6 Signs Your Kindness is Used Against You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ren
I was kind to this person who was known as my friend but i dont wanna assume myself as kind either. I had my weaknesses too. That person would tell me what i did badly to them and just make me listen as if they are just being honest to me coz friends are honest to each other. They bring out the times when i finally lost it and when i let my anger out and swear at them or shout at them. Making me think i was such a bad friend. They never realize what they did to ME first. And seems like they forgot i was the only one that accepted them when no one else wanted them when they tried to approach. They called me bossy too so i thought to myself was helping them seemed more like controlling and bossy to them. I was the only one who always have to feel guilty when we got into an arguement. Most of the time, it's a misunderstanding. Now that i think of it, why was i the only one feeling guilty even when it was them who started it. That person came to me after months when they lost their new friends. But after a few weeks one day, accused me for what they did wrong infront of others trying to convince them with the loudest tone. I thought they changed but they got worse. They accused me and made me think i was the one who forgot what i said and calling them a liar. Unfortunately, others believed that person and thought of me as someone who's accusing for such a small matter.
What happened left me stressed out and insecure for a month but fortunately i kinda got out of it now. (When i meant they them, it's just one person. I just didnt wanna use he/she pronoun)
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I was kind to this person who was known as my friend but i dont wanna assume myself as kind either. I had my weaknesses too. That person would tell me what i did badly to them and just make me listen as if they are just being honest to me coz friends are honest to each other. They bring out the times when i finally lost it and when i let my anger out and swear at them or shout at them. Making me think i was such a bad friend. They never realize what they did to ME first. And seems like they forgot i was the only one that accepted them when no one else wanted them when they tried to approach. They called me bossy too so i thought to myself was helping them seemed more like controlling and bossy to them. I was the only one who always have to feel guilty when we got into an arguement. Most of the time, it's a misunderstanding. Now that i think of it, why was i the only one feeling guilty even when it was them who started it. That person came to me after months when they lost their new friends. But after a few weeks one day, accused me for what they did wrong infront of others trying to convince them with the loudest tone. I thought they changed but they got worse. They accused me and made me think i was the one who forgot what i said and calling them a liar. Unfortunately, others believed that person and thought of me as someone who's accusing for such a small matter.
What happened left me stressed out and insecure for a month but fortunately i kinda got out of it now. (When i meant they them, it's just one person. I just didnt wanna use he/she pronoun)
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CJ
As someone who is kind I only take it to a certain level because of the fact I've been taken advantage of my whole childhood until 6th grade when I started not being so kind because I was the one being constantly rude to by teachers and other kids for no reason so I started talking back and started giving up on my kind side because now I just prefer to be left alone and I don't talk to anyone except myself and my best friends. And everyone avoided me my whole life so idk what's the deal if I avoid them lol they get mad when I started doing that. 18 years old now and my parents, sibling, friends haven't heard a word from me in 2 years now because I don't talk much anymore. I do my own thing, and do what I want,
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As someone who is kind I only take it to a certain level because of the fact I've been taken advantage of my whole childhood until 6th grade when I started not being so kind because I was the one being constantly rude to by teachers and other kids for no reason so I started talking back and started giving up on my kind side because now I just prefer to be left alone and I don't talk to anyone except myself and my best friends. And everyone avoided me my whole life so idk what's the deal if I avoid them lol they get mad when I started doing that. 18 years old now and my parents, sibling, friends haven't heard a word from me in 2 years now because I don't talk much anymore. I do my own thing, and do what I want,
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Elritoriateo
My friends once went behind my back and when I found out they told me they were helping me they did the same thing to my other friend. I know this because they thought I felt the same way about that friend so we decided to guilt trip one of them into admitting the things they said. Apparently we are anti social and need to stop talking to them and start getting along with other people even though they know I personally had childhood trauma which caused trust issues. When I confronted the other one about it she said I was emotional and attention seeking when she was trying to help. My question is were they really?
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My friends once went behind my back and when I found out they told me they were helping me they did the same thing to my other friend. I know this because they thought I felt the same way about that friend so we decided to guilt trip one of them into admitting the things they said. Apparently we are anti social and need to stop talking to them and start getting along with other people even though they know I personally had childhood trauma which caused trust issues. When I confronted the other one about it she said I was emotional and attention seeking when she was trying to help. My question is were they really?
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Tajassas
Org toksik srg bilang Perhitungan.
Coba aja dibalikin, lu ambil semua barang2 dia trus lu bilang balik ke org gila itu, ah gitu aja perhitungan.
Kata2 yg srg dia ucapin itu sebenernya dirinyalah yg srg Manfaatin org, terutama org2 yg people pleasure/gak enakan.
Harus Berani bilang NOLAK:
GAK, GAK ADA, GAK BOLEH, GAK MAU, Biarin emang itu Hak Gue kok lu aja boros sok2an ngatur duit org buat lu pinta, Ngaca Donk kl Miskin doyan manfaatin org, lu yg toksik dan bla bla blaa
Hidup memang harus bermanfaat.
