The TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS You Didn't Notice (compilation)
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Date: 2025-12-12
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ariasblade7779
My VERY recent ex friend is both a Victim and Energy Vampire. She preyed on my kindness and empathy. Almost every day, she turned me into a therapist. But when I caught the pattern of her lack of accountability, she would get mad at me. She even would go so far as to try to kill herself when she something went wrong. She would flip in an instant. I have had to call the police twice now. We broke up because she wanted me to accept her abusive boyfriend. Since he started coming to the my place (she’s also on our lease, I haven’t felt safe at all. I talked about that with her and all of a sudden I was controlling. She’s constantly stepping on my boundaries and even uses my own traumas as a weapon when she’s mad/upset. On top of that I’m dealing with unemployment and unable to pay rent, so she had to help pay. So she likes to use that as a weapon as well. I’m currently living in my bedroom because I don’t want anything to do with her. I also don’t want to expose my babies (kitties) to her craziness. I still have 2 months left on our leaseI haven’t slept in the past week since our big fight. On top of that, she was non-stopping harassing me over text. She finally calmed down but I can’t stand living here with her anymore. I just want it to endno I’m not feeling like unaliving myself at all. I’m just so tired of her and want my contract to end faster. My health has become an extra weight to this (I have an autoimmune disease) and my stress is gonna unalive me first. I’m trying so hard to hold out until she leavesbut my depression and stress are torture
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My VERY recent ex friend is both a Victim and Energy Vampire. She preyed on my kindness and empathy. Almost every day, she turned me into a therapist. But when I caught the pattern of her lack of accountability, she would get mad at me. She even would go so far as to try to kill herself when she something went wrong. She would flip in an instant. I have had to call the police twice now. We broke up because she wanted me to accept her abusive boyfriend. Since he started coming to the my place (she’s also on our lease, I haven’t felt safe at all. I talked about that with her and all of a sudden I was controlling. She’s constantly stepping on my boundaries and even uses my own traumas as a weapon when she’s mad/upset. On top of that I’m dealing with unemployment and unable to pay rent, so she had to help pay. So she likes to use that as a weapon as well. I’m currently living in my bedroom because I don’t want anything to do with her. I also don’t want to expose my babies (kitties) to her craziness. I still have 2 months left on our leaseI haven’t slept in the past week since our big fight. On top of that, she was non-stopping harassing me over text. She finally calmed down but I can’t stand living here with her anymore. I just want it to endno I’m not feeling like unaliving myself at all. I’m just so tired of her and want my contract to end faster. My health has become an extra weight to this (I have an autoimmune disease) and my stress is gonna unalive me first. I’m trying so hard to hold out until she leavesbut my depression and stress are torture
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trancekingpj
Just to add some nuance to the topic of the flaky friend - it is also possible that they have a neurological disorder which affects their interactions. A prime example of this is for those of us with ADHD is the Out of sight, out of mind syndrome which we all suffer from, along with 'Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria' which is where we feel like the world hates us for some made up catastrophic thought we've just had. The two combined means that we can forget to contact our friends and when our friends contact us we will usually say to ourselves I'm busy working / cooking / chores, etc etc and I'll message them back in a bit, which we then forget to do and subsequently then feel hugely guilty about not messaging back - thinking that you hate us for not messaging.
This is why many ADHDers have no friends as we get older - it's because we really struggle to stay in contact with people and so they drift away, thinking that we're awful people. Which is sad because if we can make a friend who appreciates us we are the most loyal and helpful friends out there.
So if you are friends with an ADHDer please don't think they're being ignorant or that they hate you, chances are high that the opposite is in force here and they think you hate them because they've failed to message you back for something. But really they're one of the best friends you could ever have in your life.
So hi, I'm 54, I have ADHD and I have no friends.
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Just to add some nuance to the topic of the flaky friend - it is also possible that they have a neurological disorder which affects their interactions. A prime example of this is for those of us with ADHD is the Out of sight, out of mind syndrome which we all suffer from, along with 'Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria' which is where we feel like the world hates us for some made up catastrophic thought we've just had. The two combined means that we can forget to contact our friends and when our friends contact us we will usually say to ourselves I'm busy working / cooking / chores, etc etc and I'll message them back in a bit, which we then forget to do and subsequently then feel hugely guilty about not messaging back - thinking that you hate us for not messaging.
This is why many ADHDers have no friends as we get older - it's because we really struggle to stay in contact with people and so they drift away, thinking that we're awful people. Which is sad because if we can make a friend who appreciates us we are the most loyal and helpful friends out there.
