5 Habits That Ruin Relationships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Aimolipsia
Me and my gf are having lots of worries about our past, were broken pieces. But here we are doing the best things to work it out. We overlook our most red flags and some are interestingly changing somehow. I'm very honest person that could not spill lies. But also hideous when it comes to oath (simple to keep my oath I decided to put a deadly deal with it for me like I swear to deht without any return. Don't worry I'm pretty sure I'm safe, we do also give and take.
Currently ive involved many times about my x that almost close call breaking my current relationship. We do get jealous of each other from just a faint flirting conversation with our opposite gender. That's how we fix ourselves whether we keep our throw out just like nothing. I'm now in my 5th month with her long distance relationship and maybe next year were getting close to being live in partners.
I've made most of the mistakes that may cause her real stress. ( It was not bout Finance) which in my head i thought that would help her. We had a huge gap in knowledge and age. Im too young 20M and she is 26F (were friends before but dunno how it leads to here. But I'm thankful for her being my mental support. I'm very happy to have her, i do hope i could bear our child after being financially stable.
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Me and my gf are having lots of worries about our past, were broken pieces. But here we are doing the best things to work it out. We overlook our most red flags and some are interestingly changing somehow. I'm very honest person that could not spill lies. But also hideous when it comes to oath (simple to keep my oath I decided to put a deadly deal with it for me like I swear to deht without any return. Don't worry I'm pretty sure I'm safe, we do also give and take.
Currently ive involved many times about my x that almost close call breaking my current relationship. We do get jealous of each other from just a faint flirting conversation with our opposite gender. That's how we fix ourselves whether we keep our throw out just like nothing. I'm now in my 5th month with her long distance relationship and maybe next year were getting close to being live in partners.
I've made most of the mistakes that may cause her real stress. ( It was not bout Finance) which in my head i thought that would help her. We had a huge gap in knowledge and age. Im too young 20M and she is 26F (were friends before but dunno how it leads to here. But I'm thankful for her being my mental support. I'm very happy to have her, i do hope i could bear our child after being financially stable.
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D3AD
1: no ones perfect, no ones going to be that idealistic, perfect image that youre seeing in a partner. Be willing to make compromises.
2: dont be toxic to your partner. The way you treat your partner shows whether or not you appreciate, love, respect, support your partner. If youre constantly negative to your partner, they will walk away.
3: learn and express your boundaries. Understand your self-worth. Compromising his good, but you cant let them take away your individuality. You are your own person for a reason.
(as a combination of two and three, dont be pushing your partner to do stuff that you wouldnt do and dont let them push you past your boundaries)
4: your potential partner, or partner is not your ex
(use past relationships as a learning lesson, but do not constantly compare the stuff that your ex did to the stuff that your current partner is doing)
5: when youre constantly experiencing negativity and bad experiences during your relationship, you need to learn what to do that is better for yourself. Even if that means walk away.
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1: no ones perfect, no ones going to be that idealistic, perfect image that youre seeing in a partner. Be willing to make compromises.
2: dont be toxic to your partner. The way you treat your partner shows whether or not you appreciate, love, respect, support your partner. If youre constantly negative to your partner, they will walk away.
3: learn and express your boundaries. Understand your self-worth. Compromising his good, but you cant let them take away your individuality. You are your own person for a reason.
(as a combination of two and three, dont be pushing your partner to do stuff that you wouldnt do and dont let them push you past your boundaries)
4: your potential partner, or partner is not your ex
(use past relationships as a learning lesson, but do not constantly compare the stuff that your ex did to the stuff that your current partner is doing)
5: when youre constantly experiencing negativity and bad experiences during your relationship, you need to learn what to do that is better for yourself. Even if that means walk away.
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L0ckett
im not in a relationship with them, but number 3 has been an issue for a while.
they're super clingy, very affectionate, incredibly affirming, and practically idolize me.
but they do so much to try and make me happy and i'm really worried about their health. they've done so much for me and no matter how many times i try and tell them to take a break or to just tone it down and focus on themselves for a bit, they go i cant or its my job. they spend money from their college savings on expensive gifts for me, then complain a couple days later about how something they like is on sale but they dont have enough money to buy it. i never want this person to do any of this. i want them to be able to focus on their own needs and to allow themselves to not do everything they can and more to keep me happy. i care about them too much to see them exhausted because of me just existing
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im not in a relationship with them, but number 3 has been an issue for a while.
they're super clingy, very affectionate, incredibly affirming, and practically idolize me.
