10 Signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome
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Date: 2023-08-20
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sN
How do you recover from the smear campaigns they spread about you? If they lie and everyone else believes them, is there a way to recover or is there no chance that people will learn or accept the truth? I feel like people wont because shes their friend or family, i dont have anyone to be on my side (and they exploited my lack of support network, and maybe they dont want to admit they helped destroy an innocent person, or because what they did is small to them so doesnt even register on their conscience. I ended up experiencing a mental breakdown because of them and they just use that against me, as if im the mentally ill one and as if thats a reason to not believe me.
The feeling of not being believed, like everyone hates me and my life is over with no chance of the truth coming out or no one caring about the truth is the worst. I dont see anyway to undo their smear campaign because people believe their lies - if someone lies you cant compete with that as they always win
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How do you recover from the smear campaigns they spread about you? If they lie and everyone else believes them, is there a way to recover or is there no chance that people will learn or accept the truth? I feel like people wont because shes their friend or family, i dont have anyone to be on my side (and they exploited my lack of support network, and maybe they dont want to admit they helped destroy an innocent person, or because what they did is small to them so doesnt even register on their conscience. I ended up experiencing a mental breakdown because of them and they just use that against me, as if im the mentally ill one and as if thats a reason to not believe me.
The feeling of not being believed, like everyone hates me and my life is over with no chance of the truth coming out or no one caring about the truth is the worst. I dont see anyway to undo their smear campaign because people believe their lies - if someone lies you cant compete with that as they always win
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Mario
My ex-girlfriend is a narcissist the entire way. Always placed blame on me for her leaving me. Her equally narcissistic friend (whom I mistakenly let walk all over me) treated me terribly because she believed in a lie that my ex said.
My ex love bombed me, only to give me the cold shoulder many days and accused me of cheating and only chose to yell at me or threaten me when things got tough. I owned to my mistakes but she kept blamed me and gaslit me, her friend as well.
Four years later, and two years of abuse by her friend, I'm still recovering. I viewed women as liars, but I remembered all the girls I met and became friends with. All were terrific. Not gonna let three narcissists (another girl from 7th grade was one but was not as horrible as my ex) stop me from finding love.
I went through three suicide attempts and was isolated for a long time, but my family was always there for me. I can't thank them enough. And my close friends too.
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My ex-girlfriend is a narcissist the entire way. Always placed blame on me for her leaving me. Her equally narcissistic friend (whom I mistakenly let walk all over me) treated me terribly because she believed in a lie that my ex said.
My ex love bombed me, only to give me the cold shoulder many days and accused me of cheating and only chose to yell at me or threaten me when things got tough. I owned to my mistakes but she kept blamed me and gaslit me, her friend as well.
Four years later, and two years of abuse by her friend, I'm still recovering. I viewed women as liars, but I remembered all the girls I met and became friends with. All were terrific. Not gonna let three narcissists (another girl from 7th grade was one but was not as horrible as my ex) stop me from finding love.
I went through three suicide attempts and was isolated for a long time, but my family was always there for me. I can't thank them enough. And my close friends too.
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Wednesday
Thank you! My father was an alcoholic narcissist who began telling me when I was 18 that he doesn't like me, that he can't help it, I look too much like my mom! That one hurt so much for so long because all I ever wanted was his approval. Finally I had enough and walked away but married a narcissist (21 years now. I'm far stronger and taking care of myself than I was a year ago thanks to videos like this and videos like JCS or EWU where they analyze behavior. I am an empath and feel EVERYTHING but I learned to call him out on his gaslighting now and refuse to argue with him and it's better. but he still knows all my buttons to push. However they're having less and less of an effect on me now. I used to have mini panic-attacks when I heard his truck in the driveway (that's one my body still reacts to sometimes. It's insane how our subconscious freaks out sometimes when we don't feel something consciously.
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Thank you! My father was an alcoholic narcissist who began telling me when I was 18 that he doesn't like me, that he can't help it, I look too much like my mom! That one hurt so much for so long because all I ever wanted was his approval. Finally I had enough and walked away but married a narcissist (21 years now. I'm far stronger and taking care of myself than I was a year ago thanks to videos like this and videos like JCS or EWU where they analyze behavior. I am an empath and feel EVERYTHING but I learned to call him out on his gaslighting now and refuse to argue with him and it's better. but he still knows all my buttons to push. However they're having less and less of an effect on me now. I used to have mini panic-attacks when I heard his truck in the driveway (that's one my body still reacts to sometimes. It's insane how our subconscious freaks out sometimes when we don't feel something consciously.