So if you are friends with an ADHDer please don't think they're being ignorant or that they hate you, chances are high that the opposite is in force here and they think you hate them because they've failed to message you back for something. But really they're one of the best friends you could ever have in your life.
So hi, I'm 54, I have ADHD and I have no friends.
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IloveKetchupPoulet
i think one of the worst is being the fifth wheel.
someone does not truly care about you, unless they are alone or need you.
if they have other friends, they'd give you up, act like you're not that important or useful, and even sound like avoiding you when they're with their favorites.
they might genuine enjoy you, but not to the point to sacrifice themselves for you, or consider you just as important.
to them, you're their puppy. when they're bored or need to talk or vent to someone about their achievement, it is you.
but to actually enjoy you, it is different. they want your presence, but would not mind your absence if others are there.
it is the worst one because deep down, it can be true & deep friendship, but you're not on the S tier list.
You don't get to enjoy the plans, & you feel like a burden playing games with them, often like you're too much or a weight.
It makes you feel immature, like, you always need to be there when no one wants you, but they want you when no one wants them.
Do you feel me
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i think one of the worst is being the fifth wheel.
someone does not truly care about you, unless they are alone or need you.
if they have other friends, they'd give you up, act like you're not that important or useful, and even sound like avoiding you when they're with their favorites.
they might genuine enjoy you, but not to the point to sacrifice themselves for you, or consider you just as important.
to them, you're their puppy. when they're bored or need to talk or vent to someone about their achievement, it is you.
but to actually enjoy you, it is different. they want your presence, but would not mind your absence if others are there.
it is the worst one because deep down, it can be true & deep friendship, but you're not on the S tier list.
You don't get to enjoy the plans, & you feel like a burden playing games with them, often like you're too much or a weight.
It makes you feel immature, like, you always need to be there when no one wants you, but they want you when no one wants them.
Do you feel me
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Heartshackles
I don't think a friend I had fits any of these types While I'm not always great, I had this friend who was mostly flying under the radar and doing just enough and then being distant that I kept forgetting about the things he'd do that were bad. He would sometimes get explosive and rude while playing games if someone didn't know how to play or if he felt like someone was commenting on his way to play. He was always the soloist within the team, to a point I often questioned why did he want to join us in the first place. We rarely spoke and in group scenarios he rarely talked a lot. He also kept score of car trips and any type of favor and would request a sum of money for a lot of favors. While it's okay to me to want gas money and such, expecting me to pay for your trip also because you're doing me a favor by driving doesn't suggest a friendship to me. He always felt pressuring and draining even if he was silent. I never really understood why.
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I don't think a friend I had fits any of these types While I'm not always great, I had this friend who was mostly flying under the radar and doing just enough and then being distant that I kept forgetting about the things he'd do that were bad. He would sometimes get explosive and rude while playing games if someone didn't know how to play or if he felt like someone was commenting on his way to play. He was always the soloist within the team, to a point I often questioned why did he want to join us in the first place. We rarely spoke and in group scenarios he rarely talked a lot. He also kept score of car trips and any type of favor and would request a sum of money for a lot of favors. While it's okay to me to want gas money and such, expecting me to pay for your trip also because you're doing me a favor by driving doesn't suggest a friendship to me. He always felt pressuring and draining even if he was silent. I never really understood why.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. The gossip 0: 44
2. The flaky friend 1: 20
3. The underminer 1: 44
4. The master manipulator 2: 29
5. The energy vampire 3: 37
6. The victim 4: 27
7. The end of the first video and beginning of the second video 5: 55
1. They lack empathy 6: 16
2. Drama follows them 7: 21
3. They're unreliable or inconsistent 8: 26
4. Green with envy 9: 40
5. Crosses boundaries 11: 09
6. The end of the second video and beginning of the third video 11: 58
1. Lack of trust and support 12: 39
2. Constant criticism 13: 07
3. Unhealthy competition 13: 40
4. Manipulation and control 14: 28
5. Negativity and drama 15: 04
6. Lack of boundaries 15: 29
7. The end of the third video and beginning of the fourth video 16: 45
1. No timestamps here guys 16: 45
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. The gossip 0: 44
2. The flaky friend 1: 20
3. The underminer 1: 44
4. The master manipulator 2: 29
5. The energy vampire 3: 37
6. The victim 4: 27
7. The end of the first video and beginning of the second video 5: 55
1. They lack empathy 6: 16
2. Drama follows them 7: 21
3. They're unreliable or inconsistent 8: 26
4. Green with envy 9: 40
5. Crosses boundaries 11: 09
6. The end of the second video and beginning of the third video 11: 58
1. Lack of trust and support 12: 39
2. Constant criticism 13: 07
3. Unhealthy competition 13: 40
4. Manipulation and control 14: 28
5. Negativity and drama 15: 04
6. Lack of boundaries 15: 29
7. The end of the third video and beginning of the fourth video 16: 45
1. No timestamps here guys 16: 45
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Official_F1_Fan
12 min ago, Thank u sm! But, I have one question which is optional for u:
I have a friend (Person A) who is close to me, but after this specific time when another friend joined in (Person B,
