5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Amblehhh
I got guilt tripped to confess to this guy who I'm not sure I had feelings with but he actually liked me for months. When we started dating, he felts so happy but as for me, it felt so neutral. I didn't feel like I had a boyfriend, I didn't feel in love, I just felt like there was a friend I'm obligated to talk to everyday. I thought it was because I'm demiromantic but it was just a small factor. I thought you feel love differently but with him, it 's really just not it. I also thought it may be because we were each other's first, but its still not it. The main factor is really just the fact that I wasn't in love at him. I felt the whole list in this video.
Now, we've broken up and I'm with someone I'm actually in love with. Being in love really feels so different and I honestly want to spend my next years with the person I'm with rn.
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I got guilt tripped to confess to this guy who I'm not sure I had feelings with but he actually liked me for months. When we started dating, he felts so happy but as for me, it felt so neutral. I didn't feel like I had a boyfriend, I didn't feel in love, I just felt like there was a friend I'm obligated to talk to everyday. I thought it was because I'm demiromantic but it was just a small factor. I thought you feel love differently but with him, it 's really just not it. I also thought it may be because we were each other's first, but its still not it. The main factor is really just the fact that I wasn't in love at him. I felt the whole list in this video.
Now, we've broken up and I'm with someone I'm actually in love with. Being in love really feels so different and I honestly want to spend my next years with the person I'm with rn.
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Zaharija
The girl I love is not sending me texts anymore, we used to hear each other every day (we have never actually met) but we talked a lot and we get to know each other really well. Suddenly she confessed to me she's not feeling good because of her insecurities, past toxic relationships and traumas. I promised I won't give up on her because I love her. She has told me since, she doesn't want a relationship, she doesn't want to hear me anymore, she is tired. So i stop texting her often, every 4, 5 days I send her a message that I'm thinking of her and hoping she is feeling better. She used to send me messages when everything was great but not anymore. She replies back though. I hope she still loves me and she will eventually realise I am not like others. I would never hurt her.
I just want her back, I'm lost without her
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The girl I love is not sending me texts anymore, we used to hear each other every day (we have never actually met) but we talked a lot and we get to know each other really well. Suddenly she confessed to me she's not feeling good because of her insecurities, past toxic relationships and traumas. I promised I won't give up on her because I love her. She has told me since, she doesn't want a relationship, she doesn't want to hear me anymore, she is tired. So i stop texting her often, every 4, 5 days I send her a message that I'm thinking of her and hoping she is feeling better. She used to send me messages when everything was great but not anymore. She replies back though. I hope she still loves me and she will eventually realise I am not like others. I would never hurt her.
I just want her back, I'm lost without her
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Beln
What happens if I really love my bf, but he has a very different mentality to mine and does things, serious things, that make me mad, and I vent about that a lot? But I also don't do it that much? Also, I really enjoy spending time with him, alone, but when we're with friends he acts like a very different person, and that makes me not want to stay with him that much? IDK
something that worries me a lot, too, is that he is a very jealous man and needy, but like, excessive, and it gets tiring
I really love him, and I love every minute I have spent with him, it has been incredible, but we also fight a lot over little things and IDK i just feel like, ever since we started dating I feel like I'm dating a whole new person
if anybody could help me, I would be sososo thankful, but mostly I needed to put it into words
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What happens if I really love my bf, but he has a very different mentality to mine and does things, serious things, that make me mad, and I vent about that a lot? But I also don't do it that much? Also, I really enjoy spending time with him, alone, but when we're with friends he acts like a very different person, and that makes me not want to stay with him that much? IDK
something that worries me a lot, too, is that he is a very jealous man and needy, but like, excessive, and it gets tiring
I really love him, and I love every minute I have spent with him, it has been incredible, but we also fight a lot over little things and IDK i just feel like, ever since we started dating I feel like I'm dating a whole new person
if anybody could help me, I would be sososo thankful, but mostly I needed to put it into words
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education
We were in a relationship were we would see each other pretty much everyday and our love was even flaming hotter than a mukbangers obsession. But because of work-related reasons we can't see each other for a long time now and it's already been a month since they left. Now saying I love you feels quite wrong and i don't know if it's just because i can't tell them directly or maybe because our relationship was very physical. All the other points definitively suggest I'm deeply in love and one of my love languages is physical touch. So it seems like it feels ungenuine because i can't hold them while i say it. I'm still concerned doe, what if i fall out of love because of the distance? I don't want that to happen, any selutions?
