifting away faster than ever and I feel like its all my fault. Like whenever someone joins a party online no one joins or only 1-2 join. Our group chat feels dead. The spark just isnt there anymore and I dont know what to do anymore I cant keep on putting up with it.
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A weird thing happened today. I have some friends who i thought werent friends with eachother. Two people from one group and three from another. Im friends with both. I guess im more considered in a group with the two, but im friends with both groups. One from the group of three today posted lots of pictures of the all the people in both groups hanging out without me. I have no clue why but i started crying. I dont normally care about that sort of thing, but it really hurt. Are they constantly hanging out without me? Am i not a good enough friend? Do they just not want to hang out with me at all? Whats wrong with me? Im pretty anti social, but i didnt get an invite, so did they not think about me? Anyone know why i feel so bad about it?
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So, I have a long running issue. I was wondering if anyone else experiences this. Basically, in my desperation for friends, I find one person who I grew a close friendship with. However, unbeknownst to me, they are completely draining and depressing to me, but I dont see it for months or before someone says something because Im completely obsessed with them, so happy to have a good friend. I tend to think Im the issue, that their criticisms are true. Its a vicious cycle, but Im getting better at avoiding it as I befriend different flavors of toxic as well as genuinely great friends now. Who else does this to themselves?
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I had a best friend that had been with me for more than a decade, things change when we go to separate college, I'm a dropout since I don't have money to continue while my friend got into an elite college because he is smart, long story short he is a completely different person after, he always belittle me and insulting my every move, when I got lonely and he come to my house I feel more lonely than I was before, turns out he was the problem and not me, I decided to block everything about him, my best friend for almost TWO DECADE, people could change in an instant depending with who they spent their time with
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I have this friend, Skyler. All he talks about around me and sometimes other people is. ugh. I dont want to be around him at all, & trying to get away from him. At breaks during school in the day, I stick to myself instead of have conversation with other people. At lunch, I try to hide myself in some hoodie or something to prevent him from coming to my table. I dread him. When he talks to me I just say stuff like okay. but on reality, Im not really focusing on what he has to say because its more of the same topic I do not enjoy at all. I hope Im not in his class next year.
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i have a question. i have a friend who i laugh with almost all the time, but when i feel depressed in class and just sit quietly in my chair, she begins to speak about stuff that happened to me in the past which make me very sad and uncomfortable. she also acts so weird towards me and our other friend. she will say things like ''you know that your not better then anyone else right? ''. its comments like these that make me question my friendship with her. what should i do? should i end our friendship or should i keep it?
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I feel like how this is how me and my friends feel about each other if that make sense. They always take everything I do so negatively and when I apologise they say Im insensitive- which causes me to bottle up my feelings but when I do tell them I feel like Im draining them. I apologise for nearly everything but I just dont know what to do I think so different from everyone else and I just dont think Im meant to have friends I just think I was born to be alone. Im just so angry at the world and upset with it
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Today is my 13th birthday and my friends made fun of me by watching a video my best friend apparently recorded of my cousin who is like a brother to me getting kicked and bullied by them im rethinking my life I know my crush of 5 years doesn't like me because I can tell she is laughing inside and smiling when I saw her while I was crying i really regret being an easy person to be friends with im tired of always being a not even second but a last choice to hangout with im crying right now what should I do?
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I think I have out grown the few friends I had they are all either miserable or narcissistic or younger and partying all of the time. The worst thing about them is I am always willing to listen to their problems but as soon as I have an issue they are either too busy or just start talking about their problems. Best for me to be alone to heal and take care of me. Then join some groups and carefully select people who are more like me and less about themselves or sarcastic and teasing bullies.
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I have this one friend who I liked before but now it just feels weird and empty when I hangout with her, she always rants to me and I can't say no cause that would just be rude, I told her today how I feel about that and she said ok I'll just deal with it by myself, iv given her advice and idk what else to do. I'm gonna try to distance from her cause I just feel depressed talking to her, this video kinda helped thank you
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What if they are playfully playing a game outright insult you and it kills your feeling but you have to plead it off. Or the girl you dated for a while immediately takes the card that says they could do better. Or the fact that you got the narcissistic prick card when all youve ever tried to be was including and listen. But its okay because you can laugh it off and its all fine because youre a guy and it is what it is.
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I was friends with a guy since pre school we were hanging out and everything was fine untill he was mocking me and telling me i was doing mistakes. He was making fun of me puting his self above me. I was feeling so down and depressed. I had a fight with him on purpose so i could get away. Now that i see him with no friends i have a feeling of relief. I was struggling with him and finally he was gone
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My friends were toxic. One of my friends always used to compare me with other friend that made me feel insecure never appreciated me even if I'm there for them in their hard times they used to take me for granted but always talk good about others even if they don't do anything. Good for me that we aren't friends anymore we had some problems where they played victim of the problems they created Idc anymore.
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Yes when you started talking about the avoiding them and feeling better without them one person came to my mind and I feel like when Im with them I cant be myself and talk about things I like but I dont want to just dump them because I have a strong feeling they like me and I dont want to hurt them emotionally so I dont know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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my friends suck. they are awful and when i mean awful i mean awful. they gang up on me and tease me and when i get visibly annoyed they say stuff like OMG SHES MAD or LOL WE WERE JOKING and i ball my eyes out. ive been friends with them for a good few years and i dont know how to get go of them, because i see them tons around my school and i just dont know what to do. tips?
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I currently have this friend at school who makes me feel all of these. We have gotten into a lot of arguments before, even though we have only met this year. I dont know what to do right now as she is kind of my only friend at school and I dont want to start another argument. Does anybody have any advice on what I should do? Im honestly feeling so hopeless.
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i have a group of ''friends'' like this. I broke up with my ex (also part of the friend group) and it hurts a lot. They flock around him and are there for him, comfort him, but not even one friend has asked how im doing. (i was always there for them when they needed comfort or help in some way) its almost a week ago now. It makes me feel so sad.
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I am feeling guilty and always feel like staying away from one of my best friend. she is not rude and always says sorry but the way she makes me depressed is that she even forgot my own birthday and talked rubbish about me. I wish I could leave her but then she will spread fake rumours about methats when I start feeling anxious around her
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