Person A becomes pretty cold-shouldered, and when they do talk to me, it's always something they KNOW I get irritated about, tryna annoy me, they also hang out more with Person B and my other bff, Person C, already heard them talking about me behind my back. May I get any tips here Or at least know if Person A is bad or Person B inspires them Ty
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12 min ago, Thank u sm! But, I have one question which is optional for u:
I have a friend (Person A) who is close to me, but after this specific time when another friend joined in (Person B,
Person A becomes pretty cold-shouldered, and when they do talk to me, it's always something they KNOW I get irritated about, tryna annoy me, they also hang out more with Person B and my other bff, Person C, already heard them talking about me behind my back. May I get any tips here Or at least know if Person A is bad or Person B inspires them Ty
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greodorehch4006
I’ve never had a single real-life friend in my entire life literally everyone I’ve ever bonded with has only been online. And seeing each type of toxic friend pop up in this video made my stomach twist, because I started recognizing people I talk to every day in those exact categories. It’s weird and a little unsettling realizing how even the connections you thought were safe behind a screen can still fit perfectly into the same patterns you were trying to escape.
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I’ve never had a single real-life friend in my entire life literally everyone I’ve ever bonded with has only been online. And seeing each type of toxic friend pop up in this video made my stomach twist, because I started recognizing people I talk to every day in those exact categories. It’s weird and a little unsettling realizing how even the connections you thought were safe behind a screen can still fit perfectly into the same patterns you were trying to escape.
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janyab0808
I have a question: ,33
Is copying being a bad friend I had a friend that suddenly loved my degree, suddenly had the same goals, and so forth. When I confronted her, she had gotten super defensive and semi manipulative. When I said I’ll stay she started love bombing me a lot. But went right back to never really asking about me. Or asking saying yeah that’s good, then turning around and talking about themselves again. Idk I feel gaslighted: cc
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I have a question: ,33
Is copying being a bad friend I had a friend that suddenly loved my degree, suddenly had the same goals, and so forth. When I confronted her, she had gotten super defensive and semi manipulative. When I said I’ll stay she started love bombing me a lot. But went right back to never really asking about me. Or asking saying yeah that’s good, then turning around and talking about themselves again. Idk I feel gaslighted: cc
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studybee-p7m
3: 20 I was this friend a year back. Now i am a lot different, last year when i realised what i was doing to my friends, i distanced myself from everyone, worked on my traumas and root cause of this habit. Let me tell you i grew up in a family of manipulators and guilt trappers. But All thanks to My Radha , Me, my brotehr and my parents are finally free from those people. I am now a good friend, with boundaries and support.
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3: 20 I was this friend a year back. Now i am a lot different, last year when i realised what i was doing to my friends, i distanced myself from everyone, worked on my traumas and root cause of this habit. Let me tell you i grew up in a family of manipulators and guilt trappers. But All thanks to My Radha , Me, my brotehr and my parents are finally free from those people. I am now a good friend, with boundaries and support.
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anthill350
I think that at one point i was the gossip friend and it even made even me feel vile; however after stepping back i realize my old group was a combination of a lot of the others and it overall was not healthy for me. Having been away from them for a long time and gone thriugh therapy, I've worked on myself and needed this to reaffirm my journey. Feeling in opposition to my past actions and situations shows a bit of growth
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I think that at one point i was the gossip friend and it even made even me feel vile; however after stepping back i realize my old group was a combination of a lot of the others and it overall was not healthy for me. Having been away from them for a long time and gone thriugh therapy, I've worked on myself and needed this to reaffirm my journey. Feeling in opposition to my past actions and situations shows a bit of growth
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Teddybeanieeee
So I have friends who I really wanna talk to, but I'm always the one to text first, and it kinda feels like they don't want anything to do with me, or when I do text them, they seem like they don't want to talk to me or come up with excuses saying they have to study or do stuff and at first i believe it but then why are they still online, and I'm afraid that they actually may not like me. What do I do about this
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So I have friends who I really wanna talk to, but I'm always the one to text first, and it kinda feels like they don't want anything to do with me, or when I do text them, they seem like they don't want to talk to me or come up with excuses saying they have to study or do stuff and at first i believe it but then why are they still online, and I'm afraid that they actually may not like me. What do I do about this
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19Hollisterchick90
I have a friend of 13 years I’m cutting off as soon as I aging a new job because we work together. They’re complete drama and incredibly messy. I even was fired once due to them, but at that time believed them when they say they weren’t causing the drama. Whole time they were the puppeteer who moved up in the company after backstabbing so many people.
