7 Red Flags In Dating You Should Watch Out For
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Date: 2023-08-20
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DMTdreamz
I'm going to shower you with attention and my awareness. I'm going to give you a lot of my time. I'm going to be in physical proximity to you. I'm going to touch you, hold you, cuddle you. I'm going to try to connect with you physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. I'm going to take good care of you. I'm going to care about your needs. I'm going to help you to meet your needs. I'm going to help you to survive. I'm going to shelter you from excessive suffering, fear and trauma. I'm going to have your back. I'm going to defend you and be loyal to you. I'm going to take on your agenda as my own. I'm going to make you an extension of me. I'm going to treat you as well as i would treat myself. I'm going to be happy for you when you succeed. I'm going to want for you what you most want for yourself. I'm going to sacrifice for you and work on your behalf. I'm going to support you nurture you and encourage you. I'm going to cheerlead you. I'm going to encourage your self-exploration, self-expression and self-actualization. I'm going to respect your sovereignty as a consciousness. I'm not going to try to manipulate you, control you, dominate you or exploit you. I'm going to totally accept you and never judge you. I'm going to value you for your sake and appreciate you and see your intrinsic beauty. I'm not going to need anything from you and I'm not going to make you a tool to satisfy my own needs. I'm going to respect your point of view, wanting to understand your point of view, wanting to understand you, your uniqueness, taking the time to deeply get to know you. I'm not going to force my agenda or point of view on you. I'm going to listen to you and care about your interests and share similar interests with you. I'm going to develop togetherness with you and collaborate with you. I'm going to be there for you when you're down and hopeless. I'm going to be there for you when you're lonely. I'm going to validate your feelings, sharing your emotions with you, empathizing with you. Your pain is going to be my pain. I'm going to meet you where you're at, at your developmental level. I'm going to forgive you for your mistakes.
I'm going to be patient with you. I'm going to see the good in you even when you don't see the good in yourself. I'm going to be generous and kind. I'm going to give you verbal approval and praise. I'm going to compliment you on your uniqueness. I'm going to keep my promises to you. I'm going to keep my peace with you, avoid conflict with you. I'm going to tell the truth to you. You're going to be able to fully trust me and I'm never going to cash in on that trust. I'm going to see your realness, warts and shadow and all as you truly are. I'm going to deeply appreciate the finite portion of consciousness that you are and I'm going to accept your selfishness whenever you have the urge to be selfish. Now ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how loved do you feel? Open Your Eyes.
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I'm going to shower you with attention and my awareness. I'm going to give you a lot of my time. I'm going to be in physical proximity to you. I'm going to touch you, hold you, cuddle you. I'm going to try to connect with you physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. I'm going to take good care of you. I'm going to care about your needs. I'm going to help you to meet your needs. I'm going to help you to survive. I'm going to shelter you from excessive suffering, fear and trauma. I'm going to have your back. I'm going to defend you and be loyal to you. I'm going to take on your agenda as my own. I'm going to make you an extension of me. I'm going to treat you as well as i would treat myself. I'm going to be happy for you when you succeed. I'm going to want for you what you most want for yourself. I'm going to sacrifice for you and work on your behalf. I'm going to support you nurture you and encourage you. I'm going to cheerlead you. I'm going to encourage your self-exploration, self-expression and self-actualization. I'm going to respect your sovereignty as a consciousness. I'm not going to try to manipulate you, control you, dominate you or exploit you. I'm going to totally accept you and never judge you. I'm going to value you for your sake and appreciate you and see your intrinsic beauty. I'm not going to need anything from you and I'm not going to make you a tool to satisfy my own needs. I'm going to respect your point of view, wanting to understand your point of view, wanting to understand you, your uniqueness, taking the time to deeply get to know you. I'm not going to force my agenda or point of view on you. I'm going to listen to you and care about your interests and share similar interests with you. I'm going to develop togetherness with you and collaborate with you. I'm going to be there for you when you're down and hopeless. I'm going to be there for you when you're lonely. I'm going to validate your feelings, sharing your emotions with you, empathizing with you. Your pain is going to be my pain. I'm going to meet you where you're at, at your developmental level. I'm going to forgive you for your mistakes.
