5 Signs You’re Being Played (Future Faking)
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Date: 2024-08-03
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markprothero2666
It’s just another type of lying. Saying you are going to do something, with little/no intention of actually doing it, is lying. It doesn’t matter if the implied action hasn’t happened yet.
Obviously that is wrong. But I always like to point out that there often are two sides to each equation.
If you set your bar too high and expect too much from people, you can expect to be lied to. Try to remember what it felt like back when you were a child and either your parents or one of your teachers expected too much of you and you feared the consequences of not meeting those expectations. What did you do You probably lied to them.
It’s not complicated. Have realistic expectations, and you will be less likely to attract conmen. When I sometimes hear women in their 30s & 40s complain about how all the men they’ve met being trash, that may well be true, but those women often overlook that they themselves too, were very likely part of the problem back in their twenties or whatever.
I like to give people solutions to these sorts of problems. That is one solution. It’s better than just pointing the finger at other people.
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It’s just another type of lying. Saying you are going to do something, with little/no intention of actually doing it, is lying. It doesn’t matter if the implied action hasn’t happened yet.
Obviously that is wrong. But I always like to point out that there often are two sides to each equation.
If you set your bar too high and expect too much from people, you can expect to be lied to. Try to remember what it felt like back when you were a child and either your parents or one of your teachers expected too much of you and you feared the consequences of not meeting those expectations. What did you do You probably lied to them.
It’s not complicated. Have realistic expectations, and you will be less likely to attract conmen. When I sometimes hear women in their 30s & 40s complain about how all the men they’ve met being trash, that may well be true, but those women often overlook that they themselves too, were very likely part of the problem back in their twenties or whatever.
I like to give people solutions to these sorts of problems. That is one solution. It’s better than just pointing the finger at other people.
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Absolhunter251
This JUST was my relationship! Man, I've been future fake all my life and by a lot of people
This video was just what I wanted to see.
Thank you for this!
The signs were something I didn't know about.
I relate to the date ones.
Because I was told: i would never leave you and then, wanting me to end the relationship.
And even said if I didn't do the changes, they've want me to do for their own benefits, which was do as they instructed me to put my item on a table when speaking to them, when before, i would just have my device on my lap and talk, not play video games, or talk about my fears or not wanting a lazy person and one who needs to have work experience in order to have their future ahead, instead of living off government checks.
When they never Nit-picked at it before. They would always play video games or watch stuff in the background while it was our time together and then never made eye contact with me and just hated to be in thinking on the future or our goals.
I'm glad I'm not going in the future with them or anyone who happens to be a bad person and blame and play victim and love bomb me.
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This JUST was my relationship! Man, I've been future fake all my life and by a lot of people
This video was just what I wanted to see.
Thank you for this!
The signs were something I didn't know about.
I relate to the date ones.
Because I was told: i would never leave you and then, wanting me to end the relationship.
And even said if I didn't do the changes, they've want me to do for their own benefits, which was do as they instructed me to put my item on a table when speaking to them, when before, i would just have my device on my lap and talk, not play video games, or talk about my fears or not wanting a lazy person and one who needs to have work experience in order to have their future ahead, instead of living off government checks.
When they never Nit-picked at it before. They would always play video games or watch stuff in the background while it was our time together and then never made eye contact with me and just hated to be in thinking on the future or our goals.
I'm glad I'm not going in the future with them or anyone who happens to be a bad person and blame and play victim and love bomb me.
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vv-zs3dy
I have a few examples. 1) one ex made plans to do things but would only do them half way and would get mad at my reaction. Example: he said he would run an errand to the store while I was at work so that he could get things for the house. Instead of doing that he chooses to wash clothes (we needed the detergent for clothes) using my new expensive shampoo. 2) my ex would make up stories of how things would be and what we would do when he came back from deployment. Meanwhile he was cheating and attempted to even hit on my Best friend via messenger. 3) my ex wanted me to feel like marrying him and having children would be amazing for us. However I explained early on I wasn't ready and wasn't sure I wanted that. We were approaching 7 months and he wanted me to consider us moving in together. He was in a bad situation and wanted to move. However I make a lot more than him and was already paying for everything we did. He decided I wasn't falling for everything fast enough and at one point told me he missed his ex because she wanted all those things. Side note he cheated.
