7 Signs Someone is Secretly Narcissistic
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Date: 2023-08-20
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psych2go
3: 59 my ex did this in the beginning. She showed empathy for a friend i lost earlier last year and then after all of these other traits start appearing like in this exact video(after the love bombing, my brother and niece were in a bad accident. theyre ok, but when i went to go visit them in another city, she started acting distant and picking fights. Triggering my anxiety, which i expressed i get anxiety(big mistake on my end. She would say she wanted to wait to talk, which was always about the same issue over and over that we argued about almost every other week for months. She wanted me to focus on my family
I kept her updated with their recovery but she never would ask how they were doing. all of these traits didnt make sense until my long term friend brought it to my attention that my ex exhibited narcissistic behavior since she went through that too with her ex.
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3: 59 my ex did this in the beginning. She showed empathy for a friend i lost earlier last year and then after all of these other traits start appearing like in this exact video(after the love bombing, my brother and niece were in a bad accident. theyre ok, but when i went to go visit them in another city, she started acting distant and picking fights. Triggering my anxiety, which i expressed i get anxiety(big mistake on my end. She would say she wanted to wait to talk, which was always about the same issue over and over that we argued about almost every other week for months. She wanted me to focus on my family
I kept her updated with their recovery but she never would ask how they were doing. all of these traits didnt make sense until my long term friend brought it to my attention that my ex exhibited narcissistic behavior since she went through that too with her ex.
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Justin
My ex-bf exhibited ALL of these. I broke up with him bc I constantly felt like I was expected to serve him and he was constantly fishing for compliments and special attention. I ultimately broke up with him bc he said a racial slur in a derogatory way. And when I called him out he went off tangent about realizing that I treat him so well n stuff. I told my friend about his behavior and she was like thats so narcissistic
SIGNS I NOTICED:
-he commented on my pimples JUST when I had started a new skin care regimen and tried to justify doing so when I got upset
-constantly listing out and broadcasting his accomplishments for compliments and praise
-backhanded compliments
-acting all respectful and understanding when you call them out
-never opening up emotionally
You will know bc they will value their ego above all else.
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My ex-bf exhibited ALL of these. I broke up with him bc I constantly felt like I was expected to serve him and he was constantly fishing for compliments and special attention. I ultimately broke up with him bc he said a racial slur in a derogatory way. And when I called him out he went off tangent about realizing that I treat him so well n stuff. I told my friend about his behavior and she was like thats so narcissistic
SIGNS I NOTICED:
-he commented on my pimples JUST when I had started a new skin care regimen and tried to justify doing so when I got upset
-constantly listing out and broadcasting his accomplishments for compliments and praise
-backhanded compliments
-acting all respectful and understanding when you call them out
-never opening up emotionally
You will know bc they will value their ego above all else.
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Mira
I don't know why I felt like being a narcissist whether secretly or not is sad
Selfishly trying to always get others attention and admiration just to feed ego which actually is a result of a low immature personality in my opinion and it takes a lot of work for the person to do which actually for me logically leads to emotional damages or excessive reactions and behaviours
In my opinion narcissists people (secret or not) deserve those failures with some life lessons and professional help to know there places, improve their personalities, help people from their hearts, and learn modesty because for me there's no actually such a personality treasure
Just my opinion again but for me modest and honest people are more appreciated, not only for who they are really but also for their empathic actions even if they're loved by a few
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I don't know why I felt like being a narcissist whether secretly or not is sad
Selfishly trying to always get others attention and admiration just to feed ego which actually is a result of a low immature personality in my opinion and it takes a lot of work for the person to do which actually for me logically leads to emotional damages or excessive reactions and behaviours
In my opinion narcissists people (secret or not) deserve those failures with some life lessons and professional help to know there places, improve their personalities, help people from their hearts, and learn modesty because for me there's no actually such a personality treasure
Just my opinion again but for me modest and honest people are more appreciated, not only for who they are really but also for their empathic actions even if they're loved by a few
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dearlantsov
please don't go self diagnosing yourself, like half of the people in the comments. some of these traits are are something literally every single person shares. humans are egotistic little shits, but that doesn't automatically mean you have a personality disorder. unfriendly reminder to stop forcing mental illnesses onto yourself (which i know many people do bc of how romanticised mental illness has become bc of tiktok and all)
if you really do think you have a problem, go to a therapist or talk to someone close or other people who have the same problem. don't make conclusions on your own.