I'm going to be patient with you. I'm going to see the good in you even when you don't see the good in yourself. I'm going to be generous and kind. I'm going to give you verbal approval and praise. I'm going to compliment you on your uniqueness. I'm going to keep my promises to you. I'm going to keep my peace with you, avoid conflict with you. I'm going to tell the truth to you. You're going to be able to fully trust me and I'm never going to cash in on that trust. I'm going to see your realness, warts and shadow and all as you truly are. I'm going to deeply appreciate the finite portion of consciousness that you are and I'm going to accept your selfishness whenever you have the urge to be selfish. Now ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how loved do you feel? Open Your Eyes.
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Richard
Please keep making videos like these. I'm in my 30s (for a little while, anyway) and I notice myself being contemptuous of younger people who've grown up thinking self-important behavior is interchangeable with character or confidence. They are not interchangeable. Nor do they entirely create themselves. I think we're conditioned as children to expect praise for our accomplishments, but it becomes more nuanced and complex as we grow older. If we don't appreciate those nuances and complexities, every relatively positive thing becomes homogenized into some obligation of conformity, and the individual soul withers and ultimately dies. You have a certain birthday and life just seems like so much routine and deadlines and social expectations realized.
Clarence Darrow was right.
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Please keep making videos like these. I'm in my 30s (for a little while, anyway) and I notice myself being contemptuous of younger people who've grown up thinking self-important behavior is interchangeable with character or confidence. They are not interchangeable. Nor do they entirely create themselves. I think we're conditioned as children to expect praise for our accomplishments, but it becomes more nuanced and complex as we grow older. If we don't appreciate those nuances and complexities, every relatively positive thing becomes homogenized into some obligation of conformity, and the individual soul withers and ultimately dies. You have a certain birthday and life just seems like so much routine and deadlines and social expectations realized.
Clarence Darrow was right.
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kaikart
1. I told her to just tell me if she don't like something or if I make a mistake, she took it pretty well and I can rely on her to be my second pair of eyes.
2. We talked about open to each other and not to hide anything, I told her I don't want to guess or make assumptions which would ended up in misunderstandings. She opened up to me little by little.
3. Told her that it's ok if she want to do something else but at least told me before and consider my feelings. She gradually put me up in her priority list.
She's got 3 out of 7 of the red flags but it's ok because we can work something out to solve those. Don't run away before you've communicated with your partner about these things and work it out.
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1. I told her to just tell me if she don't like something or if I make a mistake, she took it pretty well and I can rely on her to be my second pair of eyes.
2. We talked about open to each other and not to hide anything, I told her I don't want to guess or make assumptions which would ended up in misunderstandings. She opened up to me little by little.
3. Told her that it's ok if she want to do something else but at least told me before and consider my feelings. She gradually put me up in her priority list.
She's got 3 out of 7 of the red flags but it's ok because we can work something out to solve those. Don't run away before you've communicated with your partner about these things and work it out.
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JESSIE
I went on a date once (only time I have) I was just agreeing with some stuff. I found that I was trying to convice MYSELF that we would be good together. But in the end we were polar opposites with literally EVERYTHING. I realized once I was doing this that I needed to be single and wait to date even though I'm almost 20. It felt like I was on the date because I was lonely and desperate, it felt wrong so I will just wait till I mature more or something
And I'd never let my guy near my parents, they don't get the right to be part of the family I'll make. They lost that right with me.
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I went on a date once (only time I have) I was just agreeing with some stuff. I found that I was trying to convice MYSELF that we would be good together. But in the end we were polar opposites with literally EVERYTHING. I realized once I was doing this that I needed to be single and wait to date even though I'm almost 20. It felt like I was on the date because I was lonely and desperate, it felt wrong so I will just wait till I mature more or something
And I'd never let my guy near my parents, they don't get the right to be part of the family I'll make. They lost that right with me.
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laasya
let me say some things cause i am now depressed
so I liked this guy for a few months, when I made a move to talk to him healso responded and told me that he liked me
it is all good until he asked me for a kiss, but since I liked him I gave him a kiss(it was my first kiss)after that he started ignoring me or like leaving me on read.
after a few days I and my girl best friend went out, so we were talking about him and then I got to know that that guy told his friends that he simply used me
I am literally not ok. he is a red flag from the start
but I ignored it
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let me say some things cause i am now depressed
so I liked this guy for a few months, when I made a move to talk to him healso responded and told me that he liked me
it is all good until he asked me for a kiss, but since I liked him I gave him a kiss(it was my first kiss)after that he started ignoring me or like leaving me on read.
after a few days I and my girl best friend went out, so we were talking about him and then I got to know that that guy told his friends that he simply used me
I am literally not ok. he is a red flag from the start
but I ignored it
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Daisygirl1217
Them checking other people out in front of you, or them talking about how this person is so hot, is another sign that this person is not right for you. Beware of narcissistic signs, cause this is one of them. I also believe a few of the ones mentioned in this video are also signs of a narcissist. If you even think for one second that the person you are dating could be an N, run and never look back.