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I have a friend of 13 years I’m cutting off as soon as I aging a new job because we work together. They’re complete drama and incredibly messy. I even was fired once due to them, but at that time believed them when they say they weren’t causing the drama. Whole time they were the puppeteer who moved up in the company after backstabbing so many people.
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SolaceInNostalgia
Real friends don’t make you feel like you need to pretend and put on a performance. They accept you for who you are and don’t judge. They will check you if you’re ever out of line and always want the best for you. A true friend will always make you feel comfortable being yourself, and they don’t leave you even when things get awkward or difficult.
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Real friends don’t make you feel like you need to pretend and put on a performance. They accept you for who you are and don’t judge. They will check you if you’re ever out of line and always want the best for you. A true friend will always make you feel comfortable being yourself, and they don’t leave you even when things get awkward or difficult.
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Missshadow-h2h
Hey guys from my personal experience I wanna tell u something don't make anyone to be ur friend it will ruin you're life completely expect making friends just enjoy your life and if u find good people don't leave them at any cost! I hope u find good friends who genuinely cares uh and support uh : )
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Hey guys from my personal experience I wanna tell u something don't make anyone to be ur friend it will ruin you're life completely expect making friends just enjoy your life and if u find good people don't leave them at any cost! I hope u find good friends who genuinely cares uh and support uh : )
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bekind_dolove_be
4: 06 i fond myself being the emotional vampire. i actually feel like im only interested to talk about myself and nothing else like im the main spotlight of the relationship. but i really want to be different and learn how to maintain healthy dialogues. Do you have a video on that
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4: 06 i fond myself being the emotional vampire. i actually feel like im only interested to talk about myself and nothing else like im the main spotlight of the relationship. but i really want to be different and learn how to maintain healthy dialogues. Do you have a video on that
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Dxxxger17
I never have friends since I see right through them of what they are. I simply don't trust anyone for me to claim be friends or any kind of relationship. I've been back stabbed and used even tho I wasn't friends with them. And I'm used to it with the hate for long time so.
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I never have friends since I see right through them of what they are. I simply don't trust anyone for me to claim be friends or any kind of relationship. I've been back stabbed and used even tho I wasn't friends with them. And I'm used to it with the hate for long time so.
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AymNBlast
Owch bad timing, Psych2Go, my older sibling told me that I'm too desperate to spend time with their friends, even dragged them down with my negativity and even guilt tripping. Maybe it's time for me to leave them silently, start fresh, and make new friends on my own.
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Owch bad timing, Psych2Go, my older sibling told me that I'm too desperate to spend time with their friends, even dragged them down with my negativity and even guilt tripping. Maybe it's time for me to leave them silently, start fresh, and make new friends on my own.
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UpsAndDowns87
I'm finally free from that toxicity after 2 years.
Remember, viewer, you can be free too.
If it's too good to be true, then it probably is.
If you look at a relationship through rose-tinted glasses, you'll become blind to the red flags.
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I'm finally free from that toxicity after 2 years.
Remember, viewer, you can be free too.
If it's too good to be true, then it probably is.
If you look at a relationship through rose-tinted glasses, you'll become blind to the red flags.
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Heartshackles
Besides Scrooge McDuck I also had a boundary crossing friend who I spoke to about the issue several times and it got frustrating. And people who say things constantly as a joke never got to stay around for long, I don't stand for that either.
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Besides Scrooge McDuck I also had a boundary crossing friend who I spoke to about the issue several times and it got frustrating. And people who say things constantly as a joke never got to stay around for long, I don't stand for that either.
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Mscldrew
I suppose friends are so hard to make these days that many of us say that toxic friends are better than no friends only to realize one of the reasons we can’t seem to make new friends is because we have not yet cut off the bad ones.
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I suppose friends are so hard to make these days that many of us say that toxic friends are better than no friends only to realize one of the reasons we can’t seem to make new friends is because we have not yet cut off the bad ones.
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