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please don't go self diagnosing yourself, like half of the people in the comments. some of these traits are are something literally every single person shares. humans are egotistic little shits, but that doesn't automatically mean you have a personality disorder. unfriendly reminder to stop forcing mental illnesses onto yourself (which i know many people do bc of how romanticised mental illness has become bc of tiktok and all)
if you really do think you have a problem, go to a therapist or talk to someone close or other people who have the same problem. don't make conclusions on your own.
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UrMom
My dad hasn't been diagnosed my but my mom and I both think my dad is a covert narcissist. We've both done a fair amount of research on this topic and my dad tends to always fit all of or most of the signs that get brought up in these types of videos. No one else sees the side of my dad that my mom and I see. My brother sees it occasionally but not as much as I do which I'm guessing is because he's so much younger than I am. I recently blocked my dad and my grandpa confronted me about it but I'm hoping that he will mind his own business and leave me alone about it.
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My dad hasn't been diagnosed my but my mom and I both think my dad is a covert narcissist. We've both done a fair amount of research on this topic and my dad tends to always fit all of or most of the signs that get brought up in these types of videos. No one else sees the side of my dad that my mom and I see. My brother sees it occasionally but not as much as I do which I'm guessing is because he's so much younger than I am. I recently blocked my dad and my grandpa confronted me about it but I'm hoping that he will mind his own business and leave me alone about it.
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Megan
my ex is covert narcissist. and i was a victim of narcissistic abuse by him. its scarry because by the time we were 3 years in he had worn down my self esteem and my mental state to the point where i couldn't tell what was going on. 6 years in and the mask was starting to fall away and i was in bad shape. verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and by the end we started seeing physical abuse. 10 years i was with him i've been free from him 3 years in october. and i'm now rebuilding my life. it's hard to trust after that
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my ex is covert narcissist. and i was a victim of narcissistic abuse by him. its scarry because by the time we were 3 years in he had worn down my self esteem and my mental state to the point where i couldn't tell what was going on. 6 years in and the mask was starting to fall away and i was in bad shape. verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and by the end we started seeing physical abuse. 10 years i was with him i've been free from him 3 years in october. and i'm now rebuilding my life. it's hard to trust after that
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What's
I know there are narcissists in every part of the World. But is it weird that I notice there is one particular country (not naming it) that has a WHOLE LOT of them? The sense of pride, the elevating of themselves over others, degrading other people, etc. is intense from this particular crowd. Yet, they appear all so sweet and nice and many people can't believe that they could be like that - another classic trait of a narcissist.
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I know there are narcissists in every part of the World. But is it weird that I notice there is one particular country (not naming it) that has a WHOLE LOT of them? The sense of pride, the elevating of themselves over others, degrading other people, etc. is intense from this particular crowd. Yet, they appear all so sweet and nice and many people can't believe that they could be like that - another classic trait of a narcissist.
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Hannah
ADHD, but instead of good intentions, it's the opposite: harmful/bad intentions. Very similar on the outside though. It sucks. All you can do is acknowledge your wrongs and apologize AND THEN WORK ON ACTUALLY CHANGING the behaviors that hurt others, BECAUSE you don't wan to hurt them, not because you got caught or want people to see your good nature
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ADHD, but instead of good intentions, it's the opposite: harmful/bad intentions. Very similar on the outside though. It sucks. All you can do is acknowledge your wrongs and apologize AND THEN WORK ON ACTUALLY CHANGING the behaviors that hurt others, BECAUSE you don't wan to hurt them, not because you got caught or want people to see your good nature
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dxvill_rx77
My dad is a narcissist, he doesnt feel empathy, he says that he better than everyone and I cant say that something that he said wasnt right that he gets really aggressive. Everything that I do he says that I have to do better. Our relationship is so bad because he never cheers me up and he is always talking about that my better is not enough
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My dad is a narcissist, he doesnt feel empathy, he says that he better than everyone and I cant say that something that he said wasnt right that he gets really aggressive. Everything that I do he says that I have to do better. Our relationship is so bad because he never cheers me up and he is always talking about that my better is not enough
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HUYI1
They are manipulative, turn a situation to you to get you to do their bidding to make you think the situation is about you when in fact it's about benefiting them
overly sensitive and they can do no wrong, they blame you and pin point YOUR mistakes but never admit theirs, they feel they are perfect in every way
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They are manipulative, turn a situation to you to get you to do their bidding to make you think the situation is about you when in fact it's about benefiting them
overly sensitive and they can do no wrong, they blame you and pin point YOUR mistakes but never admit theirs, they feel they are perfect in every way