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We were in a relationship were we would see each other pretty much everyday and our love was even flaming hotter than a mukbangers obsession. But because of work-related reasons we can't see each other for a long time now and it's already been a month since they left. Now saying I love you feels quite wrong and i don't know if it's just because i can't tell them directly or maybe because our relationship was very physical. All the other points definitively suggest I'm deeply in love and one of my love languages is physical touch. So it seems like it feels ungenuine because i can't hold them while i say it. I'm still concerned doe, what if i fall out of love because of the distance? I don't want that to happen, any selutions?
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DMTdreamz
You can literally hallucinate objects and beings into existence because what's happening is you're tapping into that pure abstract creative potential of mind. That's exactly what you want. Of course it can be kind of freaky but a psychedelic is that times a thousand. See so again the point is not to achieve some blissful state or to see some cool colors or to travel to some new dimension you can do all those things. That's nice, that's fun. The point is the lessons the insights you get and the meta understanding of how this entire process works because as you're exploring all your different domains you're learning about your own mind. How the mind of God is generating reality and why it's generating it.
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You can literally hallucinate objects and beings into existence because what's happening is you're tapping into that pure abstract creative potential of mind. That's exactly what you want. Of course it can be kind of freaky but a psychedelic is that times a thousand. See so again the point is not to achieve some blissful state or to see some cool colors or to travel to some new dimension you can do all those things. That's nice, that's fun. The point is the lessons the insights you get and the meta understanding of how this entire process works because as you're exploring all your different domains you're learning about your own mind. How the mind of God is generating reality and why it's generating it.
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Yasmin
How can I show this video to my partner whitout raising any red flags to him? I don't want to seem like I'm trying to convey a message that I don't love them /he don't loves me but I feel like he should be aware of these points stated in the video. He's not a very emotionally open person and will not seek for material online/professionals to help him understands his feelings and I feel this somewhat degrades our relationship. I told him that I thought we should try couple therapy since our relationship is going south for quite some time and he told he don't want to because only I need to go the therapy because the problem is me and he is happy with our relationship
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How can I show this video to my partner whitout raising any red flags to him? I don't want to seem like I'm trying to convey a message that I don't love them /he don't loves me but I feel like he should be aware of these points stated in the video. He's not a very emotionally open person and will not seek for material online/professionals to help him understands his feelings and I feel this somewhat degrades our relationship. I told him that I thought we should try couple therapy since our relationship is going south for quite some time and he told he don't want to because only I need to go the therapy because the problem is me and he is happy with our relationship
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Indrid
I'm not in love, so don't forget it
It's just a silly phase I'm going through
And just because I call you up
Don't get me wrong, don't think you've got it made
I like to see you, but then again
That doesn't mean you mean that much to me
So if I call you, don't make a fuss
Don't tell your friends about the two of us
I'm not in love, no, no
(It's because)
I keep your picture upon the wall
It hides a nasty stain that's lying there
So don't you ask me to give it back
I know you know it doesn't mean that much to me
[Chorus]
I'm not in love, no, no
(It's because)
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I'm not in love, so don't forget it
It's just a silly phase I'm going through
And just because I call you up
Don't get me wrong, don't think you've got it made
I like to see you, but then again
That doesn't mean you mean that much to me
So if I call you, don't make a fuss
Don't tell your friends about the two of us
I'm not in love, no, no
(It's because)
I keep your picture upon the wall
It hides a nasty stain that's lying there
So don't you ask me to give it back
I know you know it doesn't mean that much to me
[Chorus]
I'm not in love, no, no
(It's because)
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An
Not count as love maybe but my friend doesnt like me anymore and I feel like she struggle about being honest about it. I really really love her but I believe she deserve respect too. But I can't understand her because she doesnt communucate with me. I don't know what to do but feeling like a total asshole while we talking. cuz like if she didnt met me. she might be happier rn. Idk. I guess she scares because Im her only friend and she is too shy for socilise. and I wish her to best but she refuse talking. and I don't want to make them sad but feeling used at the same time.