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Melissa
Any time I tell my bf I have a friend he seeks out to friend them n hang out w them w out me around n then make me jealous by telling me how he saw them n talked to them then he makes me not want to like that friend n he tries to Get them to like him better so I end up dropping those friends n then he doesn't even want to be there friend anymore it's so gross and when we're fighting bad mouths me n tries to look like the great guy and makes me seem crazy cuz he's so perfect narcissist r jealous and so evil and it's true you don't even see it at first and I don't think in the beginning or ever they shower you with gifts their too sellfish. they just seem like they care so much and it's all a act their con artist they only want to control you and trap u in and they enjoy hurting you it's sick.
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Any time I tell my bf I have a friend he seeks out to friend them n hang out w them w out me around n then make me jealous by telling me how he saw them n talked to them then he makes me not want to like that friend n he tries to Get them to like him better so I end up dropping those friends n then he doesn't even want to be there friend anymore it's so gross and when we're fighting bad mouths me n tries to look like the great guy and makes me seem crazy cuz he's so perfect narcissist r jealous and so evil and it's true you don't even see it at first and I don't think in the beginning or ever they shower you with gifts their too sellfish. they just seem like they care so much and it's all a act their con artist they only want to control you and trap u in and they enjoy hurting you it's sick.
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Chloe
Its hard to know what is normal when youre bicultural, maybe add add schizo bipolar etc in the family- or a culture that shuts individuality down
Its very confusing since my family was loving but never understanding
Maybe even immigrant fear
Anyway, dont know if its my disorders plustheirs
Or my disorders that try everyone who gets close to me
And can see and feel anything bad for me but question it because either I am or Im trained to expect it or I may expect perfection.
I want a full and practical rea life real time education in all I should have know. Growing up so I know how to evaluate my internal reactions, understand people and myself and then respond appropriately for both or all parties in said situations so I dont have to villainize people or not see my own faults
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Its hard to know what is normal when youre bicultural, maybe add add schizo bipolar etc in the family- or a culture that shuts individuality down
Its very confusing since my family was loving but never understanding
Maybe even immigrant fear
Anyway, dont know if its my disorders plustheirs
Or my disorders that try everyone who gets close to me
And can see and feel anything bad for me but question it because either I am or Im trained to expect it or I may expect perfection.
I want a full and practical rea life real time education in all I should have know. Growing up so I know how to evaluate my internal reactions, understand people and myself and then respond appropriately for both or all parties in said situations so I dont have to villainize people or not see my own faults
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Chuck
I'm not sure if my nightmare has BPD, NPD, or maybe just a sociopath. She destroyed everything starting with my career using extreme character assassination. This led to something i don't hear much about which is health. I'm leaving out a lot of detail but it brought me to as close to death as you can get without dying and has left me with no career and severe permanent medical injuries. This didn't slow her down even slightly, she ramped up parental alienation hard. After growing up with a narcissist, then the brutal efficiency of being taken apart by this destroyer i am now just waiting to die. I am racked with guilt over my child and inability to help them. I have nothing left that matters and i don't have it in me anymore to fight back. I tried but failed.
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I'm not sure if my nightmare has BPD, NPD, or maybe just a sociopath. She destroyed everything starting with my career using extreme character assassination. This led to something i don't hear much about which is health. I'm leaving out a lot of detail but it brought me to as close to death as you can get without dying and has left me with no career and severe permanent medical injuries. This didn't slow her down even slightly, she ramped up parental alienation hard. After growing up with a narcissist, then the brutal efficiency of being taken apart by this destroyer i am now just waiting to die. I am racked with guilt over my child and inability to help them. I have nothing left that matters and i don't have it in me anymore to fight back. I tried but failed.