Tapi, pinter2 pilih orang jugaa laah No Modus2
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Org toksik srg bilang Perhitungan.
Coba aja dibalikin, lu ambil semua barang2 dia trus lu bilang balik ke org gila itu, ah gitu aja perhitungan.
Kata2 yg srg dia ucapin itu sebenernya dirinyalah yg srg Manfaatin org, terutama org2 yg people pleasure/gak enakan.
Harus Berani bilang NOLAK:
GAK, GAK ADA, GAK BOLEH, GAK MAU, Biarin emang itu Hak Gue kok lu aja boros sok2an ngatur duit org buat lu pinta, Ngaca Donk kl Miskin doyan manfaatin org, lu yg toksik dan bla bla blaa
Hidup memang harus bermanfaat.
Tapi, pinter2 pilih orang jugaa laah No Modus2
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Cheesecake
I had a HIGHLY selective attention friend when i was seriously in 1ST GRADE TO 3RD.
She (not gonna say any names cough kaydence cough ) was a huge 10 on the scale.
She would completely ignore and bully me unless she wanted something or had no friends at the moment, whenever she wasnt ignoring me tho, she would slap my face. Every. Time. I'm glad its been years later and i don't see her anymore.
But keep in mind, It went on for literally 2 years. Like 7 - 9.
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I had a HIGHLY selective attention friend when i was seriously in 1ST GRADE TO 3RD.
She (not gonna say any names cough kaydence cough ) was a huge 10 on the scale.
She would completely ignore and bully me unless she wanted something or had no friends at the moment, whenever she wasnt ignoring me tho, she would slap my face. Every. Time. I'm glad its been years later and i don't see her anymore.
But keep in mind, It went on for literally 2 years. Like 7 - 9.
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Rae
The barista at Dunkin this morning told me, You're too nice.
He meant it though, like not in a nice, friendly way. And I wasn't offended. Honestly, it reminded me that even when I feel like I'm being mean for setting boundaries (or just simply BEING. I'm not at all. Sometimes my kindness can go a little too far in that MY needs aren't being met. I'm learning to take care of myself first FULLY so I'm able to be there for others.
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The barista at Dunkin this morning told me, You're too nice.
He meant it though, like not in a nice, friendly way. And I wasn't offended. Honestly, it reminded me that even when I feel like I'm being mean for setting boundaries (or just simply BEING. I'm not at all. Sometimes my kindness can go a little too far in that MY needs aren't being met. I'm learning to take care of myself first FULLY so I'm able to be there for others.
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The_Dark_Raven
i relate to this SO much. There us this girl at school acts so weak and helpless, and is constantly guilt tripping me to do stuff for her. She completely ignores my boundaries, and cries and does things for my attention. The problem is my parents encourage me to help her, and I find hard to say no nicely, no matter how much I want to.
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i relate to this SO much. There us this girl at school acts so weak and helpless, and is constantly guilt tripping me to do stuff for her. She completely ignores my boundaries, and cries and does things for my attention. The problem is my parents encourage me to help her, and I find hard to say no nicely, no matter how much I want to.
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Chihiro
I feel like my ex-friend did this to me when I was younger. I finally left her almost four months ago because she sabotaged my friendship with her for years. She was very toxic and manipulative who took advantage of my kindness and I was a lot more naive back then. It was one of the biggest decisions Ive ever made and it was worth it.
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I feel like my ex-friend did this to me when I was younger. I finally left her almost four months ago because she sabotaged my friendship with her for years. She was very toxic and manipulative who took advantage of my kindness and I was a lot more naive back then. It was one of the biggest decisions Ive ever made and it was worth it.
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potato
I'm an extremely kind and chill person my dad and other crappy people have taken advantage of it and used it against me and bullied me so yeah I'm now a person who doesn't trust anyone and will be kind sometimes but now If I pick up hints that youre using it against me I will call you out and insult/be very rude towards you
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I'm an extremely kind and chill person my dad and other crappy people have taken advantage of it and used it against me and bullied me so yeah I'm now a person who doesn't trust anyone and will be kind sometimes but now If I pick up hints that youre using it against me I will call you out and insult/be very rude towards you
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dspirop
Theres this girl that I really like but she only comes to me when she wants something or needs help with something. We do hangout and go places together but I always feel like shes just using me for things. Im not really sure what to do or how to tell her how I feel about this any tips?
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Theres this girl that I really like but she only comes to me when she wants something or needs help with something. We do hangout and go places together but I always feel like shes just using me for things. Im not really sure what to do or how to tell her how I feel about this any tips?
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Soleris
Am I being taken advantage of?
This one family member would ask me for stuff and then would treat me without respect after and knows I have no money, and then when I went to sleep its like they got upset or when I go to the bathroom they get inpatient with me. Idk: (
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Am I being taken advantage of?