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Not count as love maybe but my friend doesnt like me anymore and I feel like she struggle about being honest about it. I really really love her but I believe she deserve respect too. But I can't understand her because she doesnt communucate with me. I don't know what to do but feeling like a total asshole while we talking. cuz like if she didnt met me. she might be happier rn. Idk. I guess she scares because Im her only friend and she is too shy for socilise. and I wish her to best but she refuse talking. and I don't want to make them sad but feeling used at the same time.
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Lea
After watching this video it made me. Over think my feelings for them, I love them, and I still did, at first
When I confess to them, I actually didn't mean it, it was too sudden and I didn't have feelings for them yet it was out of desperation of me thinking that they were avoiding me because I did something
But I can't turn back now, but as time passes by, I fell in love, I don't know how or when, I just did, and after all this time I still loved them, we don't talk much anymore, but we still keep each other in check, we both are happy to have each other: )
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After watching this video it made me. Over think my feelings for them, I love them, and I still did, at first
When I confess to them, I actually didn't mean it, it was too sudden and I didn't have feelings for them yet it was out of desperation of me thinking that they were avoiding me because I did something
But I can't turn back now, but as time passes by, I fell in love, I don't know how or when, I just did, and after all this time I still loved them, we don't talk much anymore, but we still keep each other in check, we both are happy to have each other: )
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TY
Thank you! I came her for confirmation. In my heart I think I already knew.
I feel sad because we are great together. We are at the very beginning of our relationship, and it is actually my first one, even though I'm 29. He loves me and is the perfect boyfriend, but maaaan replying to his texts feels like a chore! I can get bored while kissing or being intimate, even though I enjoy other activities with him. He is always the one who initiates physical contact, not me. It really took me a while to realize this is platonic love. Now, how to tell him this?
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Thank you! I came her for confirmation. In my heart I think I already knew.
I feel sad because we are great together. We are at the very beginning of our relationship, and it is actually my first one, even though I'm 29. He loves me and is the perfect boyfriend, but maaaan replying to his texts feels like a chore! I can get bored while kissing or being intimate, even though I enjoy other activities with him. He is always the one who initiates physical contact, not me. It really took me a while to realize this is platonic love. Now, how to tell him this?
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education
I have situation from number 4. He just hurt me so bad and even when I gave him million chances after 3 years I feel like I can't fight for this relationship anymore. He is always saying that this won't happend again that he wouldn't lied to me again, wouldn't cheat again but he always did. I don't even feel it when I have to respond him for I love you. Sometimes im just not but I feel bad with it. I don't know what to do. Im feeling so Strong Attachment to him, And I feel more than actual love
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I have situation from number 4. He just hurt me so bad and even when I gave him million chances after 3 years I feel like I can't fight for this relationship anymore. He is always saying that this won't happend again that he wouldn't lied to me again, wouldn't cheat again but he always did. I don't even feel it when I have to respond him for I love you. Sometimes im just not but I feel bad with it. I don't know what to do. Im feeling so Strong Attachment to him, And I feel more than actual love
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education
I'm a little bit confused.
I truly enjoy hearing the voice of my significant and when I spend time with them, it's nice, casual, and fun.
However, I'm not one who enjoys talking much. Talking in general is not my cup of tea, and so goes the same for my partner, we enjoy each other's presence, but more quietly. Or so I think.
But this often ends up in only texting at the end of the day, when we send goodnight messages.
I still feel like I love them, however. Am I wrong?
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I'm a little bit confused.