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I have a few examples. 1) one ex made plans to do things but would only do them half way and would get mad at my reaction. Example: he said he would run an errand to the store while I was at work so that he could get things for the house. Instead of doing that he chooses to wash clothes (we needed the detergent for clothes) using my new expensive shampoo. 2) my ex would make up stories of how things would be and what we would do when he came back from deployment. Meanwhile he was cheating and attempted to even hit on my Best friend via messenger. 3) my ex wanted me to feel like marrying him and having children would be amazing for us. However I explained early on I wasn't ready and wasn't sure I wanted that. We were approaching 7 months and he wanted me to consider us moving in together. He was in a bad situation and wanted to move. However I make a lot more than him and was already paying for everything we did. He decided I wasn't falling for everything fast enough and at one point told me he missed his ex because she wanted all those things. Side note he cheated.
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Play-All-The-Games
14 years of sign #2.
We can start spending more time together when I'm done with college / when I get a better job / when I don't work so far away.
I know I said we had the money for Disney World before getting you to agree, but we didn't actually so my mom and dad paid for half the trip. Don't worry, we're paying them back!
Happy Birthday! I bought you a trip to New Orleans because I've always wanted to go there, you can plan stuff too!
Next year you can plan a vacation! Wait no my family wants to go on a cruise.
I know you made plans with friends and that I agreed, but can't we just spend a few more days at my parents' place You can reschedule, right
I know you said you didn't want to move across the country, but I took a new job 2000 miles away. I know I said I would look one state over, but. I. DON'T. LOVE. YOU. ANYMORE.
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14 years of sign #2.
We can start spending more time together when I'm done with college / when I get a better job / when I don't work so far away.
I know I said we had the money for Disney World before getting you to agree, but we didn't actually so my mom and dad paid for half the trip. Don't worry, we're paying them back!
Happy Birthday! I bought you a trip to New Orleans because I've always wanted to go there, you can plan stuff too!
Next year you can plan a vacation! Wait no my family wants to go on a cruise.
I know you made plans with friends and that I agreed, but can't we just spend a few more days at my parents' place You can reschedule, right
I know you said you didn't want to move across the country, but I took a new job 2000 miles away. I know I said I would look one state over, but. I. DON'T. LOVE. YOU. ANYMORE.
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kittikatkute458
Had an ex that always promise me things but never follow through for freaken 6 years, no marriage happend, and at some point he change his mind about having kids which was very disappointing to know he wasn't looking forward for our future and constantly forces to behave a certain way around his family because that way they'll love you more But yeah I finally said enough is enough, constantly hoping our relationship would progress but not it didn't. Also kept staying at my appartment even though we broke up just to let people know we were still togehter bruh were not even married or together anymore and i pay for all the bills gtfo what a clown. Im just glad i got out of that ridiculous of a relationship.
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Had an ex that always promise me things but never follow through for freaken 6 years, no marriage happend, and at some point he change his mind about having kids which was very disappointing to know he wasn't looking forward for our future and constantly forces to behave a certain way around his family because that way they'll love you more But yeah I finally said enough is enough, constantly hoping our relationship would progress but not it didn't. Also kept staying at my appartment even though we broke up just to let people know we were still togehter bruh were not even married or together anymore and i pay for all the bills gtfo what a clown. Im just glad i got out of that ridiculous of a relationship.
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medkitfan1
holy shit i feel like im doing this, i always plan but i have struggle actually fullfilling it wich makes people think im doing it on purpose but i have trouble getting myself to hang out with someone i dont know why, im an extravert (i think) and i love hanging out with people in places like school but when it comes going anywhere outside of the place we see eachother the most it can be a bit hard for me, it takes a lot of mental effort to get myself to go somewhere wich caused me to do that a lot wich was unpurposeful. i wanna hang out with people but i cant get myself how to do it, does anyone know how i can fix it (if possible) 1: 34
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holy shit i feel like im doing this, i always plan but i have struggle actually fullfilling it wich makes people think im doing it on purpose but i have trouble getting myself to hang out with someone i dont know why, im an extravert (i think) and i love hanging out with people in places like school but when it comes going anywhere outside of the place we see eachother the most it can be a bit hard for me, it takes a lot of mental effort to get myself to go somewhere wich caused me to do that a lot wich was unpurposeful. i wanna hang out with people but i cant get myself how to do it, does anyone know how i can fix it (if possible) 1: 34
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trissdejaeger7937
Hey there, for me it is asking for more and you keep hearing that they have been trying. Then they start a fight or blame game. Where you are then being hasty and wrong as the smallest change, even if it took plenty of talks and almost a month of wait each and every time should be enough, because they finally did a part of the thing you have been asking for like the dishes or helping around the house. I feel this creates a sort of bad habit of you always just patiently waiting for another to treat you better, kinder and with more love. while you are stuck picking up their slack as well.