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Them checking other people out in front of you, or them talking about how this person is so hot, is another sign that this person is not right for you. Beware of narcissistic signs, cause this is one of them. I also believe a few of the ones mentioned in this video are also signs of a narcissist. If you even think for one second that the person you are dating could be an N, run and never look back.
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education
Oh nooo Im INFJ hahahaah if someone goes on a date with me they will get all of these 7 flags, but it doesnt mean that Im not interested with them or I feel uncomfortable with them. We have our own brains and hearts I think, It doesnt always work, just hear ur heart and go ahead (lol I felt that if ma crush watches it before going on a date with me hahaha its over definitely)
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Oh nooo Im INFJ hahahaah if someone goes on a date with me they will get all of these 7 flags, but it doesnt mean that Im not interested with them or I feel uncomfortable with them. We have our own brains and hearts I think, It doesnt always work, just hear ur heart and go ahead (lol I felt that if ma crush watches it before going on a date with me hahaha its over definitely)
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Freyaiplier
My bf and I do have a lot in common but we have some things not in common I dont think he hides anything from me ye he was being busy a lot but he does calls me every day he is supportive and open to me I dont think he gets jealous I think Im the one that get jealous my jealousy is not bad he has one ex that did a bad thing but he hasnt mentioned it as often anymore
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My bf and I do have a lot in common but we have some things not in common I dont think he hides anything from me ye he was being busy a lot but he does calls me every day he is supportive and open to me I dont think he gets jealous I think Im the one that get jealous my jealousy is not bad he has one ex that did a bad thing but he hasnt mentioned it as often anymore
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Katarzyna
For me personally, a red flag is when someone does not believe or is not a Christian, because it often means that they have a different value system than I do. I emphasize here that it may be, but it doesn't have to, so it is a red flag at the beginning, if it turns out that someone has the same value system, then there is no problem.
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For me personally, a red flag is when someone does not believe or is not a Christian, because it often means that they have a different value system than I do. I emphasize here that it may be, but it doesn't have to, so it is a red flag at the beginning, if it turns out that someone has the same value system, then there is no problem.
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Tracy
I was hiding things from him because never saw him in 18 months I talked about the exes so certain patterns would not repeat. And dropped it. He took me on immediately after I ended the relationship, and did the other red flags. I am not dating for a while. I have noticed a pattern in 5 years and 2 relationships later. I need to change.
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I was hiding things from him because never saw him in 18 months I talked about the exes so certain patterns would not repeat. And dropped it. He took me on immediately after I ended the relationship, and did the other red flags. I am not dating for a while. I have noticed a pattern in 5 years and 2 relationships later. I need to change.
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Becky
I'm trying to learn more eabout red flags and whether or not I'm ready for a relationship. My current boyfriend tends to ignore me. I can't even remember the last time he took me for just a walk. He also hides stuff. So I think that let's me know that I'm not ready. Now u just have to figure out how to tell we are breaking up.
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I'm trying to learn more eabout red flags and whether or not I'm ready for a relationship. My current boyfriend tends to ignore me. I can't even remember the last time he took me for just a walk. He also hides stuff. So I think that let's me know that I'm not ready. Now u just have to figure out how to tell we are breaking up.
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ali
so you're saying I was a 10 month rebound that was announced as serious. she practically did all of this to me and I asked her multiple times about all of it. funny how she was the one who gave up and decided to lose feelings, says to me she was using me as a placeholder for another guy until he gets out of a relationship: (
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so you're saying I was a 10 month rebound that was announced as serious. she practically did all of this to me and I asked her multiple times about all of it. funny how she was the one who gave up and decided to lose feelings, says to me she was using me as a placeholder for another guy until he gets out of a relationship: (
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H. E.
The priority one hit too close to home. My priorities had to change since I've had to take care of my physically disabled mother and had to take on another job just to survive. I definitely feel bad that I can't be the attentive partner I once was. I try to make time but sometimes I feel like I'm letting him down.