I truly enjoy hearing the voice of my significant and when I spend time with them, it's nice, casual, and fun.
However, I'm not one who enjoys talking much. Talking in general is not my cup of tea, and so goes the same for my partner, we enjoy each other's presence, but more quietly. Or so I think.
But this often ends up in only texting at the end of the day, when we send goodnight messages.
I still feel like I love them, however. Am I wrong?
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Ece
People are different and so are their emotions and how they live them. I dont think describing being in love can never be objective. But I still agree with most of this videos assumptions. Especially the last one. Im just saying there could be someone who has a completely different explanation for the way they feel and its okay and it doesnt mean their feelings are not legit. Everyone has their own way of seeing the world. Things like emotions shouldnt be so definitive
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People are different and so are their emotions and how they live them. I dont think describing being in love can never be objective. But I still agree with most of this videos assumptions. Especially the last one. Im just saying there could be someone who has a completely different explanation for the way they feel and its okay and it doesnt mean their feelings are not legit. Everyone has their own way of seeing the world. Things like emotions shouldnt be so definitive
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glitzy
NGL, I had all these signs except the number 3. We enjoy being together but mostly in his own ways. Our relationship was like all about physical contact, we only talk when we plan to meet each other, we never go on a date, we're just always in his very cold room doing what he wants, sometimes when we go out, we only buy foods & eat inside his car. That's not that date & relationship I want, I don't feel anything but his desire. Too good we parted ways.
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NGL, I had all these signs except the number 3. We enjoy being together but mostly in his own ways. Our relationship was like all about physical contact, we only talk when we plan to meet each other, we never go on a date, we're just always in his very cold room doing what he wants, sometimes when we go out, we only buy foods & eat inside his car. That's not that date & relationship I want, I don't feel anything but his desire. Too good we parted ways.
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El
It's quite frustrating to be reminded constantly that I was actually in love. That video just validated everything that I felt for my ex. And for a long while, I wasted all the love I can give to someone who was faking it the whole time before she left me for someone else. I'm glad to know that I'm very much capable of doing that, but I'd rather be left alone and content with myself than getting into a relationship that would just end in lies and betrayal.
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It's quite frustrating to be reminded constantly that I was actually in love. That video just validated everything that I felt for my ex. And for a long while, I wasted all the love I can give to someone who was faking it the whole time before she left me for someone else. I'm glad to know that I'm very much capable of doing that, but I'd rather be left alone and content with myself than getting into a relationship that would just end in lies and betrayal.
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education
ah crap, I was hoping that I'd not be in love with my partner whom I'm going to break up with soon but this kind of confirmed the opposite. Kind of sucks that I love them. and I'm breaking up with them because they don't hang around me anymore. They don't bother texting anymore. They don't bother doing spontaneous things. Honestly I just feel like I am their chore.
I wish i didn't love them, it would make this so much easier to let go.
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ah crap, I was hoping that I'd not be in love with my partner whom I'm going to break up with soon but this kind of confirmed the opposite. Kind of sucks that I love them. and I'm breaking up with them because they don't hang around me anymore. They don't bother texting anymore. They don't bother doing spontaneous things. Honestly I just feel like I am their chore.
I wish i didn't love them, it would make this so much easier to let go.