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Jesse
My suggestion is to record the conversation. Not five or 10 minutes of them being upset because you upset them. If someone is verbally, and emotionally abusing you and its prolonged, have prolong recordings. You can push anybody to being really upset for five or 10 minutes. If youre getting 45 minutes or an hour or an hour and a half, if someone just verbally abusing you and you being kind, were trying to constantly just use the situation, I think that says something. If you were adamant to not have any recordings or any evidence of yawls conversation, you are probably the narcissist and not that person. I think plenty of gas lighters in narcissist accuse the other person is being a gas, lighter or narcissist, and actually believe It.
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My suggestion is to record the conversation. Not five or 10 minutes of them being upset because you upset them. If someone is verbally, and emotionally abusing you and its prolonged, have prolong recordings. You can push anybody to being really upset for five or 10 minutes. If youre getting 45 minutes or an hour or an hour and a half, if someone just verbally abusing you and you being kind, were trying to constantly just use the situation, I think that says something. If you were adamant to not have any recordings or any evidence of yawls conversation, you are probably the narcissist and not that person. I think plenty of gas lighters in narcissist accuse the other person is being a gas, lighter or narcissist, and actually believe It.
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Marin
A character ALAN Harper
(2 &1/2 Men) is a male victim of
a Narcissistc mother ( Evleyn) and
a Narcissistc brother Charlie H.
. and his evil Narcissistic ex.
Judith.
So. we can see what are more direct efects on male population:
he is kicked out of his house
he works as dr. Chiropractor and hardly has money to go through life. as he forks money to Judith
he barely see his son. on some weekends as he IS Her property - as it is a house and alemony.
And now.
Just TRY TO IMAGINE Hpw more difficult Alan's position would be IF Charlie didn't invite him i to his
Malibu VILA. but left him to sleep in the car on a Parking lot.
.
. Sup for thaughts!
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A character ALAN Harper
(2 &1/2 Men) is a male victim of
a Narcissistc mother ( Evleyn) and
a Narcissistc brother Charlie H.
. and his evil Narcissistic ex.
Judith.
So. we can see what are more direct efects on male population:
he is kicked out of his house
he works as dr. Chiropractor and hardly has money to go through life. as he forks money to Judith
he barely see his son. on some weekends as he IS Her property - as it is a house and alemony.
And now.
Just TRY TO IMAGINE Hpw more difficult Alan's position would be IF Charlie didn't invite him i to his
Malibu VILA. but left him to sleep in the car on a Parking lot.
.
. Sup for thaughts!
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Person
I just got done with a conversation with my current gf who has consistently explaining how awful I am all the time I spent an hour apologizing cause I love them and miss them and Im in a really low place rn. Is she abusive or am I the abuser? I never get these videos cause I feel like Ive been bad or good mostly the former. I just hate that they keep bringing up things from the past and try to demonize me and when I tried to bring up some things that upset me but she said I was victimizing myself. Should I get out of this? She accused me of cheating and said she felt uncomfortable cause I have platonic friendships with women who I love as friends and express that and says shes jealous
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I just got done with a conversation with my current gf who has consistently explaining how awful I am all the time I spent an hour apologizing cause I love them and miss them and Im in a really low place rn. Is she abusive or am I the abuser? I never get these videos cause I feel like Ive been bad or good mostly the former. I just hate that they keep bringing up things from the past and try to demonize me and when I tried to bring up some things that upset me but she said I was victimizing myself. Should I get out of this? She accused me of cheating and said she felt uncomfortable cause I have platonic friendships with women who I love as friends and express that and says shes jealous
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Bhbie
(Long comment alert) I been in a abusive, toxic, manipulative, narcissistic relationship with the father of my children for 3 years (5 years on and off. I finally took matters into my own hands and left FOR GOOD this time. Its important you understand and notice all of the signsevery time I would take him back, the honeymoon stage would be filled with love bombing, (buying gifts, taking me out to eat, buying flowers, ordering me whatever I wanted, giving me money ETC) then slowly but surely (within 2 months) the red flags start to show, after every break up he would play victim, bash me with his family, lie, and flip the story on me.
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(Long comment alert) I been in a abusive, toxic, manipulative, narcissistic relationship with the father of my children for 3 years (5 years on and off. I finally took matters into my own hands and left FOR GOOD this time. Its important you understand and notice all of the signsevery time I would take him back, the honeymoon stage would be filled with love bombing, (buying gifts, taking me out to eat, buying flowers, ordering me whatever I wanted, giving me money ETC) then slowly but surely (within 2 months) the red flags start to show, after every break up he would play victim, bash me with his family, lie, and flip the story on me.