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Hey there, for me it is asking for more and you keep hearing that they have been trying. Then they start a fight or blame game. Where you are then being hasty and wrong as the smallest change, even if it took plenty of talks and almost a month of wait each and every time should be enough, because they finally did a part of the thing you have been asking for like the dishes or helping around the house. I feel this creates a sort of bad habit of you always just patiently waiting for another to treat you better, kinder and with more love. while you are stuck picking up their slack as well.
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psych2go
I also faced this from my female partner, she told me we will go to the same college, we will get marry. It happened with me 3years ago, I didn't even know about such a thing that time. And look what happened she left me suddenly and committed to someone whom she barely knows. After that I was the one who was suffering, having anxiety, insomnia, depression, unable to focus on myself and work. I literally suffered from PTSD and suffering, slowly slowly I am learning about all the things and moving towards my healing journey.
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I also faced this from my female partner, she told me we will go to the same college, we will get marry. It happened with me 3years ago, I didn't even know about such a thing that time. And look what happened she left me suddenly and committed to someone whom she barely knows. After that I was the one who was suffering, having anxiety, insomnia, depression, unable to focus on myself and work. I literally suffered from PTSD and suffering, slowly slowly I am learning about all the things and moving towards my healing journey.
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anduinmclewin6667
I'm a future faker but it's honestly because of my constant anxiety. I tell myself or others I want to make plans but my anxiety or intrusive thoughts start coming in and I stop myself. Honestly my anxiety and constant overthinking is ruining my life and it's debilitating. Every time I think of making plans with people I get buckets loads of stress over either the money or the social consequences and then I quit all together. I have no idea how to stop and nothing has helped. I just feel so debilitated.
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I'm a future faker but it's honestly because of my constant anxiety. I tell myself or others I want to make plans but my anxiety or intrusive thoughts start coming in and I stop myself. Honestly my anxiety and constant overthinking is ruining my life and it's debilitating. Every time I think of making plans with people I get buckets loads of stress over either the money or the social consequences and then I quit all together. I have no idea how to stop and nothing has helped. I just feel so debilitated.
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shespacetarot333
I had an ex that when we met was planning on going on a 7 day cruise in Greece and asked if I wanted to go. I was so excited she’s looked forward to the trip but every time I would bring it up he’d say I’m not good with that tote of stuff even though this was a trip he always had planned. Months later when I was about to end things he said What about our trip to Greece. The trip only I had been saving my half for and he kept avoiding talking about. This video makes so much sense of that situation
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I had an ex that when we met was planning on going on a 7 day cruise in Greece and asked if I wanted to go. I was so excited she’s looked forward to the trip but every time I would bring it up he’d say I’m not good with that tote of stuff even though this was a trip he always had planned. Months later when I was about to end things he said What about our trip to Greece. The trip only I had been saving my half for and he kept avoiding talking about. This video makes so much sense of that situation
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BTOptimizer
Future faking can also be unrelated to dating or love. A family member future faked my siblings and I by promising they would get a house and get out of the city they live in and would bring us with them. It never happened. They also future faked us by delaying kicking out someone who put us in danger. We tried confronting them but the behavior continued. Sadly, the relationship has soured beyond repair. I've since moved out of their place and have had my own with one of my siblings for a while now.
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Future faking can also be unrelated to dating or love. A family member future faked my siblings and I by promising they would get a house and get out of the city they live in and would bring us with them. It never happened. They also future faked us by delaying kicking out someone who put us in danger. We tried confronting them but the behavior continued. Sadly, the relationship has soured beyond repair. I've since moved out of their place and have had my own with one of my siblings for a while now.
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CREDLACE
Actually this happened to me but with my family. I went to study abroad for a semester and I remember clearly how all that time I was told I was missed and the folks started making plans of all the things we would do together once I returned. Cue to me coming home and exactly zero of those promises came true, instead I spent that summer being the domestic employee of my parents, and and they never asked me about my stay abroad.