but they do so much to try and make me happy and i'm really worried about their health. they've done so much for me and no matter how many times i try and tell them to take a break or to just tone it down and focus on themselves for a bit, they go i cant or its my job. they spend money from their college savings on expensive gifts for me, then complain a couple days later about how something they like is on sale but they dont have enough money to buy it. i never want this person to do any of this. i want them to be able to focus on their own needs and to allow themselves to not do everything they can and more to keep me happy. i care about them too much to see them exhausted because of me just existing
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Andrew
Yea I definitely just now noticed something I just broke up with the live of my life and I miss her alot like alot alot and I now noticed that we did everything she wanted to do and even stuff I didn't like for example going shopping for plants I didn't like it but she loved it I did absolutely everything she wanted to do she never asked me what I wanted to do but I did say one time wanna go walk by the creak and she was like nah I'm good and I also always said sorry for everything I think I loved her to much and that's what ruined it and I'm a idiot for that and take anything as talking bad about her I still love her and don't wanna let her go but I know I have to I also probably spent over $5000 on her over a year and a half but that's life I guess right
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Yea I definitely just now noticed something I just broke up with the live of my life and I miss her alot like alot alot and I now noticed that we did everything she wanted to do and even stuff I didn't like for example going shopping for plants I didn't like it but she loved it I did absolutely everything she wanted to do she never asked me what I wanted to do but I did say one time wanna go walk by the creak and she was like nah I'm good and I also always said sorry for everything I think I loved her to much and that's what ruined it and I'm a idiot for that and take anything as talking bad about her I still love her and don't wanna let her go but I know I have to I also probably spent over $5000 on her over a year and a half but that's life I guess right
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Sarellah
I norm apolagise even if they apoligise, I norm only hold them to things they agree to be held to. I dont hold them above or below me I dont mind as long as its not meanir then me its fine and I expect them to hold me to the same. I really want them to hold me to the same but they let me get away with things and punish myself instead of them to me. But I dont do anything bad to even have that xd- And im not over my ex but only because theres a lot of trama and they were extremely abusive. But I dont let that effect or compare. I dont want them around I want to move on with them and hold them close. what I do take from it is redflags and how to make bounderies. I dont always listen to redflags cause everyones diffrent and interacts diffrently.
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I norm apolagise even if they apoligise, I norm only hold them to things they agree to be held to. I dont hold them above or below me I dont mind as long as its not meanir then me its fine and I expect them to hold me to the same. I really want them to hold me to the same but they let me get away with things and punish myself instead of them to me. But I dont do anything bad to even have that xd- And im not over my ex but only because theres a lot of trama and they were extremely abusive. But I dont let that effect or compare. I dont want them around I want to move on with them and hold them close. what I do take from it is redflags and how to make bounderies. I dont always listen to redflags cause everyones diffrent and interacts diffrently.
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Grape
I've found that a lot of these also apply to close friendships just as much as they do to actual relationships. Firsthand, too. I had a friend who I cared about so much; They used to be better, but then they just started. draining me. I gave them everything I had; comfort, entertainment, and friendship, but the only thing they gave back was shit and a request for more, because I was too ready to give and they were too ready to take. And that's still stuck with me, and I've struggled with finding any new close friends because I'm still stuck looking for those old red flags.
In my actual old relationship, it was simply a Right person, wrong time situation, and I just haven't looked for love since
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I've found that a lot of these also apply to close friendships just as much as they do to actual relationships. Firsthand, too. I had a friend who I cared about so much; They used to be better, but then they just started. draining me. I gave them everything I had; comfort, entertainment, and friendship, but the only thing they gave back was shit and a request for more, because I was too ready to give and they were too ready to take. And that's still stuck with me, and I've struggled with finding any new close friends because I'm still stuck looking for those old red flags.
In my actual old relationship, it was simply a Right person, wrong time situation, and I just haven't looked for love since
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psych2go
I am going to vent a little here since I dont want to dump it on someone else. (My friends have mostly heard it all) I am starting to realize that I am very codependent and my last relationship ended very poorly because of this. I wish I could say that it is better but its still hard to work through. I understand why things between us didnt work out. It makes me feel shame to face them because I put them through so much. I hope that someday can understand why. I am keeping myself away from them though because I dont want to be given a chance to put them in that situation again. Anyway thanks sorry theres been a lot going on and these videos help. Thank you.
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I am going to vent a little here since I dont want to dump it on someone else. (My friends have mostly heard it all) I am starting to realize that I am very codependent and my last relationship ended very poorly because of this. I wish I could say that it is better but its still hard to work through. I understand why things between us didnt work out. It makes me feel shame to face them because I put them through so much. I hope that someday can understand why. I am keeping myself away from them though because I dont want to be given a chance to put them in that situation again. Anyway thanks sorry theres been a lot going on and these videos help. Thank you.