This one family member would ask me for stuff and then would treat me without respect after and knows I have no money, and then when I went to sleep its like they got upset or when I go to the bathroom they get inpatient with me. Idk: (
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Wendy
I was diagnosed with PTSD a few months ago, partly because of a past relationship. He would gaslight and confuse my thoughts and feelings. He wouldalso ignore me for days and finally answer say I needed space despite the fact that we were in a long distance relationship.
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I was diagnosed with PTSD a few months ago, partly because of a past relationship. He would gaslight and confuse my thoughts and feelings. He wouldalso ignore me for days and finally answer say I needed space despite the fact that we were in a long distance relationship.
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HDMF
3: 33 wow. allot of parts of this video if true about my life. but this one is the biggest problem. ik someone like this in my life and. it isnt fair honestly which scares me i jus dont know what to do: ( the next clip after this part is a prob for me too
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3: 33 wow. allot of parts of this video if true about my life. but this one is the biggest problem. ik someone like this in my life and. it isnt fair honestly which scares me i jus dont know what to do: ( the next clip after this part is a prob for me too
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Drina
Sometimes being kind-hearted gets to the point where you start to resent others. Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your niceness and use your good nature against you. Don't say yes so often that others start to ask too much of you.
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Sometimes being kind-hearted gets to the point where you start to resent others. Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your niceness and use your good nature against you. Don't say yes so often that others start to ask too much of you.
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infernal
yesterday i ended relationship with this kind of boy. this morning i cried because i was actually feeling guilty for making HIM feel bad. it's sad he lacks empathy and never thaught that i am feeling bad because of what he was constantly doing to me.
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yesterday i ended relationship with this kind of boy. this morning i cried because i was actually feeling guilty for making HIM feel bad. it's sad he lacks empathy and never thaught that i am feeling bad because of what he was constantly doing to me.
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PardusRain
A hollow creature feeds on others, A witness learns a good person will not need weighing, a bad person will find their shadows cold.
Be kind, know it as a gift but also know when someone can not be redeemed for that is in turn also being kind.
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A hollow creature feeds on others, A witness learns a good person will not need weighing, a bad person will find their shadows cold.
Be kind, know it as a gift but also know when someone can not be redeemed for that is in turn also being kind.
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Ryv
Kind and generous people are always treated badly. But despite everything, despite the kindness and generosity that was never shown back to us. We still choose to be kind and generous to the world no matter how broken we are.
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Kind and generous people are always treated badly. But despite everything, despite the kindness and generosity that was never shown back to us. We still choose to be kind and generous to the world no matter how broken we are.
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GlitchyReality
This is my friend he is always like and he always asks me personal questions about me and my family like where did I go, why I didn't do what my friend said for a long time and it annoys me can anyone help: (
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This is my friend he is always like and he always asks me personal questions about me and my family like where did I go, why I didn't do what my friend said for a long time and it annoys me can anyone help: (
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Soumen
Ive experienced many of the behaviors mentioned in this clip. and often a toxic person will act offended if you stand up to them / stand up for yourself. or theyll talk as if youre the one being unreasonable
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Ive experienced many of the behaviors mentioned in this clip. and often a toxic person will act offended if you stand up to them / stand up for yourself. or theyll talk as if youre the one being unreasonable
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Hans
Idk, my friend is nice, but only when I give him a gift. If he asks for a gift but I dont have that thing, he threatens me of beating me up, but when he needs something he always comes back to me. Any ideas?
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Idk, my friend is nice, but only when I give him a gift. If he asks for a gift but I dont have that thing, he threatens me of beating me up, but when he needs something he always comes back to me. Any ideas?
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Karottenregen
So basicly my friendship with my crush is probably me beeing used by her instead of beeing a friendship wow that really hit hard realising more and more how manny of those points actualy match
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So basicly my friendship with my crush is probably me beeing used by her instead of beeing a friendship wow that really hit hard realising more and more how manny of those points actualy match
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Addie
Im not technically being threatened at all my friend just tries to steal my stuff by asking if she can have it for one day good thing her sister brings the stuff back after a few weeks
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Im not technically being threatened at all my friend just tries to steal my stuff by asking if she can have it for one day good thing her sister brings the stuff back after a few weeks
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RandomDucc
Well then both my brother and this guy called William is taking advantage of my easy forgiveness to bully me. In my bothers case, mentally, and in Williams case, physically.
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Well then both my brother and this guy called William is taking advantage of my easy forgiveness to bully me. In my bothers case, mentally, and in Williams case, physically.
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Midnight
On a scale of 1-10 on how they used my kindness against me it's 10 since I was little. I still got used being 19 even by someone who I thought was special to me.
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On a scale of 1-10 on how they used my kindness against me it's 10 since I was little. I still got used being 19 even by someone who I thought was special to me.
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frog
1: 31
Happy star wars day everyone! And today is also my birthday! And because its my birthday i also get to show you my girlfriend! Shes amazing!
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1: 31
Happy star wars day everyone! And today is also my birthday! And because its my birthday i also get to show you my girlfriend! Shes amazing!
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