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Rybot9000
I like how we gloss over jealousy, envy and greed as if these weren't narcissistic traits. We are looking for outliers but not addressing the norm which is shot through with narcissism. Just because all of society suffers from the same delusion does not make the society sane. - The Sane Society, Erich Fromm
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I like how we gloss over jealousy, envy and greed as if these weren't narcissistic traits. We are looking for outliers but not addressing the norm which is shot through with narcissism. Just because all of society suffers from the same delusion does not make the society sane. - The Sane Society, Erich Fromm
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LemonChan
I mean I have tendencies and I genuinely dont mean it now people throw back what I say unfortunately because I dont know how to deal with it. I will ignore it and play it off. i don't mean it an how I can't makes me feel bad I think it's low self esteem omg
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I mean I have tendencies and I genuinely dont mean it now people throw back what I say unfortunately because I dont know how to deal with it. I will ignore it and play it off. i don't mean it an how I can't makes me feel bad I think it's low self esteem omg
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banana
If you think you're a narcissist, then you already took the first step to being a better you. Though, it all goes to waste, if you knew you were narcassitic, yet don't try to change for the better whatsoever.
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If you think you're a narcissist, then you already took the first step to being a better you. Though, it all goes to waste, if you knew you were narcassitic, yet don't try to change for the better whatsoever.
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FillVinf06
They just can't retain themselves to interrupt you when you talk with someone else, because obviously the attention isn't on them. I find that really annoying, like, let me finish with that person first.
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They just can't retain themselves to interrupt you when you talk with someone else, because obviously the attention isn't on them. I find that really annoying, like, let me finish with that person first.
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Gogo
I'd like to add something that applies to narcissistic people in general. They don't take responsibility for their faults and mistakes and for anything bad they do.
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I'd like to add something that applies to narcissistic people in general. They don't take responsibility for their faults and mistakes and for anything bad they do.
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Matthew
I havent said this. but you guys drop videos on topics i literally need to know at the time almost every video for the past year its actually kinda scary
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I havent said this. but you guys drop videos on topics i literally need to know at the time almost every video for the past year its actually kinda scary
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itzsuper
i do some of these things but i recently took a personality test and apparently its just a flaw with me, so idk if im narcissistic or not
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i do some of these things but i recently took a personality test and apparently its just a flaw with me, so idk if im narcissistic or not
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Raoul
Watching this to understand if I've been with a covert narcissist for the past 4 yrs. I believe I know the unfortunate answer now.
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Watching this to understand if I've been with a covert narcissist for the past 4 yrs. I believe I know the unfortunate answer now.
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Poly
Recently started seeing the red flags of covert narcissism in someone I was seeing and I got out of that as quickly as possible.
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Recently started seeing the red flags of covert narcissism in someone I was seeing and I got out of that as quickly as possible.
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waaaaaaaahhhhh
Im definitely watching this to know if Im narcissistic definitely not because of the jojo reference on the thumbnail
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Im definitely watching this to know if Im narcissistic definitely not because of the jojo reference on the thumbnail
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BCD
I just love that they put anime characters on the thumbnail lol and in the video too but dio is not a narcissist hes a asshole
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I just love that they put anime characters on the thumbnail lol and in the video too but dio is not a narcissist hes a asshole
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Index
4: 27 Is it same as thinking not being able to MAKE them understand rather thinking they CAN'T understand you?
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4: 27 Is it same as thinking not being able to MAKE them understand rather thinking they CAN'T understand you?
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Naisa
Some of this stuff can be found in insecure people what about the suicidal person who just wants to be loved?
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Some of this stuff can be found in insecure people what about the suicidal person who just wants to be loved?
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Juin
Oh my god, some of them are actually my trait before except number 6, 3 and 1. Now, i have less of it all.
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Oh my god, some of them are actually my trait before except number 6, 3 and 1. Now, i have less of it all.
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RocesBoy
What if you dont view yourself very highly but rather the opposite but still show most of these signs?
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What if you dont view yourself very highly but rather the opposite but still show most of these signs?
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