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ShinNoodles
The part about manipulative im really confused about my partner im not trying to even control me but they keep apologizing and it makes me feel bad about them being sorry to any slightest disagreements with them as time went on im hating myself anoit making them feel bad and apologetic the feeling of being the bad person in this relationship, the red flag. Idk anymore. I dont understand him as i want to, i think to myself they prolly been through rough so i try to be understanding and there are times Ill tell them to stop apologizing that thay did nothing wrong theyd end up apologizing more.
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The part about manipulative im really confused about my partner im not trying to even control me but they keep apologizing and it makes me feel bad about them being sorry to any slightest disagreements with them as time went on im hating myself anoit making them feel bad and apologetic the feeling of being the bad person in this relationship, the red flag. Idk anymore. I dont understand him as i want to, i think to myself they prolly been through rough so i try to be understanding and there are times Ill tell them to stop apologizing that thay did nothing wrong theyd end up apologizing more.
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Fox
What do I do if both me and my boyfriend are too selfless and do things for each other without question? I show him unconditional love, support, and comfort, without expecting anything in return, but even if I say nothing then he does so and more, then I start giving more, and then he starts giving more, even though neither of us have said anything about our mood, we just. Are selfless and give to each other without expecting anything in return but getting something in return which results in feeling like they owe the other.
I gotta know, is that healthy? Is. Is that normal?
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What do I do if both me and my boyfriend are too selfless and do things for each other without question? I show him unconditional love, support, and comfort, without expecting anything in return, but even if I say nothing then he does so and more, then I start giving more, and then he starts giving more, even though neither of us have said anything about our mood, we just. Are selfless and give to each other without expecting anything in return but getting something in return which results in feeling like they owe the other.
I gotta know, is that healthy? Is. Is that normal?
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Revital
How can one tell if one is being selfish, or too compromising? If I agree to sacrifice what I deem as important, because my partner wants the opposite, yet keep quiet about other 2 or 3 topics that truly bother me right now, just to make sure my partner is not mad at me or wants to end the relationship, that's not good I'm aware. But I can't tell when it becomes a problem I can either silence my worries for and be able to be at peace, or have to bring up so that I won't regret trying the relationship again.
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How can one tell if one is being selfish, or too compromising? If I agree to sacrifice what I deem as important, because my partner wants the opposite, yet keep quiet about other 2 or 3 topics that truly bother me right now, just to make sure my partner is not mad at me or wants to end the relationship, that's not good I'm aware. But I can't tell when it becomes a problem I can either silence my worries for and be able to be at peace, or have to bring up so that I won't regret trying the relationship again.
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dynamic
My advice is that the reason why most young relationships end in such a fall and cause too much pain to ever bare it because you put urself in a delusion that u love her then ur not ready to date, dating will more than likely never work out if u don't want play the cards correct and that's what most people do is draw the wrong set of hands, its all about ur mentality and how you can handle it and how you can do ur absolute best to make sure she or he is happy while earning that for urself from ur partner
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My advice is that the reason why most young relationships end in such a fall and cause too much pain to ever bare it because you put urself in a delusion that u love her then ur not ready to date, dating will more than likely never work out if u don't want play the cards correct and that's what most people do is draw the wrong set of hands, its all about ur mentality and how you can handle it and how you can do ur absolute best to make sure she or he is happy while earning that for urself from ur partner
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Keiilani
So my last relationship was really toxic and abusive and I pushed my self away from that person so I can break it off but I did entirely too much instead of growing balls and telling him upfront and stern. He guilt tripped me and me being a comforting person I wanted him to feel better and not feel guilty or victimize himself so I always sucked my own feelings up and catered to his which damaged my mental health and perspective on relationships.
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So my last relationship was really toxic and abusive and I pushed my self away from that person so I can break it off but I did entirely too much instead of growing balls and telling him upfront and stern. He guilt tripped me and me being a comforting person I wanted him to feel better and not feel guilty or victimize himself so I always sucked my own feelings up and catered to his which damaged my mental health and perspective on relationships.
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opsblack
This hit me hard, not only me everyone here who have these thoughts and way of thinking what everything in this part of video show us 1: 23. This habit is the worst of them all and now we all suffer the consequences but this isn't only effect loveing our partners it even effect family members, friend groups. Anyone actually to this day i can't forgive myself what i do to the person it love not even a sorry can't fix it
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This hit me hard, not only me everyone here who have these thoughts and way of thinking what everything in this part of video show us 1: 23. This habit is the worst of them all and now we all suffer the consequences but this isn't only effect loveing our partners it even effect family members, friend groups. Anyone actually to this day i can't forgive myself what i do to the person it love not even a sorry can't fix it
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Der
I am watching many of the videos and i see many problems in me. Im glad that i have a realy lovly girlfriend but i struggel alot with my self and with my own worth. I find it really challenging to work on these problems but i hope it will payout someday. If you have any advise for me i am really thankfull. Sorry for my bad english but i wanted to reach out there to you.