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frank
Do narcissists know what theyre doing? Do they need help?
How do I know if Im a bad person?
What if theyre deeply tied in your family and have kids tied into their abuse.
Feel so alone.
What if they helped you in so many ways even seemingly selfless way, spending countless hours helping you care for dying parents. I know Im gaslit or Im going nuts but I dont think so. Im not sure
I dont want to lose them but Im so damn lost cause I love her so much.
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Do narcissists know what theyre doing? Do they need help?
How do I know if Im a bad person?
What if theyre deeply tied in your family and have kids tied into their abuse.
Feel so alone.
What if they helped you in so many ways even seemingly selfless way, spending countless hours helping you care for dying parents. I know Im gaslit or Im going nuts but I dont think so. Im not sure
I dont want to lose them but Im so damn lost cause I love her so much.
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Megan
I dont want to live in this state anymore I dont want to go to work anymore, I dont want to stay home, I dont want to see anybody but I dont want to be alone living with these thoughts with these memories with these flashbacks, constantly new narcissism is introduced into my life, you start to wonder
What if Im the problem what if I became just like the abuser I couldnt live with myself. I cant trust myself or anyone else anymore. I dont want to be alive anymore.
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I dont want to live in this state anymore I dont want to go to work anymore, I dont want to stay home, I dont want to see anybody but I dont want to be alone living with these thoughts with these memories with these flashbacks, constantly new narcissism is introduced into my life, you start to wonder
What if Im the problem what if I became just like the abuser I couldnt live with myself. I cant trust myself or anyone else anymore. I dont want to be alive anymore.
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Raymond
I'm an Australian am ex convict who spent 5 yrs in juvenile detention. 10 yrs adult gaol been around the worst of the worst most of my life. Criminals of all sorts. Yet nothing ( nothing ) prepared me for a female narcissist my ex. So don't be too hard on yourself. It. An happen to all of us. Secondly I would say. One may or may not be a narcissist, that doesn't mean they don't deserve love. Noones perfect, especially me.
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I'm an Australian am ex convict who spent 5 yrs in juvenile detention. 10 yrs adult gaol been around the worst of the worst most of my life. Criminals of all sorts. Yet nothing ( nothing ) prepared me for a female narcissist my ex. So don't be too hard on yourself. It. An happen to all of us. Secondly I would say. One may or may not be a narcissist, that doesn't mean they don't deserve love. Noones perfect, especially me.
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Kyle
Smear tactics. My ex wife did that to me. She got both my parents to side with her. How? By using my daughter as leverage. Telling them that I wouldn't bring my daughter around them again. Lied about how she treated me. Made them believe that I destroyed everything. When in reality, she was manipulative and controlling every little thing. She used my past against me every possible chance.
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Smear tactics. My ex wife did that to me. She got both my parents to side with her. How? By using my daughter as leverage. Telling them that I wouldn't bring my daughter around them again. Lied about how she treated me. Made them believe that I destroyed everything. When in reality, she was manipulative and controlling every little thing. She used my past against me every possible chance.
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Punished
Oh my God. I literally had every single one of these. I never realized she was victimizing me until it was over and I spoke with my friends and family. And yet I STILL wanted to take her back. Because I don't want to be alone. The friends and family she isolated me from made me realize that I don't need to feel these ways. I thought it was just the growing pains with love
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Oh my God. I literally had every single one of these. I never realized she was victimizing me until it was over and I spoke with my friends and family. And yet I STILL wanted to take her back. Because I don't want to be alone. The friends and family she isolated me from made me realize that I don't need to feel these ways. I thought it was just the growing pains with love
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Meejung
It's really hard to be ignored when he's angry when it seems he doens't have any good feelings with me. it's been 10 years since I got married. now I am questioning my identity. Am I the problem in this relationship. Don't I have good personality. someone here said. even in the darkest moments, you are never alone. is it really true? I want to believe it. I am so sad now.