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Kamilah
There are many gigolos that play the nice guy on our way. Theyre good at selling themselves as dignified people but it takes days to know what they're up to. We may even feel love but we ourselves realize we made a story of it and it was all in our minds. A gentleman doesn't commit certain flaws that others do commit to a point that you love them but cant stand them. These gentlemen are over. I guess. There's just players
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There are many gigolos that play the nice guy on our way. Theyre good at selling themselves as dignified people but it takes days to know what they're up to. We may even feel love but we ourselves realize we made a story of it and it was all in our minds. A gentleman doesn't commit certain flaws that others do commit to a point that you love them but cant stand them. These gentlemen are over. I guess. There's just players
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Anna
I do love him, but Im not a romantic person and Im very closed off, I cant not text him because I feel alone without him. Whenever I say I love him I feel nauseous and when I try to be lovey dovey etc, he knows im not romantic but to the point where I get nauseous I creep myself out and I feel so different from everyone else. I can say I love you to my family but like thats something totally different
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I do love him, but Im not a romantic person and Im very closed off, I cant not text him because I feel alone without him. Whenever I say I love him I feel nauseous and when I try to be lovey dovey etc, he knows im not romantic but to the point where I get nauseous I creep myself out and I feel so different from everyone else. I can say I love you to my family but like thats something totally different
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Lilith
I fell out of love because I could tell he didn't love me as much anymore but based on these things makes me realize he truely didn't love me as much as I had loved him and once we had one break I could tell that it wasn't meant to be I completely broke it off. Even though he still has made me happier than anyone I don't think I made him all that happy
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I fell out of love because I could tell he didn't love me as much anymore but based on these things makes me realize he truely didn't love me as much as I had loved him and once we had one break I could tell that it wasn't meant to be I completely broke it off. Even though he still has made me happier than anyone I don't think I made him all that happy
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Ashton
I see that I'm on the edge of falling out of love bc I vent abt my partner a lot but barely tells him and he can stop communicating for long period of time. It's complicated and idk if I should hold on or move on. Idk, if I'm the only one fighting to make it nice does worth it.
I love him so much but I'm getting a little indecisive
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I see that I'm on the edge of falling out of love bc I vent abt my partner a lot but barely tells him and he can stop communicating for long period of time. It's complicated and idk if I should hold on or move on. Idk, if I'm the only one fighting to make it nice does worth it.
I love him so much but I'm getting a little indecisive
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Zachu
But my problem is, I think I am inlove and well I am but sometimes when I say I love you or all that or hear it it just feels. empty for me. Mostly it does feel like that for me, not always tho. But I just feel so empty and I have a feeling that its maybe because of my past relationships that was horrible. any ideas, tips or anything?
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But my problem is, I think I am inlove and well I am but sometimes when I say I love you or all that or hear it it just feels. empty for me. Mostly it does feel like that for me, not always tho. But I just feel so empty and I have a feeling that its maybe because of my past relationships that was horrible. any ideas, tips or anything?
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HUYI1
days on end? my bf has been ghosting me for over 2 weeks! i hate it it's true i can't be my honest self around him because he's not interested in what i like but we do share the same experiences together, mental health and similarities, it hurts when i'm on my own and no one to talk to
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days on end? my bf has been ghosting me for over 2 weeks! i hate it it's true i can't be my honest self around him because he's not interested in what i like but we do share the same experiences together, mental health and similarities, it hurts when i'm on my own and no one to talk to
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Nellies
Im confused. what if when Im not with them I feel irritated about them. I dont mind not speaking with them for some longer periods of time. it kinda feels like a work to spend time with them. but when Im actually with them I feel safe, comfortable and loved? I guess. I dont know.
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Im confused. what if when Im not with them I feel irritated about them. I dont mind not speaking with them for some longer periods of time. it kinda feels like a work to spend time with them. but when Im actually with them I feel safe, comfortable and loved? I guess. I dont know.
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Eleutheria
Oh that makes me sad. I thought I had experienced it (being in love) but I guess not. At this point I dont think I can truly love someone even if I want to. What do I do? Even saying I love you makes me throw up (surprisingly thats not true for my fictional characters)
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Oh that makes me sad. I thought I had experienced it (being in love) but I guess not. At this point I dont think I can truly love someone even if I want to. What do I do? Even saying I love you makes me throw up (surprisingly thats not true for my fictional characters)
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Miss
Now what do I do now that I realized that I'm not truly inlove with him? I feel so bad to hurt his feelings but I can no longer pretend to love him and force myself to talk to him everyday. Am I a bad person for leading him on? I know he really loves me.
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Now what do I do now that I realized that I'm not truly inlove with him? I feel so bad to hurt his feelings but I can no longer pretend to love him and force myself to talk to him everyday. Am I a bad person for leading him on? I know he really loves me.
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