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I am watching many of the videos and i see many problems in me. Im glad that i have a realy lovly girlfriend but i struggel alot with my self and with my own worth. I find it really challenging to work on these problems but i hope it will payout someday. If you have any advise for me i am really thankfull. Sorry for my bad english but i wanted to reach out there to you.
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dribbled
I'm glad my parents made me hate myself so much that I will never get in a relationship because I don't want to make someone I love sad by simply still existing even tho my life is pathetic and should be ended but ending your life is just disrespectful imo to people who don't have the choice to live on
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I'm glad my parents made me hate myself so much that I will never get in a relationship because I don't want to make someone I love sad by simply still existing even tho my life is pathetic and should be ended but ending your life is just disrespectful imo to people who don't have the choice to live on
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Strxberry
You know I thought about why so many of my relationships have ended and its because they treat me so good and I felt guilty so i didnt think I was good enough for their love. I also think thats why i like love hate relationships so much because they treat me how I treat myself
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You know I thought about why so many of my relationships have ended and its because they treat me so good and I felt guilty so i didnt think I was good enough for their love. I also think thats why i like love hate relationships so much because they treat me how I treat myself
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Darshannn
Do you have a video on how to maintain a relationship? Problems are inevitable in any relationship but that doesn't mean you should break up your rs! Leaving isn't a solution. Which majority women nowadays are doing this. Make a video on that, appreciate it! Thanks
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Do you have a video on how to maintain a relationship? Problems are inevitable in any relationship but that doesn't mean you should break up your rs! Leaving isn't a solution. Which majority women nowadays are doing this. Make a video on that, appreciate it! Thanks
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Holzmachine
i might be carrieing past hurtfull memories with me which effect my current relation ship but i dont know how or even if i can make them go away. if any one can or knows something that might help feel free to leave it for me to read: D ty in advance
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i might be carrieing past hurtfull memories with me which effect my current relation ship but i dont know how or even if i can make them go away. if any one can or knows something that might help feel free to leave it for me to read: D ty in advance
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Agaroth
i had dated so many people and they all knew i suffered from depression but they had left because i was too much for them but i had found the perfect someone for me and she is being stalked by an ex but she lives in texas so im unable to beat the guy
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i had dated so many people and they all knew i suffered from depression but they had left because i was too much for them but i had found the perfect someone for me and she is being stalked by an ex but she lives in texas so im unable to beat the guy
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LV
That one about codependency is so true. I had an ex who literally was exactly like that and it was infuriating. They would divert or straight up refuse any good thing I did or said about them. I still can't stand people like that today because of it.
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That one about codependency is so true. I had an ex who literally was exactly like that and it was infuriating. They would divert or straight up refuse any good thing I did or said about them. I still can't stand people like that today because of it.
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Yvng
Im struggling with 3 and 5. I always go over the top to satisfy someone else. And even though I know how to identify red flags I cant leave because of them because they seem small or like a solvable issue, and it feels rude to just leave like that
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Im struggling with 3 and 5. I always go over the top to satisfy someone else. And even though I know how to identify red flags I cant leave because of them because they seem small or like a solvable issue, and it feels rude to just leave like that
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Diceyy
Being in a toxic relationship is shit. You feel like youre slowly being poisoned and all your good traits start to disappear. I used to be a happy person now im just depressed more than usual, barely go out anymore too im just trapped
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Being in a toxic relationship is shit. You feel like youre slowly being poisoned and all your good traits start to disappear. I used to be a happy person now im just depressed more than usual, barely go out anymore too im just trapped
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Wrathful
Hey yo whats up I just randomly clicked on this video and for some reason my name almost fully appeared on it 0: 26 it is just out of random I am happy for this by I dont have any connections with this at all.
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Hey yo whats up I just randomly clicked on this video and for some reason my name almost fully appeared on it 0: 26 it is just out of random I am happy for this by I dont have any connections with this at all.
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clarisse
i know i have the third one, but i can't change, it's because of childhood trauma and even being like that isn't enough to make me feel good enough i always need to do more to feel like i deserve her
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i know i have the third one, but i can't change, it's because of childhood trauma and even being like that isn't enough to make me feel good enough i always need to do more to feel like i deserve her
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stgaming11
Step 2 is so real. He mssgs me all the time about stuff that happens for him, but when i try telling him something abt myself, he just sends memes and doesnt listen. Its pushing me away from him.
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Step 2 is so real. He mssgs me all the time about stuff that happens for him, but when i try telling him something abt myself, he just sends memes and doesnt listen. Its pushing me away from him.
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