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It's really hard to be ignored when he's angry when it seems he doens't have any good feelings with me. it's been 10 years since I got married. now I am questioning my identity. Am I the problem in this relationship. Don't I have good personality. someone here said. even in the darkest moments, you are never alone. is it really true? I want to believe it. I am so sad now.
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Chloe
I wish I knew whats up
My parents are great
But we may have ASD and a lot of other stuff in our family
There is a lot of invalidating and very little emotional awareness
But I cant tell if Im helpless and messed up because of controlling I NC solidarity g or narcs or they are that way because of my issues or mine and theirs
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I wish I knew whats up
My parents are great
But we may have ASD and a lot of other stuff in our family
There is a lot of invalidating and very little emotional awareness
But I cant tell if Im helpless and messed up because of controlling I NC solidarity g or narcs or they are that way because of my issues or mine and theirs
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Mciran
I lost my 1st born to someone like this. She did everything. She turned my friends and family against me. Now some (not a lot) are seeing the truth but it's too late. My son wants me dead for abandoning him even though it was her who got a new boyfriend and disappeared with him, and now that he's older he wants nothing to do with me.
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I lost my 1st born to someone like this. She did everything. She turned my friends and family against me. Now some (not a lot) are seeing the truth but it's too late. My son wants me dead for abandoning him even though it was her who got a new boyfriend and disappeared with him, and now that he's older he wants nothing to do with me.
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SixONine
Thank you very informative and explained very clearly. Helped with knowing more about what I went through in all 4 of my long term relationships. 41 years old and all I been told was I was crazy for saying all these things happened within my close relationships in family as well as love.
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Thank you very informative and explained very clearly. Helped with knowing more about what I went through in all 4 of my long term relationships. 41 years old and all I been told was I was crazy for saying all these things happened within my close relationships in family as well as love.
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Wednesday
This ALLLL of this It wasnt until I did DV counseling that the door to what a narcissist was and knowledge was my best friend to getting out Dr. Ramani is the Queen of all thing Narcissistic This video was awesome because it hit exactly how it is to be or have been a victim of NVS.
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This ALLLL of this It wasnt until I did DV counseling that the door to what a narcissist was and knowledge was my best friend to getting out Dr. Ramani is the Queen of all thing Narcissistic This video was awesome because it hit exactly how it is to be or have been a victim of NVS.
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Tyler
It was all, Here's a $10, 000 TV. Here's an Xbox 360. Here's a car. Then everything was taken away from me. I have been in this relationship for 13 years. Makes me feel guilty for wanting friends, acts like he needs to protect me from people as if I make poor friend choices.
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It was all, Here's a $10, 000 TV. Here's an Xbox 360. Here's a car. Then everything was taken away from me. I have been in this relationship for 13 years. Makes me feel guilty for wanting friends, acts like he needs to protect me from people as if I make poor friend choices.
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Bendmc88
I have like 8 out of 10. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years, and it ended in me going to jail for a year. Long story, but I'm still dealing with a lot of this. If you think you are involved with a narcissist, get out, cut all ties and don't look back.
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I have like 8 out of 10. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years, and it ended in me going to jail for a year. Long story, but I'm still dealing with a lot of this. If you think you are involved with a narcissist, get out, cut all ties and don't look back.
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Sandra
As the scapegoat of a narcissistic family, I was extremely traumatized by the time I left home. My life has been a shit show, but it is getting better with ongoing space between myself and those who abused me and still would, given the opportunity.
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As the scapegoat of a narcissistic family, I was extremely traumatized by the time I left home. My life has been a shit show, but it is getting better with ongoing space between myself and those who abused me and still would, given the opportunity.
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Rejcts
I don't even know if I'm the victim or abuser, I got issues that I struggle with but otherwise, I felt defensive, loved and hated, crazy and sane, unrational and rational in my decisions, I just feel dumb
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I don't even know if I'm the victim or abuser, I got issues that I struggle with but otherwise, I felt defensive, loved and hated, crazy and sane, unrational and rational in my decisions, I just feel dumb
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Crafty
The end made me cry, I have a narcissistic parent and have been really going through it lately but this video made me feel a little bit better. Thank you for the video you guys make great content
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The end made me cry, I have a narcissistic parent and have been really going through it lately but this video made me feel a little bit better. Thank you for the video you guys make great content
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