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The priority one hit too close to home. My priorities had to change since I've had to take care of my physically disabled mother and had to take on another job just to survive. I definitely feel bad that I can't be the attentive partner I once was. I try to make time but sometimes I feel like I'm letting him down.
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IndorilTheGreat
One thing to keep in mind particularly about #1 & #2 - these are common behaviors of victims in abusive relationships. As always, context is important.
If one person in the relationship often does 1 & 2, and the other person often does 3-7, begin looking at your relationship and your own well-being.
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One thing to keep in mind particularly about #1 & #2 - these are common behaviors of victims in abusive relationships. As always, context is important.
If one person in the relationship often does 1 & 2, and the other person often does 3-7, begin looking at your relationship and your own well-being.
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Michael
When a woman wants you to talk about your feelings Don't. That's a trap. If a woman sees you having a hard time just let her know you're having a hard time but don't complain. If she cares enough to spot it then she will try and help if she cares while you're going through it but Don't talk about it.
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When a woman wants you to talk about your feelings Don't. That's a trap. If a woman sees you having a hard time just let her know you're having a hard time but don't complain. If she cares enough to spot it then she will try and help if she cares while you're going through it but Don't talk about it.
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Guts
I am IN LOVE with this girl who goes to a different school than me and I find myself doing the first thing a lot. It's not like I'm lying to seem more agreeable it's just I like her so much that almost everything she has an opinion on suddenly seems better to me too.
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I am IN LOVE with this girl who goes to a different school than me and I find myself doing the first thing a lot. It's not like I'm lying to seem more agreeable it's just I like her so much that almost everything she has an opinion on suddenly seems better to me too.
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Bunny
The last one I do but I dont compare them but I talk about them sometimes be my boyfriend was there and hes literally my best friend and male wife were very open with each other and like a lot of the same things its a nice change: )
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The last one I do but I dont compare them but I talk about them sometimes be my boyfriend was there and hes literally my best friend and male wife were very open with each other and like a lot of the same things its a nice change: )
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Ron
You say don't talk about your exes, but what is she died? I just want the next person to know that I had to deal with a very traumatic death, and it greatly changed my life. Like everyone tells me, You're not the same, anymore!
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You say don't talk about your exes, but what is she died? I just want the next person to know that I had to deal with a very traumatic death, and it greatly changed my life. Like everyone tells me, You're not the same, anymore!
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Sebastian
I want to work! We had a company weekend running event me and 5 people were the only ones that showed up, why dont more people want to go to events? Family, gf, bf, sleep in, weed, booze, skiing?
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I want to work! We had a company weekend running event me and 5 people were the only ones that showed up, why dont more people want to go to events? Family, gf, bf, sleep in, weed, booze, skiing?
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TomP67
These are yellow flags, talking points you need to bring up with your partner to have a sincere relationship. If they (or yourself) refuse discussion or use ultimatum, that would be a real red flag.
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These are yellow flags, talking points you need to bring up with your partner to have a sincere relationship. If they (or yourself) refuse discussion or use ultimatum, that would be a real red flag.
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TheSryBut
About number 2.
Everyone has secrets and not every secret is made to share. If I feel comfortable enough, I will tell you some. But some others will never be known by other people than me.
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About number 2.
Everyone has secrets and not every secret is made to share. If I feel comfortable enough, I will tell you some. But some others will never be known by other people than me.
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theEvil
They don't prioritize you well that's what modern dating looks like, everyone have many options and go on many dates so there is no reason to prioritize one person
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They don't prioritize you well that's what modern dating looks like, everyone have many options and go on many dates so there is no reason to prioritize one person
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who?
Okay, red flag number 1, 2 & 5 is def me
i just don't wanna get my partner involved in any troubles i experienced since yeah, sometimes i get too defensive
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Okay, red flag number 1, 2 & 5 is def me
i just don't wanna get my partner involved in any troubles i experienced since yeah, sometimes i get too defensive
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education
Oh my god! I had these with my ex! She talked shit about her ex, she was extremely busy with a lot of things and she kept me away from her family.
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Oh my god! I had these with my ex! She talked shit about her ex, she was extremely busy with a lot of things and she kept me away from her family.
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Jeongmin
I feel so bad about myself that I was a victim of a rubbish relationship yet he is living happily with another women who is so richer than me
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I feel so bad about myself that I was a victim of a rubbish relationship yet he is living happily with another women who is so richer than me
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