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Actually this happened to me but with my family. I went to study abroad for a semester and I remember clearly how all that time I was told I was missed and the folks started making plans of all the things we would do together once I returned. Cue to me coming home and exactly zero of those promises came true, instead I spent that summer being the domestic employee of my parents, and and they never asked me about my stay abroad.
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xxsophxx999
Now I feel like a future faker even though my intentions are sincere. I’m in a long distance relationship so it’s hard for me to have my own space without them getting suspicious. I also live in a toxic household so sometimes I can’t call them but I feel terrible when I don’t. Things always get in the way and it feels more like circumstances aren’t on my side than how I feel about my partner
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Now I feel like a future faker even though my intentions are sincere. I’m in a long distance relationship so it’s hard for me to have my own space without them getting suspicious. I also live in a toxic household so sometimes I can’t call them but I feel terrible when I don’t. Things always get in the way and it feels more like circumstances aren’t on my side than how I feel about my partner
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NarcSurvivor
When you’re being played or future faked, they will demand more and more from you. But you won’t ever receive whatever they promised you. They likely haven’t even taken the steps to make it a reality, or they haven’t even got the means. Future fakers are imposters, liars and con artists. They’re deceptive, immoral and corrupt.
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When you’re being played or future faked, they will demand more and more from you. But you won’t ever receive whatever they promised you. They likely haven’t even taken the steps to make it a reality, or they haven’t even got the means. Future fakers are imposters, liars and con artists. They’re deceptive, immoral and corrupt.
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christabraun9290
I had that twice with a new love that they kept talking in an early stage of relationship about moving in a bigger appartement/house where we could live together. I did not really want to move together so quickly. But suddenly there were always excuses when I asked about the new home, why it is not decided about the object.
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I had that twice with a new love that they kept talking in an early stage of relationship about moving in a bigger appartement/house where we could live together. I did not really want to move together so quickly. But suddenly there were always excuses when I asked about the new home, why it is not decided about the object.
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isratmaisha3278
Asalamualaikum everyone i Don't know what will happen tomorrow but yes they might cut of the internet again and kill innocent people, students who are fighting for their right pray for Bangladesh please guys spread the news we want international help #SaveBangladeshiStudents, #RedAgainstInjustice #SaveBangladeshiPeople
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Asalamualaikum everyone i Don't know what will happen tomorrow but yes they might cut of the internet again and kill innocent people, students who are fighting for their right pray for Bangladesh please guys spread the news we want international help #SaveBangladeshiStudents, #RedAgainstInjustice #SaveBangladeshiPeople
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keliw
I met someone online and got into long distance relationships. I one-sidedly tho he's gonna be the one. He give me empty promises and talk about marriage but later on, he lose interest. I noticed I'm not his priority, it's just me and the truth. The title reminds me of that. Hard to watch this but it's true, there's faker.
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I met someone online and got into long distance relationships. I one-sidedly tho he's gonna be the one. He give me empty promises and talk about marriage but later on, he lose interest. I noticed I'm not his priority, it's just me and the truth. The title reminds me of that. Hard to watch this but it's true, there's faker.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Not following through 1: 06
2. Changing up the plans 1: 25
3. Dangling marriage in front of your partner 1: 50
4. Love bombing 2: 13
5. Have you been on the hook for someone 2: 51
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Not following through 1: 06
2. Changing up the plans 1: 25
3. Dangling marriage in front of your partner 1: 50
4. Love bombing 2: 13
5. Have you been on the hook for someone 2: 51
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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aznstylepn0y
they just wanted the money. i was chatting with someone getting to know someone. and i notice they just wanted the money and she blocks me in my contacts after getting the money. even though she still follows me on social media and I basically know where she lives. lol
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they just wanted the money. i was chatting with someone getting to know someone. and i notice they just wanted the money and she blocks me in my contacts after getting the money. even though she still follows me on social media and I basically know where she lives. lol
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AC-ni4gt
This happens whenever I'm with a certain person. Not very fun. I hated it. It felt worse than sleeping on an empty stomach in an emotional sense. I am currently seeking therapy and learning techniques to reframe my thinking and not be so hopeful but still hopeful enough.
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This happens whenever I'm with a certain person. Not very fun. I hated it. It felt worse than sleeping on an empty stomach in an emotional sense. I am currently seeking therapy and learning techniques to reframe my thinking and not be so hopeful but still hopeful enough.
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